Daguccizgreat:
Haba! Be sincere to your self dear, Can you stay for years without sex ?

why do you believe everybody indulge in fornication,people that are not having sex,did they die

ItrendNaija:
Wetin carry me.enter this thread? Nonsense!
OP if you don't have anyone to tell you, let me tell you that you're foolish and you don't deserve that woman that gave you 2 kids.

You want to marry another woman because it's 4 kids you want. She told you to go out and meet other women and you think she meant it? She's just disappointed in your selfish and and inconsiderate self!!!

relax gee,
What do you mean he doesn't deserve such woman? A lot of men, I mean around 80% with working brains would have easily walked away from such woman with such biological difficulties. I'm very sure the guy loves her and doesn't listen to his people because I assure you that all his sisters, aunties and mom would have told him many years ago to run away from such a problematic woman. How many men will stay with a woman after 10 miscarriages? Not just that, he spent millions of money in incubators. Do you know what parents tell their sons if their wives use ordinary CS for delivery?

Legendarytonyy:
You only care about your self and your penis. The innocent woman had 10 miscarriages, cause of you, trying to give you a baby, God helping her she later dropped 2, and you are here opening your mouth to say you want 4 kids yen yen yen yen. See just forget about the house you're planning to rent and the so called matured lady who is definitely not going to be as matured as your beautiful wife and sort things out. Are you even considering your children's future? This man nawao, you Sabi wetin be family planning at all? If you want four kids, then adopt extra 2. You've got options man.

lol look at these people blaming the guy lol

Nuel4:
relax gee,
What do you mean he doesn't deserve such woman? A lot of men, I mean around 80% with working brains would have easily walked away from such woman with such biological difficulties. I'm very sure the guy loves her and doesn't listen to his people because I assure you that all his sisters, aunties and mom would have told him many years ago to run away from such a problematic woman. How many men will stay with a woman after 10 miscarriages? Not just that, he spent millions of money in incubators. Do you know what parents tell their sons if their wives use ordinary CS for delivery?

What is with Igbo men and having lots of kids, she even managed to give you two with all the risks and complications involve yet you ain't satisfied, that's selfishness, nothing more, do you think getting another wife is the solution, you want to put your wife in the tussle of sharing inheritance with a strange woman in the future, typical African man, they only marry for children not companionship

I believe you are educated , you dont have to reason like an illiterate. You already have two kids with your wife. What else do you need more kids for in the bad country and bad economy. Why dont you focus on your family and raise your kids well . You wife is a good woman and she has done her best for the marriage. If I have two kids I dont think I need more kids for anything.

Nuttella:
Are you sure she loves you? A woman that loves her husband will not even think of letting him go outside.

Did you read the story?

The wife has had four difficult high risk pregnancies with two live births.

Uncle has insisted on four kids because that is what his Village people wants.

sorry to say but u re spewing trash... u better raise those two kids with peace of mind...

bukatyne:


Did you read the story?

The wife has had four difficult high risk pregnancies with two live births.

Uncle has insisted on four kids because that is what his Village people wants.

Yeah but they could also trash it out like adults, telling a man to go outside is not really good, they could come to a reasonable conclusion. Its all about understanding.

Nuttella:

1. Yeah but they could also trash it out like adults,
2. telling a man to go outside is not really good,
3.they could come to a reasonable conclusion. Its all about understanding.

1. Hmmmmm, I doubt they have both behaved like adults sha;
2. I agree;
3. True.

You are a good man, sticking to your wife after Soo many miscarriages, it's not easy I must say. but eventually you have two kids, I understand your plight as a man, but put yourself in the position of your wife, that woman is going through alot of pain, etopic pregnancy, is a very risky one( my best friend died of etopic pregnancy after CS she couldn't make it), You have two beautiful kids, you should be grateful to God, must people are looking for just one they haven't seen. don't even consider having a side chick or marrying a second wife, the trouble that comes after it is way more bigger, give her time to heal, as long as you guys are still having sex( let her go for contraceptive that will still enable you guys enjoy your sexual life. it's not easy on her side. you can consider serogate if you have the money. Take care of your family, God bless.


my advice

akpunda86:


Yea she wont but ill get the baby outside..im a catholic but will be porting to anglican nxt year as take a new wife.is allowed.

Oga taking a new wife when still legally married is not allowed in Anglican communion. Matter of fact no orthodox church, whether it is Catholic Anglican Protestant Pentecostal etc allows it. Any priest or pastor who officiates such a wedding knowing fully well is running his own personal show without the official sanction of the denomination.

Uncle, think of the odds,what if she does trying to convince again,what if d side chick or second wife kills u and runs away with the money u think you have,stop being selfish , at least u have 2 children not like u don't have at all,the wahala that comes with a second wife is better imagined than experienced, visit a brothel if u must knack,allow your wife to live in peace.

Bro i pity u cos u dont know what ur getting urself into getting another wife..

Zzor:
Will you die if you don't have sex again?

what type of advice is this, don't play with this, it can spoil the relationship.

Rubbish

Can't you do family planning

akpunda86:
Hi fellas.To God be the glory.ladies need ur input.The rich also cry.I got married in 2008.was full of life married a young lady of 25 as we believe fertility increases wit young age.well along d lines my wife always took in but miscarriages occur.Ten miscarriages.Infact Lagos gynas are crooks.one of the reasons we moved to Enugu.
In Enugu we met a popular gyna.who adviced once she takes in she come.As God want it my wife was admitted on third month of marriage baby born on seventh month.placed in incubator.My bills was in millions but as God want it a way opened and all debts paid.

Our second kid came two years later at full trimister.

So as we want anoda kid but not now but i always ask my wife when safe to have sex and she gave me green light.Kasa burst she took in again.i was in site and she called me by 2am.i was scared cos tut robbers came.
Said having pains.told her go hospital nxt day.went and after scan doc said ectopic pregnancy so cs operation initiated.

So right now we all fine but my wife said she z is not having children again that im free to go outside meet any woman but for her is done.

It pained me i was weak.im tired thats why i need advices here.
Infact touching her from now im scared as we have spent heavily in dis hospital.

Getting a second wife no big deal for me but wat happens when im gone.I thank God for my two beautiful kids but is four i planned.

Im planning renting a new apartment once i see a matured lady but is painful to me.

Taking a new lady shouldnt be an option guy...You are in a peaceful marriage and from the looks of it,work is fine....so why trying to give your self headache with a new wife all in the quest of having more children

This is 21st century 2 is enough if not...if you aren't satisfied go and adopt

You can also be patient and save money for IVF later in the future
If it is the sex....let her go for birth control,probably tieing the Fallopian tubes

In the quest of getting a new wife,your peace of mind is not guaranteed afterward...thread cafully

Nuel4:
relax gee,
What do you mean he doesn't deserve such woman? A lot of men, I mean around 80% with working brains would have easily walked away from such woman with such biological difficulties. I'm very sure the guy loves her and doesn't listen to his people because I assure you that all his sisters, aunties and mom would have told him many years ago to run away from such a problematic woman. How many men will stay with a woman after 10 miscarriages? Not just that, he spent millions of money in incubators. Do you know what parents tell their sons if their wives use ordinary CS for delivery?

Typical shallow brained response
Do you think miscarriage is a woman's fault ?
Ten miscarriages ,do you know how painful it is both physically and emotionally to a woman ? Even if the man feels hurt do you dare to compare the pain he felt to what she went through ?
Some of you guys I am already pitying your future wives. Such unlucky women .sigh

jamesid29:

Oga taking a new wife when still legally married is not allowed in Anglican communion. Matter of fact no orthodox church, whether it is Catholic Anglican Protestant Pentecostal etc allows it. Any priest or pastor who officiates such a wedding knowing fully well is running his own personal show without the official sanction of the denomination.

That ingrate has decided to dig his own grave by getting a second wife. Don't bother yourself. It will end in tears. Hot one.

Zzor:
why do you believe everybody indulge in fornication,people that are not having sex,did they die

Sister going celibate for years is not child's play. If you have tried it you would understand what I mean. Though human hormonal levels differ

Chii59:

Typical shallow brained response
Do you think miscarriage is a woman's fault ?
Ten miscarriages ,do you know how painful it is both physically and emotionally to a woman ? Even if the man feels hurt do you dare to compare the pain he felt to what she went through ?
Some of you guys I am already pitying your future wives. Such unlucky women .sigh

another vagina carrier vomiting estrogen without the tiniest bit of common sense.
You live in Nigeria, have you heard what parents tell their sons if their wives give birth through CS? Talkless of one who has had 10 miscarriages plus another one on incubator? The parents will simply command their son to get a proper woman without biological baggages. The man tried for standing by her stop insulting him. Most men don't even experience 2% of that before they get a second wife

Nuel4:
another vagina carrier vomiting estrogen without the tiniest bit of common sense.
You live in Nigeria, have you heard what parents tell their sons if their wives give birth through CS? Talkless of one who has had 10 miscarriages plus another one on incubator? The parents will simply command their son to get a proper woman without biological baggages. The man tried for standing by her stop insulting him. Most men don't even experience 2% of that before they get a second wife

Says an ignoramus peniss carrier

Chii59:

That ingrate has decided to dig his own grave by getting a second wife. Don't bother yourself. It will end in tears. Hot one.

he will get a second and third wives if he wants and nothing will happen.

Chii59:

Says an ignoramus peniss carrier

oh my goodness. So I have talking this thing all these while. God!!

Nuel4:
another vagina carrier vomiting estrogen without the tiniest bit of common sense.
You live in Nigeria, have you heard what parents tell their sons if their wives give birth through CS? Talkless of one who has had 10 miscarriages plus another one on incubator? The parents will simply command their son to get a proper woman without biological baggages. The man tried for standing by her stop insulting him. Most men don't even experience 2% of that before they get a second wife

Dominique see this

Nuel4:
oh my goodness. So I have talking this thing all these while. God!!

This too

Nuel4:
oh my goodness. So I have talking this thing all these while. God!!

You dey fear? why did you take my picture down? You should have left it there.

"It's four you planned".
Are you the one who will carry them for nine months and go through all the stress?

Look into ways to help reduce your wife's anxiety and to have at least one more
Marrying another woman isn't the solution

Nuel4:
oh my goodness. So I have talking this thing all these while. God!!

That was actually a stupid thing to do and comment to make.... Its good you took it down

OutsideTheBox:
'It's four you planned'.

Are you the one who will carry them for nine months and go through all the stress?

Look into ways to help reduce your wife's anxiety and to have at least one more.
Marrying another woman isn't the solution

Help me ask him o. A woman should be the one to decide how many her body can carry.
I mean, just look at how pregnancy affects some women, some even develop hbp, pre-eclampsia, diabetes etc during pregnancy. Even after giving birth, some never remain the same till death.
I wonder at the kind of selfish young men I see on NL.
I'm happy there are a few sensible lot.
Even if his wife says "go outside and get another wife", shouldn't he remember all she's been through, ten miscarriages and all, and be grateful to the mother of his children by being loyal to her?

jamesid29:

That was actually a stupid thing to do and comment to make.... Its good you took it down

He wanted to shame me. But you can't shame me with my own picture.

10 miscarriages She's a strong woman
Uncle, even if she told you to marry another woman, I don't think you should, coz it will break her.
She's been through a lot with you over this 'children' issues.
I don't think the best thing for you is to jump out and have a mistress. Except if of course, you don't love your wife.
What happen to training your two kids, when they grow up, they'll have more kids, your lineage continues.
#I'm just wondering if she didn't conceived at all, you'd probably abodoned her as time goes on.
May God have mercy on your marriage, don't destroy why you have going on (peace of mind and trust).

But what do I know? Follow your mind.
I pray God gives her the strength to bear the reality of you having children outside.

Chii59:

Help me ask him o. A woman should be the one to decide how many her body can carry.
I mean, just look at how pregnancy affects some women, some even develop hbp, pre-eclampsia, diabetes etc during pregnancy. Even after giving birth, some never remain the same till death.
I wonder at the kind of selfish young men I see on NL.
I'm happy there are a few sensible lot.
Even if his wife says "go outside and get another wife", shouldn't he remember all she's been through, ten miscarriages and all, and be grateful to the mother of his children by being loyal to her?

God bless you sis
I haven't even seen your comment before I wrote mine.
Seems uncle just really want to explore outside his marriage.
My heart felt pity goes out to his wife.
Poor woman has suffered enough already

anuofGod:

God bless you sis
I haven't even seen your comment before I wrote mine.
Seems uncle just really want to explore outside his marriage.
My heart felt pity goes out to his wife.
Poor woman has suffered enough already

Honestly. She has. Poor woman.