he should come and see ur parents now....snd start making necessary arrangements to formalise it

Heartheart:
Hi I just needed to bring this here. I am 22 years of age and I am not happy at all. My boy friend and I are in a long distance relationship. Not long perse. He is in lagos while I'm in abeokuta. I served in lagos so that's how we met and we got to spend quality time together.

Now since I've passed out I've been at home. I passed out in June. So it's been June that we saw last and now we're in august. He has been disturbing me to come visit him as it has not been easy staying alone, loneliness and all. I promised to visit him next week which also happened to be my birthday week. I have super strict parents but I still promised I will find my way.

I told them (parents) that I was travelling to visit a friend (girl). I could not tell them it was my boyfriend I was going to see because I knew deep down they wouldn't allow me travel to another city to see a guy. But my parents have blatantly refused that I cannot visit this girl. I had to tell my bf that I was not going to come. He was so sad and angry and he let me know he has wasted a lot of money preparing to surprise me for my birthday. He was so excited to see me and he had made a lot of plans. He told me he was disappointed in me and he doesn't think he can continue a relationship like this. Yes he comes to abeokuta sometimes but he mostly lodges in the hotel. He told me he can't continue lodging in the hotel that if I love him I will make effort. I tried to convince my parents they did not gree. Imagine, I told them I wanted to see a gf that they knew and they refused. What if I had told them he was a guy.

Pls guys how do u advise me to save my relationship, I'm in a tight spot right now and really sad.

I pity you

Lagos boys go use you do jazz your eye go clear

Better stay ya house and listen to ya parents

dingbang:
Please leave that man, he isnt understanding. A responsible man who knows that a lady is still living under her parents roof will not think of telling you to leave your parents house passing the night in another state.

Blunt sh!t

Heartheart:
Hi I just needed to bring this here. I am 22 years of age and I am not happy at all. My boy friend and I are in a long distance relationship. Not long perse. He is in lagos while I'm in abeokuta. I served in lagos so that's how we met and we got to spend quality time together.

Now since I've passed out I've been at home. I passed out in June. So it's been June that we saw last and now we're in august. He has been disturbing me to come visit him as it has not been easy staying alone, loneliness and all. I promised to visit him next week which also happened to be my birthday week. I have super strict parents but I still promised I will find my way.

I told them (parents) that I was travelling to visit a friend (girl). I could not tell them it was my boyfriend I was going to see because I knew deep down they wouldn't allow me travel to another city to see a guy. But my parents have blatantly refused that I cannot visit this girl. I had to tell my bf that I was not going to come. He was so sad and angry and he let me know he has wasted a lot of money preparing to surprise me for my birthday. He was so excited to see me and he had made a lot of plans. He told me he was disappointed in me and he doesn't think he can continue a relationship like this. Yes he comes to abeokuta sometimes but he mostly lodges in the hotel. He told me he can't continue lodging in the hotel that if I love him I will make effort. I tried to convince my parents they did not gree. Imagine, I told them I wanted to see a gf that they knew and they refused. What if I had told them he was a guy.

Pls guys how do u advise me to save my relationship, I'm in a tight spot right now and really sad.

Tell him if he serious about been with he should kindly visit your parents and seek blessings for your union.

chat2deen:


Tell him if he serious about been with he should kindly visit your parents and seek blessings for your union.

God bless you jare

Righteousness89:
My Sister, you will Save not only your Relationship..

You will also be Saving your Head by Listening to your Parents..

If the Young Man is Serious! Let Him come to see your Parents..

Don't Let the Lure of Infatuation and Sex Destroy your Glorious Life...

There is Nothing there..

exactly.

It's not really about love my sister. Na Konji dey worry am. As far as you are living under your parents, long distance relationship won't work for you. I love to be straightforward. Unless there's hope you both will get to meet each other without separating. If it seems he'll stay there for years, then accept this bitter truth that it MAY not work (I said May). Obey your parents. What if something bad happened to you on your way going or returning? At 22, you still have few years to enjoy.

Oh wow, so a girl child is only good for man to take to alter and then marry and that means all her dreams has been fulfilled?

mutter:


No she should go in for a relationship with a man who doesn't want commitment.
Is that what you would prefer

d picture of d long distance relationship or I don't believe u. d content of ur guy's scrotum is boiling, so go n calm it down

tripplephi:


It sounds like a SEXSATIONSHIP to me.

He is on a hormonal rollercoaster and you are just there to quench his thirst... DO YOU REALLY THINK HE IS NOT ALREADY CHEATING? smh

See, face your life. If he really wants you so bad, let him see your parents and marry sharply. Stop deceiving yourselves.

You have no job, you are only able to support his emotional/sexual needs... ASK YOURSELF... IS THAT LIFE? In every other area you are a liability apart from emotions, sex and maybe cooking food.. SEE EHN, YOU ARE BOTH NOT MATURE FOR A RELATIONSHIP

After NYSC, you are still worried about a guy who has no plans for you, sister deliver yourself very fast. The money he has been spending in hotels, he could have used to set up and investment or business for you. PLS HAVE SENSE NA.

Clean up your life once and for all. If he could come to stay in hotel, he is capable to visit your family and make his intentions knows. Stop managing a TIME WASTER.

Nobody get business idea pass poor man �..

dingbang:
Please leave that man, he isnt understanding. A responsible man who knows that a lady is still living under her parents roof will not think of telling you to leave your parents house passing the night in another state.

Conji don catch d idiot na he don c mumu gf he can remote anytime he wants.

Wen a girl at 22 yr old doesn't have sense, den mumu threads like this must surely be created. Rubbish!

usecondom:
Oh wow, so a girl child is only good for man to take to alter and then marry and that means all her dreams has been fulfilled?

She's a stupid girl.
I've never heard of a girl running after a man
Stupid youth.

He is very imperious. It won't be bad if you be the one to break up with him

OP, you haff read all the comments. Simply break up with him period. Don't allow any man to threaten you that way because of relationship. That guy simply want to sleep with you and doesn't care about your life and safety.

If he was truly serious, he should have come meet with your parents.

For now, just work on being economically independent.

he should come and marry you period.

Poisoned chalice. That man simply wants to have his way with you. That thing you want to go and collect from him is what you will get till you are tired of getting if only you will wait for the right person. Stop wasting your time with him as he may block serious minded guys from coming to you and still end up dumping you and that will be a double tragedy....
Listen to your parents there is nothing to rush. The devil usually presents us with chaff when the real deal is around the corner. Don't fall for this chaff. If he is serious let him see your parents if not let him swerve.

Juliearth:




A man that wants you for keeps(marriage) won't consciously set you up against your parents. Let him leave if he wants to. You are still young, focus on building a career/business.

Not completely true, ask many married couple how they met and how they dated or courted and hear their crazy love stories.


So long as a lady wants to get married in this present world of today, she must be ready to take some calculated risks for her relationship and she must be ready to be fvcked by one or two or three or even 10 different guys before she lands a hubby, that's the sad truth.


Ladies that usually say: I can't do until I marry, even though they are doing the right thing, usually end up single for long or even forever sadly


Some ladies after saying no I won't do until I marry sometimes end up with horrible men who are serial cheats, or horrible men who can't even take care of them or their needs cos most financially buoyant guys cannot date a girl without that thing, once u tell them no we cannot do it until we marry, they will smile and toss the girl one side because they have plenty options of ladies to pick from.


Life no balance at all, those who do the right thing most times carry last in life while those who do the wrong thing end up reaping the best life can offer in this present world, maybe in the afterlife they will get their own reward, sadly



Men are hypocrites sha, men want their daughters to be Virgin Mary The mother of Jesus but they spoilt their wife during dating and even turned their then girlfriend (now wifey) to a half LovePeddler but as soon as they have their own daughter, they want to protect her with shells around her waist forgetting how they fvcked and spoilt their current wife (another person daughter oh) when she was their own girlfriend back then.




The same guys who want their girlfriends to risk it for them don't want their sisters to be fvcked by other men, kai, men una be hypocrites oh, see as all of them turn preachers and motivational preacher, i fear who no fear men of this world, all of una na hypocrites

I hear you sir.
For your information, every sex out of legal matrimony is SIN CALLED FORNICATION. So, don't twist it.
Remember, JESUS CHRIST is coming NOW. Only the saved in Christ shall escape the death in hell fire. Be warned and repent.

emanobis:


Plz, stop preaching this...there's absolutely nothing wrong for someone to have a boy/girlfriend.
You can let us desist frm pre+marital sex, bt as for having friends, nothing is wrong with it.
Is friendship is wrong, Wt abt married ppl stil cheating, will u nw say dt marriage is a sin?

Tell him to come and meet your parents

Young lady, your parent might have be your saviour that day. Be thankful and let him breakup if he wants to break up, you might even meet with someone better than him again cos everything works for good.

Heartheart:
Hi I just needed to bring this here. I am 22 years of age and I am not happy at all. My boy friend and I are in a long distance relationship. Not long perse. He is in lagos while I'm in abeokuta. I served in lagos so that's how we met and we got to spend quality time together.

Now since I've passed out I've been at home. I passed out in June. So it's been June that we saw last and now we're in august. He has been disturbing me to come visit him as it has not been easy staying alone, loneliness and all. I promised to visit him next week which also happened to be my birthday week. I have super strict parents but I still promised I will find my way.

I told them (parents) that I was travelling to visit a friend (girl). I could not tell them it was my boyfriend I was going to see because I knew deep down they wouldn't allow me travel to another city to see a guy. But my parents have blatantly refused that I cannot visit this girl. I had to tell my bf that I was not going to come. He was so sad and angry and he let me know he has wasted a lot of money preparing to surprise me for my birthday. He was so excited to see me and he had made a lot of plans. He told me he was disappointed in me and he doesn't think he can continue a relationship like this. Yes he comes to abeokuta sometimes but he mostly lodges in the hotel. He told me he can't continue lodging in the hotel that if I love him I will make effort. I tried to convince my parents they did not gree. Imagine, I told them I wanted to see a gf that they knew and they refused. What if I had told them he was a guy.

Pls guys how do u advise me to save my relationship, I'm in a tight spot right now and really sad.

humilitypays:
Not completely true, ask many married couple how they met and how they dated or courted and hear their crazy love stories.


So long as a lady wants to get married in this present world of today, she must be ready to take some calculated risks for her relationship and she must be ready to be fvcked by one or two or three or even 10 different guys before she lands a hubby, that's the sad truth.


Ladies that usually say: I can't do until I marry, even though they are doing the right thing, usually end up single for long or even forever sadly


Some ladies after saying no I won't do until I marry sometimes end up with horrible men who are serial cheats, or horrible men who can't even take care of them or their needs cos most financially buoyant guys cannot date a girl without that thing, once u tell them no we cannot do it until we marry, they will smile and toss the girl one side because they have plenty options of ladies to pick from.


Life no balance at all, those who do the right thing most times carry last in life while those who do the wrong thing end up reaping the best life can offer in this present world, maybe in the afterlife they will get their own reward, sadly

While you may be right, my concern is why and how he is forcing her to do it regardless of her parents' disapproval. If a man loves you, he must honour your parents too.


Women don't have to give in to sex to validate a relationship, what will be will be. Sex cannot keep a man that doesn't want to be kept...

All this grammar is just for sex ooh. Girl child shaa

Juliearth:







While you may be right, my concern is why and how he is forcing her to do it regardless of her parents' disapproval. If a man loves you, he must honour your parents too.


Women don't have to give in to sex to validate a relationship, what will be will be. Sex cannot keep a man that doesn't want to be kept...

You are saying the right thing that ought to be done.


But I still tell u sister, those who do the right thing in this world don't always get the best, most times those who do the wrong thing get the best, maybe this world is structured for those that will risk it all without fear.


Check those who are usually quiet and reserved, they most times don't end up successful while the stubborn, arrogant ones usually end up super successful, observe this from today.


Life no balance at all.


Majority of married couples you see and envy, if they tell u how they met, or if the women tell u what their boyfriends who is now their husbands made them to do eh, u go shock.


Don't just conclude that a man that wants to marry a lady wouldn't want her to take some risk, not true oh, some boyfriends will even tell their girlfriend to leave her parents and run away with him and at the end they will be happily married and its usually such men that restrict their own daughters because they know how bad they were as a single guy.


Some guys that will respect you, respect your parents, respect even the ground u walk on as their girlfriend may still end up dumping you for another lady when they want to marry, so its just a game.


Relationship is a game of luck, u may do all the right things and still end up dumped, and another lady may do all the bad bad things and still end up married to a wonderful man earlier than the good girls.


I repeat, life no balance sister

humilitypays:
You are saying the right thing that ought to be done.


But I still tell u sister, those who do the right thing in this world don't always get the best, most times those who do the wrong thing get the best, maybe this world is structured for those that will risk it all without fear.


Check those who are usually quiet and reserved, they most times don't end up successful while the stubborn, arrogant ones usually end up super successful, observe this from today.


Life no balance at all.


Majority of married couples you see and envy, if they tell u how they met, or if the women tell u what their boyfriends who is now their husbands made them to do eh, u go shock.


Don't just conclude that a man that wants to marry a lady wouldn't want him to take some risk, not true oh, some boyfriends will even tell girl to leave her parents and run away with him and at the end they will be happily married and its usually such men that restrict their own daughters because they know how bad they were as single guy.


Some guys that will respect you, respect your parents, respect even the ground u walk on as their girlfriend may still end up dumping you for another lady when they want to marry, so its just a game.


Relationship is a game of luck, u may do all the right things and still end up dumped, and another lady may do all the bad bad things and still end up married to a wonderful man earlier than the good girls.


I repeat, life no balance sister

You are right, but we cant continue to sin so grace can abound. Regardless of how you want to tweak this coin,decency pays.

I know that despite all the warnings and advises an ear destined for destruction will still find a way to go. Just know that if anything happens to you, your blood Will be on your head. Remember that girl Cynthia, she went and never returned. We don't wanna see a sad story of a missing girl on nairaland.

Heartheart:
Hi I just needed to bring this here. I am 22 years of age and I am not happy at all. My boy friend and I are in a long distance relationship. Not long perse. He is in lagos while I'm in abeokuta. I served in lagos so that's how we met and we got to spend quality time together.

Now since I've passed out I've been at home. I passed out in June. So it's been June that we saw last and now we're in august. He has been disturbing me to come visit him as it has not been easy staying alone, loneliness and all. I promised to visit him next week which also happened to be my birthday week. I have super strict parents but I still promised I will find my way.

I told them (parents) that I was travelling to visit a friend (girl). I could not tell them it was my boyfriend I was going to see because I knew deep down they wouldn't allow me travel to another city to see a guy. But my parents have blatantly refused that I cannot visit this girl. I had to tell my bf that I was not going to come. He was so sad and angry and he let me know he has wasted a lot of money preparing to surprise me for my birthday. He was so excited to see me and he had made a lot of plans. He told me he was disappointed in me and he doesn't think he can continue a relationship like this. Yes he comes to abeokuta sometimes but he mostly lodges in the hotel. He told me he can't continue lodging in the hotel that if I love him I will make effort. I tried to convince my parents they did not gree. Imagine, I told them I wanted to see a gf that they knew and they refused. What if I had told them he was a guy.

Pls guys how do u advise me to save my relationship, I'm in a tight spot right now and really sad.

Naso we men dey so so relax he is using the playbook unless you are not unique and worth your onions.
If you have defined your relationship tell him to visit you at home, tell your parents about him, tell him youb wan to introduce him after all you are not a baby.

Though i noticed some lies or misguided statement in your post but let me still comment,,, Firstly you said you passed out in June and that was the time you you guys met last, below you also said the Guy do come to Abeokuta to stay in the hotel and he said he is now tired of coming... We only have small interval between June and August... June, July, August.... Can you correct those things please? or is your write-up a fake one?.... Now for the advice you need, you have already seen many ones above me, The young man is lusting after you and not love... stop pre- marital sex now because it will only put you in regret... you do not need to tell us that sexual intercourse is already involved in the relationship, we already know. If the young man is matured enough to handle open relationship, let him visit your residential home and see you because you are already a graduate and you are now matured enough to be in open relationship not all the hide and seek game you have been doing. I love your parents, they must be educated and God fearing, kudos to them.

I am sure there is a part of brain of young people that get blocked while growing.

So in your normal sense, you lie to your parents to allow you go see a stupid guy that sees spending money in a hotel as unnecessary yet has spent that much to prepare his bedroom for free sex.

But when you get pregnant tomorrow and he abandons you, you will still run back to your parents. If you want sex, get married, live the idiot and don't even pick his calls until he apologises for putting you into such avoidable corner...he is just after your body, he does not love you at all.

That your parents prevent you from being promiscuous is a sign that you have great parents and believe it or not, from the day you start disobeying them on immoral issues like this, that's the day your life becomes miserable.

Heartheart:
Hi I just needed to bring this here. I am 22 years of age and I am not happy at all. My boy friend and I are in a long distance relationship. Not long perse. He is in lagos while I'm in abeokuta. I served in lagos so that's how we met and we got to spend quality time together.

Now since I've passed out I've been at home. I passed out in June. So it's been June that we saw last and now we're in august. He has been disturbing me to come visit him as it has not been easy staying alone, loneliness and all. I promised to visit him next week which also happened to be my birthday week. I have super strict parents but I still promised I will find my way.

I told them (parents) that I was travelling to visit a friend (girl). I could not tell them it was my boyfriend I was going to see because I knew deep down they wouldn't allow me travel to another city to see a guy. But my parents have blatantly refused that I cannot visit this girl. I had to tell my bf that I was not going to come. He was so sad and angry and he let me know he has wasted a lot of money preparing to surprise me for my birthday. He was so excited to see me and he had made a lot of plans. He told me he was disappointed in me and he doesn't think he can continue a relationship like this. Yes he comes to abeokuta sometimes but he mostly lodges in the hotel. He told me he can't continue lodging in the hotel that if I love him I will make effort. I tried to convince my parents they did not gree. Imagine, I told them I wanted to see a gf that they knew and they refused. What if I had told them he was a guy.

Pls guys how do u advise me to save my relationship, I'm in a tight spot right now and really sad.

Righteousness89:
My Sister, you will Save not only your Relationship..

You will also be Saving your Head by Listening to your Parents..

If the Young Man is Serious! Let Him come to see your Parents..

Don't Let the Lure of Infatuation and Sex Destroy your Glorious Life...

There is Nothing there..

Very true, let him come and see your parents. They will gladly receive him. What if something happens to you while you away with him, no one pray for such but your parents will hold your girl friend responsible. You are matured enough to introduce your fiance to your parents.

frozen70:


Hey, calm down before you start feeling bad unnecessarily

You know very well that whatever you tells your parents, they will never agree, unless a family relations call them to ask them to allow you to come to Lagos and search for a job, you know what that means to both families

Your boyfriend should also understand that, you are still under your parents control considering your age

He can sacrifice this last trip because of your birthday. Until you get a job doing or a suitor comes for your hand in marriage, your freedom is not guaranteed in that house

Now what's the way forward, start seeing your relationship with him as a relationship that you can't handle because your parents will not guarantee you the freedom to move about

He can assist you to get a job and for accommodation, you can be shuttling your friend house and his house

If your boyfriend is crazy over you, he will make a way

What are the ways, asking for your hand in marriage or helping you to get a job so that you can be within his reach

Now tell me what, what makes you think he hasn't been with another woman since June that you left, is his thing in your pocket?

You are still young and the future for any thing you want is still young

When he sees that he can't stay without you, things will take shape

Trust no man until he walks you to the alter

She is still under her parents because she’s lazy, what is a 22year old graduate still doing in her parents house?



Nigerians are amusing, when does one become a full fledged adult in your country? At 30?