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Heartheart:
Hi I just needed to bring this here. I am 22 years of age and I am not happy at all. My boy friend and I are in a long distance relationship. Not long perse. He is in lagos while I'm in abeokuta. I served in lagos so that's how we met and we got to spend quality time together.

Now since I've passed out I've been at home. I passed out in June. So it's been June that we saw last and now we're in august. He has been disturbing me to come visit him as it has not been easy staying alone, loneliness and all. I promised to visit him next week which also happened to be my birthday week. I have super strict parents but I still promised I will find my way.

I told them (parents) that I was travelling to visit a friend (girl). I could not tell them it was my boyfriend I was going to see because I knew deep down they wouldn't allow me travel to another city to see a guy. But my parents have blatantly refused that I cannot visit this girl. I had to tell my bf that I was not going to come. He was so sad and angry and he let me know he has wasted a lot of money preparing to surprise me for my birthday. He was so excited to see me and he had made a lot of plans. He told me he was disappointed in me and he doesn't think he can continue a relationship like this. Yes he comes to abeokuta sometimes but he mostly lodges in the hotel. He told me he can't continue lodging in the hotel that if I love him I will make effort. I tried to convince my parents they did not gree. Imagine, I told them I wanted to see a gf that they knew and they refused. What if I had told them he was a guy.

Pls guys how do u advise me to save my relationship, I'm in a tight spot right now and really sad.

He is not serious and obviously has a girl warming his bed.
You need to also up your lying game. What happened to there was a mixup with your NYSC certificate and you need to sort that in Lagos. Who will allow a girl to travel to just see a girlfriend?
I have said my own.

Amorprincesa24:
You are very sensible.

God bless you

Heartheart:
Hi I just needed to bring this here. I am 22 years of age and I am not happy at all. My boy friend and I are in a long distance relationship. Not long perse. He is in lagos while I'm in abeokuta. I served in lagos so that's how we met and we got to spend quality time together.

Now since I've passed out I've been at home. I passed out in June. So it's been June that we saw last and now we're in august. He has been disturbing me to come visit him as it has not been easy staying alone, loneliness and all. I promised to visit him next week which also happened to be my birthday week. I have super strict parents but I still promised I will find my way.

I told them (parents) that I was travelling to visit a friend (girl). I could not tell them it was my boyfriend I was going to see because I knew deep down they wouldn't allow me travel to another city to see a guy. But my parents have blatantly refused that I cannot visit this girl. I had to tell my bf that I was not going to come. He was so sad and angry and he let me know he has wasted a lot of money preparing to surprise me for my birthday. He was so excited to see me and he had made a lot of plans. He told me he was disappointed in me and he doesn't think he can continue a relationship like this. Yes he comes to abeokuta sometimes but he mostly lodges in the hotel. He told me he can't continue lodging in the hotel that if I love him I will make effort. I tried to convince my parents they did not gree. Imagine, I told them I wanted to see a gf that they knew and they refused. What if I had told them he was a guy.

Pls guys how do u advise me to save my relationship, I'm in a tight spot right now and really sad.

He should be able to understand , it's not that easy

Heartheart:
Hi I just needed to bring this here. I am 22 years of age and I am not happy at all. My boy friend and I are in a long distance relationship. Not long perse. He is in lagos while I'm in abeokuta. I served in lagos so that's how we met and we got to spend quality time together.

Now since I've passed out I've been at home. I passed out in June. So it's been June that we saw last and now we're in august. He has been disturbing me to come visit him as it has not been easy staying alone, loneliness and all. I promised to visit him next week which also happened to be my birthday week. I have super strict parents but I still promised I will find my way.

I told them (parents) that I was travelling to visit a friend (girl). I could not tell them it was my boyfriend I was going to see because I knew deep down they wouldn't allow me travel to another city to see a guy. But my parents have blatantly refused that I cannot visit this girl. I had to tell my bf that I was not going to come. He was so sad and angry and he let me know he has wasted a lot of money preparing to surprise me for my birthday. He was so excited to see me and he had made a lot of plans. He told me he was disappointed in me and he doesn't think he can continue a relationship like this. Yes he comes to abeokuta sometimes but he mostly lodges in the hotel. He told me he can't continue lodging in the hotel that if I love him I will make effort. I tried to convince my parents they did not gree. Imagine, I told them I wanted to see a gf that they knew and they refused. What if I had told them he was a guy.

Pls guys how do u advise me to save my relationship, I'm in a tight spot right now and really sad.

Truth is important, at 22 you're done with school. Even though you're still a young adult, telling your parent you have someone of interest who hopefully get married to is no crime.

When he comes to Abeokuta, let him visit you at home home and not just hotel.

If they know him it wouldn't be as hard.

I once had same experience some years ago. I also met him when I was serving in Delta state, I agreed to date him after many months of disturbances from him.

When i got back to my base after some months he suggested we meet I told him to come over and cease the opportunity to meet my parent, this guy blatantly refused but gave flimsy excuses instead but was so cool with us meeting in an hotel and spending days together. I told him if he won't come to my house then I would only meet him in an eatery or any public place. This was how he gradually stopped getting in touch and stopped communicating with me for 7months and later came back pleading...it was a long story.

My point is this, we ladies should be wise and sensitive when it comes to relationship matters because it will really go a long way in discerning a serious guy from a time waster or player.

tripplephi:
It sounds like a SEXSATIONSHIP to me.

He is on a hormonal rollercoaster and you are just there to quench his thirst... DO YOU REALLY THINK HE IS NOT ALREADY CHEATING? smh

See, face your life. If he really wants you so bad, let him see your parents and marry sharply. Stop deceiving yourselves.

You have no job, you are only able to support his emotional/sexual needs... ASK YOURSELF... IS THAT LIFE? In every other area you are a liability apart from emotions, sex and maybe cooking food.. SEE EHN, YOU ARE BOTH NOT MATURE FOR A RELATIONSHIP

After NYSC, you are still worried about a guy who has no plans for you, sister deliver yourself very fast. The money he has been spending in hotels, he could have used to set up and investment or business for you. PLS HAVE SENSE NA.

Clean up your life once and for all. If he could come to stay in hotel, he is capable to visit your family and make his intentions knows. Stop managing a TIME WASTER.

For this sensible comment of yours please chop kiss

Odion2016:
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Hahahahahaha.........very funny...so age matters bah??

Some how

frozen70:
If you have a good sound of sense of reasoning, you will read where she started that she just finished her youth service this June

Where do you want her to stay
Even at 22yrs you already lost your bearing

Are you confused or?

stormborn28:
go marry if you wan quench konji. Or better still visit Ashawo joint

Orrr... Uncle Reverend Father kindly swerve. I refuse to get banned on your matter this morning.

Nne pls leave dat guy and move on with ur live

Nne pls leave dat guy and move on with ur life

Heartheart:
Hi I just needed to bring this here. I am 22 years of age and I am not happy at all. My boy friend and I are in a long distance relationship. Not long perse. He is in lagos while I'm in abeokuta. I served in lagos so that's how we met and we got to spend quality time together.

Now since I've passed out I've been at home. I passed out in June. So it's been June that we saw last and now we're in august. He has been disturbing me to come visit him as it has not been easy staying alone, loneliness and all. I promised to visit him next week which also happened to be my birthday week. I have super strict parents but I still promised I will find my way.

I told them (parents) that I was travelling to visit a friend (girl). I could not tell them it was my boyfriend I was going to see because I knew deep down they wouldn't allow me travel to another city to see a guy. But my parents have blatantly refused that I cannot visit this girl. I had to tell my bf that I was not going to come. He was so sad and angry and he let me know he has wasted a lot of money preparing to surprise me for my birthday. He was so excited to see me and he had made a lot of plans. He told me he was disappointed in me and he doesn't think he can continue a relationship like this. Yes he comes to abeokuta sometimes but he mostly lodges in the hotel. He told me he can't continue lodging in the hotel that if I love him I will make effort. I tried to convince my parents they did not gree. Imagine, I told them I wanted to see a gf that they knew and they refused. What if I had told them he was a guy.

Pls guys how do u advise me to save my relationship, I'm in a tight spot right now and really sad.

Dump him before he dumps you. It is clear that he doesn't love you. Obey your parents and leave the guy. if you continue with the nonsense relationship, it will end in tears. That's my expensive advice for you.

dingbang:
two years ago you were 28, now you are 22.


It is well

You did not understand her explanation.

Fortunately, life is in phase, you would have to be patient with your parents because all they want is your best.

No parent will voluntarily allow their child to leave the house without a proper reason.

As for your boyfriend try to explain your current phase to him. If he is tired of loneliness, he knows what to do (Marry you).

Darling you cannot do so much to save anyone that wants to leave.

Since it's your birthday he can travel to Abeokuta with the surprise, after all your friends probably reside in Abeokuta.

My Sister, my kindly advice to you, is that this guy in question doesn't really love u.because if he thus,he should av understand with you. If he truly loves u that means he really wants to see ur present around him.
Then what he is waiting for, let him come and ask ur hand in marry.

I have read all the comments here and a lot have been pretty hilarious. My relationship is not based on sex and it has never been. I brought this here because of the anonymity nairaland provides. And the fact that I would get really blunt advice. Nairalanders no dey show mercy. Thank you every one that contributed. I am not going against my parents cos I won't even have rest of mind if I go. I was convinced I was being selfish and not caring about his own feelings. But now that I brought it here, my eyes have opened. Sometimes we need to borrow peoples eyes to see what we can't see well. Thank u Im sitting at home and letting life take it's course. I have a small business I'm running, so 9 to 5 is not part of my plan at least for now. Just to clear the air, I'm not an idle person that is running up and down because of sex. I just wanted to be sure I wasn't being insensitive to his own feeling.

iamadonis2:
Orrr... Uncle Reverend Father kindly swerve. I refuse to get banned on your matter this morning.

go to Ashawo joint if you want to quench your konji simple

Kwinesther:
I once had same experience some years ago. I also met him when I was serving in Delta state, I agreed to date him after many months of disturbances from him.

When i got back to my base after some months he suggested we meet I told him to come over and cease the opportunity to meet my parent, this guy blatantly refused but gave flimsy excuses instead but was so cool with us meeting in an hotel and spending days together. I told him if he won't come to my house then I would only meet him in an eatery or any public place. This was how he gradually stopped getting in touch and stopped communicating with me for 7months and later came back pleading...it was a long story.

My point is this, we ladies should be wise and sensitive when it comes to relationship matters because it will really go a long way in discerning a serious guy from a time waster or player.

God bless your sense... I like girls who are intelligent... It makes the society less worry about children being dumped here and there...

bomsilaga:
He is not serious and obviously has a girl warming his bed.
You need to also up your lying game. What happened to there was a mixup with your NYSC certificate and you need to sort that in Lagos. Who will allow a girl to travel to just see a girlfriend?
I have said my own.

so you want to encourage her to take her lying to another level like APC

frozen70:
If you have a good sound of sense of reasoning, you will read where she started that she just finished her youth service this June

Where do you want her to stay
Even at 22yrs you already lost your bearing

You said ‘ Your boyfriend should also understand that, you are still under your parents control considering your age‘

Do not try to change what you said.
Why should a 22year old woman still be controlled by her parents at that age if she is not lazy?

Only in Nigeria, a country filled with overgrown babies not ready for life because the elders think they’re gods whose words are final and we wonder why our society is immature and only concerned with Big brother.

Give your life to Christ and flee fornication to save your soul from hell.

May God bless your parents.... They are your angels. That so called your boyfriend will use you and dumb you. Pls hv sense...

You're too young to get this emotional about a relationship that seems to thrive on physical gratification. If he wants you that bad and you're more than willing to satisfy his libido, I think he must continue to invest in inter-state travel and tour! He who wants to eat honey from the bowels of a rock must not mind the damage done to the axe. So says a Yoruba proverb.

On the other hand, if he's been getting the goodies from the jar for that long, you need to be wary of his insistence on your coming to his place without your parents' knowledge. The world is no longer safe, dear. Don't let him blackmail you into submission that is potentially dangerous for you.

Simps everywhere. The girl is an adult and can make her decision. Is she gona live with her parents forever?

Tell him to come to Abeokuta and meet your parents to plan una marriage so there won't be need for hide and seek love again

Fucsheetup:
You said ‘ Your boyfriend should also understand that, you are still under your parents control considering your age‘

Do not try to change what you said.
Why should a 22year old woman still be controlled by her parents at that age if she is not lazy?

Only in Nigeria, a country filled with overgrown babies not ready for life because the elders think they’re gods whose words are final and we wonder why our society is immature and only concerned with Big brother.

Am done with you

dingbang:
Please leave that man, he isnt understanding. A responsible man who knows that a lady is still living under her parents roof will not think of telling you to leave your parents house passing the night in another state.

I don't like advising people in love because it w pure waste of time, they will later do what is in their mind.
all i will tell you is listen to your parent, if this guy truly loves you let him do the right thing.

UyaiIncomparabl:
You did not understand her explanation.

she is very stupid..

Heartheart:
Hi I just needed to bring this here. I am 22 years of age and I am not happy at all. My boy friend and I are in a long distance relationship. Not long perse. He is in lagos while I'm in abeokuta. I served in lagos so that's how we met and we got to spend quality time together.

Now since I've passed out I've been at home. I passed out in June. So it's been June that we saw last and now we're in august. He has been disturbing me to come visit him as it has not been easy staying alone, loneliness and all. I promised to visit him next week which also happened to be my birthday week. I have super strict parents but I still promised I will find my way.

I told them (parents) that I was travelling to visit a friend (girl). I could not tell them it was my boyfriend I was going to see because I knew deep down they wouldn't allow me travel to another city to see a guy. But my parents have blatantly refused that I cannot visit this girl. I had to tell my bf that I was not going to come. He was so sad and angry and he let me know he has wasted a lot of money preparing to surprise me for my birthday. He was so excited to see me and he had made a lot of plans. He told me he was disappointed in me and he doesn't think he can continue a relationship like this. Yes he comes to abeokuta sometimes but he mostly lodges in the hotel. He told me he can't continue lodging in the hotel that if I love him I will make effort. I tried to convince my parents they did not gree. Imagine, I told them I wanted to see a gf that they knew and they refused. What if I had told them he was a guy.

Pls guys how do u advise me to save my relationship, I'm in a tight spot right now and really sad.

That guy you claim loves you is only interested in what lies in between your legs. Get pregnant tomorrow for him, the story will change.

You should be thanking your parents daily for ensuring that at 21, you are a graduate and have served this useless country.

So you value dick more than your life?

Bia bebe, where are you now. I want come flog some sense into your skull.
Konji dey worry d guy.
Infactuation dey shack u. Issok!
Nor carry ur pelebe nyansh sidon ur papa house u hear?

stormborn28:
so you want to encourage her to take her lying to another lever like APC

Heheheheheheheeh