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She had an entanglement with August

Binhamid:
Good evening, I stay in a different state from my girlfriend and we see like once in 3 months. She has a tight work schedule and I also do. We also try to make 3 weeks out of December our mini-honeymoon each year. Everything was good because we communicate and tell each other everything. Even if I hang out with female friends or go out on dates due to boredom I do tell her. The one time I kissed a girl due to the fact that I was drunk I told her and I apologized. We had a long fight but we settled. She also tells me everything even when she go on dates. Because I used to tell her who she can go out with and when she should come back, I encourage her to do this because I always feel she might be bored sometimes and male company is okay as long as they are reasonable fellows. So lastweek she went out with this fellow she mentioned briefly to me about, and when I called her in the night I noticed she was acting somehow. Usually we talk for two hours every night and she never declines video call? That day she called me earlier than usual, we start our call by 10pm and she called me by 8pm and she told me she will call back. She called again by 11:00 and we did not talk for more than 7 min. When I requested for video call she declined. That was when I knew she was not home. So I texted her that I knew she is not home. She called me back the second day that she just saw my text that she is sorry and that it was because of curfew that she stayed at the guy's place and all. That she does not know how to tell me blah blah blah. So I broke up with her. And she has been crying and saying sorry since. I still love her, and I actually believe her story a bit, but I'm still angry. Am I overreacting should I take her back or leave her to enjoy her life.

This thing no be fiction na something wey dey vex and pain me. If you talk rubbish I go use the vex curse you.

From your writeup, you both seem to be running an open relationship. No matter how open a relationship/marriage might be, there would always arise jealousy and unhappiness. I think you encouraged or pushed her into the mess, not like she's a baby anyway. From what you wrote, it seems you both have been dating for some years ( you wrote you always spend three weeks together every Christmas), why then haven't you both gotten married? I think you two should analyse and review your relationship so as to know what each one wants. There's no need to get yourself vexed.

Binhamid:
Good evening, I stay in a different state from my girlfriend and we see like once in 3 months. She has a tight work schedule and I also do. We also try to make 3 weeks out of December our mini-honeymoon each year. Everything was good because we communicate and tell each other everything. Even if I hang out with female friends or go out on dates due to boredom I do tell her. The one time I kissed a girl due to the fact that I was drunk I told her and I apologized. We had a long fight but we settled. She also tells me everything even when she go on dates. Because I used to tell her who she can go out with and when she should come back, I encourage her to do this because I always feel she might be bored sometimes and male company is okay as long as they are reasonable fellows. So lastweek she went out with this fellow she mentioned briefly to me about, and when I called her in the night I noticed she was acting somehow. Usually we talk for two hours every night and she never declines video call? That day she called me earlier than usual, we start our call by 10pm and she called me by 8pm and she told me she will call back. She called again by 11:00 and we did not talk for more than 7 min. When I requested for video call she declined. That was when I knew she was not home. So I texted her that I knew she is not home. She called me back the second day that she just saw my text that she is sorry and that it was because of curfew that she stayed at the guy's place and all. That she does not know how to tell me blah blah blah. So I broke up with her. And she has been crying and saying sorry since. I still love her, and I actually believe her story a bit, but I'm still angry. Am I overreacting should I take her back or leave her to enjoy her life.

This thing no be fiction na something wey dey vex and pain me. If you talk rubbish I go use the vex curse you.

You be big fool

womenareapes:
are you that dumb!

the way you simps keep popping out one after another is just amazing

Dumb is under statement , he is dumb and stupid

OP let me not assume keda,
Like she spent the night in the guy house, Was they any form of Premium Drilling? because you did not mention.

womenareapes:
are you that dumb!

the way you simps keep popping out one after another is just amazing

Dumb is under statement, he is dumb and stupid

Binhamid:
Are you saying I should dump her and move on?

Yes and stay away from distant relationship

Binhamid:
Are you saying I should dump her and move on?

You can forgive her and move on with her. But the truth is how are you sure this will be a one-off thing because there is what I call father Charles' law of " once banged can always be rebanged once the banner and the bangor are in tandem".

Just be wise.

I wonder why you'd allow your babe go on dates with guys and not expect what you are getting right now.

Binhamid:
Chaii

I want you to close your eyes and picture a man with a big jaw who has just finished eating the flesh off the chicken lap he's holding. He then licks the bone before proceeding to chew off the soft part at the top.

Ehen, na so that guy take chop your babe.

Binhamid:
Good evening, I stay in a different state from my girlfriend and we see like once in 3 months. She has a tight work schedule and I also do. We also try to make 3 weeks out of December our mini-honeymoon each year. Everything was good because we communicate and tell each other everything. Even if I hang out with female friends or go out on dates due to boredom I do tell her. The one time I kissed a girl due to the fact that I was drunk I told her and I apologized. We had a long fight but we settled. She also tells me everything even when she go on dates. Because I used to tell her who she can go out with and when she should come back, I encourage her to do this because I always feel she might be bored sometimes and male company is okay as long as they are reasonable fellows. So lastweek she went out with this fellow she mentioned briefly to me about, and when I called her in the night I noticed she was acting somehow. Usually we talk for two hours every night and she never declines video call? That day she called me earlier than usual, we start our call by 10pm and she called me by 8pm and she told me she will call back. She called again by 11:00 and we did not talk for more than 7 min. When I requested for video call she declined. That was when I knew she was not home. So I texted her that I knew she is not home. She called me back the second day that she just saw my text that she is sorry and that it was because of curfew that she stayed at the guy's place and all. That she does not know how to tell me blah blah blah. So I broke up with her. And she has been crying and saying sorry since. I still love her, and I actually believe her story a bit, but I'm still angry. Am I overreacting should I take her back or leave her to enjoy her life.

This thing no be fiction na something wey dey vex and pain me. If you talk rubbish I go use the vex curse you.

You don't love her and you know the truth

A guy that loves someone the high rate of his mumu button will be 100%

Long Distance Relationship is patience and understanding this two things if you can't then let go and find someone In your location. If you love her then fight for her and settle

You motherfuckers should just get the fúck outta here
And stop bringing up stupid relationship issues here
It's your problem not ours

Binhamid:
I thought I was been open-minded actually. And I go out with other girls just for fun and I tell them I'm in a relationship. So, I feel it should be the same with her.

I know you didn't sleep well that night

Wordsfrombimpe:
You don't love her and you know the truth

A guy that loves someone the high rate of his mumu button will be 100%

Long Distance Relationship is patience and understanding this two things if you can't then let go and find someone In your location. If you love her then fight for her and settle

He loves her but he doesn't know girls yet. He's doing gentle guy. I was very stupid before too

Artiiclebeast:
You can forgive her and move on with her. But the truth is how are you sure this will be a one-off thing because there is what I call father Charles' law of " once banged can always be rebanged once the banner and the bangor are in tandem".

Just be wise.

I wonder why you'd allow your babe go on dates with guys and not expect what you are getting right now.

He's inexperienced. Don't blame him

donbrowser:
He's inexperienced. Don't blame him

I can imagine.

Binhamid:
Are you saying I should dump her and move on?

Don't dump her. You can call me prophet but that guy will still straff her more lol

The best thing is just to play along for the main time and be ready to lose her too. It's very delicate to leave women to do such things.
She will soon start telling you how you are not giving her enough attention. What has been missing in you lol. Women are crazy. Just find a way to go there asap and give her 1 week of good straffing to prepare your mind for the worst.
She will keep you for emotional backup and keep straffing the guy that was there when you ignored her.

Just play along. Simple

Binhamid:
Good evening, I stay in a different state from my girlfriend and we see like once in 3 months. She has a tight work schedule and I also do. We also try to make 3 weeks out of December our mini-honeymoon each year. Everything was good because we communicate and tell each other everything. Even if I hang out with female friends or go out on dates due to boredom I do tell her. The one time I kissed a girl due to the fact that I was drunk I told her and I apologized. We had a long fight but we settled. She also tells me everything even when she go on dates. Because I used to tell her who she can go out with and when she should come back, I encourage her to do this because I always feel she might be bored sometimes and male company is okay as long as they are reasonable fellows. So lastweek she went out with this fellow she mentioned briefly to me about, and when I called her in the night I noticed she was acting somehow. Usually we talk for two hours every night and she never declines video call? That day she called me earlier than usual, we start our call by 10pm and she called me by 8pm and she told me she will call back. She called again by 11:00 and we did not talk for more than 7 min. When I requested for video call she declined. That was when I knew she was not home. So I texted her that I knew she is not home. She called me back the second day that she just saw my text that she is sorry and that it was because of curfew that she stayed at the guy's place and all. That she does not know how to tell me blah blah blah. So I broke up with her. And she has been crying and saying sorry since. I still love her, and I actually believe her story a bit, but I'm still angry. Am I overreacting should I take her back or leave her to enjoy her life.

This thing no be fiction na something wey dey vex and pain me. If you talk rubbish I go use the vex curse you.

Can I insult you first before I advise you?

Please forgive her... Do not listen to toxic advice on nairaland...a word is enough for the wise.

Binhamid:
God bless, I dey enjoy the link. I just hope I don't forget the instructions

deltateam:
We've been treating simp cases for long now.

As secretary of Redpills group, Nairaland branch, I am mandated to give you your reference number.

It is S457484269. Keep it safe for future purposes.

This simp stuff don tire me sef. Because usually I no dey take nonsense from women, but I really like this babe na why I dey behave like this with her

annford:
From your writeup, you both seem to be running an open relationship. No matter how open a relationship/marriage might be, there would always arise jealousy and unhappiness. I think you encouraged or pushed her into the mess, not like she's a baby anyway. From what you wrote, it seems you both have been dating for some years ( you wrote you always spend three weeks together every Christmas), why then haven't you both gotten married? I think you two should analyse and review your relationship so as to know what each one wants. There's no need to get yourself vexed.

Bros we don plan to marry in 5 years time. Because I feel I should have my own house and we should be staying in the same city before then. So she will probably get another job where I am, but now everything don scatter.

Binhamid:
Good evening, I stay in a different state from my girlfriend and we see like once in 3 months. She has a tight work schedule and I also do. We also try to make 3 weeks out of December our mini-honeymoon each year. Everything was good because we communicate and tell each other everything. Even if I hang out with female friends or go out on dates due to boredom I do tell her. The one time I kissed a girl due to the fact that I was drunk I told her and I apologized. We had a long fight but we settled. She also tells me everything even when she go on dates. Because I used to tell her who she can go out with and when she should come back, I encourage her to do this because I always feel she might be bored sometimes and male company is okay as long as they are reasonable fellows. So lastweek she went out with this fellow she mentioned briefly to me about, and when I called her in the night I noticed she was acting somehow. Usually we talk for two hours every night and she never declines video call? That day she called me earlier than usual, we start our call by 10pm and she called me by 8pm and she told me she will call back. She called again by 11:00 and we did not talk for more than 7 min. When I requested for video call she declined. That was when I knew she was not home. So I texted her that I knew she is not home. She called me back the second day that she just saw my text that she is sorry and that it was because of curfew that she stayed at the guy's place and all. That she does not know how to tell me blah blah blah. So I broke up with her. And she has been crying and saying sorry since. I still love her, and I actually believe her story a bit, but I'm still angry. Am I overreacting should I take her back or leave her to enjoy her life.

This thing no be fiction na something wey dey vex and pain me. If you talk rubbish I go use the vex curse you.

She would have called you, introduce you to the guy as her bf, but my guy that leaverage (going out with guys) you gave her is a dangerous one.

really, this thread makes you sound weak, she's messed up big time, you can decide to keep the relationship without any more emotions from your side... buh I'd advice you break up, it was premeditated cheating � she called you by 8, so you won't call her later, she's starting to learn game. the only error she made was giving you the chance to be suspicious...

Nicepoker:
Can I insult you first before I advise you?

No problem, just be gentle. Cos if not I fit vex curse you, I'm in sifia pain.

MARKone:
You are just behaving like the Simp these boys here are calling you, a lot of them calling you a simp, will easily forgive their girlfriend if she's caught pants down with a guy. Take control and define your relationship oga, the idea of going on dates and what not, makes the relationship look open. You know your woman, only you know what she is capable of doing or not, fact is, there is a chance that the guy didn't straff her.

na dem

MARKone:
Lol, I've had my fair share of women, once married, truth is, we might not fully understand women, and assumptions kills a relationship faster than the deed itself. OP take control of your relationship don't let anyone here confuse you, I'm telling you from experience.

na so

Binhamid:
Good evening, I stay in a different state from my girlfriend and we see like once in 3 months. She has a tight work schedule and I also do. We also try to make 3 weeks out of December our mini-honeymoon each year. Everything was good because we communicate and tell each other everything. Even if I hang out with female friends or go out on dates due to boredom I do tell her. The one time I kissed a girl due to the fact that I was drunk I told her and I apologized. We had a long fight but we settled. She also tells me everything even when she go on dates. Because I used to tell her who she can go out with and when she should come back, I encourage her to do this because I always feel she might be bored sometimes and male company is okay as long as they are reasonable fellows. So lastweek she went out with this fellow she mentioned briefly to me about, and when I called her in the night I noticed she was acting somehow. Usually we talk for two hours every night and she never declines video call? That day she called me earlier than usual, we start our call by 10pm and she called me by 8pm and she told me she will call back. She called again by 11:00 and we did not talk for more than 7 min. When I requested for video call she declined. That was when I knew she was not home. So I texted her that I knew she is not home. She called me back the second day that she just saw my text that she is sorry and that it was because of curfew that she stayed at the guy's place and all. That she does not know how to tell me blah blah blah. So I broke up with her. And she has been crying and saying sorry since. I still love her, and I actually believe her story a bit, but I'm still angry. Am I overreacting should I take her back or leave her to enjoy her life.

This thing no be fiction na something wey dey vex and pain me. If you talk rubbish I go use the vex curse you.

Dude forgive her and give her another chance, but this time set your rules. everyone makes mistakes. Good luck.

Binhamid:
Bros we don plan to marry in 5 years time. Because I feel I should have my own house and we should be staying in the same city before then. So she will probably get another job where I am, but now everything don scatter.

OK, I understand you better now. About the getting married in 5 years time, honestly, that would depend on a lot of factors. Asking or expecting a woman to wait that long could be very challenging. Please consider the following factors: 1. Would age still be on her side in five years time? 2. Would you love her just as much and she, you, in five years time? 3. Would thing have aligned themselves in your favour in five years time? 4. Would you both stay faithful and true to each other till the five years? I'd tell you a thing or two about my own experience. I am a husband and a father. When I met my wife, She was based in Benin and I, in Abuja. We visited each other at least twice a Month. She'd visit and I'd return the visit after two weeks ( we visited fortnightly). Today, we are happily married and are both raising our beautiful daughter together here in Abuja. About the "having a house thing" before marriage, well, it depends on you. Don't give yourself difficult tasks to meet before marriage. When I met my Wife, I hadn't ordinary farmland, but today, we are about finishing our third house. Sometimes, the blessings of marriage are just what you need to succeed. I kinda married late because just like you, I wanted to own the World before getting married. I can affirm to you that most of the things I had dreamed of having before marriage, I have them now that I am married. Long distance relationship/marriage is never easy but if you still know you can live with the said Lady, go on with her. But I'd advise you put an end to her, hanging out with males other than her blood brother. Marriage no be beans o

Binhamid:
Are you saying I should dump her and move on?

Yes, dump her and move on !!!!!!!!

Binhamid:
Are you saying I should dump her and move on?

Yes, dump her and move on !!!!!!!!

Eagba:
most times it's bad to over react especially when you are wrong.
now this is what you should do, get to know the guy name through one means or the other, then ask her to link you to the guy to have a heart to heart. from there you decipher what to do. thanks

OP don't try this o. Is she the only girl in the world? heart to heart talk kor, chest to chest talk ni

Move on bro...set some ground rules next time. Always act as d man in d relationship because gals march on sissy men

Guy like it said... Cheating takes time so it's not a mistake.
She pulled a stunt on u.
By trying to Shift call time, decline video calls which definitely states that she knows what she was doing.
. you ain't responsible for her happiness focus on ya life.
True love and real marriage go show up one day.
Trust me