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Re: My Parents Are Forcing Me To Get Married While I'm Not Ready & Financially Fit by debbydams(f): 10:52pm On Aug 27, 2020
Alimzy20:
i'm not the only child but i'm the first son of my parents
tell them to get you a job, house � nd enof money � in your account.. I will get u a wife cheesy grin
Re: My Parents Are Forcing Me To Get Married While I'm Not Ready & Financially Fit by Slurity(m): 10:52pm On Aug 27, 2020
THEY ARE SEEING SOMETHING THAT YOU ARE NOT SEEING. THEY PROBABLY KNOW TGAT EITHER YOUR END OR THEIR END IS NEAR

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Re: My Parents Are Forcing Me To Get Married While I'm Not Ready & Financially Fit by Anny505(m): 10:53pm On Aug 27, 2020
Alimzy20:
a injury to one is an injury to all sir

If I'm not mistaken, you're a cultist a VIKINGS to be precise. Na one of their OT be this were you change "A cry of one, is a cry for all"

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Re: My Parents Are Forcing Me To Get Married While I'm Not Ready & Financially Fit by abdullahi45: 10:53pm On Aug 27, 2020
Chii59:

Even if he's SS and so?
I'm SS and older than he is and unmarried.
I know much more older men who are SS and are either married or single.
Na God dey preserve life.

Absolutely, I couldn't help but put my head down in disappointment when I read his comment. Some people really think it is their health, social or economic status that preserve their lives..

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Re: My Parents Are Forcing Me To Get Married While I'm Not Ready & Financially Fit by Karleb(m): 10:56pm On Aug 27, 2020
Some parents are funny. grin grin
Re: My Parents Are Forcing Me To Get Married While I'm Not Ready & Financially Fit by debbydams(f): 10:56pm On Aug 27, 2020
But seriously u are still small to hold a family � o..how u wan even take handle woman �..my dear u are too young all they should be doing is to support your career not pushing u to marriage.. If u marry now m sorry na d woman � go frustrate u die
Re: My Parents Are Forcing Me To Get Married While I'm Not Ready & Financially Fit by jamze: 11:01pm On Aug 27, 2020
I smell lies
Re: My Parents Are Forcing Me To Get Married While I'm Not Ready & Financially Fit by AssistantJesus1: 11:02pm On Aug 27, 2020
[color=#990000][/color]the elders are on their way
Re: My Parents Are Forcing Me To Get Married While I'm Not Ready & Financially Fit by colizee(m): 11:03pm On Aug 27, 2020
Sorry oo....to have such selfish parents
Re: My Parents Are Forcing Me To Get Married While I'm Not Ready & Financially Fit by Crenzywilliams(m): 11:07pm On Aug 27, 2020
Alimzy20:
Good evening my fellow nairalanders i need your strong advices.my parents are forcing me to get married !! I'm just 21.I've tried all possible ways to change their mind. it ended in vain.

I'm not in relationship either. What should i do now? I'm still schooling and unemployed too..
Just 21, are you the only child?
Re: My Parents Are Forcing Me To Get Married While I'm Not Ready & Financially Fit by NwaIgboBoy(m): 11:10pm On Aug 27, 2020
my brother I presented this your case to Buhari and he just fainted,. ...

so what we are busy battling now is to wake him up first .
Re: My Parents Are Forcing Me To Get Married While I'm Not Ready & Financially Fit by Chinkos99(m): 11:14pm On Aug 27, 2020
My opinion you are still small to have a small family

In other hand
Guys
I don't do this, but trust me am broke and am working on a project
Re: My Parents Are Forcing Me To Get Married While I'm Not Ready & Financially Fit by GboyegaD(m): 11:14pm On Aug 27, 2020
I find a few responses amusing. What has genotype or terminal illness/ disease to do with birthing and marriage? If one thinks one has a shorter time to spend why bring a child and leave him/ her unattended to?

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Re: My Parents Are Forcing Me To Get Married While I'm Not Ready & Financially Fit by iduzebaba(m): 11:16pm On Aug 27, 2020
Slurity:
THEY ARE SEEING SOMETHING THAT YOU ARE NOT SEEING. THEY PROBABLY KNOW TGAT EITHER YOUR END OR THEIR END IS NEAR
I agree with u.. they saw something, I repeat they saw something, kindly comply asap. I beg of u
Re: My Parents Are Forcing Me To Get Married While I'm Not Ready & Financially Fit by obowunmi(m): 11:17pm On Aug 27, 2020
Alimzy20:
Good evening my fellow nairalanders i need your strong advices.my parents are forcing me to get married !! I'm just 21.I've tried all possible ways to change their mind. it ended in vain.

I'm not in relationship either. What should i do now? I'm still schooling and unemployed too..


It is tough raising a family as a poor person. Your wife will not respect you and your children will SUFFER.

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Re: My Parents Are Forcing Me To Get Married While I'm Not Ready & Financially Fit by Nobody: 11:25pm On Aug 27, 2020
Don't Live With Ur Parents Again. Go Live With Someone Else Den Plan & Gather Money 2 Rent Ur Own House 4 Urself. U May See Their Presure On U As Not An Act Of Love. But Dey Want U 2 Become A Man, Not Just A Man But An Independent Man Who Does'nt Ask Money Or Food 4rm Dem But Would Rada Support Dem Financial & Someone Dey Could Look Unto. So, U Should Do What I Told U Above If U Want Ur Parents 2 Av Regard 4 U.
Re: My Parents Are Forcing Me To Get Married While I'm Not Ready & Financially Fit by Omoslim26: 11:27pm On Aug 27, 2020
Try to find out if there's any special motive for their decision

Your life is yours You don't have to do their biddings besides wen the going gets tough you will be d one in d hot soup not them

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Re: My Parents Are Forcing Me To Get Married While I'm Not Ready & Financially Fit by yesloaded: 11:29pm On Aug 27, 2020
Chii59:

Are you their only child? Even at 21, you're still so young. Stand your ground, even if you give person pikin belle, you're too young to be straddled in marriage, though, you should man up and care for your child.
If you were my younger brother, I'll never let you get married at this age.

I will not allow him to date a girl sef grin

My papa go ask u wetin u wan take woman do at the age of 21 sef not to talk of asking u to marry

I'm sorry, op needs to ask his parent why they want him to get married at such age
Re: My Parents Are Forcing Me To Get Married While I'm Not Ready & Financially Fit by Karleb(m): 11:31pm On Aug 27, 2020
Slurity:
THEY ARE SEEING SOMETHING THAT YOU ARE NOT SEEING. THEY PROBABLY KNOW TGAT EITHER YOUR END OR THEIR END IS NEAR

They are not seeing shiiit!
Re: My Parents Are Forcing Me To Get Married While I'm Not Ready & Financially Fit by incogni2o: 11:35pm On Aug 27, 2020
Alimzy20:
Good evening my fellow nairalanders i need your strong advices.my parents are forcing me to get married !! I'm just 21.I've tried all possible ways to change their mind. it ended in vain.

I'm not in relationship either. What should i do now? I'm still schooling and unemployed too..

Simple, They want to make you responsible.. Fast in Life

But the only issue is that you might miss a bit on the freedom of Bachelorhood.

Marraige is a good thing if your parents are trying to support you.

But at this age! MAKE SURE YOU MARRY A TRUE FRIEND

IMHO It's not a bad idea.
Re: My Parents Are Forcing Me To Get Married While I'm Not Ready & Financially Fit by googi: 11:43pm On Aug 27, 2020
I have to ask you this respectfully.

They may be scared because you do not have a girlfriend or show any attraction towards girls.

You know what I mean?
Re: My Parents Are Forcing Me To Get Married While I'm Not Ready & Financially Fit by cray91(m): 11:50pm On Aug 27, 2020
Baba since they already know you are not mentally and financially fit and yet still wanna force you, guess they wanna be your financial backbone thereby thinking you shouldn't have to worry

But nonetheless, it's your life and your choice, your marriage, your plan, your map, do not dance to their tunes, i repeat DO NOT?

This our african parents are reasons behind most disoriented marriage, always forcing their kids unnecessarily.

My Advice! Be wise! you still young i'm even a few years older than you but marriage thought never came to mind cuz i know i am not financially ready even though i am mentally. Financial security and stability is the most important in marriage don't let anyone lie to you unless you wanna be useless and want to mess your integrity and dignity up as a man
Alimzy20:
Good evening my fellow nairalanders i need your strong advices.my parents are forcing me to get married !! I'm just 21.I've tried all possible ways to change their mind. it ended in vain.

I'm not in relationship either. What should i do now? I'm still schooling and unemployed too..

Re: My Parents Are Forcing Me To Get Married While I'm Not Ready & Financially Fit by amykwuba(f): 11:51pm On Aug 27, 2020
pls my dear marriage is a life time commitment so pls don't rush into it so that you don't rush out
Re: My Parents Are Forcing Me To Get Married While I'm Not Ready & Financially Fit by IgboSomalia: 11:56pm On Aug 27, 2020
Not every parent has sense. Even fools grow old and keep giving foolish advice.

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Re: My Parents Are Forcing Me To Get Married While I'm Not Ready & Financially Fit by Timiflash1: 11:58pm On Aug 27, 2020
Oluromantic:
Tell your parents to get you a job if they're so desperately in need of grandchildren
.. You are right... And Pray to God for his directions
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Re: My Parents Are Forcing Me To Get Married While I'm Not Ready & Financially Fit by Gerrard59(m): 11:59pm On Aug 27, 2020
Mbdovey:
@op, maybe you're their only son and you're behaving inresponsible.

Marriage does not make a man responsible. Heck, it enlarges the irresponsibility and I can wager that there are more irresponsible married men than their unmarried counterparts.

@OP: I don't know how to explain it to you but please look at economic indices in the country, getting married when the financial resources are not available is an avenue to penury. That said, you are a man meaning you can marry at anytime you wish only if you add value to yourself, something you have not done. Such value gets harder to add when married than when single. It is easier as a bachelor to head for PG studies abroad even in this pandemic but not when you are married. Or manage your expenses while building a thriving enterprise.

Don't get into marriage esp when you are not financially ready.

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Re: My Parents Are Forcing Me To Get Married While I'm Not Ready & Financially Fit by Gerrard59(m): 12:05am On Aug 28, 2020
Chinkos99:
My opinion you are still small to have a small family

In other hand
Guys
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Re: My Parents Are Forcing Me To Get Married While I'm Not Ready & Financially Fit by Dreamliner787(m): 12:06am On Aug 28, 2020
I see some very senseless comments here.

When analyzing issues like this, we should learn to start from the root..

At OP. First of all, which state are you from please?

Alimzy20:
Good evening my fellow nairalanders i need your strong advices.my parents are forcing me to get married !! I'm just 21.I've tried all possible ways to change their mind. it ended in vain.

I'm not in relationship either. What should i do now? I'm still schooling and unemployed too..
Re: My Parents Are Forcing Me To Get Married While I'm Not Ready & Financially Fit by Originalsly: 12:17am On Aug 28, 2020
Alimzy20:


i have a step mom


Should've said this from jump. Now what you're saying make sense. Your step mom needs you out the house.... 21 years old... out....and same will be for your siblings. She doesn't care a damn if you're working or not.... out. You need to speak to your dad.... it's for him to shut her down.... if he still wears the pants. If not.... you need to be very careful.... this kind stepmom be like snake.

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Re: My Parents Are Forcing Me To Get Married While I'm Not Ready & Financially Fit by Austeeenxx: 12:26am On Aug 28, 2020
Your parents woke up one morning and want you to get married? Nice try.

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