Nooil:





Happy boys day

Happy grandma's day.

Petyprincess:
Too much generalisation nd bashing of Nigerian ladies on this forum! Even those that married old white granny or African American single mum with multiple baby daddies for green card will still bash Nigerian women

Op don't be scared or worried,dnt let anyone make you feel Nigerian ladies aren't desirable in foreign country! As long as you not conversative about your culture you will definitely get a man,forget all stories they putting up here, upon "I don't do Nigerian girls" they still sending pms to same Nigerian women!

They love bashing Nigerian girls because they know the abroad based ones with green card are wise nd can easily know their intentions unlike desperate AA Or white granny!

Those living abroad are telling you what obtaines in their clime, but a local girl like you whose fate has been sealed with Nigeria forever but has a disproportionate larger-than- life ego will still argue. This same trait you are displaying is what abroad based bachelors loathe in our ladies. Haba!

Davidonkonsults:

It's not easy for men of other nationalities to bear and tolerate Nigerian women. They need us more than we need them.

You are correct Nigerian women have WAHALA plenty..... we as Nigerians are use to them....... but when you find a good Nigerian girl, then you found one.... same as well to other nationality as well.... if you find a good one, then you found one.

flyca:

Babe, if you have been on NL for sometime now, you would have noticed all the negetivity towards ladies here by the guys, they come under the umbrella of “Red Pills”. “Nigerian girls are bad” “Nigerian girls are bad” buhahaha. There are good Nigerian ladies, but you they will not see them because the ladies are with good Nigerian men! So don't be sad when they bash you here.

Wanting to be married is noble, so whatever trashtalk you read here, do not feel bad for expressing that idea (albeit in a wrong space).

If you are born and raised in Nigeria, if you have the Nigerian thing in you - in my opinion - marrying a well-raised Nigerian man is the better option for you.

Same advice I will give a Nigerian man! But sometimes, “white woman” too dey shaak them! But in the long run, it is better to marry someone from your own culture and background. Someone that you will not feel inferior to, someone that will not feel that marrying them is a priviledge, someone that deeply understands you, someone that you share a cultural connection with, someone that you will not constantly be a pressure to impress, someone that understands the meaning of marriage the way you understand it etc

See eh, it's not even on Nigeria to Nigeria, every country to every country, every culture to every culture or at least similar. Not someone that has different customs, different food and lifestyle, different values, different parentage. If you watch TLC's 90 Day Fiance, you will notice that most clashes are cultural not financial.

I met my Nigerian husband abroad. I had options from other countries and I am sure he had other “white girl” options too. But we decided to be with each other and it has turned to be a very good decision for me. We get to experience new things from the same perspective of life (travel, food, language you name it). If our passports are getting rejected at the airport, they are rejecting both of us TOGETHER!

The first time I met my in-laws eh ...... PEACE. Whenever my mom-in-law speaks Igbo to I feel a deep connection. Well, this is my own cent!

Adorable. Thanks for sharing

Davidonkonsults:

Happy grandma's day.

Happy boys day

Kekereekun123:
in those places it is not important. When in Rome behave like roman. Marriage is not a trophy
https://www.regain.us/advice/marriage/why-are-men-not-marrying-these-days/

It is not important to u but important to her na.

Allow her enjoy her importance. Some humans want to get married, make babies and raise families. That is their choice. That is important to them. Why are some of u trying to sound woke?

Marriage is not important to u, that is fine. It is important to her, that is fine too.

My dear lady op, pls ur questions are valid. May God grant u ur heart desire.

AristocraticMe:
You are correct Nigerian women have WAHALA plenty..... we as Nigerians are use to them....... but when you find a good Nigerian girl, then you found one.... same as well to other nationality as well.... if you find a good one, then you found one.

True. It's however akin to a needle in haysack search. One is crying in my mentions for highlighting the fact that for marriage, Nigerian men outside see them as non-viable options. They on the other hand know other nationalities can't tolerate their toxic nature. We marry them here out of lack of options and children.

Nooil:



Happy boys day

Happy grandma's day.

Nooil:



Happy boys day

*boy's. Get an education. Maybe someone will marry your menopausal ass.

whodeyhere:


@ OP please don't listen to some of this people telling you marriage is not important, as matter of fact it is very important to me. The love, the affection, the shoulder to lean on, the time to laugh and enjoy the serenity of nature,the happy children, the family fun just too many to count. I want to enjoy all of that because I cherish it.

So by all means, look for love and don't settle for less.

Beautiful

deji17:


If you find love with Oyinbo or Ghanian man, don't waste time, marry him. But I will advise you against Carribean men or women.

What's wrong with Carribean men or women??

My aunt in the U.S seems happily married to a Carribean man bro, so I'm confused cos of your statement concerning Carribean men and women.

sherylbakky:
The way we Africans carry marriage matter for head ehn

Heavy overload.

Kennydoc:


If you have interacted with old people who have absolutely no one in their lives, you will understand it is not as easy as you make it. Some of those old people in care homes have family members who visit them either often or occasionally. That is very important for their mental health. Some of them have their children who have Lasting Power of Attorney in their matters. By the way, I have seen people who resign their jobs to take care of their spouses and parents full time. A man resigned his job and has been caring for his wife full time for 38 years.

wao. Pricesless

Davidonkonsults:

* boys. Get an education. Maybe someone will marry your menopausal ass.

Happy boys day

Mbdovey:
I don't know why most men keep saying marriage is not important. What happened when you're old? who will stand by you? Who will take care of you? We all need each other. In as much as marriage is not the ultimate, it's very important.

Don't mind them jare
Better still marry to a man and fly out together.
My advice though

Tatashi:
I can never move to Canada or US and look for a Nigerian/African Man to marry. I dey crase? What happened to finding a God fearing Handsome Caucasian? How can you move to a developed well advanced country and search for a Nigerian man to marry... Men that are backward and misogynistic in nature. Go to America and see how Nigerian Men are slaughtering their hardworking wives esp Nurses. Pls if you want to live long as a woman you better run away from black men oh. There's this special type of jealousy they carry. God forbid

But I thought it's not allowed to beat up your spouse? You mean there's domestic violence there?

Mbdovey:
[/b] wao. Pricesless

Yeah, the woman was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis few years into their marriage around 1982 or so. They were told she wouldn't live for very long. Just about then, he resigned his job to care for her. It's been over 35 years since then.
There are very many Westerners who care for their spouses full time and many of them do it with all sense of responsibility. They feel proud being the primary carers of their spouses.
This is one of the reasons why I believe marriage is still very necessary even in the West.

From all the comments above ,it is better you get someone (good man) ,then travel out together if possible

All ye men here that I bashing Nigerian women make me laugh! I know must of you are washing pant of the so-called white women. Brothers, pls don't pay heed to them! It is far better to marry your fellow Nigerian, except you are not a real man who wants his posterity to live on forever. Checkout men on their old age who married whites back then, do they look happy to you? As for me, I will go back home and marry and I will commit it to the hands of GOD. I wnt my posterity to live on and I dont want to have children who might have identity crises. Most of you talking rubbish about the Nigerian women have never been outside the country before. You also suffer from serious inferiority complex! If you are a true son of the soil, marry from your heritage, it pays in the long run! Forget the flashy white women of the west!

Mbdovey:
So, I got talking with a senior friend about challenges most new migrat faced in Canada and US. After several discussion, this got my attention. According to her, it's very difficult to get married or come in contact with a prospective life partner. As most Nigerian's single ladies are over age but no husband.
How true is the above statement?
Are there most Nigerian's single ladies than single men?
As a single Nigerian in Canada or US, is it really difficult finding a life partner (a Nigerian partner to be precise)?

Is it adviseable to get married to a Nigerian partner before going, what if the marriage fail due to long distance?

What's the possibility of seeing more black (Nigerians) to mingle?

What part has large number of Nigerians?

Because it's good to plan every aspect of one's life.

I think when you get there, there are chances of getting a life partner

But you have to be humble to get whatever you want to get because most of them there are already established in one way or the other and you are not expected to lord him or her

Adex2442:


As the president of National and international union of Nigerian men, we cannot accommodate yr pride and arrogancy in naija and also accommodate u in a sane country where there are tons of thousands of good beautiful women

Sorry to break yr heart dear..

President ke?

There's nothing like "arrogancy"
It's simply put as arrogance. And, pride and arrogance are way the same thing.
One is enough in that sentence.

Dybala11:

What the heck will I need a gistmate for??

Story story.

Davidonkonsults:

True. It's however akin to a needle in haysack search. One is crying in my mentions for highlighting the fact that for marriage, Nigerian men outside see them as non-viable options. They on the other hand know other nationalities can't tolerate their toxic nature. We marry them here out of lack of options and children.

Lol........... truth be told ......... You are correct. ..... 100%...... though there are good Nigerian women but it is not too many... i think their over entitlement attitude is their problem.

I think Nigerians (esp ladies) abroad have a phobia for other races. I am not judging their fears especially when it's legit like not bathing, quitting marriage without notice, kids from such union may suffer from identity issues or you are just not attracted to other races but the ones that think they will disappoint their family or fear to be gossiped about in their circle abroad and be tagged as someone that is just chasing papers should think well if they meet someone that likes them and they like the person back plus he seems to be well grounded, takes his bath daily and it seems both of you can work on having children that embrace their biracial identities.


I say this because I think it looks some type of way when you keep looking for a Nigerian (some even travel to Nigeria/village) to marry without any good reason when the possiblity of your kids (that you will still raise in the abroad esp in countries with few africans) to marry someone they love from another race is really high and then you probably settled for someone that is not so into you or you don't really like but still married because he/she is Nigerian.

Davidonkonsults:

True. It's however akin to a needle in haysack search. One is crying in my mentions for highlighting the fact that for marriage, Nigerian men outside see them as non-viable options. They on the other hand know other nationalities can't tolerate their toxic nature. We marry them here out of lack of options and children.

Obviously, you have never experienced other women! Honestly, you reek of inferiority complex! Hope you realise, most of the things we average Nigerian men get away with, with Nigerian girls and African girls, most white ladies and akatas will NEVER tolerate them. Things you can do to a Nigerian girl and she'll overlook, a white or akata woman will never tolerate, except you are ready to be a doormat, which most of my Nigerian friend that married whites are. Over here, it is not as easy as you think!

eejo:
There are many Nigerian ladies looking for Husband in the UK too. Overseas you spend most of your time in the office and you can't afford to spend your rest days looking for a partner. I personally know many who are ready to marry but no husband and I have suggested they should spend their vacation in Nigeria and others Countries in search of Husbands.

This right here.
I have been dodging some people because right in Nigeria they were ready to send me their numbers so I will start chatting with women i have no clue about.
Wait first, let me lick snow before i start dating

dingbang:
Must you marry Nigerian? There are several other races in america to marry from.

Getting married to someone from your nationality can't be measured with getting married to another nationality

It's always cheaper to keep them as a wife but most times more beneficial to women who married foreigners

antocreative:


Obviously, you have never experienced other women! Honestly, you reek of inferiority complex! Hope you realise, most of the things we average Nigerian men get away with, with Nigerian girls and African girls, most white ladies and akatas will NEVER tolerate them. Things you can do to a Nigerian girl and she'll overlook, a white or akata woman will never tolerate, except you are ready to be a doormat, which most of my Nigerian friend that married whites are. Over here, it is not as easy as you think!

I have experienced other African women. A lot. However you have been noticed. Now crawl out. I didn't cause your frustration.

Kekereekun123:
Nigerian are getting married to each other and some other races. And yes there are a lot a single ladies and guys too. Over here dating apps or match making are your best bet. I have related with foreigners and Nigerian on dating apps and singles group. The younger Nigerian ladies seems to all have the same thing in common they want a financially stable guy ( typical Goldding trait from 9ja). if you tell foreign gals you just landed and still settling they wont stop talking to you, one came all the way to take me out with her car just to chill tho as a friend. If you tell a Nigerian lady that they would like stop talking to you and cant waste her fuel to come see you. Also the culture here is different unlike in Africa where different men will chase and toast you daily. majority of men here wont do that so woman has to make the move ( our 9ja sisters will say over my dead body). Some will marry, those married ones too some will divorce, some too will be single for a long time. In the West marriage and relationship is not a must. A man can lose his house, pay mortgage, child support and spousal support. many have turned gay or avoided marriage completely. it does not favour men. Everything marriage brings can be gotten while being unmarried. so why marry in the west men are last in the pyramid and have no say during divorce and custody.

Hierarchy of importance in the west

kids
Seniors/oldies
women
pets
wood/stone/plant
man

This got me laughing not none living things before men

As funny as it is, you are very right

Mbdovey:
So, I got talking with a senior friend about challenges most new migrat faced in Canada and US. After several discussion, this got my attention. According to her, it's very difficult to get married or come in contact with a prospective life partner. As most Nigerian's single ladies are over age but no husband.
How true is the above statement?
Are there most Nigerian's single ladies than single men?
As a single Nigerian in Canada or US, is it really difficult finding a life partner (a Nigerian partner to be precise)?

Is it adviseable to get married to a Nigerian partner before going, what if the marriage fail due to long distance?

What's the possibility of seeing more black (Nigerians) to mingle?

What part has large number of Nigerians?

Because it's good to plan every aspect of one's life.

sex partner easy but life partner, very difficult

Before I start let me just say we are all different, one might have it easy, the other might get it by luck and another might be hard to get it..

It is not easy marrying in America. Then, people go like ,white women love the black .... well, it might be true but a few do and even though they like the black skin or d**k, it does not necessarily mean they would marry you except there are circumstances involve in it.

In America, not everyone values marriage and as Africans, we are quick to say "marry me". When you keep it that way , you scare your partner making it look like there is something wrong.

The Africans who already have their citizenship or green-card are not willing to marry you perhaps he/she wants you to suffer like how they suffered. Or they feel, you only trying to marry them because of papers.

I would say Africans do marry Africans, it just depends on the individuals.