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Hope you ain’t desperate to get married bkus it might land u in deeper mess if u marry d wrong man.. I pray God grants you your heart desire

ibrutex:
I feel your ordeal sis. it's really pathetic , please note the following ....

....Try to improve your social life(be more friendly especially to the opposite sex)

......stop staying indoor and stop forming busy always, try to hang out on weekends only by yourself , goto bar relax.

........Bitter truth is release your guard and enjoy the company , that's why most bad girls easily get hooked up .

....... connect with your married friends and explain to any close one you don't mind to hook up. trust me it works . One of my wife friends got hooked up through me after she opened up and coincidentally a friend of mine too was ready but shy.

........Lastly , don't stop praying ...it will end in joy.

I totally concord to this. That's just the fact.

Even just try to have a baby for yourself to take care.. I wish you the best in life

Palema007:
Are you saying she should have been with someone she felt nothing for because he was in love and dying? Do people who give narratives like yours ever think of the "freedom to make a choice" when a woman is involved?

Now I see why most Men fall in the wrong hands! It is all about your feelings, the woman's feelings doesn't matter, sadly when you lots face the consequences of your ideologies, you come back here to rant and tag women names.

My mum never saw my dad before they got married.. Love takes time to grow..what kind of feelings are you talking about?

Notatribalist:
My mum never saw my dad before they got married.. Love takes time to grow..what kind of feelings are you talking about?

Perhaps you may want to ask for manuals from your Mom on how to keep the modern lady then and ask her if she rejected or never liked your dad. You are welcome.

As for feelings, acceptance and attraction. Both are the first steps to love and lasting union.

Anyiiii:
I had to open another account to conceal my identity. Please I need help. I have gone to several pastors and churches for deliverance, yet, no solution. I'm 35years old lady and I'm not yet married. My elder sister is 37years old, still not married. My female younger cousins are in their early 30s too but not yet married. They said it's forces from the family but we have carried out all sorts of deliverance but no way. We are all graduates, doing well and very beautiful. I'm almost giving up hope on this marriage matter. Please I need a solution to this problem��

This has nothing to do with any type of forces but simply comes down to how FUGLY You guys look... I can already imagine how ugly all your family must be (no offense).

It's impossible that Men are not attracted to beauty/brain/money....Unless you actually believe that ALL men in your area look down on educated well off beautiful women. STOP LYING TO NLERS!!!

Marriage is not what u jump in and out of, just plan a baby, besides, there r people older than you who r not married.

Anyiiii:
I had to open another account to conceal my identity. Please I need help. I have gone to several pastors and churches for deliverance, yet, no solution. I'm 35years old lady and I'm not yet married. My elder sister is 37years old, still not married. My female younger cousins are in their early 30s too but not yet married. They said it's forces from the family but we have carried out all sorts of deliverance but no way. We are all graduates, doing well and very beautiful. I'm almost giving up hope on this marriage matter. Please I need a solution to this problem��

This is Zzor

Ok, we don hear.

Dont get desperate....keep praying and God wud surely come through 4u....i understand sometimes u may need som1 2talk2....as som1 has previously advised u2 improve ur social life in order 2increase ur chances of meeting people....
Tis well

MrBrownJay1:
This has nothing to do with any type of forces but simply comes down to how FUGLY You guys look... I can already imagine how ugly all your family must be (no offense).

It's impossible that Men are not attracted to beauty/brain/money....Unless you actually believe that ALL men in your area look down on educated well off beautiful women. STOP LYING TO NLERS!!!

No matter how FUGLY one is, there is always someone to marry. This is beyond looks. Moreover if truly they are that ugly, op would have mentioned it, after all no one knows who is behind this account.

Stop trolling! This is a sensitive case

quote author=Jiva post=93776687]Definitely there was one guy that was in love with u and dieing to spend the rest of his life with u when u were in ur early twenties but u brushed him off....now is the time to face the music of ur actions.

That was so cruel. You didn’t need to kick a soul that was already down.

MrBrownJay1:
This has nothing to do with any type of forces but simply comes down to how FUGLY You guys look... I can already imagine how ugly all your family must be (no offense).

It's impossible that Men are not attracted to beauty/brain/money....Unless you actually believe that ALL men in your area look down on educated well off beautiful women. STOP LYING TO NLERS!!!

so blunt. I like that my colombiana

Go to God in prayers. Telling it here will only attract the wrong people to you and most of them are time wasters who don't know what they want.

I'll tell you something, they'll appear serious and responsible but they are not. As long as they still visit this site, forget them. They keep jumping from one lady's pm to another on a daily basis. Its not their faults though. Its because they are open to so many options but the sad truth is they end up ruining their chances and never get to settle down with any lady. So, the circle continues.

Don't say I didn't warn you.

Just keep praying and God will settle you with a peaceful marriage in no time.

Palema007:
Are you saying she should have been with someone she felt nothing for because he was in love and dying? Do people who give narratives like yours ever think of the "freedom to make a choice" when a woman is involved?

Now I see why most Men fall in the wrong hands! It is all about your feelings, the woman's feelings doesn't matter, sadly when you lots face the consequences of your ideologies, you come back here to rant and tag women names.

I beg to disagree. Nothing in this life is perfect, so is love. If a woman finds a good man who loves her.. that's all she needs. A good man who loves you will treat you right and will never cheat on you. He would place your needs above his. Loving him back is just a plus, not all that's required. If a woman is wise, she would respect that man with her life and learn to love him too. If she's waiting to find someone to love and who loves her in return, she may wait forever.

Even as you grow older, chances are that your priorities will change cos maturity will set in. By now you're thinking of having a responsible man who's financially stable cos love don't put food on the table. You're thinking about your kids (even though unborn) and how you want them to have a good life. You'd realise that getting a man with marriageable qualities is more important than your feelings.

If you have a man who loves you to the moon.
A man who would have done anything for you.
A proactive go-getter who sees nothing as a problem or challenge.
A man who's ambitious, hardworking and honest, with the highest standards of integrity.
A man who has a provider instinct.
A man who actions his promises.
A man who gives you open access to his phone and declared since you met that you were his wife...pls which kind of "loving him back'' are you looking for again?. Mind you, I've had such a man in the past so I'm not listing these qualities out of the blue.

If a woman is privileged to find this kind of rare specie of a man, she had better husband him. Respect him and love his family and most importantly, learn to love him. After all that's said and done, if you as a woman cannot love this type of God-sent-of-a-man, then you need to check yourself.

Palema007:
Lol... That's the new trend now, create a thread like a woman would then the redpillers and alpha males will come to rant with long epistles

These boys will never grow!

Grow up woman why can't you give her solutions, instead you're replying every comment like you're jobless

Marriage is not for everybody.

Anyiiii:
I had to open another account to conceal my identity. Please I need help. I have gone to several pastors and churches for deliverance, yet, no solution. I'm 35years old lady and I'm not yet married. My elder sister is 37years old, still not married. My female younger cousins are in their early 30s too but not yet married. They said it's forces from the family but we have carried out all sorts of deliverance but no way. We are all graduates, doing well and very beautiful. I'm almost giving up hope on this marriage matter. Please I need a solution to this problem��

Forget about deliverance, stop searching, start practicing self love and you'd b surprised how you'd meet someone who wanna marry you soon. You can try having a child while waiting. Procreation trumps marriage actually.

Bennysam:
Grow up woman why can't you give her solutions, instead you're replying every comment like you're jobless

Like you have given her solution right? Get lost and remain lost!

MrBrownJay1:
This has nothing to do with any type of forces but simply comes down to how FUGLY You guys look... I can already imagine how ugly all your family must be (no offense).

It's impossible that Men are not attracted to beauty/brain/money....Unless you actually believe that ALL men in your area look down on educated well off beautiful women. STOP LYING TO NLERS!!!

Pls shut d heck up.. You no dey see less attractive people wey get husband? So less attractive individuals don't deserve love? You been get sense before but it's obvious u fell mugu and now pained

Anyiiii:
I had to open another account to conceal my identity. Please I need help. I have gone to several pastors and churches for deliverance, yet, no solution. I'm 35years old lady and I'm not yet married. My elder sister is 37years old, still not married. My female younger cousins are in their early 30s too but not yet married. They said it's forces from the family but we have carried out all sorts of deliverance but no way. We are all graduates, doing well and very beautiful. I'm almost giving up hope on this marriage matter. Please I need a solution to this problem��

ok am in my early thirties and single also willing for us to settle down if you are interested let me know

ndo
but what exactly do you want us to do

ndo
but what exactly do you want us to do

Heartlessbanker:
so blunt. I like that my colombiana

We gotta be honest, no sugar coating.... When did you last saw men that were avoiding beautiful educated well off women?!?!

Palema007:
No matter how FUGLY one is, here is always someone to marry. This is beyond looks. Moreover if truly they are that ugly, op would have mentioned it, after all no one knows who is behind this account.
Stop trolling! This is a sensitive case

Again, if you believe that men just turn away from beautiful educated well off women then so be it... I know better and will stand by the fact that this person (if real) must be VERY UGLY.... Because that's the only reason men will turn away from her and her siblings. A beautiful dumb/poor girl will easily find a man. Let's be real!!!

Aunty let me tell you the truth




Country hard
Men done go into hiding....

The only few you see or saw doing wedding have ZERO their minds


Sad truth , a country where you have dudes with good job are under 23%
With more than 93% ladies that wants to get married ... ( fuxked up nation )


To me just enjoy your lives and things will fall in place ...

Ygrette:
I beg to disagree. Nothing in this life is perfect, so is love. If a woman finds a good man who loves her.. that's all she needs. A good man who loves you will treat you right and will never cheat on you. He would place your needs above his. Loving him back is just a plus, not all that's required. If a woman is wise, she would respect that man who loves her and learn to love him too. If she's waiting to find someone to love and who loves her in return, she may wait forever.

Lol... Yes I've seen this ideology countless time even from Men, but believe me it is the most selfish idea ever. For any relationship to work it takes mutual love, respect and kindness. When it is one sided it becomes a burden to the committed one.

Yes one can bank on the other person's feeling and get into a relationship/marriage but what happens when the other gets tired of trying to create love enough for TWO? What happens when the one without love ends up loving another outside the relationship? Where will the willingness to fight for one's marriage come from when trouble arises. What happens when the one without love gets tired and wants more? There are so many disadvantages attached to banking on another's feelings. I don't encourage it.

SweetCunt97:
Pls shut d heck up.. You no dey see less attractive people wey get husband? So less attractive individuals don't deserve love? You been get sense before but it's obvious u fell mugu and now pained

Don't shoot the messenger... Am just giving my opinion. If you don't like it fair enough, but I will stand by the fact that the OP Fugliness must be out of this world.

MrBrownJay1:
We gotta be honest, no sugar coating.... When did you last saw men that were avoiding beautiful educated well off women?!?!



Again, if you believe that men just turn away from beautiful educated well off women then so be it... I know better and will stand by the fact that this person (if real) must be VERY UGLY.... Because that's the only reason men will turn away from her and her siblings. A beautiful dumb/poor girl will easily find a man. Let's be real!!!

Are you saying all Men are attracted to beauty alone? Lol... There could be other underlying factors: Attitude, Temper, Pride etc.

Believe me, people who aren't facially beautiful get married.

Anyiiii:
I had to open another account to conceal my identity. Please I need help. I have gone to several pastors and churches for deliverance, yet, no solution. I'm 35years old lady and I'm not yet married. My elder sister is 37years old, still not married. My female younger cousins are in their early 30s too but not yet married. They said it's forces from the family but we have carried out all sorts of deliverance but no way. We are all graduates, doing well and very beautiful. I'm almost giving up hope on this marriage matter. Please I need a solution to this problem��

Please don't believe all those trash of deliverance, nothing is wrong with you and its not peculiar to you or your family. I guess you are in a bubble where guys that may approach you assumed you must be married, and the few who knows you are single might be interested in some other girls. Just repackage yourself, good and determined guys will branch in.

Palema007:
Are you saying all Men are attracted to beauty alone? Lol... There could be other underlying factors: Attitude, Temper, Pride etc.

Believe me, people who aren't facially beautiful get married.

Again, men marry for different reasons (some for beauty, others for brain/character and even some for money), but if you believe that ALL MEN will avoid to marry a beautiful/educated well off woman, then you really are not thinking straight... Because such woman could pick up and marry any man at the snap of her fingers.

Palema007:
Yes it has to, For your own safety and well being if you are a guy. When you go to where you aren't wanted, valued or appreciated you or your pocket will suffer. When a woman isn't on the same wavelength with you, it's best you let go and save yourself a lot of stress.

While some ladies will be sincere enough to let you know they don't feel the same way about you, some won't and keep playing. While some Men appreciate ladies sincerity and withdraw, some will keep on forcing themselves on ladies while some like you don't even know ladies feelings count. Now I don't need to tell you what the last two categories of Men go through, do I?

Until ladies begin to approach, woo, propose to, marry and cater for the men they have "feeling" for, their feelings shouldn't count! He who pays the piper dictates the tune of the music. Our foremothers knew this fact and never made feelings their priority rather they learnt to love the man that found them worthy enough for marriage, hence they got married readily without hassles and enjoyed their marriages. Ladies of nowadays want to marry for feelings but are not ready to spend their money to get what they want.

Your position above is the reason many ladies end up single in their thirties!