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Disclose your real moniker. Then we can help.

Palema007:
Like you have given her solution right? Get lost and remain lost!

Mumu you're the one attacking others instead of you to give her solutions

Notatribalist:
My mum never saw my dad before they got married.. Love takes time to grow..what kind of feelings are you talking about?

My mum used similar line like "I never knew any man before I met your dad" until I saw her university throwback pic.
Forget awa parents oo, their lies no be here.

MrBrownJay1:
Again, men marry for different reasons (some for beauty, others for brain/character and even some for money), but if you believe that ALL MEN will avoid to marry a beautiful/educated well off woman, then you really are not thinking straight.

If there is anyone not thinking straight here then it would be you.
First you made a very big Mistake by throwing the noun phrase: All MEN around! The question remain how many Men has op met. (A) You don't know her lifestyle, she could be an indoor hardly meet new people. (B) out of the men she met, how many did she personally reject... For all we know, she isn't married but no one knows Why. Was she ever at a point the "I don't need a Man crew? ". There are lots of factors that can contribute to her being single.

Secondly: For agreeing with the point that Men marry for other reasons but still remain adamant that the only reason she's single is because she's ugly. What if she's beautiful but there is a inherited sickness or taboo in her family?

Again, The op may not be ugly!

Palema007:
Lol... Yes I've seen this ideology countless time even from Men, but believe me it is the most selfish idea ever. For any relationship to work it takes mutual love, respect and kindness. When it is one sided it becomes a burden to the committed one.

I get your point and have infact lived it when I was younger. I know everything you've written cos I've been there. Yes, it would seem like a burden to be with someone you appear not to love but my dear, these sorts of things is just "mindset".

Your mind will delude you to think you can't love someone because they don't meet certain physical qualities you want in your man. But I'm telling you that you can, we all can so long as the personality is good. You can work on yourself to love someone.

Love itself isn't a feeling, it goes beyond physical attraction. Takes time to grow, Love is a decision. Focus on their strengths and how they love and are committed to you, you'll learn to love and respect them. A wise woman will respect that man that loves her. Respect is an immediate action, unlike love which grows with time.

Ayemileto:
So, what do you want us to do?

keep quiet if you dont have what to say

God created marriage and if you desire it, you'd get it. We live in this part of the world where most of our forefathers did some things on behalf of their children with adverse consequences either knowingly or in ignorance.

Having said that irrespective of the deliverance you've done, I would still recommend you wholeheartedly undergo that of MFM. Though not a member, theirs is very effective.

In addition, make yourself presentable, neat, be friendly, smell good, have positive attitude to life, don't get yourself worked up and trust in God. Be financially independent and just live life as comfortably as you can afford. Build investments. But remember that marriage is never an achievement in life. Those you're able to impart positively including your environment and winning souls for Christ is the real deal.

Shalom.

Timekeeper:
This is Zzor

no,im her grandma

Palema007:
If there is anyone not thinking straight here then it would be you.
First you made a very big Mistake by throwing the noun phrase: All MEN around! The question remain how many Men has op met. (A) You don't know her lifestyle, she could be an indoor hardly meet new people. (B) out of the men she met, how many did she personally reject... For all we know, she isn't married but no one knows Why. Was she ever at a point the "I don't need a Man crew? ". There are lots of factors that can contribute to her being single.

Secondly: For agreeing with the point that Men marry for other reasons but still remain adamant that the only reason she's single is because she's ugly. What if she's beautiful but there is a inherited sickness or taboo in her family?

Again, The op may not be ugly!

Again, you can believe whatever you desire, my point remains that... If the OP believes she is beautiful educated and well off, yet all men that she meets are running away from her, then I am safe to say that her Fugliness must be out of this world.

There’s nothing attached to this my dear,don’t think that could have been anybody,but one thing I must say is have you been making your self available?what are your taste is the most different question I cannot ask you,one must have been a role model that thought the rest of you.but hold on you will soon start hearing leave it for God from those crew soonest .

muller101:
Disclose your real moniker. Then we can help.

More like disclose your moniker, then we can shame you. Stop it.

Hanty marriage is not the apogee of success but if it bothers you so much, channel the time and efforts you waste in prayer houses to mingling with people in your workplace, church, get togethers, events, workshops etc.

One more thing, dress to attract suitors and not boyfriends.

Jman06:
Until ladies begin to approach, woo, propose to, marry and cater for the men they have "feeling" for, their feelings shouldn't count! He who pays the piper dictates the tune of the music. Our foremothers knew this fact and never made feelings their priority rather they learnt to love the man that found them worthy enough for marriage, hence they got married readily without hassles and enjoyed their marriages. Ladies of nowadays want to marry for feelings but are not ready to spend their money to get what they want.

Your position above is the reason many ladies end up single in their thirties!

Now this is one of the reasons I hardly feel pity for you guys here and i hardly engage you all. You believe and still hold on to the "Our fore mothers, fore fathers choruses". While the world is changing right under your noses and your female counterparts are evolving, you remain stuck in the" old ways" of how this should be and not how things are! Honestly Nigerian Ladies aren't your problems, You are your major problem!

How many tunes of music have you dictate?even with your pipers? The only music or rather rants we hear/read are wails! My girlfriend did this, my girlfriend did that! Nigerian women are these, Nigerian women are that! Help my girlfriend is cheating! Loll!!!! So much for your TUNE DICTATORSHIP! Wake up! Grow up!.

Let me ask, how many husbands can shoulder ALL financial expenses of the family alone? How many can do that in our present Nigerian economy? These days Women contribute a lot financially, mentally, spiritually, morally and physically but you dont think their feelings should be considered because they don't kneel down to propose to YOU? Seriously? Women share wedding responsibilities with you, take up family financial responsibility too but you are still waiting for the to "woo" and "propose " to you? Brother you have lost it!

It baffles me though why you will never compare yourselves with YOUR FOREFATHERS but you are very quick to compare women with their fore mothers

Lol well I wonder why Some men are still single in their 40s then.

Anyiiii:
I had to open another account to conceal my identity. Please I need help. I have gone to several pastors and churches for deliverance, yet, no solution. I'm 35years old lady and I'm not yet married. My elder sister is 37years old, still not married. My female younger cousins are in their early 30s too but not yet married. They said it's forces from the family but we have carried out all sorts of deliverance but no way. We are all graduates, doing well and very beautiful. I'm almost giving up hope on this marriage matter. Please I need a solution to this problem��

Truth Be told my sister, there is nothing we can do for u here asides telling you to PUSH...

Pray
Until
Something
Happens.

Cos that's the only key that unlocks spiritual doors and breaks curses...And May God deliver your family and grant ur heart desire as you do. Amen

Anyiiii:
I had to open another account to conceal my identity. Please I need help. I have gone to several pastors and churches for deliverance, yet, no solution. I'm 35years old lady and I'm not yet married. My elder sister is 37years old, still not married. My female younger cousins are in their early 30s too but not yet married. They said it's forces from the family but we have carried out all sorts of deliverance but no way. We are all graduates, doing well and very beautiful. I'm almost giving up hope on this marriage matter. Please I need a solution to this problem��

To be honest with you, it is not ordinary. There is a curse somewhere. The root is your hometown. Go there with a man of God that you know so that he can anoint the place and uproot the evil that was planted.

Trust me, I say again: it is not ordinary.


Quote me if you feel you want to talk

MrBrownJay1:
Again, you can believe whatever you desire, my point remains that... If the OP believes she is beautiful educated and well off, yet all men that she meets are running away from her, then I am safe to say that her Fugliness must be out of this world.

Let us disagree to agree, you are entitled to your opinion.

MrBrownJay1:
Again, you can believe whatever you desire, my point remains that... If the OP believes she is beautiful educated and well off, yet all men that she meets are running away from her, then I am safe to say that her Fugliness must be out of this world.

Bros, life is deeper than that...its way beyond status, achievements or looks.

WhatsApp me(09029111595) let relate to see if we match for marriage

Ygrette:
I get your point and have infact lived it when I was younger. I know everything you've written cos I've been there. Yes, it would seem like a burden to be with someone you appear not to love but my dear, these sorts of things is just "mindset".

Your mind will delude you to think you can't love someone because they don't meet certain physical qualities you want in your man. But I'm telling you that you can, we all can so long as the personality is good. You can work on yourself to love someone.

Love itself isn't a feeling, it goes beyond physical attraction. Takes time to grow, Love is a decision. Focus on their strengths and how they love and are committed to you, you'll learn to love and respect them. A wise woman will respect that man that loves her. Respect is an immediate action, unlike love which grows with time.

Like I told someone earlier, two things are very important in Love. Acceptance and attraction, the former is very crucial. I know love isn't a feeling and it's something that takes continuous effort to build. However I remain on my point that before you can agree to build love, it's very important to accept and be attracted. No one can change that. No amount of benefits rendered by someone can bring about loving them without accepting them first.

My post you quoted was a response to a comment that accuse op of rejecting a guy that once loved her and I ask if her feelings does not matter. Ma, if you find a guy annoying only when you accept to deal with your feelings of disgust and get to know him will you be able to Love him. But if you don't, you can't be crucified for i. That's the point.

Palema007:
If there is anyone not thinking straight here then it would be you.
First you made a very big Mistake by throwing the noun phrase: All MEN around! The question remain how many Men has op met. (A) You don't know her lifestyle, she could be an indoor hardly meet new people. (B) out of the men she met, how many did she personally reject... For all we know, she isn't married but no one knows Why. Was she ever at a point the "I don't need a Man crew? ". There are lots of factors that can contribute to her being single.

Secondly: For agreeing with the point that Men marry for other reasons but still remain adamant that the only reason she's single is because she's ugly. What if she's beautiful but there is a inherited sickness or taboo in her family?

Again, The op may not be ugly!

Good observation bro, but isn't it striking that even her two sisters and also cousins of marriageable ages aren't married? I'm not much of a superstitious guy but i 8-2 say this isn't coincidence..but a well manipulated sequence.

So sorry about that, There's more to it and you can call or Whatsapp me on 07061116101..Kola..God will take control if you believe. I hope to hear from you soon.

Rickmann:
Bros, life is much deeper than that...its way beyond status, achievements or looks.

Then answer me this simple question: when was the last time you saw a beautiful/educated well off woman and turned her down?!

Palema007:
Now this is one of the reasons I hardly feel pity for you guys here and i hardly engage you all. You believe and still hold on to the "Our fore mothers, fore fathers choruses". While the world is changing right under your noses and your female counterparts are evolving, you remain stuck in the" old ways" of how this should be and not how things are! Honestly Nigerian Ladies aren't your problems, You are your major problem!

How many tunes of music have you dictate?even with your pipers? The only music or rather rants we hear/read are wails! My girlfriend did this, my girlfriend did that! Nigerian women are these, Nigerian women are that! Help my girlfriend is cheating! Loll!!!! So much for your TUNE DICTATORSHIP! Wake up! Grow up!.

Let me ask, how many husbands can shoulder ALL financial expenses of the family alone? How many can do that in our present Nigerian economy? These days Women contribute a lot financially, mentally, spiritually, morally and physically but you dont think their feelings should be considered because they don't kneel down to propose to YOU? Seriously? Women share wedding responsibilities with you, take up family financial responsibility too but you are still waiting for the to "woo" and "propose " to you? Brother you have lost it!

It baffles me though why you will never compare yourselves with YOUR FOREFATHERS but you are very quick to compare women with their fore mothers

Lol well I wonder why Some men are still single in their 40s then.

From your post, it is obvious you are still in your mid to early twenties or even late teens. That's the age range that are so out of touch with reality and reason the way you do concerning marriage. Don't worry, when you get to your thirties and still single, you'll learn the hard way.

Modern ladies that can't put their monies where their "feelings" are but still expect the man to play the traditional roles of providing for the family, is that one a modern woman

Rickmann:
Good observation bro, but isn't it striking that even her two sisters and also cousins of marriageable ages aren't married? I'm not much of a superstitious guy but i 8-2 say this isn't coincidence..but a well manipulated sequence.

Yes... The reason why I left out the spiritual aspect is because the person I was debating with isn't spiritual, he doesn't believe those things. So to convince him, you've got to go his way.

Personally I believe there is more to op's case. There is more to it. I read a portion of open heavens by Daddy Adeboye some days ago on Dedication. As a matter of fact, a case of three unmarried sisters were discussed in that devotional. And how they we're able to break the strong hold of wrong dedication.

BTW I'm kind of skeptical of the thread, I'm only here for the discussions. And.. I'm a Lady, i cant be a brother.

Jman06:
From your post, it is obvious you are still in your mid to early twenties or even late teens. That's the age range that are so out of touch with reality and reason the way you do concerning marriage. Don't worry, when you get to your thirties and still single, you'll learn the hard way.

Modern ladies that can't put their monies where their "feelings" are but still expect the man to play the traditional roles of providing for the family, is that one a modern woman

Yeah... Usual threats and deviations when they have no brain stimulating counters.

Have a nice evening Sir.

Jiva:
Definitely there was one guy that was in love with u and dieing to spend the rest of his life with u when u were in ur early twenties but u brushed him off....now is the time to face the music of ur actions.

Here is your answer @ op.......


Bros, I go 100 with you on this.....

Anyiiii

They have advised u well...

Mine is :

Make sure your standard aligns clearly with the value you equally bring to the table. This is where many women miss it and become miserable. Cos who u want may see u as way below him...the bad guys will turn you to ponmo while the good ones will curve u....

Palema007:
My post you quoted was a response to a comment that accuse op of rejecting a guy that once loved her and I ask if her feelings does not matter. Ma, if you find a guy annoying only when you accept to deal with your feelings of disgust and get to know him will you be able to Love him. But if you don't, you can't be crucified for i. That's the point.

To be disgusted by someone is an entirely different serious case. Matter of fact, if you give even the tiniest bit of attention to someone who disgusts you, that's selfish. No need to lead someone on..to a relationship that's hopeless from the outset.

Palema007:
Yeah... Usual threats and deviations when they have no brain stimulating counters.

Have a nice evening Sir.

Don't worry, we'll be here to read your own ordeal!

Jman06:
Don't worry, we'll be here to read your own ordeal!

Now this is a very stupid thing to type to someone! It isn't my fault you don't have a brain to think, it isn't my fault you aren't intelligent, articulate or exposed. If my response makes you feel so insecure to the extent of cursing then I must say you are the lowest of the low I've ever seen here. No! You won't read my ordeal, but the world will read that of yours, your sisters, your cousins and your daughters (if you end up having). Insecure petty dolt!

Timekeeper:
This is Zzor

Loud it

Palema007:
Now this is a very stupid thing to type to someone! It isn't my fault you don't have a brain to think, it isn't my fault you aren't intelligent, articulate or exposed. If my response makes you feel so insecure to the extent of cursing then I must say you are the lowest of the low I've ever seen here. No! You won't read my ordeal, but the world will read that of yours, your sisters, your cousins and your daughters (if you end up having). Insecure petty dolt!

Mtcheew..... every m0ron now claims to be intelligent! Like i said earlier, we'll read about your ordeal here. Sulk it up!