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IHate9jerianss:
@Emboldened
Funnily enough,i have felt the exact same way about you that's why I kept seeking for an answer knowing very well you did not have it
The redpill philosophy simply doesn't tally with marriage

IHate9jerianss:
Now I have seen everything,a pro-marriage manosphere thread
Anything involving Nigerians must always have k-leg
Always talking the talk but never willing to walk it

Zabiboy:

You can be friends with a woman, No doubt...
But saying you never ask for sex brings 3 things to mind...
Either you're not attracted to her( then i see no reason why you should be her friend) , you're scared of embracing your sexuality bcz of her perceived reaction or maybe she's already taken by your close nigga thereby making her out of bounds.....
There are VERY VERY few ladies who has something meaningful aside sex to contribute to a guy......
So if all your friends( ladies) contribute something meaningful aside sex( which i doubt) and can help you improve yourself, then there is nothing wrong If Not, get ready to either send urgent 2k or bold enough to say NO to their demands not minding whether they stop coming around or stop chatting with you...
For me, i haven't had a female friend without sexual tension..even the few that have something meaningful to add, the presence of that tension make things fun and interesting...even if i won't fvck them, we talk dirty and so they are very careful with words cz i turn them into sexual meaning very quickly and trust me, it's spicies up the conversations ( although i dont overdo it)....
Which leads to my question....What kind of conversation do you normally have with them??
Do you embrace your sexuality or you are being careful??

IHate9jerianss:
Now I have seen everything,a pro-marriage manosphere thread
Anything involving Nigerians must always have k-leg
Always talking the talk but never willing to walk it

Zabiboy:

You can be friends with a woman, No doubt...
But saying you never ask for sex brings 3 things to mind...
Either you're not attracted to her( then i see no reason why you should be her friend) , you're scared of embracing your sexuality bcz of her perceived reaction or maybe she's already taken by your close nigga thereby making her out of bounds.....
There are VERY VERY few ladies who has something meaningful aside sex to contribute to a guy......
So if all your friends( ladies) contribute something meaningful aside sex( which i doubt) and can help you improve yourself, then there is nothing wrong If Not, get ready to either send urgent 2k or bold enough to say NO to their demands not minding whether they stop coming around or stop chatting with you...
For me, i haven't had a female friend without sexual tension..even the few that have something meaningful to add, the presence of that tension make things fun and interesting...even if i won't fvck them, we talk dirty and so they are very careful with words cz i turn them into sexual meaning very quickly and trust me, it's spicies up the conversations ( although i dont overdo it)....
Which leads to my question....What kind of conversation do you normally have with them??
Do you embrace your sexuality or you are being careful??

luminouz:
You would sooner or later get stereotyped as a philandering married man.

softguy1:
It seems you didn't get his question right,
it was stated that for a guy to get a girl of his choice, he should flirt with other girls in other to increase his sexual market value (SMV) thereby making him to be valued by other girls. (to be viewed as a guy been wanted by other girls. It was also stated that men should not give any attention, money etc, to any girl he doesn't have any sexual affairs(sex) with.

Now what the guy is trying to understand is that,
Is it right to flirt with other girls you are not attracted to in other to increase your SMV without offering them anything, thereby making other girls you are attracted to see you as a guy been wanted by other girls?

GLYCOLYSISS:
--Men remember being boys. Man has a lucid perspective in comparing the diminished affection of his adulthood to the greater bounty of his childhood. Women do not experience such a significant loss of affection. As such, man is forced to realise he will never again be loved so profusely, for the boy gets his fill, but man loves the most to be loved the least. The profundity of maternal love is longed for, but forever gone. A girlfriend cannot provide that, and is loathe to do so should a weak man demand it. This is perhaps the bitterest of all the pills.

softguy1:
It seems you didn't get his question right,

Now what the guy is trying to understand is that,
Is it right to flirt with other girls you are not attracted to in other to increase your SMV without offering them anything, thereby making other girls you are attracted to see you as a guy been wanted by other girls?

If this is what he meant, then i see nothing wrong..
But the girls you are flirting with should be on the same level or higher level than the ones you want to be attracted to you...you cant roll with millionaire's and expect the billionaires to invite you for dinner
CC: Radking7
I dunno if you understand me tho..

Radking7:
you just spoke my mind bro...

I also really want to know what commitment really mean to women. What exactly is a man's commitment?

Zabiboy:

If this is what he meant, then i see nothing wrong..
But the girls you are flirting with should be on the same level or higher level than the ones you want to be attracted to you...you cant roll with millionaire's and expect the billionaires to invite you for dinner
CC: Radking7
I dunno if you understand me tho..

Zabiboy:
Exclusive Time, Finances/Resources, Emotional investment.

pansophist:
The inability to optimize hypergamy due to reduction of smv is a prime reason for sudden need of settling down and faithfulness. Not maturity, and definitely not because of an innate predisposition to be faithful.

#RandomThoughts

pansophist:
In everywhere relationship, there is always a power tussle playing in the background. Women naturally are aware of it, since they are the biological prize. For men, it has to be learnt. To make sure you're on the right track, pursuing a goal that appreciates.

#RandomThoughts

pansophist:
As a man continues to improve himself, he begins to notice that his commitment is not easily given to any woman, that is his power and what he brings to the table. He hoards it tightly, as women generally knows what it worth, and only a deserving woman will be worthy of it.

#RandomThoughts

21cents:
This is so on point.
bae is fine and men dey rush her. but she knows I'm way too serious with myself and learning skills to be bothered much about anything that walks in skirt.

I do call her twice a day till she starts misbehaving not picking my calls and never returns it. because of that I reduced the calls to once in 2 days. she had to call me and asked what happened to the frequency of calls from me and my response shocked her- told her I'm too busy to be bothered about any girl and any lady I'm dating should find herself lucky cos my type isn't much out there(looks,- she got nothing on me .) cos she knows I can easily find a replacement to appreciate what she's playing with. na since then she get sense o.

Las Las try get like 3 girlfriend and sample the best. e get why! these ladies have numerous boyfriends and they're weighing their options for the best. the only way to keep them on their toes is by forging yourself to be amongst the best while your body language should tell her you're also looking for the best.

these ladies will never give you a chance if you don't tick boxes on their list and they're mean with it without remorse, so no lose guard. imean how girl go dey, she no learn handwork or business and she go wan dey use you wey dey hustle catch cruise? my nigga you deserve better. just dey sample her pussy then go for someone that compliments you.

pansophist:
When a successful man enter his 30's, something transformative happens. That is, the power dynamic between him and women of his peers begin to change. For the women, they have a short window before their 35 years to have a family, their declining youthfulness do not easily turn heads 360 degrees like before, and the epiphany to be something substantial apart from looks becomes glaring. She have to build her career, find a partner and stabilise her path into the future. For men, he doesn't feel the rush, and it is at his disposal to settle down now or later. It is biological.

#RandomThoughts

pansophist:
If you're a young man below 25 years old, I empathise and feel your pain. Its a really dark place to be. Youre more likely to be romantically invincible, broke, still live with your parents and trying to make sense with navigating the unpredictability of the new world. I can only assure you that it will get better from there, and time is your best friend. Its nature's compensation to you. It balances in the end. Just keep toiling.

#RandomThoughts

Moneysoldier007:
Let me share my own view. This is like the best thread in my thread reading career.

When you stop taking women seriously, you'll find out they ain't shit. The best thing any man can do out there is to focus on you first, add value and then see these women for who they are.

Love is meant for the weak. Kill your emotions in your dealings with people and then you've solved 99% of your problems cos it means your happiness first before anything else.

During relationships the signs are always there but because you've taken them too serious(Love) you become blind to see these things staring at you in the face. When a woman says I am with a friend, it means she's with a guy but when she says I am with my friend, it means she's with a girl, 100/100 that this has happened to me, it has always been correct, it's an unconscious action. Another unconscious action is when they are lying watch them closely, they look at their left.

That your babe you want to kill yourself on, that's making you not channel all your energy into bettering yourself only shows you messages from guys she doesn't like but the ones you can replace you with tomorrow, she deletes them, that's why you'll find partners break up, within few months the babe is getting married.

My brotherrrrrrrrrr when you carry am for head and taking care of all her bills, she's begging another man of value for attention, a man that's already gotten his shit together when you were simply busy chasing her with all your strength and might, those ones she adores and acts like angels to them, you've seen it all with her and she's paid you for it with sex because after looking back the truth is it was all you got(sex and companionship which you mistook for love).

Wisemen, focus on yourself, add value to your life, get yourself in a very comfortable situation, nice crib, a small ride to move around and just keep hunting for the next best thing to do to continue that value adding, I bet you babe go find you come and when you're about to hit that cookie you'll hear "I can't believe I am doing this", my brother she had it all planned from the minute she shaved.

Everyone is born intelligent, it's how we apply it, act based on facts and not emotions.

A man who can control his sexual urge, do his chores, make his food and tame his ego would
ALMOST be 'uncontrollable' and 'un-influenceable'.

Only wise and strong women who have more qualities to offer more than sex are meant to be cherished.

A woman offering you nothing but just sex is a total drag back.

Love and chase money, leave the love for the woman, rather choose respect over love.

Moneysoldier007:
Let me share my own view. This is like the best thread in my thread reading career.

When you stop taking women seriously, you'll find out they ain't shit. The best thing any man can do out there is to focus on you first, add value and then see these women for who they are.

Love is meant for the weak. Kill your emotions in your dealings with people and then you've solved 99% of your problems cos it means your happiness first before anything else.

During relationships the signs are always there but because you've taken them too serious(Love) you become blind to see these things staring at you in the face. When a woman says I am with a friend, it means she's with a guy but when she says I am with my friend, it means she's with a girl, 100/100 that this has happened to me, it has always been correct, it's an unconscious action. Another unconscious action is when they are lying watch them closely, they look at their left.

That your babe you want to kill yourself on, that's making you not channel all your energy into bettering yourself only shows you messages from guys she doesn't like but the ones you she can replace you with tomorrow, she deletes them, that's why you'll find when partners break up, within few months the babe is getting married.

My brotherrrrrrrrrr when you carry am for head and taking care of all her bills, she's begging another man of value for attention, a man that's already gotten his shit together when you were simply busy chasing her with all your strength and might, those ones she adores and acts like angels to them, you've seen it all with her and she's paid you for it with sex because after looking back the truth is it was all you got(sex and companionship which you mistook for love).

Wisemen, focus on yourself, add value to your life, get yourself in a very comfortable situation, nice crib, a small ride to move around and just keep hunting for the next best thing to do to continue that value adding, I bet you babe go find you come and when you're about to hit that cookie you'll hear "I can't believe I am doing this", my brother she had it all planned from the minute she shaved.

Everyone is born intelligent, it's how we apply it, act based on facts and not emotions.

A man who can control his sexual urge, do his chores, make his food and tame his ego would
ALMOST be 'uncontrollable' and 'un-influenceable'.

Only wise and strong women who have more qualities to offer more than sex are meant to be cherished.

A woman offering you nothing but just sex is a total drag back.

Leave love and chase money, leave the love for the woman, rather choose respect over love.

Moneysoldier007:
Let me share my own view. This is like the best thread in my thread reading career.

When you stop taking women seriously, you'll find out they ain't shit. The best thing any man can do out there is to focus on you first, add value and then see these women for who they are.

Love is meant for the weak. Kill your emotions in your dealings with people and then you've solved 99% of your problems cos it means your happiness first before anything else.

During relationships the signs are always there but because you've taken them too serious(Love) you become blind to see these things staring at you in the face. When a woman says I am with a friend, it means she's with a guy but when she says I am with my friend, it means she's with a girl, 100/100 that this has happened to me, it has always been correct, it's an unconscious action. Another unconscious action is when they are lying watch them closely, they look at their left.

That your babe you want to kill yourself on, that's making you not channel all your energy into bettering yourself only shows you messages from guys she doesn't like but the ones you she can replace you with tomorrow, she deletes them, that's why you'll find when partners break up, within few months the babe is getting married.

My brotherrrrrrrrrr when you carry am for head and taking care of all her bills, she's begging another man of value for attention, a man that's already gotten his shit together when you were simply busy chasing her with all your strength and might, those ones she adores and acts like angels to them, you've seen it all with her and she's paid you for it with sex because after looking back the truth is it was all you got(sex and companionship which you mistook for love).

Wisemen, focus on yourself, add value to your life, get yourself in a very comfortable situation, nice crib, a small ride to move around and just keep hunting for the next best thing to do to continue that value adding, I bet you babe go find you come and when you're about to hit that cookie you'll hear "I can't believe I am doing this", my brother she had it all planned from the minute she shaved.

Everyone is born intelligent, it's how we apply it, act based on facts and not emotions.

A man who can control his sexual urge, do his chores, make his food and tame his ego would
ALMOST be 'uncontrollable' and 'un-influenceable'.

Only wise and strong women who have more qualities to offer more than sex are meant to be cherished.

A woman offering you nothing but just sex is a total drag back.

Leave love and chase money, leave the love for the woman, rather choose respect over love.

Moneysoldier007:
Let me share my own view. This is like the best thread in my thread reading career.

When you stop taking women seriously, you'll find out they ain't shit. The best thing any man can do out there is to focus on you first, add value and then see these women for who they are.

Love is meant for the weak. Kill your emotions in your dealings with people and then you've solved 99% of your problems cos it means your happiness first before anything else.

During relationships the signs are always there but because you've taken them too serious(Love) you become blind to see these things staring at you in the face. When a woman says I am with a friend, it means she's with a guy but when she says I am with my friend, it means she's with a girl, 100/100 that this has happened to me, it has always been correct, it's an unconscious action. Another unconscious action is when they are lying watch them closely, they look at their left.

That your babe you want to kill yourself on, that's making you not channel all your energy into bettering yourself only shows you messages from guys she doesn't like but the ones you she can replace you with tomorrow, she deletes them, that's why you'll find when partners break up, within few months the babe is getting married.

My brotherrrrrrrrrr when you carry am for head and taking care of all her bills, she's begging another man of value for attention, a man that's already gotten his shit together when you were simply busy chasing her with all your strength and might, those ones she adores and acts like angels to them, you've seen it all with her and she's paid you for it with sex because after looking back the truth is it was all you got(sex and companionship which you mistook for love).

Wisemen, focus on yourself, add value to your life, get yourself in a very comfortable situation, nice crib, a small ride to move around and just keep hunting for the next best thing to do to continue that value adding, I bet you babe go find you come and when you're about to hit that cookie you'll hear "I can't believe I am doing this", my brother she had it all planned from the minute she shaved.

Everyone is born intelligent, it's how we apply it, act based on facts and not emotions.

A man who can control his sexual urge, do his chores, make his food and tame his ego would
ALMOST be 'uncontrollable' and 'un-influenceable'.

Only wise and strong women who have more qualities to offer more than sex are meant to be cherished.

A woman offering you nothing but just sex is a total drag back.

Leave love and chase money, leave the love for the woman, rather choose respect over love.

IHate9jerianss:
@Emboldened
Very good.The stringent divorce laws may not exist in Nigeria as they do in Europe and north America but do the redpill and even laymen in Nigeria not realize what a bad deal marriage is for them?From financial pressures to nagging,spousal stubbornness,unnecessary domestic arguments,extended family drama,mate guarding etc.This is because they believe NAWALT and many even view such issues as normal

IHate9jerianss:
@Emboldened
Very good.The stringent divorce laws may not exist in Nigeria as they do in Europe and north America but do the redpill and even laymen in Nigeria not realize what a bad deal marriage is for them?From financial pressures to nagging,spousal stubbornness,unnecessary domestic arguments,extended family drama,mate guarding etc.This ilieve NAWALT and many even view such issues as normal

Mystiquefia:
It will be very Nice if you can open an MGTOW Thread like this were we can always burnish with MGTOW truths and real life experiences. MGTOW niggars on this forum will gladly turn up. and pls mention me if you do.


@CaveAdullam
it is wrong of you to call the personal chioces of MGTOW'S dumb. what are you? A Radical redpiller?

i've had to go through this thread and there are people who have been identifying as MGTOW's contributing to the thread even though some of you chose to be pro-marriage in your post, av not seen any altercation from the MGTOW guys