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Please help me. I am in medical school. My cousin and his wife (both living in USA) introduced a girl to me. They want me to come over.

From my understanding the two families are friends.

According to my cousin, "she is a good girl from a good family "

I have already started chatting with her, she seems cool, apparently.

But I need unbiased views from those with experience please.

Put yourself in my position and advise me.

she's 27. She is doing her masters .im 29, finishing next yr.


Thank you.

What do you mean by good?

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Please help me. I am in medical school. My cousin and his wife (both living in USA) introduced a girl to me. They want me to come over.

From my understanding the two families are friends.

According to my cousin, "she is a good girl from a good family "

I have already started chatting with her, she seems cool, apparently.

But I need unbiased views from those with experience please.

Put yourself in my position and advise me.

she's 27. She is doing her masters .im 29, finishing next yr.


Thank you.

What do you mean by good?
Like morally? You have to know that yourself.
Right now be concerned who she is and how she would help your career.
Everything don’t have to end in marriage

Same advantage and disadvantage of marrying a girl born in Nigeria

for now dont think you are going to usa because NIGERIA is on ban so no entry for NIgeria

Either way, it will end in tears.

Get to know the real girl and make your decision based on her real personality. Since you’re going over there, put this your marriage idea on hold for now and get there first. When you get there, get to know her and start an actual relationship. That’s when you’ll know the real advantages and disadvantages.

You can’t expect every “Nigerian girl born in America” to have the same behaviour.

The only possible downside is that there are laws over there which make marriage a heavy decision for a man. If you’re able to, try to get a prenuptial agreement...if that kind of thing is what you’re afraid of.

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Please help me. I am in medical school. My cousin and his wife (both living in USA) introduced a girl to me. They want me to come over.

From my understanding the two families are friends.

According to my cousin, "she is a good girl from a good family "

I have already started chatting with her, she seems cool, apparently.

But I need unbiased views from those with experience please.

Put yourself in my position and advise me.

she's 27. She is doing her masters .im 29, finishing next yr.


Thank you.

Ofori vs Barbara..... Read their story......

gaius01:


Sir with all due respect, marrying such lady is not a problem if only She can come to Nigeria to marry and stay, but you going up there that implies you will be short to some right as a man. This lady is OK financial and educationally and marrying her you can't control anything about her. Beside she woñt have the moral an average Nigeria girls .

Now you like the average Nigeria girl

Embassy is closed down for now

Let your life rolled in Naija for now.

gaius01:
Arrrrrrrh


First, how old are you ?
You are still in Medical school?
If you are too wife her, wife her in Nigeria not abroad cause. If not any small chaos Na police, you are vulnerable bro and you know she's OK, in the sense she's well to do so marrying her is not like a favour just that she need children and companion. Also know female are favour in court case outside.

I will advise you'd wife her here in Nigeria since she's a Nigerian.

And you believe if you marry someone in Nigeria you are not bounded by the marital laws in the US or other countries?

[quote author=thebosstrevor1 post=93909848]Advantage

You might end up getting citizenship
She Will be the mother of your kids
She might be very feminine if she has not been brainwashed by feminist ideologies and gender studies.
She will support and help you if she understands her role
She will be educated and might have a well balanced world view.

Disadvantage

She might Be a Feminist
She might emasculate you, if you dont earn well
She might end up driving you out of the home if you guys have trouble.
You might become homeless
Cultural shock of what relationships and marriage is supposed to be like

A good woman will be a good woman no matter the area.

[/quote I love your post

Hmm

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Please help me. I am in medical school. My cousin and his wife (both living in USA) introduced a girl to me. They want me to come over.

From my understanding the two families are friends.

According to my cousin, "she is a good girl from a good family "

I have already started chatting with her, she seems cool, apparently.

But I need unbiased views from those with experience please.

Put yourself in my position and advise me.


she's 27. She is doing her masters .im 29, finishing next yr.


Thank you.

Never you marry her without knowing her character. Without a dating/ relationship period.
If she is too good to be true, then she is actually too good to be true.
There are many Uncles, Aunties, Pastors, Relatives, who have some daughter somewhere that they will prefer to get married to a Nigerian-trained man. Which is fine.
The problem is that these girls, liberal and Westernised, operate from a mindset that you will struggle to understand unless you’ve lived in the same environment like her. Sadly her cheerleaders will hide these things from you; when you marry the lady, you will be told to, “manage, this is what marriage is.”

Marry a woman because she has a great attitude and not whether she was born in America or Nigeria. Marriage is all about compromise and flexibility. If you are stuck with your culture then pick a woman who loves same culture . You cant eat your cake and have it.

Advantages

1.She's orientated about western culture.

2.She's currently doing her master's meaning she's doing well for herself and won't be a burden

Disadvantages

1.Hope she ain't a feminist cos if she is,

2.Most naija girls abroad are proud and coupled with the fact that she's highly educated,she wouldn't give much fvcks about loving you hard.

My opinions though !

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Please help me. I am in medical school. My cousin and his wife (both living in USA) introduced a girl to me. They want me to come over.

From my understanding the two families are friends.

According to my cousin, "she is a good girl from a good family "

I have already started chatting with her, she seems cool, apparently.

But I need unbiased views from those with experience please.

Put yourself in my position and advise me.

Thank you.

Look at the BIGGER picture. If you love her, you are about to give your generation unborn eternal opportunities. Forget about what people are saying that if you have to marry her, then she needs to come to Nigeria. Ask yourself, come to Nigeria to do what ? Leaving a world of opportunities for a world of misery.

Your education should prepare you to easily adapt to people of different cultures. It is beautiful to learn cultures of other people. Don't dwell on the NEGATIVES, dwell on the POSITIVES instead. Most people advising you here wont think twice to grab this opportunity. Your cousin and his wife have helped you, it is up to you now. My 2cents.

My brother go ahead and marry her, its not easy to get linked to outside Nigeria. Besides your cousin confirmed shes a good girl. Get along with her build love and trust and if she is really and deeply in love with you she wpuod definitely be a good wife.

While dating do not fail to Express your anger and displeasure if she does some things that are not morally acceptable here in Nigeria. She would eventually blend and learn a different culture and way of life

Lastly forget all those telling you not to marry her or marry and bring her here. My brother you and i know Nigeria is not a place to be if you want to earn well and decently as a Medical Doctor.

Find your way to yankee. Enjoy your day

what are now the disadvantages of marrying a Nigerian girl born in Nigeria then

Ladies!!!! You know what to do, don't be Shy, DM is open

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Please help me. I am in medical school. My cousin and his wife (both living in USA) introduced a girl to me. They want me to come over.

From my understanding the two families are friends.

According to my cousin, "she is a good girl from a good family "

I have already started chatting with her, she seems cool, apparently.

But I need unbiased views from those with experience please.

Put yourself in my position and advise me.

she's 27. She is doing her masters .im 29, finishing next yr.


Thank you.

Do not base your decision on people’s views. People have different experiences when it comes to marriage. I believe marriage should be based on love.

The advantage is that you will relocate to US and then enjoy the benefits of being US resident. Becomes a citizens after 3 years of being a US resident.

The disadvantage is whatever happened during your union with her that you don’t like.

The kind of questions I see onhere these days simply shows that real human relationships have long been discarded. So instead of the OP to interact with the so called abroad based wife to see if her personality matches what he wants in a woman, he came on Nairaland to ask strangers the advantages/disadvantages of marrying her? And now people who might have never left their home states are telling him tales of how he will be emasculated. Lmao.

Western tendencies are marital destroyers... This sums it all.

she is 27 and still single then she has no one to marry her in america , and it’s always for a reason. And your cousin said she is a good what did you expect? Were you expecting her to say she is bad

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Please help me. I am in medical school. My cousin and his wife (both living in USA) introduced a girl to me. They want me to come over.

From my understanding the two families are friends.

According to my cousin, "she is a good girl from a good family "

I have already started chatting with her, she seems cool, apparently.

But I need unbiased views from those with experience please.

Put yourself in my position and advise me.

she's 27. She is doing her masters .im 29, finishing next yr.


Thank you.

She's American... just that she knows her route

First of all she's American

Do you have a problem with American women ?

I've dated both and there's no difference to me

Being that you're Nigerian it may be a culture shock for you

Stick to what you know if you're having doubts

Don't be fooled by Nigerian chicks born in America

They only wanna be Nigerian because it's trendy.

Outside of " Naija" , " Naija no dey carry last" or Afrobeats they're no different n than Akata women. In a lot of ways worst

gaius01:


Sir with all due respect, marrying such lady is not a problem if only She can come to Nigeria to marry and stay, but you going up there that implies you will be short to some right as a man. This lady is OK financial and educationally and marrying her you can't control anything about her. Beside she woñt have the moral an average Nigeria girls .

Seconded!!!!!!!!!

If you poem is real.....marriage is personal and you re the one who knws what you want in marriage and not general public, public forum will confuse you more not even nairaland that 75% commentators are against or have phobia on institution called marriage.


Anyway my own advice, good person (husband or wife) has notting to do with place of residences, religions ,tribes or genders . Though a times environmental factors contribute.

Keep communicating with her on various topics. Politics, sport, entertainment, religion, governance, health, education, relationships and general gossips provided you urself is vast on issue of life generally.

From their you will knw who is she, at least 60% of her character.

When you get thr, you will knw more through physical interaction.

No one can knw every character that other fellow human being can exhibits.

......Mind you ur own behavior has a lot to do on her own too, ......ur bad character can trigger bad character from her too ditto ur calm and good behavior.

At least your cousin has recommended her to you that she's form a good home and both families are friends. As you guys keep talking know what she likes and don't, likewise you. Don't lie to her, build that friendship, build that trust I bet you won't regret it. Marry her go there and start your life with your family.....In as much the laws over their favours the women more but you guys will be good and will live happy ever after. In all don't forget to commit your ways to God.

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Please help me. I am in medical school. My cousin and his wife (both living in USA) introduced a girl to me. They want me to come over.

From my understanding the two families are friends.

According to my cousin, "she is a good girl from a good family "

I have already started chatting with her, she seems cool, apparently.

But I need unbiased views from those with experience please.

Put yourself in my position and advise me.

she's 27. She is doing her masters .im 29, finishing next yr.


Thank you.

The only advantage is that you will be getting ur green card and citizenship much easier ( as u are a local champion now now) n ur children will be better off raised in states.

The disadvantage is that she is already a fire brand n u may have to submit to her n take lot of shits even if u are presently richer. Over there the laws over protect women n careless about men so she is better off if she divorces u while u will be back to square one

Everything in life has its risks and anything that will give u green card or american citizenship is worth it. Guys even marry 70 yrs American granny for it.

This is a golden opportunity that can change ur destiny dont let it slip off u bc u will regret it.

Expect the best and prepare for the worst, be clever n smart