dgreatthinker:
I reside in the US, in the Medical field, you need more than what guys are saying here to succeed. Plan properly and ask proper questions from your girl, and know what drives her. You need to know her takes on African culture, her redlines and have it in mind that you might not be able to practice as a medical doctor here (The probability is very low, but not impossible) Forget about the impression that women have sole prerogative to eject their spouse, the right is for both male and female. If she earns more than you, she might be the one paying you child support if the need arises. Contact me for more details. Wishing you the best

Thank you.

nexta007:
Study all her Facebook posts if possible to find clues about her personality, beliefs, goals and all...

nice one ,it actually says more there ,

Bro just know that you will have to study your medicine again over there if you really wants to practice it

gaius01:



Okk
Let's be realistic, I diffinatly know you will finish school before marrying. You are 29 now, next year 30 after service 31

And she will 29 living abroad then.

That means you will wnat to join her there or will she join you here!?

yemi1504:


Says who? Marriage is a real scam abroad if you don't know, I have been abroad before so I know what I am saying.

Not all marriages, there are scam marriages that would leave you broken for life over there and there are also some that are built on values.

Not all but I don't dispute your views but left to me I would baby mama her so that when kasala burst over there I won't have to part with my properties.

The foundation of marriage over there is nonsense only few follows the rules and do the right thing and that is why divorce is so rampant.

emkz:
This is a dicey one. Was she born there and has she spent all her life abroad? Try and get to know her personally.

Don't marry because you want to please your family or those that recommended her to you. Know her by dating her. Women are like onions, they have different layers and the layer you see at a particular time is the layer that serves their needs. Be watchful.

Thank you. She was born in America.

No advantages. No disadvantages. Marry who you like, there will be good days and sad days. There will be ups and downs. There will be validations and regrets.

Not one of the arguments or positions in this topic will ultimately be of any use.

Trumptweet:
Please help me. I am in medical school. My cousin and his wife (both living in USA) introduced a girl to me. They want me to come over.

From my understanding the two families are friends.

According to my cousin, "she is a good girl from a good family "

I have already started chatting with her, she seems cool, apparently.

But I need unbiased views from those with experience please.

Put yourself in my position and advise me.

she's 27. She is doing her masters .im 29, finishing next yr.


Thank you.

If she's good and responsible and also from a good family, please go ahead and marry. Or do you want to settle down with a crazy woman in Nigeria?

nexta007:
Study all her Facebook posts if possible to find clues about her personality, beliefs, goals and all...

Na Facebook post he wan study to marry the girl.

gaius01:
Arrrrrrrh


First, how old are you ?
You are still in Medical school?
If you are too wife her, wife her in Nigeria not abroad cause. If not any small chaos Na police, you are vulnerable bro and you know she's OK, in the sense she's well to do so marrying her is not like a favour just that she need children and companion. Also know female are favour in court case outside.

I will advise you'd wife her here in Nigeria since she's a Nigerian.

OP no listen to this guy, na local champion.
First you are in the medical field, if you are intelligent then u can continue your medical schooling in the US. It is strenuous but with the motivation coming from your wife you should finish and start earning at least $100k p.a.
Whether you marry her in naija or Yankee, it changes nothing as she's an American citizen and will always be protected by their laws. Most nigerian women are worse than nigerian-americans. Most naija wives now will play feminist for you even while you anchor the bills, nothing to gain from them. There's nothing more dangerous than marrying a Nigerian woman who has never travelled abroad but with abroad mentality.

Yankee101:


Your starting salary in Nogeria will be 2.7m naira

Write and pass USMLE and get a US hospital placement and your starting salary is more than 20m naira

She gets her medical doctor, ypu get her papers. Isn't that why your cousin is doing the hook up?

Lol, possibly.

Gbamsolute!

gaius01:


Sir with all due respect, marrying such lady is not a problem if only She can come to Nigeria to marry and stay, but you going up there that implies you will be short to some right as a man. This lady is OK financial and educationally and marrying her you can't control anything about her. Beside she woñt have the moral an average Nigeria girls .

Musa come and see what is making front page on nairaland this days ooooooo

Rgade:
I have no experience with Nigerian ladies born in the US,so I will wait for the experienced ones to come in and share their ideas with us.
However I'm sure that due to the good nature of the economy over there and overall better quality of reasoning possessed by girls there over the ones here;
She won't be bothering you with urgent 2k requests every second.
Also she won't have birthdays that occur several times in a year.

Loool

bukatyne:


A 'stranger' you can storm his/her house unannounced is different from a 'stranger' you have to prepare days in advance to receive. You both are in a controlled environment and cannot really court. Also there is the culture and environmental shock you have to prepare for.

My problem is the posters; they saw abroad wife and all senses have flown out of the window. It is 'broda OP marry to save your generation.'

Who said the girl is 'his pass' to the next level?

Hmm, thoughtful

oluwaahmed:


OP no listen to this guy, na local champion.
First you are in the medical field, if you are intelligent then u can continue your medical schooling in the US. It is strenuous but with the motivation coming from your wife you should finish and start earning at least $100k p.a.
Whether you marry her in naija or Yankee, it changes nothing as she's an American citizen and will always be protected by their laws. Most nigerian women are worse than nigerian-americans. Most naija wives now will play feminist for you even while you anchor the bills, nothing to gain from them. There's nothing more dangerous than marrying a Nigerian woman who has never travelled abroad but with abroad mentality.

Haha, that's totally true. That guy is a local champion and does not understand the law.

etrange:
The kind of questions I see onhere these days simply shows that real human relationships have long been discarded. So instead of the OP to interact with the so called abroad based wife to see if her personality matches what he wants in a woman, he came on Nairaland to ask strangers the advantages/disadvantages of marrying her? And now people who might have never left their home states are telling him tales of how he will be emasculated. Lmao.

I tire oh... lmao too. He should be more focused on dating the girl and see if he like her. Of course her Americaness will cloud his thoughts and he will be convinced her shit don't stink.

Two years later we will be reading "I married this Americana, we have one child, and now my life is a living hell" because he fell for the glitter.

Jaqenhghar:

They know that its only in Niggeria they will be able to enslave, and treat her anyhow without any repercussions.

Honestly.

etrange:
The kind of questions I see onhere these days simply shows that real human relationships have long been discarded. So instead of the OP to interact with the so called abroad based wife to see if her personality matches what he wants in a woman, he came on Nairaland to ask strangers the advantages/disadvantages of marrying her? And now people who might have never left their home states are telling him tales of how he will be emasculated. Lmao.

Real human relationship is almost extinct. The responses I saw on this post will make me think twice if any nairalander should DM me.
Horrible!

Trumptweet:
Please help me. I am in medical school. My cousin and his wife (both living in USA) introduced a girl to me. They want me to come over.

From my understanding the two families are friends.

According to my cousin, "she is a good girl from a good family "

I have already started chatting with her, she seems cool, apparently.

But I need unbiased views from those with experience please.

Put yourself in my position and advise me.

she's 27. She is doing her masters .im 29, finishing next yr.


Thank you.

Bro all our Nigeria womens are pure evil...truss me.they their, they lie & worst of all, bro they ain't even lightskin

Juss still with white womens & u will age better (real talk)

Fake pastor Ofori was arranged too for his wife and he killed her. My brother use your hands to find your own woman. Don't let anyone control you because they can make you stay in America. Because they will watch your every movement character then use it in their defense.

nextstep:


I tire oh... lmao too. He should be more focused on dating the girl and see if he like her. Of course her Americaness will cloud his thoughts and he will be convinced her shit don't stink.

Two years later we will be reading "I married this Americana, we have one child, and now my life is a living hell" because he fell for the glitter.

So, Nigeria is now a paradise, huh? Stop deceiving yourself.

sorepco:
Marry her n move to yankee...get there and do a masters in medical field. Marriage is a gamble...u can either marry a good or bad spouse. Forget those who say u shud marry in lagos n make her move to eko.

Go yankee start ur life bro


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Novice! Wetin you Sabi for Yankee?

Because your brain is loaded full of fantasies?

Marry marry! Yankee! Big foolishness!

daewoorazer:
There is nothing like a Nigerian born in the US...if she’s born in the US, she most probably lacks moral background of anything Nigerian....so she is AKATA.


I’m talking to you from experience....just a few of them with strict and culturally motivated fathers/mothers; plus the inner conviction by the same girl to wanna learn Nigerian morals....are the very few who u can still call “Nigerian living in the US”.

Citizenship is the only Con. If you can get your citizenship without her, go for it. Her giving you citizenship is a fûcked up red flag. Ignore at your own peril.

You can get citizenship by education in Canada...be flexible.

Akata girls are very independent and them dey get coconut head. They lack moral knowledge of caring for “husband”. If you tell her to prepare a meal for you, she’d most probably order you a pizza with her money(that’s if she’s the deeperlife version of akata)...if na regular akata, na u go order yourself

Hmm, thank you.

Trumptweet:


Thank you. I appreciate.

You are most welcome

chibuzorAbia:


Novice! Wetin you Sabi for Yankee?

Because your brain is loaded full of fantasies?

Marry marry! Yankee! Big foolishness!

Haha. Have you ever travelled out of Nigeria before?

Crownstar01:
So, Nigeria is now a paradise, huh? Stop deceiving yourself.

Nobody said Nigeria is a paradise.

What I'm saying is that the fact that she's Americana will not help you when you have to deal with being emasculated because you depend on her for remaining in America. The only thing that matters is that they love and respect each other, and where she is based should not be a factor. Heaven and Hell can both be found in America, and in Nigeria.

gaius01:


Sir with all due respect, marrying such lady is not a problem if only She can come to Nigeria to marry and stay, but you going up there that implies you will be short to some right as a man. This lady is OK financial and educationally and marrying her you can't control anything about her. Beside she woñt have the moral an average Nigeria girls .

What fake moral does an average Nigerian girl raised in Nigeria have

To be a slave to a man and his family

All these pple saying wife her in Nigeria, are u guys serious at all, make she leave USA come siddon with u for Nigeria dey do wetin. guy if u want to marry her go ahead, last last u go get citizenship , everyone knows dat.
Marriage na 50/50, u may end up a great lady who will inspire you and help u achieve ur dreams in America or one who will make ur life miserable.
But note this if u decide to marry her, it will take u a while to practice in America, so be prepared to study and take exams and do odd jobs to help out ohh, don't go there and say I won't work if it's not in the medical field. Na that time u go know say I love you na for mouth e dey start and na for mouth e dey end. Wish u the best

nextstep:


Nobody said Nigeria is a paradise.

What I'm saying is that the fact that she's Americana will not help you when you have to deal with being emasculated because you depend on her for remaining in America. The only thing that matters is that they love and respect each other, and where she is based should not be a factor. Heaven and Hell can both be found in America, and in Nigeria.

Forget about that. Nigeria is a shithole with terrorist government. If the OP goes into medical in the US, he cannot struggle. He would earn a jumbo pay and this is what the girl has seen so far. She already knew OP would add value into her life.

Trumptweet:
Please help me. I am in medical school. My cousin and his wife (both living in USA) introduced a girl to me. They want me to come over.

From my understanding the two families are friends.

According to my cousin, "she is a good girl from a good family "

I have already started chatting with her, she seems cool, apparently.

But I need unbiased views from those with experience please.

Put yourself in my position and advise me.

she's 27. She is doing her masters .im 29, finishing next yr.


Thank you.

Go and sit down.

Why are you hiding here asking for advice that's dumb

Trumptweet:
Please help me. I am in medical school. My cousin and his wife (both living in USA) introduced a girl to me. They want me to come over.

From my understanding the two families are friends.

According to my cousin, "she is a good girl from a good family "

I have already started chatting with her, she seems cool, apparently.

But I need unbiased views from those with experience please.

Put yourself in my position and advise me.

she's 27. She is doing her masters .im 29, finishing next yr.


Thank you.