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Froshloaded:
I feel he should just forgive his parents and do what he can afford ..

He doesn't owe them a dime. They failed in their responsibilities as his parents.

BTW are you a christian?

Yes I am.

mariahAngel:

My sister it is so sad.

Ishilove:
He doesn't owe them a dime. They failed in their responsibilities as his parents.


Yes I am.

Ikr..

There is this bible saying "Honour thy father and Mother, so your days shall be long"

He should not commit a sin because of his parents..

Froshloaded:
Ikr..

There is this bible saying "Honour thy father and Mother, so your days shall be long"

He should not commit a sin because of his parents..

The same bible says parents should not drive their children to despair. These ones do not deserve honour.

Ishilove:
The same bible says parents should not drive their children to despair. These ones do not deserve honour.

Lmao.

There are some evils that ought not to be forgiven, Op's case is one of them,

Some parents are only passageways to earth, nothing more, many things less.

The funny part is that, when OP gets married, the parents could still be shouting the name of the wife up & down,,, as if she made them useless.

Weytin wives no dey see for husbands' house

Some parents are nothing but calamities in disguise

May God guide you through

SecretSpy666:
Greetings Nairalanders,
I want to seek for you peoples opinions regarding my family challenges.

I'm from a broken home. My parents divorced when I was a child of two years. I'm the only child from their union. My father and mother abandoned me and remarried to other spouse each. I passed through hell growing up with relatives who insulted me with all kinds of names and I was treated like a slave to their own children.

Because of public outcry about my dehumanizing treatment, my father came to village and took me to the city. It was from fry pan to fire experience as my father's new wife was maltreating me. At a point, my father asked me to leave his house that since my arrival, he don't have peace with his wife.

I packed to the house of a relative and work in a block industry to help myself. Most times, I slept in a CAC church close to the relative house as the two-room apartment is not enough for his family. My mother never care if I was alive. She never call me nor reply to letter I sent through someone to her. I continued working in the block industry and started a part time programme. I completed the part time programme and did my NYSC and master degree. I got a job with University of Ado Ekiti with the help of a course mate, managing myself now and surprisingly my mother and father started calling me often.

Both of them have 6 children each with their respective second spouse. Mother want his son to come and live with me, I refused and my father too have been requesting for financial assistance which I also refused. I don't want to have anything to do with both of them. My father's daughter recently called me to help her with school fees, I bluntly told her to ask her mother what she did to me and caught the call. Since then, she never call.

I'm alone and have just two friends. I don't have family. All of them calling now are just looking for what to get from me, not that they care about me. My mother never call me once to ask about my welfare even when I sent my phone number to her through her relative. I wrote WAEC, completed degree course before she started calling me and it is only to request for one thing or other. I'm planning to get married without telling them and build a separate family.

2 years old. You've done well for self

Run away from them.

They cannot add value to your life. They will only cause you pain. A word is enough.

capnies:
Change your phone number now. But if any of them trace you and apologize you can forgive that one but for now they are yet to realize what they did to you if your story is true ooooo

I completely disagree with the boldfaced, NOPE. Some people are not worth forgiving.

Froshloaded:
Ikr..

There is this bible saying "Honour thy father and Mother, so your days shall be long"

He should not commit a sin because of his parents..

Believe me, only by God's grace can that young man truly forgive them.
Some issues are just beyond man's ability.

Froshloaded:
Ikr..

There is this bible saying "Honour thy father and Mother, so your days shall be long"

He should not commit a sin because of his parents..

You honour fathers and mothers who honour their God given responsibility to care and nurture children they brought into this world.

There is no sin in not enabling dead beat parenting. So you think it is okay to do away with parental responsibilities/obligations over a child and be rewarded with "Honour thy father and Mother"?

Please ask both of them why they abandoned you and teated you with same hate equally

Op you have every right to avoid them like plague. If possible, change your number and do all possible to ignore them. Your mother is a wicked woman. How can a mother forget her own child? Her own first fruit?

Dnt help anyone...d r all parasite

SecretSpy666:
The got to know of where I'm working. I don't know who told them. They arranged with someone I was relating with to bring them to my house. When I got Intel about it. Warned the person not to bring anyone to my house and dissociated with the person. Now they are saying I'm rich and don't want to help anyone but I don't care.

SecretSpy666:
Greetings Nairalanders,
I want to seek for you peoples opinions regarding my family challenges.

I'm from a broken home. My parents divorced when I was a child of two years. I'm the only child from their union. My father and mother abandoned me and remarried to other spouse each. I passed through hell growing up with relatives who insulted me with all kinds of names and I was treated like a slave to their own children.

Because of public outcry about my dehumanizing treatment, my father came to village and took me to the city. It was from fry pan to fire experience as my father's new wife was maltreating me. At a point, my father asked me to leave his house that since my arrival, he don't have peace with his wife.

I packed to the house of a relative and work in a block industry to help myself. Most times, I slept in a CAC church close to the relative house as the two-room apartment is not enough for his family. My mother never care if I was alive. She never call me nor reply to letter I sent through someone to her. I continued working in the block industry and started a part time programme. I completed the part time programme and did my NYSC and master degree. I got a job with University of Ado Ekiti with the help of a course mate, managing myself now and surprisingly my mother and father started calling me often.

Both of them have 6 children each with their respective second spouse. Mother want his son to come and live with me, I refused and my father too have been requesting for financial assistance which I also refused. I don't want to have anything to do with both of them. My father's daughter recently called me to help her with school fees, I bluntly told her to ask her mother what she did to me and caught the call. Since then, she never call.

I'm alone and have just two friends. I don't have family. All of them calling now are just looking for what to get from me, not that they care about me. My mother never call me once to ask about my welfare even when I sent my phone number to her through her relative. I wrote WAEC, completed degree course before she started calling me and it is only to request for one thing or other. I'm planning to get married without telling them and build a separate family.

They dont love you and dont deserve your help.
RUN FROM THEM OOO

May God punish them both. Amen

mariahAngel:
Believe me, only by God's grace can that young man truly forgive them.
Some issues are just beyond man's ability.

True..

Ik it will be very hard...

God will guide him..

SecretSpy666:
Greetings Nairalanders,
I want to seek for you peoples opinions regarding my family challenges.

I'm from a broken home. My parents divorced when I was a child of two years. I'm the only child from their union. My father and mother abandoned me and remarried to other spouse each. I passed through hell growing up with relatives who insulted me with all kinds of names and I was treated like a slave to their own children.

Because of public outcry about my dehumanizing treatment, my father came to village and took me to the city. It was from fry pan to fire experience as my father's new wife was maltreating me. At a point, my father asked me to leave his house that since my arrival, he don't have peace with his wife.

I packed to the house of a relative and work in a block industry to help myself. Most times, I slept in a CAC church close to the relative house as the two-room apartment is not enough for his family. My mother never care if I was alive. She never call me nor reply to letter I sent through someone to her. I continued working in the block industry and started a part time programme. I completed the part time programme and did my NYSC and master degree. I got a job with University of Ado Ekiti with the help of a course mate, managing myself now and surprisingly my mother and father started calling me often.

Both of them have 6 children each with their respective second spouse. Mother want his son to come and live with me, I refused and my father too have been requesting for financial assistance which I also refused. I don't want to have anything to do with both of them. My father's daughter recently called me to help her with school fees, I bluntly told her to ask her mother what she did to me and caught the call. Since then, she never call.

I'm alone and have just two friends. I don't have family. All of them calling now are just looking for what to get from me, not that they care about me. My mother never call me once to ask about my welfare even when I sent my phone number to her through her relative. I wrote WAEC, completed degree course before she started calling me and it is only to request for one thing or other. I'm planning to get married without telling them and build a separate family.

Op, I'm with you on this. Youve survived on your own for this long without them, nothing will change. Family is not only by blood. Dont let anyone tell you otherwise.

This is not just about forgiveness. They simply do not deserve you.

Stay far away from them.

Chai... Bad marriage

GboyegaD:
One of the things I read here is ignorance on their part. One might be thinking he is punishing the other without recourse to jow the instrument used (you in this case) feels about it.

They have erred and deserve forgiveness. Having a relationship with them to know their person, ideology, and character flaws as a way of guiding yourself is no crime. You do not need part with your money to achieve this.

Alaye shut the Bleep up... If you mess up to people you can't escape the repercussions through the instrumentality of forgiveness... Why should he forgive.. Oh so they would come and be fleecing him off money

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Ishilove:
He should not abandon them even when they abandoned him? What if he had died along the way? Abeg leave matter. The only sin he is commiting is the sin of unforgivenness. He can forgive but still be far from them because they are leeches with no remorse or shame.

what's the essence of forgiveness if he will still retaliate the same way? They are still his parents and that's the angle I'm looking at.
God has been merciful to him despite all he went through. May God bless him with a virtuous lady too. Let him liv vengeance for God. Wether or not he takes care of them, they will still reap what they sow, there's no point in paying them back d same way

Forget about them,if u love your life

SecretSpy666:
Greetings Nairalanders,
I want to seek for you peoples opinions regarding my family challenges.

I'm from a broken home. My parents divorced when I was a child of two years. I'm the only child from their union. My father and mother abandoned me and remarried to other spouse each. I passed through hell growing up with relatives who insulted me with all kinds of names and I was treated like a slave to their own children.

Because of public outcry about my dehumanizing treatment, my father came to village and took me to the city. It was from fry pan to fire experience as my father's new wife was maltreating me. At a point, my father asked me to leave his house that since my arrival, he don't have peace with his wife.

I packed to the house of a relative and work in a block industry to help myself. Most times, I slept in a CAC church close to the relative house as the two-room apartment is not enough for his family. My mother never care if I was alive. She never call me nor reply to letter I sent through someone to her. I continued working in the block industry and started a part time programme. I completed the part time programme and did my NYSC and master degree. I got a job with University of Ado Ekiti with the help of a course mate, managing myself now and surprisingly my mother and father started calling me often.

Both of them have 6 children each with their respective second spouse. Mother want his son to come and live with me, I refused and my father too have been requesting for financial assistance which I also refused. I don't want to have anything to do with both of them. My father's daughter recently called me to help her with school fees, I bluntly told her to ask her mother what she did to me and caught the call. Since then, she never call.

I'm alone and have just two friends. I don't have family. All of them calling now are just looking for what to get from me, not that they care about me. My mother never call me once to ask about my welfare even when I sent my phone number to her through her relative. I wrote WAEC, completed degree course before she started calling me and it is only to request for one thing or other. I'm planning to get married without telling them and build a separate family.

I will.advice you have nothing to connect with them. They will never support your marriage.

If you finally reconcile with them, thier children (12) your step sisters and brothers see you as a big brother... And big brother na your pocket.

Steer away from them.

SecretSpy666:
Greetings Nairalanders,
I want to seek for you peoples opinions regarding my family challenges.

I'm from a broken home. My parents divorced when I was a child of two years. I'm the only child from their union. My father and mother abandoned me and remarried to other spouse each. I passed through hell growing up with relatives who insulted me with all kinds of names and I was treated like a slave to their own children.

Because of public outcry about my dehumanizing treatment, my father came to village and took me to the city. It was from fry pan to fire experience as my father's new wife was maltreating me. At a point, my father asked me to leave his house that since my arrival, he don't have peace with his wife.

I packed to the house of a relative and work in a block industry to help myself. Most times, I slept in a CAC church close to the relative house as the two-room apartment is not enough for his family. My mother never care if I was alive. She never call me nor reply to letter I sent through someone to her. I continued working in the block industry and started a part time programme. I completed the part time programme and did my NYSC and master degree. I got a job with University of Ado Ekiti with the help of a course mate, managing myself now and surprisingly my mother and father started calling me often.

Both of them have 6 children each with their respective second spouse. Mother want his son to come and live with me, I refused and my father too have been requesting for financial assistance which I also refused. I don't want to have anything to do with both of them. My father's daughter recently called me to help her with school fees, I bluntly told her to ask her mother what she did to me and caught the call. Since then, she never call.

I'm alone and have just two friends. I don't have family. All of them calling now are just looking for what to get from me, not that they care about me. My mother never call me once to ask about my welfare even when I sent my phone number to her through her relative. I wrote WAEC, completed degree course before she started calling me and it is only to request for one thing or other. I'm planning to get married without telling them and build a separate family.

Your son wrote u letters and tried everything to reach u when he was suffering but u never cared. What a mother!

CUT THEM OFF!

CUT ALL OF THEM OFF COMPLETELY AND NEVER LOOK BACK MY BROTHER. YOU DESERVE BETTER. GOD BE WITH YOU.

In my opinion they're only interested in pulling you down the drain with them. But do what you can to help them, BUT don't stress yourself while at it.

As regards all you have Said if true!
Pls don't let anyone use religion or carry some pastors come beg you ooo......they re only concern bout your money!!! Money and money!!!


Disconnect every connection with them, cuz if nah u dey prison or some kind of trouble, nah so them go do u!!!

Don't be manipulated.....u did everything for ur self alone....

I know one certain person from our old neighborhood, your case is similar to his, nah my dad and other people dey help ham, infect to render help to him nah codedly cuz his guidance must not know bout it, Las Las he left their house and struggle for his life alone and went lean mechanic..,
Now hes happily married with great kids and in his own house and car..... without consent of anyone from ... doing so good for himself!

Who fokn cares?

Enudapan:
Nna eh! No qualms
This is so unsophisticated

Chia, it's well

U too wan to be popular like Slawormir and righteousness89 abi...