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kaynacy:
u think say na American film u dey
dis is 9ja...parents barely ask for forgiveness on issues like dis

Lmao

uuzba:
This is why you take a vow in marriage: TILL DEATH DO US PART.
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Please court with your spouse before marriage.
Know their character very well in courtship before marriage.
NO SEX before marriage. No sex in courtship.
It is fornication!
If you can't hold yourself before marriage, you will never hold yourself after marriage.
Only sex IN your marriage. Sex brings about children.
Bring kids into an emotionally stable home.
There is no space for divorce.
Divorce leads to anger, regret, hatred, destruction.
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If you cannot keep the rules, just jejely don't marry.

well said

A sweet story tailor made for nairaland frontpage

SecretSpy666:
Greetings Nairalanders,
I want to seek for you peoples opinions regarding my family challenges.

I'm from a broken home. My parents divorced when I was a child of two years. I'm the only child from their union. My father and mother abandoned me and remarried to other spouse each. I passed through hell growing up with relatives who insulted me with all kinds of names and I was treated like a slave to their own children.

Because of public outcry about my dehumanizing treatment, my father came to village and took me to the city. It was from fry pan to fire experience as my father's new wife was maltreating me. At a point, my father asked me to leave his house that since my arrival, he don't have peace with his wife.

I packed to the house of a relative and work in a block industry to help myself. Most times, I slept in a CAC church close to the relative house as the two-room apartment is not enough for his family. My mother never care if I was alive. She never call me nor reply to letter I sent through someone to her. I continued working in the block industry and started a part time programme. I completed the part time programme and did my NYSC and master degree. I got a job with University of Ado Ekiti with the help of a course mate, managing myself now and surprisingly my mother and father started calling me often.

Both of them have 6 children each with their respective second spouse. Mother want his son to come and live with me, I refused and my father too have been requesting for financial assistance which I also refused. I don't want to have anything to do with both of them. My father's daughter recently called me to help her with school fees, I bluntly told her to ask her mother what she did to me and caught the call. Since then, she never call.

I'm alone and have just two friends. I don't have family. All of them calling now are just looking for what to get from me, not that they care about me. My mother never call me once to ask about my welfare even when I sent my phone number to her through her relative. I wrote WAEC, completed degree course before she started calling me and it is only to request for one thing or other. I'm planning to get married without telling them and build a separate family.

u will be very successfully, ride on they don't deserve u .bunch of selfish and greedy and self centred group ..

First, I will beg you to forgive because your peace of mind is very important for your life and new relationship (spouse)
Next, kindly help them in anyway you can once in awhile but don't be close to them, don't allow anyone to come and stay in your house....you can't kill yourself for them because they don't worth it

Thank God for his mercies.
First of all forgive them completely. God has elevated you above them.
But, before you begin to attend to their needs, try to settle down with your wife. Explain to her the whole thing so that she's aware. Then very little by little following scale of preference, attend to their needs...be firm and don't keep reminding them of the past. I also suggest that none of them should live with you...
Rom12:20
Therefore if thine enemy hunger, feed him; if he thirst, give him drink: for in so doing thou shalt heap coals of fire on his head.
Best wishes

luminouz:
Goose pimples reading a fake ass story??

Most Nigerians are gullible sha.

This dude already used 28k to marry in January. Check his threads naaaaa...he even had a son then

Yet he JUST wanted to marry in this story.

Maybe you should go and check what gullible means

I just reacted to a story.

I don't have the time to be checking what people posted previously

Again, I just reacted to this story

SecretSpy666:
Greetings Nairalanders,
I want to seek for you peoples opinions regarding my family challenges.

I'm from a broken home. My parents divorced when I was a child of two years. I'm the only child from their union. My father and mother abandoned me and remarried to other spouse each. I passed through hell growing up with relatives who insulted me with all kinds of names and I was treated like a slave to their own children.

Because of public outcry about my dehumanizing treatment, my father came to village and took me to the city. It was from fry pan to fire experience as my father's new wife was maltreating me. At a point, my father asked me to leave his house that since my arrival, he don't have peace with his wife.

I packed to the house of a relative and work in a block industry to help myself. Most times, I slept in a CAC church close to the relative house as the two-room apartment is not enough for his family. My mother never care if I was alive. She never call me nor reply to letter I sent through someone to her. I continued working in the block industry and started a part time programme. I completed the part time programme and did my NYSC and master degree. I got a job with University of Ado Ekiti with the help of a course mate, managing myself now and surprisingly my mother and father started calling me often.

Both of them have 6 children each with their respective second spouse. Mother want his son to come and live with me, I refused and my father too have been requesting for financial assistance which I also refused. I don't want to have anything to do with both of them. My father's daughter recently called me to help her with school fees, I bluntly told her to ask her mother what she did to me and caught the call. Since then, she never call.

I'm alone and have just two friends. I don't have family. All of them calling now are just looking for what to get from me, not that they care about me. My mother never call me once to ask about my welfare even when I sent my phone number to her through her relative. I wrote WAEC, completed degree course before she started calling me and it is only to request for one thing or other. I'm planning to get married without telling them and build a separate family.

my guy I truly understand your story, mine is similar.... what I'll suggest is to start living live like an orphan, never tell a soul you have living parents, cos if you tell people you have parents, they will wanna disturb you during your pre marriage stage when parents are to be introduced, so it's better you start getting used to been known as an orphan,. secondly, cut them off your life totally, never give them space to come close to you weda for peace or for fight....they are your enemies, don't attend any family meetings to settle anything. good luck to you and shame to all the bastard parents in Nigeria, na God go purnish una

Secretspy666. Honor your father and thy mother even if they forsake you, for your Father in heaven did not forsake you.

Find favorites in both sides' kids and sponsor them.

What you summarized there must have taken years of painstaking efforts. I wish you all the best.

Forgive them.

You have gone through a lot but you are still alive due to the Grace of the Almighty.

Forgive them

SecretSpy666:
Greetings Nairalanders,
I want to seek for you peoples opinions regarding my family challenges.

I'm from a broken home. My parents divorced when I was a child of two years. I'm the only child from their union. My father and mother abandoned me and remarried to other spouse each. I passed through hell growing up with relatives who insulted me with all kinds of names and I was treated like a slave to their own children.

Because of public outcry about my dehumanizing treatment, my father came to village and took me to the city. It was from fry pan to fire experience as my father's new wife was maltreating me. At a point, my father asked me to leave his house that since my arrival, he don't have peace with his wife.

I packed to the house of a relative and work in a block industry to help myself. Most times, I slept in a CAC church close to the relative house as the two-room apartment is not enough for his family. My mother never care if I was alive. She never call me nor reply to letter I sent through someone to her. I continued working in the block industry and started a part time programme. I completed the part time programme and did my NYSC and master degree. I got a job with University of Ado Ekiti with the help of a course mate, managing myself now and surprisingly my mother and father started calling me often.

Both of them have 6 children each with their respective second spouse. Mother want his son to come and live with me, I refused and my father too have been requesting for financial assistance which I also refused. I don't want to have anything to do with both of them. My father's daughter recently called me to help her with school fees, I bluntly told her to ask her mother what she did to me and caught the call. Since then, she never call.

I'm alone and have just two friends. I don't have family. All of them calling now are just looking for what to get from me, not that they care about me. My mother never call me once to ask about my welfare even when I sent my phone number to her through her relative. I wrote WAEC, completed degree course before she started calling me and it is only to request for one thing or other. I'm planning to get married without telling them and build a separate family.

SmartPolician:
Maybe you should go and check what gullible means

I just reacted to a story.

I don't have the time to be checking what people posted previously

Again, I just reacted to this story

The art about having separated parents might be true because he repeated it somewhere but the marriage part leaves the reader with many questions because he made a previous post about marrying with 28,900 just saying

Oizee:
Nawao, ur case is like that of someone I know, but his mum was there all tru, she sacrificed all she had. The dad was completely absent, he didn't even know when he finished pri/sec sch.
God bless d guy and he got a job, he lost his mum shortly after.
Now d dad is really in a bad condition and not that he remarried after the separation from deir mom, he wasted his life to alcohol.
He was a serious drunkard. He has 3 kids from d woman and my friend is d first born and only male. The younger ones are married, d man will be calling dem and be reporting dem to people as if he was there for them and the children are now neglecting him.
One woman told my friend that he should look at the whole thing as a challenge in life and as a test from God.
Your parent failed themselves and God, don't be like them, God will continue to protect and bless you more.
But do only what u are capable of doing and don't go extra mile for them, cuz they don't deserve it. But inorder to get total blessing from ur God, please take care of them in any little way you can but don't abandoned them, don't commit sin out of pain.

The concluding part got me,"don't commit sin out of plain ",what do you mean exactly, what sin?,what moral right do they have to call him," son"?.Is he indebted to them, how?.

Thank God for his mercies.
First of all forgive them completely. God has elevated you above them.
But, before you begin to attend to their needs, try to settle down with your wife. Explain to her the whole thing so that she's aware. Then very little by little following scale of preference, attend to their needs...be firm and don't keep reminding them of the past. I also suggest that none of them should live with you...
Rom12:20
Therefore if thine enemy hunger, feed him; if he thirst, give him drink: for in so doing thou shalt heap coals of fire on his head.
Best wishes and take care

SecretSpy666:
Greetings Nairalanders,
I want to seek for you peoples opinions regarding my family challenges.

I'm from a broken home. My parents divorced when I was a child of two years. I'm the only child from their union. My father and mother abandoned me and remarried to other spouse each. I passed through hell growing up with relatives who insulted me with all kinds of names and I was treated like a slave to their own children.

Because of public outcry about my dehumanizing treatment, my father came to village and took me to the city. It was from fry pan to fire experience as my father's new wife was maltreating me. At a point, my father asked me to leave his house that since my arrival, he don't have peace with his wife.

I packed to the house of a relative and work in a block industry to help myself. Most times, I slept in a CAC church close to the relative house as the two-room apartment is not enough for his family. My mother never care if I was alive. She never call me nor reply to letter I sent through someone to her. I continued working in the block industry and started a part time programme. I completed the part time programme and did my NYSC and master degree. I got a job with University of Ado Ekiti with the help of a course mate, managing myself now and surprisingly my mother and father started calling me often.

Both of them have 6 children each with their respective second spouse. Mother want his son to come and live with me, I refused and my father too have been requesting for financial assistance which I also refused. I don't want to have anything to do with both of them. My father's daughter recently called me to help her with school fees, I bluntly told her to ask her mother what she did to me and caught the call. Since then, she never call.

I'm alone and have just two friends. I don't have family. All of them calling now are just looking for what to get from me, not that they care about me. My mother never call me once to ask about my welfare even when I sent my phone number to her through her relative. I wrote WAEC, completed degree course before she started calling me and it is only to request for one thing or other. I'm planning to get married without telling them and build a separate family.

Wisdom is profitable to direct. When God is blessing our lives, the devil comes with pain and distraction and many times it is in a way that is not so direct. In your case he is playing on your sentiments and culture. If you let your parents back in your life you will suffer. They will waste your life and with them will come a lack of peace.

If someone shows you they mean you harm why walk on the same path with them? Listen well, if you let them in your life and your life falls apart no one here saying "they are blood" will bail you out. Protect your peace.

They are using you. Immediately you get poor they will leave you again.

Wish them well, emancipate yourself and live your life. Forgive them yes, doesn't mean you should bring them close.

There is no court system there for emancipation from relatives?

I don't buy this idea of forgiveness most people are peddling. This is one of the reasons most people are not reluctant to do evil, cos they know their victims will eventually forgive them.
If we live with the consciousness that we'll get the payback of whatever thing we do today, I guess most people won't do evil.

SecretSpy666:
Greetings Nairalanders,
I want to seek for you peoples opinions regarding my family challenges.

I'm from a broken home. My parents divorced when I was a child of two years. I'm the only child from their union. My father and mother abandoned me and remarried to other spouse each. I passed through hell growing up with relatives who insulted me with all kinds of names and I was treated like a slave to their own children.

Because of public outcry about my dehumanizing treatment, my father came to village and took me to the city. It was from fry pan to fire experience as my father's new wife was maltreating me. At a point, my father asked me to leave his house that since my arrival, he don't have peace with his wife.

I packed to the house of a relative and work in a block industry to help myself. Most times, I slept in a CAC church close to the relative house as the two-room apartment is not enough for his family. My mother never care if I was alive. She never call me nor reply to letter I sent through someone to her. I continued working in the block industry and started a part time programme. I completed the part time programme and did my NYSC and master degree. I got a job with University of Ado Ekiti with the help of a course mate, managing myself now and surprisingly my mother and father started calling me often.

Both of them have 6 children each with their respective second spouse. Mother want his son to come and live with me, I refused and my father too have been requesting for financial assistance which I also refused. I don't want to have anything to do with both of them. My father's daughter recently called me to help her with school fees, I bluntly told her to ask her mother what she did to me and caught the call. Since then, she never call.

I'm alone and have just two friends. I don't have family. All of them calling now are just looking for what to get from me, not that they care about me. My mother never call me once to ask about my welfare even when I sent my phone number to her through her relative. I wrote WAEC, completed degree course before she started calling me and it is only to request for one thing or other. I'm planning to get married without telling them and build a separate family.

OA01:
You have all right and justification to get angry at all of them.

Remember! You can't achieve anything without the mercy and grace of God, most especially the love of God.

You need to reciprocate the mercy, grace and love God bestowed on you back to them.

This is very hard to do, but you still need to do it for the sake of their creator.

You don't deserve the position you are today by virtue of the circumstances that befell you but mercy took you there.

Do what is in thy power to do for them all, if God grant you the grace.

God is respecter of nobody, whatsoever one plants shall he reaps.

Brother! Start planting good seed now.

My advice: call the child back and apologize for how you spoke to her/him because just like you, you don't know where he/she can get to.

Assist him/her in your capacity.

God will continue to help you

Yes.. He should go and even beg his parents.. Roll in the mud sef... Whenever he collects his salary.. He should hand everything over to his parents.. Then wait for them to give him whatever they want.. Since you want to be very stupid

SecretSpy666:
Greetings Nairalanders,
I want to seek for you peoples opinions regarding my family challenges.

I'm from a broken home. My parents divorced when I was a child of two years. I'm the only child from their union. My father and mother abandoned me and remarried to other spouse each. I passed through hell growing up with relatives who insulted me with all kinds of names and I was treated like a slave to their own children.

Because of public outcry about my dehumanizing treatment, my father came to village and took me to the city. It was from fry pan to fire experience as my father's new wife was maltreating me. At a point, my father asked me to leave his house that since my arrival, he don't have peace with his wife.

I packed to the house of a relative and work in a block industry to help myself. Most times, I slept in a CAC church close to the relative house as the two-room apartment is not enough for his family. My mother never care if I was alive. She never call me nor reply to letter I sent through someone to her. I continued working in the block industry and started a part time programme. I completed the part time programme and did my NYSC and master degree. I got a job with University of Ado Ekiti with the help of a course mate, managing myself now and surprisingly my mother and father started calling me often.

Both of them have 6 children each with their respective second spouse. Mother want his son to come and live with me, I refused and my father too have been requesting for financial assistance which I also refused. I don't want to have anything to do with both of them. My father's daughter recently called me to help her with school fees, I bluntly told her to ask her mother what she did to me and caught the call. Since then, she never call.

I'm alone and have just two friends. I don't have family. All of them calling now are just looking for what to get from me, not that they care about me. My mother never call me once to ask about my welfare even when I sent my phone number to her through her relative. I wrote WAEC, completed degree course before she started calling me and it is only to request for one thing or other. I'm planning to get married without telling them and build a separate family.

Bros I can't judge u, even God won't judge u.
Abeg start ur family and be careful who u marry.
More blessings

SecretSpy666:
Greetings Nairalanders,
I want to seek for you peoples opinions regarding my family challenges.

I'm from a broken home. My parents divorced when I was a child of two years. I'm the only child from their union. My father and mother abandoned me and remarried to other spouse each. I passed through hell growing up with relatives who insulted me with all kinds of names and I was treated like a slave to their own children.

Because of public outcry about my dehumanizing treatment, my father came to village and took me to the city. It was from fry pan to fire experience as my father's new wife was maltreating me. At a point, my father asked me to leave his house that since my arrival, he don't have peace with his wife.

I packed to the house of a relative and work in a block industry to help myself. Most times, I slept in a CAC church close to the relative house as the two-room apartment is not enough for his family. My mother never care if I was alive. She never call me nor reply to letter I sent through someone to her. I continued working in the block industry and started a part time programme. I completed the part time programme and did my NYSC and master degree. I got a job with University of Ado Ekiti with the help of a course mate, managing myself now and surprisingly my mother and father started calling me often.

Both of them have 6 children each with their respective second spouse. Mother want his son to come and live with me, I refused and my father too have been requesting for financial assistance which I also refused. I don't want to have anything to do with both of them. My father's daughter recently called me to help her with school fees, I bluntly told her to ask her mother what she did to me and caught the call. Since then, she never call.

I'm alone and have just two friends. I don't have family. All of them calling now are just looking for what to get from me, not that they care about me. My mother never call me once to ask about my welfare even when I sent my phone number to her through her relative. I wrote WAEC, completed degree course before she started calling me and it is only to request for one thing or other. I'm planning to get married without telling them and build a separate family.

change your phone no. They don't deserve any form of help from you. Channel your love and care to that relatives of yours that took you in despite the tough times

Bro. They aren't your family... Just forget about them. God bless you. Continue hustling and live your life...

If you're a parent here currently treating your kid like a piece of trash, I hope you're reading this and learning one or two lessons? Don't forget that God never sleeps. The future is heavily pregnant ooooooooooo

Also if you're a young man or young woman, you did what you didn't think twice before doing, you brought a child into this world and you've decided to reject or abandon the preganancy/ kid in the spur of the moment (as the guyman wey you be). The future is pregnant oooooooooo

Forgive and forget, blood is thicker than water.

capnies:
Change your phone number now. But if any of them trace you and apologize you can forgive that one but for now they are yet to realize what they did to you if your story is true ooooo

Best advice..�

Bro I feel ur pain and your agony life sometimes is not fair to us and u don't need to hurt urself anymore God has bless you with ur hard work and you came through where many fail but only one thing I will tell you don't hold anything against anybo but stay far from them all and before u marry any woman you intended to marry let her know your story and always trust in God for everything.

I hope you read my comment, bro cut them off and cut off people that might even want to link you to them , trust me you will not regret it. The only regret you will get is connecting with both of them. It will be a sad tale

in my opinion...
both of them offended you, but your father care about you, at least more than your mother

Secretspy666, stay away from your so called parents. What kind humans are they? You're indeed from a broken home. You can respect them as your parents, but stay away.

With that kind grammar, i don't think this story is real. I doubt it.

Clonepops:
Omo. Make I no lie.. This talk stupid sha... Who made them his family?? Family is who loves and supports you

How is the talk stupid? God forbid if something goes wrong with him, who will he run to? Do you think it is easy to cut off totally from extended family? This is Nigeria not Obodo Oyibo.

SmartPolician:
Maybe you should go and check what gullible means

I just reacted to a story.

I don't have the time to be checking what people posted previously

Again, I just reacted to this story

You still sound gullible bro.

Can't you feel a story is fake?

Now lemme guide you.

1. OP asked no clearly defined advice or question. His story has a novella outlook. Prologue to Epilogue. A classic novel. He never asked for your advice or opinion in the story if you read it. He already said he won't inform his so-called parents about his so-called wedding. So what dafuq is he asking from his thread title? He put a catchy phrase line so everyone would read his story and REACT to it,what he needs are clickviews.

2. Most tall talers here never respond beyond the second page. They give few responses so yall would come and marinate/salivate on the story and the numbers of pages would increase. A classic clickbait technique

3. I may be wrong but I still dont think PT graduates go for NYSC. That was a big red flag to me.


You are the smartpolitician. Tell me, am I lying?

SecretSpy666:
Greetings Nairalanders,
I want to seek for you peoples opinions regarding my family challenges.

I'm from a broken home. My parents divorced when I was a child of two years. I'm the only child from their union. My father and mother abandoned me and remarried to other spouse each. I passed through hell growing up with relatives who insulted me with all kinds of names and I was treated like a slave to their own children.

Because of public outcry about my dehumanizing treatment, my father came to village and took me to the city. It was from fry pan to fire experience as my father's new wife was maltreating me. At a point, my father asked me to leave his house that since my arrival, he don't have peace with his wife.

I packed to the house of a relative and work in a block industry to help myself. Most times, I slept in a CAC church close to the relative house as the two-room apartment is not enough for his family. My mother never care if I was alive. She never call me nor reply to letter I sent through someone to her. I continued working in the block industry and started a part time programme. I completed the part time programme and did my NYSC and master degree. I got a job with University of Ado Ekiti with the help of a course mate, managing myself now and surprisingly my mother and father started calling me often.

Both of them have 6 children each with their respective second spouse. Mother want his son to come and live with me, I refused and my father too have been requesting for financial assistance which I also refused. I don't want to have anything to do with both of them. My father's daughter recently called me to help her with school fees, I bluntly told her to ask her mother what she did to me and caught the call. Since then, she never call.

I'm alone and have just two friends. I don't have family. All of them calling now are just looking for what to get from me, not that they care about me. My mother never call me once to ask about my welfare even when I sent my phone number to her through her relative. I wrote WAEC, completed degree course before she started calling me and it is only to request for one thing or other. I'm planning to get married without telling them and build a separate family.

Oga this people are not your parents. Imagine a father that asked you to leave his house for his new wife ?

E don disown u since... now that you’re rich make it official..

Pm to start finalizing your papers to disown them

SecretSpy666:
The got to know of where I'm working. I don't know who told them. They arranged with someone I was relating with to bring them to my house. When I got Intel about it. Warned the person not to bring anyone to my house and dissociated with the person. Now they are saying I'm rich and don't want to help anyone but I don't care.

Flee from parasites,they will suck you dry..
You owe nobody anything,being a parent is much more than bringing a child into the world..
If they were not there when you needed them,you owe them no obligations..
Don't let anyone blackmail you emotionally..