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Froshloaded:
I've read it.



Hell no.




This is life for you o..

I feel he should just forgive his parents and do what he can afford ..


BTW are you a christian?

It is easy to say forgive because it did not happen to you
apart from the physical hurt , what of the emotional trauma of not receiving love from either of them
abeg please cut them from your life, get married and make sure your children never go through what you went through

I have a similar experience my i was ophan but thank God today not too much but comfortable you help them as if you are helping outsider

SecretSpy666:
The got to know of where I'm working. I don't know who told them. They arranged with someone I was relating with to bring them to my house. When I got Intel about it. Warned the person not to bring anyone to my house and dissociated with the person. Now they are saying I'm rich and don't want to help anyone but I don't care.

Maybe they didn't have the means to help you when you were younger.
Also if they had taken you in, your life might have taken a bad turn, so just thank God and help anyone but you mustn't associate with them beyond just helping them out if you can. And never help until you let them know how they treated you and they apologize.

[He should not allowed them to seat on the chair has his parent if he his inviting them he should just invite them like a guestquote author=SimplyFacts post=94093167]The funny part is that, when OP gets married, the parents could still be shouting the name of the wife up & down,,, as if she made them useless.

Weytin wives no dey see for husbands' house

Some parents are nothing but calamities in disguise

May God guide you through[/quote]

capnies:
Change your phone number now. But if any of them trace you and apologize you can forgive that one but for now they are yet to realize what they did to you if your story is true ooooo

There's no forgiving any of them, especially the mother. Keep cutting them off. They all deserve it. Thunder fire them. It's not they want to associate with you cos you made it despite them abandoning you

They are not your family. If you let tohem in and they stop getting what brought them they will go. Blood is not what makes family. Move on, marry and build your own family. Leave those wolves in the past.

SecretSpy666:
Greetings Nairalanders,
I want to seek for you peoples opinions regarding my family challenges.

I'm from a broken home. My parents divorced when I was a child of two years. I'm the only child from their union. My father and mother abandoned me and remarried to other spouse each. I passed through hell growing up with relatives who insulted me with all kinds of names and I was treated like a slave to their own children.

Because of public outcry about my dehumanizing treatment, my father came to village and took me to the city. It was from fry pan to fire experience as my father's new wife was maltreating me. At a point, my father asked me to leave his house that since my arrival, he don't have peace with his wife.

I packed to the house of a relative and work in a block industry to help myself. Most times, I slept in a CAC church close to the relative house as the two-room apartment is not enough for his family. My mother never care if I was alive. She never call me nor reply to letter I sent through someone to her. I continued working in the block industry and started a part time programme. I completed the part time programme and did my NYSC and master degree. I got a job with University of Ado Ekiti with the help of a course mate, managing myself now and surprisingly my mother and father started calling me often.

Both of them have 6 children each with their respective second spouse. Mother want his son to come and live with me, I refused and my father too have been requesting for financial assistance which I also refused. I don't want to have anything to do with both of them. My father's daughter recently called me to help her with school fees, I bluntly told her to ask her mother what she did to me and caught the call. Since then, she never call.

I'm alone and have just two friends. I don't have family. All of them calling now are just looking for what to get from me, not that they care about me. My mother never call me once to ask about my welfare even when I sent my phone number to her through her relative. I wrote WAEC, completed degree course before she started calling me and it is only to request for one thing or other. I'm planning to get married without telling them and build a separate family.

SecretSpy666:
The got to know of where I'm working. I don't know who told them. They arranged with someone I was relating with to bring them to my house. When I got Intel about it. Warned the person not to bring anyone to my house and dissociated with the person. Now they are saying I'm rich and don't want to help anyone but I don't care.

U're doing the right thing. Ur so called parents aren't parents if i may say. Ur father was a sperm donor & mother egg donor cos real parents don't abandon their responsibilities. Th way it is right now, they can't add any value to ur life rather they will become burdens & that's what u need in ur life anymore. U already had enough to last u a life time. All the best.

SecretSpy666:
Greetings Nairalanders,
I want to seek for you peoples opinions regarding my family challenges.

I'm from a broken home. My parents divorced when I was a child of two years. I'm the only child from their union. My father and mother abandoned me and remarried to other spouse each. I passed through hell growing up with relatives who insulted me with all kinds of names and I was treated like a slave to their own children.

Because of public outcry about my dehumanizing treatment, my father came to village and took me to the city. It was from fry pan to fire experience as my father's new wife was maltreating me. At a point, my father asked me to leave his house that since my arrival, he don't have peace with his wife.

I packed to the house of a relative and work in a block industry to help myself. Most times, I slept in a CAC church close to the relative house as the two-room apartment is not enough for his family. My mother never care if I was alive. She never call me nor reply to letter I sent through someone to her. I continued working in the block industry and started a part time programme. I completed the part time programme and did my NYSC and master degree. I got a job with University of Ado Ekiti with the help of a course mate, managing myself now and surprisingly my mother and father started calling me often.

Both of them have 6 children each with their respective second spouse. Mother want his son to come and live with me, I refused and my father too have been requesting for financial assistance which I also refused. I don't want to have anything to do with both of them. My father's daughter recently called me to help her with school fees, I bluntly told her to ask her mother what she did to me and caught the call. Since then, she never call.

I'm alone and have just two friends. I don't have family. All of them calling now are just looking for what to get from me, not that they care about me. My mother never call me once to ask about my welfare even when I sent my phone number to her through her relative. I wrote WAEC, completed degree course before she started calling me and it is only to request for one thing or other. I'm planning to get married without telling them and build a separate family.

They don't deserve any favours from you. Keep them at a distance and continue with your life. My prayer for you is that your joy shall be full in the new family you are starting with your spouse

All those parents that didn't perform their responsibilities are the ones that always have entitlement spirit the most.
My mum did similar thing to me but not as extreme as yours though. She's the first person to ask me for money (even before my father that did all his best to train me) immediately she heard that I have gotten a job.
I'll just say you should forgive them and move on with your life, but don't let them give you any form of close marking.

SecretSpy666:
Greetings Nairalanders,
I want to seek for you peoples opinions regarding my family challenges.

I'm from a broken home. My parents divorced when I was a child of two years. I'm the only child from their union. My father and mother abandoned me and remarried to other spouse each. I passed through hell growing up with relatives who insulted me with all kinds of names and I was treated like a slave to their own children.

Because of public outcry about my dehumanizing treatment, my father came to village and took me to the city. It was from fry pan to fire experience as my father's new wife was maltreating me. At a point, my father asked me to leave his house that since my arrival, he don't have peace with his wife.

I packed to the house of a relative and work in a block industry to help myself. Most times, I slept in a CAC church close to the relative house as the two-room apartment is not enough for his family. My mother never care if I was alive. She never call me nor reply to letter I sent through someone to her. I continued working in the block industry and started a part time programme. I completed the part time programme and did my NYSC and master degree. I got a job with University of Ado Ekiti with the help of a course mate, managing myself now and surprisingly my mother and father started calling me often.

Both of them have 6 children each with their respective second spouse. Mother want his son to come and live with me, I refused and my father too have been requesting for financial assistance which I also refused. I don't want to have anything to do with both of them. My father's daughter recently called me to help her with school fees, I bluntly told her to ask her mother what she did to me and caught the call. Since then, she never call.

I'm alone and have just two friends. I don't have family. All of them calling now are just looking for what to get from me, not that they care about me. My mother never call me once to ask about my welfare even when I sent my phone number to her through her relative. I wrote WAEC, completed degree course before she started calling me and it is only to request for one thing or other. I'm planning to get married without telling them and build a separate family.

I'm in a similar situation. I don't av a job or money yet though but I will advice u to keep urself nd d family u will make first. Forgive ur parent nd siblings 4 ur own peace of mind and always give dem what u can afford to give happily, don't go any extra mile for em too, dey lost dat right

Forgiving is okay. Taking back is the issue. Do the first, but run from the second. Don't open yourself to unnecessary attacks, and the best way to do this is to ghost. You know why? The half-brothers and sisters are still there who won't want you to pass them in success. They may laugh with you now, but when they start getting close, you are done for. Those who are from polygamous homes will understand, especially from the 60s-70s.

*Don't be docile. Start your own genealogy. Hide your head. Forget people wey dey tell you say get close. Forgiveness is not trust. Believe you me, God forgives us, but only trusts few men...and He doesn't allow everyone to get close despite His love. A sinner destroyeth much good.

The words of Solomon:

A man who has friends [a]must himself be friendly,
But there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother (Proverbs 18:24).

SecretSpy666:
Greetings Nairalanders,
I want to seek for you peoples opinions regarding my family challenges.

I'm from a broken home. My parents divorced when I was a child of two years. I'm the only child from their union. My father and mother abandoned me and remarried to other spouse each. I passed through hell growing up with relatives who insulted me with all kinds of names and I was treated like a slave to their own children.

Because of public outcry about my dehumanizing treatment, my father came to village and took me to the city. It was from fry pan to fire experience as my father's new wife was maltreating me. At a point, my father asked me to leave his house that since my arrival, he don't have peace with his wife.

I packed to the house of a relative and work in a block industry to help myself. Most times, I slept in a CAC church close to the relative house as the two-room apartment is not enough for his family. My mother never care if I was alive. She never call me nor reply to letter I sent through someone to her. I continued working in the block industry and started a part time programme. I completed the part time programme and did my NYSC and master degree. I got a job with University of Ado Ekiti with the help of a course mate, managing myself now and surprisingly my mother and father started calling me often.

Both of them have 6 children each with their respective second spouse. Mother want his son to come and live with me, I refused and my father too have been requesting for financial assistance which I also refused. I don't want to have anything to do with both of them. My father's daughter recently called me to help her with school fees, I bluntly told her to ask her mother what she did to me and caught the call. Since then, she never call.

I'm alone and have just two friends. I don't have family. All of them calling now are just looking for what to get from me, not that they care about me. My mother never call me once to ask about my welfare even when I sent my phone number to her through her relative. I wrote WAEC, completed degree course before she started calling me and it is only to request for one thing or other. I'm planning to get married without telling them and build a separate family.

I Don't Even Know What To Say. Just Live Ur Life Like U Don't Av Anybody Except God. However, If Dey Come To Beg U 4give Dem.

Emmyloyalty:
"Honour thy father and thy mother..." This is not a conditional statement. That is, it doesn't matter who they are or what they have done, HONOUR them. Why? Verse 3 of that chapter says "that it may be well with thee and that you may live long".

PS: I strongly condemn what his parents did and I suggest they seek for forgiveness and not money.

Toh. We should honour incubators and sperm donors who do not give a fvck about their children. I hear you

SecretSpy666:
The got to know of where I'm working. I don't know who told them. They arranged with someone I was relating with to bring them to my house. When I got Intel about it. Warned the person not to bring anyone to my house and dissociated with the person. Now they are saying I'm rich and don't want to help anyone but I don't care.

They are all leeches, they will suck you dry. Their intrusion on your privacy and peace you Will be the beginning of the end. Keep them at bay. Failure to provide necessaries for an underaged person is a crime. If you have died on account of their abandonment nko? Will they not continue living and paying their bills?
Just use sense handle this in a European or Western way. Those that helped you during your struggles are your real family. If they apologize forgive them but still keep them at bay. Them no try at all.

Hahaha ha
I laughed out loud cos ur story is similar to mine. The difference is that my mom stayed.

Now, popsi wants to get back. He left when I was 1y and 6 months. My kid sister was 3 months old.

I don't mean to confuse you o, everybody with their beliefs o. But u see my popsi, me and am not get any business for this life. Not even the next. Na who work nai go chop.

There's no magic and there's nothing like emotional blank mail. It's a simple logical reasoning.

They abandoned you. Abandon them too. Period.

Now, change ur location and change your number.

Lastly, by God's Grace when you married and raise kids, try your best to be there for them.

May God help us all.

Don't forget. SIMPLE LOGICAL REASONING.

I feel your pain my dear, such is also what am experiencing right now but not from my parents but relatives. My brother you owe no one but if there's anything you can do for them that cannot affect you negatively, just do it for God's sake but just count yourself as a person that doesn't have parents. But in all your doings apply wisdom so that you will not be enslaved by them.

I appreciate God in your life, I will support you not giving them room into your house or life but to bless God kindly assist where you can. Let their conscience judge them. The truth is even some that have all around then don't enjoy the expected love.

SecretSpy666:
Greetings Nairalanders,
I want to seek for you peoples opinions regarding my family challenges.

I'm from a broken home. My parents divorced when I was a child of two years. I'm the only child from their union. My father and mother abandoned me and remarried to other spouse each. I passed through hell growing up with relatives who insulted me with all kinds of names and I was treated like a slave to their own children.

Because of public outcry about my dehumanizing treatment, my father came to village and took me to the city. It was from fry pan to fire experience as my father's new wife was maltreating me. At a point, my father asked me to leave his house that since my arrival, he don't have peace with his wife.

I packed to the house of a relative and work in a block industry to help myself. Most times, I slept in a CAC church close to the relative house as the two-room apartment is not enough for his family. My mother never care if I was alive. She never call me nor reply to letter I sent through someone to her. I continued working in the block industry and started a part time programme. I completed the part time programme and did my NYSC and master degree. I got a job with University of Ado Ekiti with the help of a course mate, managing myself now and surprisingly my mother and father started calling me often.

Both of them have 6 children each with their respective second spouse. Mother want his son to come and live with me, I refused and my father too have been requesting for financial assistance which I also refused. I don't want to have anything to do with both of them. My father's daughter recently called me to help her with school fees, I bluntly told her to ask her mother what she did to me and caught the call. Since then, she never call.

I'm alone and have just two friends. I don't have family. All of them calling now are just looking for what to get from me, not that they care about me. My mother never call me once to ask about my welfare even when I sent my phone number to her through her relative. I wrote WAEC, completed degree course before she started calling me and it is only to request for one thing or other. I'm planning to get married without telling them and build a separate family.

I don't usually do this because I'm not good with words but having read through i just can't get my mind off it.
1. Don't ever allow anyone of them (half siblings) to come stay with you, i repeat again don't.
2. They are still your parents, i understand what they did to you but the fact remains so and on this note I'd leave you to decide what you want to do with them.
3. As for your siblings that want assistance from you please for heaven sake if you can help do give it, i understand their parent did something wrong but i won't totally agree that you should let that hinder you from rendering the children help when the need be. (just little o, not that you will black them out)
4. For your marriage plan, none of them deserve to take accolades for what they didn't worked for so keep them out of it. I pray your bride becomes your perfect half.
All the best brother.

SecretSpy666:
Greetings Nairalanders,
I want to seek for you peoples opinions regarding my family challenges.

I'm from a broken home. My parents divorced when I was a child of two years. I'm the only child from their union. My father and mother abandoned me and remarried to other spouse each. I passed through hell growing up with relatives who insulted me with all kinds of names and I was treated like a slave to their own children.

Because of public outcry about my dehumanizing treatment, my father came to village and took me to the city. It was from fry pan to fire experience as my father's new wife was maltreating me. At a point, my father asked me to leave his house that since my arrival, he don't have peace with his wife.

I packed to the house of a relative and work in a block industry to help myself. Most times, I slept in a CAC church close to the relative house as the two-room apartment is not enough for his family. My mother never care if I was alive. She never call me nor reply to letter I sent through someone to her. I continued working in the block industry and started a part time programme. I completed the part time programme and did my NYSC and master degree. I got a job with University of Ado Ekiti with the help of a course mate, managing myself now and surprisingly my mother and father started calling me often.

Both of them have 6 children each with their respective second spouse. Mother want his son to come and live with me, I refused and my father too have been requesting for financial assistance which I also refused. I don't want to have anything to do with both of them. My father's daughter recently called me to help her with school fees, I bluntly told her to ask her mother what she did to me and caught the call. Since then, she never call.

I'm alone and have just two friends. I don't have family. All of them calling now are just looking for what to get from me, not that they care about me. My mother never call me once to ask about my welfare even when I sent my phone number to her through her relative. I wrote WAEC, completed degree course before she started calling me and it is only to request for one thing or other. I'm planning to get married without telling them and build a separate family.

Please forget them. Cut them off permanently.

I beg don't forget that CAC church where you took shelter when it was raining heavily. May God continue to bless you real good.

LaReinaa:
They’re not his parents, parenting goes beyond bringing a child into the world!

I know really, u are right.
I have children and they are my life. We were to my late Mom too, anytime we were going back to school den, no rest of mind for her, calling every 30 minutes to know our present location, so we don't used to notify her of our coming back. So I can't understand that of his mother.
He should forgive dem abeg

The rejected stone has become the corner stone.

op feel no guilt they are reaping what they sow


Forgive but don't forget what they did

What if your condition has not changed. Will they look for you.
Though they are your parent but they failed in their responsibility to u. I advise you stay away from them if possible. You can also send them money if excess but don't kill yourself for them.

SecretSpy666:
The got to know of where I'm working. I don't know who told them. They arranged with someone I was relating with to bring them to my house. When I got Intel about it. Warned the person not to bring anyone to my house and dissociated with the person. Now they are saying I'm rich and don't want to help anyone but I don't care.

Do not repay evil with evil, this will make no difference from them.

They abandoned you when you need them and you abandon them when they need you... Makes you the same as them.

Forgiveness gives you power over them. That's the only way to show them you're better than them.

An eye for eye will make the whole world goes blind

SecretSpy666:
The got to know of where I'm working. I don't know who told them. They arranged with someone I was relating with to bring them to my house. When I got Intel about it. Warned the person not to bring anyone to my house and dissociated with the person. Now they are saying I'm rich and don't want to help anyone but I don't care.

bros,no answer anybody, forgive them but dont give them space into your life, never.

All of una dey shout forgive forgive like say e easy

my advice to the person here is to follow his mind and if possible ask God for forgiveness and afterwards whatever he has to give you should give but you should not let them close to him because they're being close to being they will become a burden and by being a burden they will be distraction to his future plans moreover the siblings that are coming close will join back with the financial burdens he should watch and be careful

If you give them your hard earn money , then u don Bleep up !

SecretSpy666:
Greetings Nairalanders,
I want to seek for you peoples opinions regarding my family challenges.

I'm from a broken home. My parents divorced when I was a child of two years. I'm the only child from their union. My father and mother abandoned me and remarried to other spouse each. I passed through hell growing up with relatives who insulted me with all kinds of names and I was treated like a slave to their own children.

Because of public outcry about my dehumanizing treatment, my father came to village and took me to the city. It was from fry pan to fire experience as my father's new wife was maltreating me. At a point, my father asked me to leave his house that since my arrival, he don't have peace with his wife.

I packed to the house of a relative and work in a block industry to help myself. Most times, I slept in a CAC church close to the relative house as the two-room apartment is not enough for his family. My mother never care if I was alive. She never call me nor reply to letter I sent through someone to her. I continued working in the block industry and started a part time programme. I completed the part time programme and did my NYSC and master degree. I got a job with University of Ado Ekiti with the help of a course mate, managing myself now and surprisingly my mother and father started calling me often.

Both of them have 6 children each with their respective second spouse. Mother want his son to come and live with me, I refused and my father too have been requesting for financial assistance which I also refused. I don't want to have anything to do with both of them. My father's daughter recently called me to help her with school fees, I bluntly told her to ask her mother what she did to me and caught the call. Since then, she never call.

I'm alone and have just two friends. I don't have family. All of them calling now are just looking for what to get from me, not that they care about me. My mother never call me once to ask about my welfare even when I sent my phone number to her through her relative. I wrote WAEC, completed degree course before she started calling me and it is only to request for one thing or other. I'm planning to get married without telling them and build a separate family.

I dey vex for ur parents. If u forgive them, I go vex for u. Haha see cruelty.

OdenKelechi:
There's no forgiving any of them, especially the mother. Keep cutting them off. They all deserve it. Thunder fire them. It's not they want to associate with you cos you made it despite them abandoning you

bros done vex finish.... Be calming down.
See ehn.. When God favors you, he cause even your enemies to be at peace with you. Its the beginning of God's blessing in the life of the brother and they are trying to be at peace with him. To forgive is divine, he should forgive them but never let his guard down.
I

eyinjuege:
I must say you have done very well for yourself if your story is true. You've shown resilience, courage , determination to succeed despite all the odds against you.
Well done for that. Give yourself a pat on the back
With regards to your parents and their brood, stay far from them. You meant nothing to them in the past, and you mean nothing to them now. Your money may mean a lot to them though, so do not allow yourself to be used.
There are orphans who are living fine without any family.
Don't feel bad that you've refused their requests, afterall they never granted any of yours when you needed them in the past.
I would implore you to continue working hard and when you decide to marry, please marry someone who loves you and ready to help you grow further. Marry someone who is concerned about your welfare, who will be ready to stand by you through thick and thin. Do not let your partner pressurise you into getting close to your parents as they would be your downfall. You mean nothing to your biological parents unfortunately. Build your own family
I wish you the best.
Family are those who covered you from the rain and other elements, and those who you matter to.

Best advise, especially that downfall part.

SecretSpy666:
Greetings Nairalanders,
I want to seek for you peoples opinions regarding my family challenges.

I'm from a broken home. My parents divorced when I was a child of two years. I'm the only child from their union. My father and mother abandoned me and remarried to other spouse each. I passed through hell growing up with relatives who insulted me with all kinds of names and I was treated like a slave to their own children.

Because of public outcry about my dehumanizing treatment, my father came to village and took me to the city. It was from fry pan to fire experience as my father's new wife was maltreating me. At a point, my father asked me to leave his house that since my arrival, he don't have peace with his wife.

I packed to the house of a relative and work in a block industry to help myself. Most times, I slept in a CAC church close to the relative house as the two-room apartment is not enough for his family. My mother never care if I was alive. She never call me nor reply to letter I sent through someone to her. I continued working in the block industry and started a part time programme. I completed the part time programme and did my NYSC and master degree. I got a job with University of Ado Ekiti with the help of a course mate, managing myself now and surprisingly my mother and father started calling me often.

Both of them have 6 children each with their respective second spouse. Mother want his son to come and live with me, I refused and my father too have been requesting for financial assistance which I also refused. I don't want to have anything to do with both of them. My father's daughter recently called me to help her with school fees, I bluntly told her to ask her mother what she did to me and caught the call. Since then, she never call.

I'm alone and have just two friends. I don't have family. All of them calling now are just looking for what to get from me, not that they care about me. My mother never call me once to ask about my welfare even when I sent my phone number to her through her relative. I wrote WAEC, completed degree course before she started calling me and it is only to request for one thing or other. I'm planning to get married without telling them and build a separate family.

Forgive them for your own peace of mind..However, do not, I repeat, do not allow them to drain you in anyway...Always concentrate on your sanity, wellbeing and carreer progress...Notwithstanding, forgive them in your hearth..Forgiving them doesn't mean giving them money though