Good day guys i have a gf which i love so much until recently i didnt allow the love blind me.
When I first met this my gf she is very calm and humble if you put water in her mouth tell her bot to swallow it she wont so all these made me feel she is better than my ex until recently she started showing some attitudes, although she is alone no father no mother sge stays with a friend and her parent not that she is fatherless its just that her dad is irresponsible so i made up my mind to help her be a better person in life.
So along the lines as I was helping her sge started feeling its my responsibility to always do what her father could have done for her forgetting i have my own responsibility too.
I started seeing some signs in her when we stayed tigrther for a year at first we traveled for a friend's mother in-law burial i spent money to lodge us in hotel and to feed and to transport from lagos down to abeokuta to and fro for the both of us the total money I spent was about 50k, then when we got there we started preparing for the burial then she got dressed and she asked that what about money for make up I told her I don't have nothing on me again can't you take money from your pocket and just use it to do the make up do you want to kill me she flared up and was angry and told me she doesn't have any money on her, at the end of the day I don't know where she got money from she did the make up then after the event we were about going back to our hotel room then my friend asked may be I was with my ATM card I told him no but my gf has her card with her then I sent my gf account number to him to transfer money so he can withdraw it, so I got back to the hotel room I was playing game with my gf phone then message came in credit alert it appeared on her phone notification bar that the account was credited with 3k and the total was now 10k I felt bad and disappointed that she lied she had no money then I challenged her she told me its not her money but for some ones money then I scold her that why does she have to do that I thought we are meant for each other and not against each other where I lack you are to assist even if its a little I know you don't have much but Atleast then she uttered a sentence that she knows if she tells me she has money I would spend it lavishly because I give out money any how I felt disappointed by this statement. I felt bad that night I gave her money to go and get food and eat while I slept in anger then when we came back to lagos I called her attention to what she did and how her reaction has always been towards money that it made me feel she is with me because of what I was giving her then she got mad flared up and was screaming what sort of rubbish statement are my making that she is not after my money then I told her ok fine let live together for 6 month and don't expect any money from me she got mad and said its not possible that why would I date her and not take care of her she left my presence in anger and didn't talk to me for days she later came back to appologise that she is sorry

Dump her, she is not loyal! She is probably a gold digger.

Incase you don't know na me talk

it is their nature, they must get paid, it is called hoeing.

ebijimi7:
Good day guys i have a gf which i love so much until recently i didnt allow the love blind me.
When I first met this my gf she is very calm and humble if you put water in her mouth tell her bot to swallow it she wont so all these made me feel she is better than my ex until recently she started showing some attitudes, although she is alone no father no mother sge stays with a friend and her parent not that she is fatherless its just that her dad is irresponsible so i made up my mind to help her be a better person in life.
So along the lines as I was helping her sge started feeling its my responsibility to always do what her father could have done for her forgetting i have my own responsibility too.
I started seeing some signs in her when we stayed tigrther for a year at first we traveled for a friend's mother in-law burial i spent money to lodge us in hotel and to feed and to transport from lagos down to abeokuta to and fro for the both of us the total money I spent was about 50k, then when we got there we started preparing for the burial then she got dressed and she asked that what about money for make up I told her I don't have nothing on me again can't you take money from your pocket and just use it to do the make up do you want to kill me she flared up and was angry and told me she doesn't have any money on her, at the end of the day I don't know where she got money from she did the make up then after the event we were about going back to our hotel room then my friend asked may be I was with my ATM card I told him no but my gf has her card with her then I sent my gf account number to him to transfer money so he can withdraw it, so I got back to the hotel room I was playing game with my gf phone then message came in credit alert it appeared on her phone notification bar that the account was credited with 3k and the total was now 10k I felt bad and disappointed that she lied she had no money then I challenged her she told me its not her money but for some ones money then I scold her that why does she have to do that I thought we are meant for each other and not against each other where I lack you are to assist even if its a little I know you don't have much but Atleast then she uttered a sentence that she knows if she tells me she has money I would spend it lavishly because I give out money any how I felt disappointed by this statement. I felt bad that night I gave her money to go and get food and eat while I slept in anger then when we came back to lagos I called her attention to what she did and how her reaction has always been towards money that it made me feel she is with me because of what I was giving her then she got mad flared up and was screaming what sort of rubbish statement are my making that she is not after my money then I told her ok fine let live together for 6 month and don't expect any money from me she got mad and said its not possible that why would I date her and not take care of her she left my presence in anger and didn't talk to me for days she later came back to appologise that she is sorry

Hmmm,you will need to put her to real test to make sure she is not staying with you just because of cash( note she is 80 ℅ going to fail)act like you are very broke for 3 months,like even to feed dey very hard,pretend like you lost your job or money to armed robbers,check her reaction,for three months ooo,then use your head from the results

I really dont understand some guys walahi.


You know your gf has no responsible parents to cater for her needs, you saw these and went ahead to date her, didn't you know psychologically, she will see you as her daddy figure?

Second you didn't give her money, and you are now angry that someone is giving her money...what kind of wicked human being are you?

If you aren't ready to finance her then you give way to someone who is more financially bouyant than you.


You cannot just see problem and run into it and start complaining why the problem is a problem.

I'll only reply to sensible mentions

dingbang:
I really dont understand some guys walahi.


You know your gf has no responsible parents to cater for her needs, you saw these and went ahead to date her, didn't you know psychologically, she will see you as her daddy figure?

Second you didn't give her money, and you are now angry that someone is giving her money...what kind of wicked human being are you?

If you aren't ready to finance her then you give way to someone who is more financially bouyant than you.


You cannot just see problem and run into it and start complaining why the problem is a problem.

I'll only reply to sensible mentions

read and understand before you comment bro

Damn

You too need to understand each other more.. she still seem like a good girl and all you need do is always correct, caution and tame her..

Most ladies are like that but that doesn't make her a hoe.. it's just being selfish and you can help her do away with such habit because you two are in this together.. since she pointed out your lavish spending as why she hid her own from you, it is not something you should be mad at ( considering that she has only a little amount and she's being protective of it)..

Don't get it twisted love is a beautiful thing

ebijimi7:
Good day guys i have a gf which i love so much until recently i didnt allow the love blind me.
When I first met this my gf she is very calm and humble if you put water in her mouth tell her bot to swallow it she wont so all these made me feel she is better than my ex until recently she started showing some attitudes, although she is alone no father no mother sge stays with a friend and her parent not that she is fatherless its just that her dad is irresponsible so i made up my mind to help her be a better person in life.
So along the lines as I was helping her sge started feeling its my responsibility to always do what her father could have done for her forgetting i have my own responsibility too.
I started seeing some signs in her when we stayed tigrther for a year at first we traveled for a friend's mother in-law burial i spent money to lodge us in hotel and to feed and to transport from lagos down to abeokuta to and fro for the both of us the total money I spent was about 50k, then when we got there we started preparing for the burial then she got dressed and she asked that what about money for make up I told her I don't have nothing on me again can't you take money from your pocket and just use it to do the make up do you want to kill me she flared up and was angry and told me she doesn't have any money on her, at the end of the day I don't know where she got money from she did the make up then after the event we were about going back to our hotel room then my friend asked may be I was with my ATM card I told him no but my gf has her card with her then I sent my gf account number to him to transfer money so he can withdraw it, so I got back to the hotel room I was playing game with my gf phone then message came in credit alert it appeared on her phone notification bar that the account was credited with 3k and the total was now 10k I felt bad and disappointed that she lied she had no money then I challenged her she told me its not her money but for some ones money then I scold her that why does she have to do that I thought we are meant for each other and not against each other where I lack you are to assist even if its a little I know you don't have much but Atleast then she uttered a sentence that she knows if she tells me she has money I would spend it lavishly because I give out money any how I felt disappointed by this statement. I felt bad that night I gave her money to go and get food and eat while I slept in anger then when we came back to lagos I called her attention to what she did and how her reaction has always been towards money that it made me feel she is with me because of what I was giving her then she got mad flared up and was screaming what sort of rubbish statement are my making that she is not after my money then I told her ok fine let live together for 6 month and don't expect any money from me she got mad and said its not possible that why would I date her and not take care of her she left my presence in anger and didn't talk to me for days she later came back to appologise that she is sorry

She just wants money.
Sounds selfish to me

dingbang:
I really dont understand some guys walahi.


You know your gf has no responsible parents to cater for her needs, you saw these and went ahead to date her, didn't you know psychologically, she will see you as her daddy figure?

Second you didn't give her money, and you are now angry that someone is giving her money...what kind of wicked human being are you?

If you aren't ready to finance her then you give way to someone who is more financially bouyant than you.


You cannot just see problem and run into it and start complaining why the problem is a problem.

I'll only reply to sensible mentions

When U help someone out tho n they just want more n more even if they think U don't have it and they're hiding they're own...that's a new problem altogether.
That's wat I think tho

Missyford31:


When U help someone out tho n they just want more n more even if they think U don't have it and they're hiding they're own...that's a new problem altogether.
That's wat I think tho

he should have known that. At this age if I am going to meet a girl with no parents, I should be fully aware of the responsibilities that lies ahead.

I see nothing but a SIMP

Op is a verified SIMP

Arrrrrrrh

as from now on, don't ever take her serious. if she can't understand, skip her and pass.

Is she capable of taking care of herself for six months with the standard of living you have set. Think am again.
Don't make her think that you are tormenting her because she don't have.
Make up your mind if you are ready to be with her

She's doing retail ashawo

Soi forgives her and we continued dating
Then she did something annoying that I can take my mind of she fell ill and needed money to treat herself although she is working now so she had over 100k in her account and I asked her to take from her savings and take care of herself despite the discomfort she refused to take she said she doesn't want to touch the money because its for school so I. Was annoyed that t could you not take care of yourself not even me this time so I borrowed money and send to her before she wound herself for my neck then when she recovered I told her that if you die tiday that no eh in your account that you don't want to touch its the bank officials that would enjoy that money you don't take life serious at all
Another thing she did was her hair her hair looked unkept so I used money for my building project I've collected loan too so I was broke then I asked her that she should make her hair foe like 3 months my gf left her hair like that she when j challenged her again she said since I refuse to pay fir the hair she would leave it like that I'm the one that will be ashamed of her not her this statement broke me and was then I questioned her that why is she always expecting me to do everything for her Atleast she is working I'm not asking her to spend on me she should Atleast do things on her own once in a while that would have shown that she wants to do too but she can't do much instead on saying I should do everything for her
Another thing is that she has never cooked for me before neither has she washed my clothes but the day I asked her why don't you want to do these she said she can't do it because I've not paid her bride price she can never do that, I thought she was joking then one weekend she cane around I was washing she sat beside me she didn't even say anything like to assist me in washing neighbors were like what type of wife are you you can't even assist your bf in washing his clothes she went inside my room and I intentionally left my room scattered she went inside and slept on my bed unkept when I finished washing I had to come inside my room and tidy up everywhere on my own again she didn't even say let us do it together I felt bad that and is this who I want to marry she??

ebijimi7:
Good day guys i have a gf which i love so much until recently i didnt allow the love blind me.
When I first met this my gf she is very calm and humble if you put water in her mouth tell her bot to swallow it she wont so all these made me feel she is better than my ex until recently she started showing some attitudes, although she is alone no father no mother sge stays with a friend and her parent not that she is fatherless its just that her dad is irresponsible so i made up my mind to help her be a better person in life.
So along the lines as I was helping her sge started feeling its my responsibility to always do what her father could have done for her forgetting i have my own responsibility too.
I started seeing some signs in her when we stayed tigrther for a year at first we traveled for a friend's mother in-law burial i spent money to lodge us in hotel and to feed and to transport from lagos down to abeokuta to and fro for the both of us the total money I spent was about 50k, then when we got there we started preparing for the burial then she got dressed and she asked that what about money for make up I told her I don't have nothing on me again can't you take money from your pocket and just use it to do the make up do you want to kill me she flared up and was angry and told me she doesn't have any money on her, at the end of the day I don't know where she got money from she did the make up then after the event we were about going back to our hotel room then my friend asked may be I was with my ATM card I told him no but my gf has her card with her then I sent my gf account number to him to transfer money so he can withdraw it, so I got back to the hotel room I was playing game with my gf phone then message came in credit alert it appeared on her phone notification bar that the account was credited with 3k and the total was now 10k I felt bad and disappointed that she lied she had no money then I challenged her she told me its not her money but for some ones money then I scold her that why does she have to do that I thought we are meant for each other and not against each other where I lack you are to assist even if its a little I know you don't have much but Atleast then she uttered a sentence that she knows if she tells me she has money I would spend it lavishly because I give out money any how I felt disappointed by this statement. I felt bad that night I gave her money to go and get food and eat while I slept in anger then when we came back to lagos I called her attention to what she did and how her reaction has always been towards money that it made me feel she is with me because of what I was giving her then she got mad flared up and was screaming what sort of rubbish statement are my making that she is not after my money then I told her ok fine let live together for 6 month and don't expect any money from me she got mad and said its not possible that why would I date her and not take care of her she left my presence in anger and didn't talk to me for days she later came back to appologise that she is sorry

This guy, you know that girl does not have your best interest at heart, why are you still struggling to join more trouble to your troubles?

You know what you should do...and if you marry her, all the best then.

BornSnner9:
Damn

You too need to understand each other more.. she still seem like a good girl and all you need do is always correct, caution and tame her..

Most ladies are like that but that doesn't make her a hoe.. it's just being selfish and you can help her do away with such habit because you two are in this together.. since she pointed out your lavish spending as why she hid her own from you, it is not something you should be mad at ( considering that she has only a little amount and she's being protective of it)..

Don't get it twisted love is a beautiful thing

but if I waste more money on her its no lavish bro spare me that biko she is not my first gf and she's not the first I'm doing this to

ebijimi7:
but if I waste more money on her its no lavish bro spare me that biko she is not my first gf and she's not the first I'm doing this to

Ok

dingbang:
he should have known that. At this age if I am going to meet a girl with no parents, I should be fully aware of the responsibilities that lies ahead.

She still shouldn't be hiding her own money tho.
Either way I dunno much how it all works in naija really. Relationships stuff is so different

Missyford31:


She still shouldn't be hiding her own money tho.
Either way I dunno much how it all works in naija really. Relationships stuff is so different

its just natural for a woman to hide her money

ebijimi7:
Soi forgives her and we continued dating
Then she did something annoying that I can take my mind of she fell ill and needed money to treat herself although she is working now so she had over 100k in her account and I asked her to take from her savings and take care of herself despite the discomfort she refused to take she said she doesn't want to touch the money because its for school so I. Was annoyed that t could you not take care of yourself not even me this time so I borrowed money and send to her before she wound herself for my neck then when she recovered I told her that if you die tiday that no eh in your account that you don't want to touch its the bank officials that would enjoy that money you don't take life serious at all
Another thing she did was her hair her hair looked unkept so I used money for my building project I've collected loan too so I was broke then I asked her that she should make her hair foe like 3 months my gf left her hair like that she when j challenged her again she said since I refuse to pay fir the hair she would leave it like that I'm the one that will be ashamed of her not her this statement broke me and was then I questioned her that why is she always expecting me to do everything for her Atleast she is working I'm not asking her to spend on me she should Atleast do things on her own once in a while that would have shown that she wants to do too but she can't do much instead on saying I should do everything for her
Another thing is that she has never cooked for me before neither has she washed my clothes but the day I asked her why don't you want to do these she said she can't do it because I've not paid her bride price she can never do that, I thought she was joking then one weekend she cane around I was washing she sat beside me she didn't even say anything like to assist me in washing neighbors were like what type of wife are you you can't even assist your bf in washing his clothes she went inside my room and I intentionally left my room scattered she went inside and slept on my bed unkept when I finished washing I had to come inside my room and tidy up everywhere on my own again she didn't even say let us do it together I felt bad that and is this who I want to marry she??

If your story is true, alaye free her. Why use loan money to finance a girl that is already showing you signs of golddigging, eh?

E be like say bomb sef dey una head, we don't want to hear your story again, case closed. And please reedit your post, too many grammatical errors.

Incase you don't know na me talk

She's selfish, she finds it hard to even spend on herself while she's sick!
But she expecting you to give her money for her hair even when she knew you're broke seems like entitlement.

From your response above, you're not ready to take advise

Yet I find it difficult to make love to her she always gives me though time even place me on condition at times I can't tell her my pains to her because she judge me so quick and doesn't know how to encourage someone

MrTAnonymous:



If your story is true, alaye free her. Why use loan money to finance a girl that is already showing you signs of golddigging, eh?

E be like say bomb sef dey una head, we don't want to hear your story again, case closed. And please reedit your post, too many grammatical errors.

Incase you don't know na me talk

no bro I meant loan for the house I was building

ebijimi7:
Good day guys i have a gf which i love so much until recently i didnt allow the love blind me.
When I first met this my gf she is very calm and humble if you put water in her mouth tell her bot to swallow it she wont so all these made me feel she is better than my ex until recently she started showing some attitudes, although she is alone no father no mother sge stays with a friend and her parent not that she is fatherless its just that her dad is irresponsible so i made up my mind to help her be a better person in life.
So along the lines as I was helping her sge started feeling its my responsibility to always do what her father could have done for her forgetting i have my own responsibility too.
I started seeing some signs in her when we stayed tigrther for a year at first we traveled for a friend's mother in-law burial i spent money to lodge us in hotel and to feed and to transport from lagos down to abeokuta to and fro for the both of us the total money I spent was about 50k, then when we got there we started preparing for the burial then she got dressed and she asked that what about money for make up I told her I don't have nothing on me again can't you take money from your pocket and just use it to do the make up do you want to kill me she flared up and was angry and told me she doesn't have any money on her, at the end of the day I don't know where she got money from she did the make up then after the event we were about going back to our hotel room then my friend asked may be I was with my ATM card I told him no but my gf has her card with her then I sent my gf account number to him to transfer money so he can withdraw it, so I got back to the hotel room I was playing game with my gf phone then message came in credit alert it appeared on her phone notification bar that the account was credited with 3k and the total was now 10k I felt bad and disappointed that she lied she had no money then I challenged her she told me its not her money but for some ones money then I scold her that why does she have to do that I thought we are meant for each other and not against each other where I lack you are to assist even if its a little I know you don't have much but Atleast then she uttered a sentence that she knows if she tells me she has money I would spend it lavishly because I give out money any how I felt disappointed by this statement. I felt bad that night I gave her money to go and get food and eat while I slept in anger then when we came back to lagos I called her attention to what she did and how her reaction has always been towards money that it made me feel she is with me because of what I was giving her then she got mad flared up and was screaming what sort of rubbish statement are my making that she is not after my money then I told her ok fine let live together for 6 month and don't expect any money from me she got mad and said its not possible that why would I date her and not take care of her she left my presence in anger and didn't talk to me for days she later came back to appologise that she is sorry

lol....oga when you buying her you did not tell us o...so please kontinue paying.
Men will start relationship with money and when the woman fall for ur money you start complaining.

ebijimi7:
Yet I find it difficult to make love to her she always gives me though time even place me on condition at times I can't tell her my pains to her because she judge me so quick and doesn't know how to encourage someone

How old are you?

Incase you don't know na me talk

Missyford31:


She still shouldn't be hiding her own money tho.
Either way I dunno much how it all works in naija really. Relationships stuff is so different

God bless you abeg

ebijimi7:
no bro I meant loan for the house I was building

Oh okay, but for real you should leave the girl. From your story the girl still needs to grow and it is not your fault that she is acting that way, she hasn't evolved. She doesn't have your interest at heart, I don't think she is emotionally involved as you are and to make it worst she knows your weakness, she knows you can't leave her

Better grab your stuffs and leave her alone before it is too late to mend.

Incase you don't know na me talk

I no fit read wetin you write, I don already know say na woman matter but I go still advice you..



Take her back to the street, She belongs to the street!

1. She doesn't necessarily have to be romantically involved with you before offering you a helping hand with your chores.... could be a bad sign of someone not being supportive.

2. Finding it comfortable to lie on an unkempt bed is another sign of a dirty and untidy person.

3. Granted most women are naturally selfish, however, the selfishness should not be to the extreme and extent of one's health. If she can't spend for her own self neither will she do it for you in the day of trouble. There are women that help their guys even if they know the guy doesn't need - such women are priceless!

4. Ability to go about with unkempt hair with the hope of emotionally traumatizing you is a red flag. Chances are she'll one day disrespect and embarrass you in public.

5. Generosity is not about how much is given but the heart involved. Assess her, and don't be afraid to let her go. She'll wear, and weather you out.

6. If you can't get emotional support and encouraging words from who is supposed to be your confidant and a shoulder to lean on Marriage is a lifetime project, please don't joke with your peace of mind.

Watch her pattern, as that's what you will be getting married to eventually...

ebijimi7:
God bless you abeg

God bless U too