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Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by rabiudon: 7:03am On Sep 30, 2020
Sometime around year 2004, I was 20 then. I came back late from a party around 10pm; met my dad in the living room. He was fuming and he asked me to return to where I was coming from. Omo, sharpaly I wear my timberland boot make I return to the party. Na mumsy say “you’re supposed to apologize”. Me that I left the party when it was just starting. I sha beg am but he seized my car key and phone. I didn’t ask for it back. After some days, he returned them. That was the last time he scolded me.

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Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by Bobyro: 7:08am On Sep 30, 2020
Righteousness89:
Your Father is your Father! He can correct as he wants !
My GrandFather Dealt with his sons who Where Married..
More so when you are still under his Roof!
Man this is wrong. Religion has blinded you

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Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by ModestGal(f): 7:10am On Sep 30, 2020
Righteousness89:

It's a Crime for Your Father to Discipline you because your 26 yrs?
I pity the dumb people that like your posts. You are extremely unintelligent.

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Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by ModestGal(f): 7:10am On Sep 30, 2020
Bobyro:

Man this is wrong. Religion has blinded you
He's a total fool

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Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by GMBuhari: 7:10am On Sep 30, 2020
let that madness be one bag of rice, one drum of oil and one pack of indomie + provisions and a i love you daddy letter plus notification of renting a room self con in another city

Richy4:
Display a little madness one day and it will stop
mchwwwww!!!

And yes indeed he's being bullied
Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by GMBuhari: 7:11am On Sep 30, 2020
that's not religion , that's culture #AfricanMentality

Bobyro:

Man this is wrong. Religion has blinded you
Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by ModestGal(f): 7:12am On Sep 30, 2020
rabiudon:
Sometime around year 2004, I was 20 then. I came back late from a party around 10pm; met my dad in the living room. He was fuming and he asked me to return to where I was coming from. Omo, sharpaly I wear my timberland boot make I return to the party. Na mumsy say “you’re supposed to apologize”. Me that I left the party when it was just starting. I sha beg am but he seized my car key and phone. I didn’t ask for it back. After some days, he returned them. That was the last time he scolded me.
Lol, you be crazy man.
I like that, I'd do thesame thing, I was never a Simp ad well. I have my own house where I stay, I can't ever stay with parents. They can make you become depressed
Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by Dizzyrascal(m): 7:12am On Sep 30, 2020
Righteousness89:
Your Father is your Father! He can correct as he wants !
My GrandFather Dealt with his sons who Where Married..
More so when you are still under his Roof!
Mr righteousness, am a big supporter of yours but I have to disagree with you on this one. Beating a 26yr old man should be regarded as a crime. If not for our good old Nigeria, he ought to be a father himself with a family of his own and handling his responsibilities. The fact that he cannot should not make his father maltreat him. He deserves some respect if not for anything but because he is an adult.

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Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by GMBuhari: 7:13am On Sep 30, 2020
Well it sounds like you come from a rich bg if you already have a car by 20

Butter parents no dey flog pikin

grin grin grin grin grin grin grin

rabiudon:
Sometime around year 2004, I was 20 then. I came back late from a party around 10pm; met my dad in the living room. He was fuming and he asked me to return to where I was coming from. Omo, sharpaly I wear my timberland boot make I return to the party. Na mumsy say “you’re supposed to apologize”. Me that I left the party when it was just starting. I sha beg am but he seized my car key and phone. I didn’t ask for it back. After some days, he returned them. That was the last time he scolded me.

Unless you made the story up

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Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by ModestGal(f): 7:16am On Sep 30, 2020
TinubuGoQuench:


People who click like on your post are not thoroughly educated. You're just a hypocrite who hide behind a faceless forum to brainwash gullible Nairalanders
Infact bro, I don't understand at all. It makes me wonder if we have so much dumb people on nl.

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Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by Nobody: 7:19am On Sep 30, 2020
OrluFemmeKing:


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Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by ReactGA: 7:20am On Sep 30, 2020
Lawsaite:

You lost all my respect today.
If you are a good father, then you'd know that they are other ways to discipline than constantly using a whip, worse still on someone who has come of a reasonable age.
I was a victim and let me tell you, you certainly have no idea what it feels like.

To me if you're constantly whipping your child like an animal, it tells a lot about the upbringing you gave the child.
I know and have seen responsible parents, with stellar children.

Exactly what I wanted to say. There are so many ways to discipline that beating. Imagine the father told him when he got home and wants to eat to go back to where is he's coming from to eat. Won't that send the simple message to him of not coming late again??

@Righteousness89 u'v lost so many people's respect already.

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Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by yash33: 7:23am On Sep 30, 2020
Don't do anything foolish. At 26 you are a man. Sit down with him and talk about. He should open up.
Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by Nobody: 7:24am On Sep 30, 2020
Timiblanko:




Thanks you very much ma....

More grace
Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by Nobody: 7:25am On Sep 30, 2020
Timiblanko:




Thanks you very much ma....

More grace
thanks...I am a male by the way
Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by teemy(m): 7:26am On Sep 30, 2020
@situationreport, your dad still ass whooping you at age 26 is definitely wrong as a method that failed after two decades to yield 'expected results' should have long been discarded.

In the same sentence where I condemned your dad's actions, I also gave you your own part of the blame as 'you don't hear word' and that is putting it mildly. Imagine the full text of what I really wanted to say to you.

One thing is clear, dad loves you but only keeps using tough love as they call it to express it. Take a guess of what could have happened if something like being picked up by randy SARS officials or hooked on the midst of a cult war had happened while you were trying to hail your teams that night. It would put stress on him. To him, any act of fun would look unserious considering you still went to spend money while yet to earn any.

If you want a man's respect, act like one. There is no excuse in success, you just have to make it. True, the economy is harsh but if you still put yourself under by collecting handouts, you have to live by the rules he gives else move out. A 26 year old should not be caned and a 26 year old should have his own roof.

Start by getting a job and be serious with it. While promising yourself it will never happen again, use the caning event as fuel for your zeal and strive to make it in life instead of feeling sorry for yourself. There are people you personally know that make legit money while working for themselves, be humble and approach them.

About your father, dealing with the issue demands confronting him like a man should. Tell him to talk to you if he has issues with you rather than resorting otherwise. You also will have to man up to responsibilities in the house while still a tenant there. I would like to add, never make the mistake of giving your dad a shove. I repeat, never.

There will surely be someone he compares you with, mention that name and say you will surely become higher than that person as you know yourself not to be a failure and with time, you will become a son he will be proud to show off in public. Then say you would not take being caned again. If he feels you are too out of his way, he has the right to send you out of his house but at the same time, you will work on your excesses.

With time, things will surely change and I hope you will take the right and necessary steps on the path to success. Failure has lots of excuses at hand.

Wishing you well - Teemy

P.S I didn't write the above without errors at the first try, I had to go back to correct errors a few times. That is what you will do for excellence to be yours.

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Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by Askme2020(m): 7:26am On Sep 30, 2020
Righteousness89:


you are Speaking English..
When you Become a father you will understand better the Importance of Discipline..
so flogging implying importance of Discipline?

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Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by Deborah98(f): 7:27am On Sep 30, 2020
I thought I was alone,my dad still beats me at my age...am not even up to 22 sounds weird right...for me ooooh I think and feel he's only trying to tell me he's my father,and he has the right to discipline me...I just came across your post now so I will be suggesting you find something doing or if possible just leave the house for sometime...

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Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by santakris(m): 7:29am On Sep 30, 2020
yomi007k:
Did he ever warn you of late night movement?

If you get hit by a car or arrested, will you not push the financial burden onto them.

It is his house and you will have to live by his rules. If you want your freedom go and get your own place. By then, you will know that even FRERDOM comes with a PRICE.

That's how life goes.

Most sensible advice so far. I believe he had warned you severally but you refused to disclose that in your write-up.

Abide by his rules and you will not regret it in your life. What kind of stu.pid game were you watching. What of if police raided the place and you were arrested and tagged a robber? So many evils are associated with late night movement.

I'm lazy at typing I wish I have your phone number and talk some sense into you.
Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by KosiGee(m): 7:31am On Sep 30, 2020
light099:
Seems your dad is a perpetual ass whooper and since you're not yet making him feel proud to be a father, by travelling down home in a sleek car, perhaps on some weekends and dropping fat envelope in his hands, the only other way he feels like a father is by whooping your ass.

Like people say, age is just a number, your parents start to regard you as an adult, the moment you're able to survive on your own and they can live off on you.
If you're 50 years old still living under your parents and also living off them, then you're still a kid to them anytime any day, and your sorry ass can be whooped real bad, if situation warrants it. You don't amount to shiit to them, and they can fvck you up big time, if you trespass.
Since, you're yet to clock the criteria of an adult, the only choice left is to continue enjoying the ass whooping, while you work hard in order to gather enough escape velocity to break away from all the gravity of joblessness, grounding your ass in your parents' house.



cheesy cheesy grin grin grin grin grin

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Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by LINTUNE(m): 7:35am On Sep 30, 2020
Omihanifa:
You are finished shocked shocked shocked shocked

If you don't leave that house ASAP, it will get to a stage that he will be chaining you down for days for disobeying him
guy as arrogant as this sound, nod ur dd on the nose any time he tries to beat u again,bro thnk me later, he will understand that u are now an adolescent and not a teenger
Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by kherlly(m): 7:37am On Sep 30, 2020
Hey bro calm down


At that age my dad still flog me so no big deal and I was working that period


Just do things the way he wants to avoid that and with time he will definitely stop.

Relocating is also good but who will you stay with? What bout job? Nobody will want a jobless someone to stay with him or her without lil contribution in this economy of ours.


May God give you the wisdom needed.
Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by KayCee92(m): 7:38am On Sep 30, 2020
franugo:


I am the stones that the builders refused....

LOL...You also watched grin grin
Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by ModestGal(f): 7:39am On Sep 30, 2020
DenreleDave:


Exactly sir.. So far he is under dem
People like you are the reason I think Nigeria may never grow. We just have too many dumb people.

Violence is violence, to young or old, wife or husband, maid or child, beating someone suddenly without the person expecting it can lead to shock which would send the person to his/her early grave. But Africans are just too dumb to understand the demerits of bullying and violence.

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Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by DenreleDave(m): 7:42am On Sep 30, 2020
ModestGal:

People like you are the reason I think Nigeria may never grow. We just have too many dumb people.

Violence is violence, to young or old, wife or husband, maid or child, [b]beating someone suddenly without the person [/b]expecting it can lead to shock which would send the person to his/her early grave. But Africans are just too dumb to understand the demerits of bullying and violence.


Ur parents are africans too... Tell them this not me.. I am not ur parents..

If a child knows that his parents want to beat him, wunt he run?

My own late grandmother, whenever she Wana to beat us, she will let us sleep..

In. The midnight, she will wake us up with slippers, broom or cane..

U can't just take That our of African parents
Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by Kingzeez10: 7:44am On Sep 30, 2020
Righteousness89:
Your Father is your Father! He can correct as he wants !
My GrandFather Dealt with his sons who Where Married..
More so when you are still under his Roof!
Na people wey dey dash you likes i blame

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Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by gregyboy(m): 7:45am On Sep 30, 2020
Righteousness89:


you are Speaking English..
When you Become a father you will understand better the Importance of Discipline..

Nonsense talk preacher man, when you become a father you will understand

At 18 you should already let your son finds is part to life

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Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by gees101(m): 7:46am On Sep 30, 2020
well okro nor dey tall pass him owner and u still dey stay ur pops house, just show small madness next time, nor touch ur papa oh but for every one stroke him give u , find something break for house weh go pain am
he flog u one , u break TV
he flog u another, you break window
he flog u another, you break dinning table
he flog u again, you follow up with him car windscreens
as long as u nor give up to break something, ur dad go give up to flog you
if him tell u to leave his house, u too pursue am go him papa house
Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by ModestGal(f): 7:48am On Sep 30, 2020
DenreleDave:



Ur parents are africans too... Tell them this not me.. I am not ur parents..

If a child knows that his parents want to beat him, wunt he run?

My own late grandmother, whenever she Wana to beat us, she will let us sleep..

In. The midnight, she will wake us up with slippers, broom or cane..

U can't just take That our of African parents
Look at you, so your own solution is that the Op should have ran away, and because your grandfather/grandmother used to beat you with slippers when you were 20, then its normal. I can't believe I share thesame country with someone who reason the way you do, supporting violence, abuse, bullying just because your grandparents did that to you.

How will someone like you treat a Maid? If you support treating a grown up child this way?

I'm sure you will be waking your maid up with cold water. What is wrong is wrong
Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by Nobody: 7:50am On Sep 30, 2020
sad..
Acidosis:
If you were my child, I'll also whoop your arse until you cry like a baby. Don't take stup!d risks in another man's home. It is very very unfair.

If you were in my area last night, you'll probably be cooling off in SARS or DSS cell this minute. Some cult boys decided to count scores last night and SARS ensured they cleared the entire neighborhood. Of course, innocent ones like you who went to "watch match late in the night" were arrested.

Don't put your parents and guardians through unecessary fear and trauma. If anything happens to you, the world will blame your father.
Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by gregyboy(m): 7:50am On Sep 30, 2020
Acidosis:
If you were my child, I'll also whoop your arse until you cry like a baby. Don't take stup!d risks in another man's home. It is very very unfair.

If you were in my area last night, you'll probably be cooling off in SARS or DSS cell this minute. Some cult boys decided to count scores last night and SARS ensured they cleared the entire neighborhood. Of course, innocent ones like you who went to "watch match late in the night" were arrested.

Don't put your parents and guardians through unecessary fear and trauma. If anything happens to you, the world will blame your father.

What are you saying, make e nor go watch match because sars go raid

Too much weedkings these days in the street

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Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by nams77: 7:51am On Sep 30, 2020
ignis:
Please drop your Dad's contact number so we can call him and tell him to stop flogging you.
Are you serious? grin

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