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Righteousness89:

My Dad Disciplined me very well..

No wonder there are so many mumu(s) in the church. They are already preconditioned from home to be docile so they can be thoroughly exploited and abused by their clergies and prophets.

Ofcourse it's morally wrong ot kill another. But wait, didn't i mention a father should go to jail if he kills his ward in the name of indiscipline? Why bring up a point that i already addressed? Second bolded. What condescension! You will arrest me for flogging my child? That's quite funny. Maybe after you arrest me you can take over the responsibility of taking care of the kid, maybe the government can join in too. What do i care what happens in Zimbabwe? We were talking about a parent flogging his/her ward as a means of correction, you are bringing up flogging at schools.Such a shame. Why are you all over the place? For someone that considers himself civilized enough to arrest a father for flogging his child you are lacking in the ability to make stay on course in an argument.

edoairways:
I don't need to there neither did I justify the actions of the victim however it is absurd. Now you said whose school of thought as to whether it is absurd to flog a child right? Is it morally right to kill or does that have a school of thought?. If need be and you child report me for flogging, I will not only arrest you, I will ensure that you are jailed for domestic violence. Just of recent, Zimbabwe or whatever name they call such country banned schools from flogging.

gees101:
22 and u be girl ,then u cum stubborn join , Aunty u qualify for proper beating, u never reach stage of freedom, in fact u nor go get freedom sef, because after ur dad na ur husband hand u go enter,but ur hubby nor go beat u nor fear

lolzzzzz not as you think uncle, he's protecting me ooooh,am not stubborn but am somehow not an easy going type...

U no go change am for am!! Abi u no get friends way dey stay on der own make u go stay with??

rabiudon:
Sometime around year 2004, I was 20 then. I came back late from a party around 10pm; met my dad in the living room. He was fuming and he asked me to return to where I was coming from. Omo, sharpaly I wear my timberland boot make I return to the party. Na mumsy say “you’re supposed to apologize”. Me that I left the party when it was just starting. I sha beg am but he seized my car key and phone. I didn’t ask for it back. After some days, he returned them. That was the last time he scolded me.

You're just like me lol..act like you don't give a Bleep

Acidosis:
I agree. Using the word 'flog' on a grown man is out of place.


Let's just hope that his father hasn't exhausted all the options (praying, talking, etc.) on him.


When you remember that all the cult boys in our society today came from a home, you'll understand the frustration some parents go through.

Still doesn't justify an assault. If an adult refuses to listen, you leave him alone. It's called respect of Fundamental Human Rights.

benji93:
Ofcourse it's morally wrong ot kill another. But wait, didn't i mention a father should go to jail if he kills his ward in the name of indiscipline? Why bring up a point that i already addressed? Second bolded. What condescension! You will arrest me for flogging my child? That's quite funny. Maybe after you arrest me you can take over the responsibility of taking care of the kid, maybe the government can join in too. What do i care what happens in Zimbabwe? We were talking about a parent flogging his/her ward as a means of correction, you are bringing up flogging at schools.Such a shame. Why are you all over the place? [b]For someone that considers himself civilized enough to arrest a father for flogging his child you are lacking in the ability to make stay on course in an [/b]argument.

Since Zimbabwe government restricted teachers from flogging students,in no distance time they will extend to household and gradually other countries will copy them. I only cited Zimbabwe as an illustration. Now back to the question, a person above 18 years is an adult. @ bolded, if only you comprehend and read what I said earlier on, you would know that am not the victim rather an investigator. Such a shame that you couldn't digest all I said rather you misquoted my view.

Deborah98:
lolzzzzz not as you think uncle, he's protecting me ooooh,am not stubborn but am somehow not an easy going type...

why u wan confuse me with English ¿ u nor stubborn and u somehow nor be easy going type? aunty u wahala full basket

oyatz:
You need a good lady to marry , preferably between 27-30yrs.
This will help you greatly in making great achievements on record time.

That's a wrong thing to say bro.

Righteousness89:
you are Speaking English..
When you Become a father you will understand better the Importance of Discipline..

Laughing in Swahili. Discipline is flogging a 26 year old man like a small child? Is that what your dad does to you?

Acidosis:
If you were my child, I'll also whoop your arse until you cry like a baby. Don't take stup!d risks in another man's home. It is very very unfair.

If you were in my area last night, you'll probably be cooling off in SARS or DSS cell this minute. Some cult boys decided to count scores last night and SARS ensured they cleared the entire neighborhood. Of course, innocent ones like you who went to "watch match late in the night" were arrested.

Don't put your parents and guardians through unecessary fear and trauma. If anything happens to you, the world will blame your father.

Not enough reason to treat a grown man like a little child. There are many other ways to discipline and pass the message across. Beside we have heard of lots of people who have gotten into one trouble or the other right inside their houses through no fault of theirs.

mrblessed:
What do you benefit cancelling the comment of someone just because it doesn't sit well with you? This graveyard has become a stronghold for people who can't accept divergent or conflicting views without throwing tantrum. Note that the correct rendering of this sentence is: "If I were your father, I will cane you for uttering this."

Laughing in Swahili..... Please, told him...

Lawsaite:
My dad did oo. We never really had a father/son relationship, courtesy of his wife

Weakling of a man....

Karleb:
So many people here cheering a dad flogging a 26yr old guy would change tone if OP were a girl.

Na so. I don't like insulting people, if not, I have words for them....

mariahAngel:
Forgive your dad eh?
He loves you...even though he shows it in a very harsh way.
If you have a friend living alone, you can go squat with him while you look for something to do to sustain yourself.

Very funny way of showing love....

Righteousness89:
It's a Crime for Your Father to Discipline you because your 26 yrs?

No it is not. It is the method of disciplining that is.

Righteousness89:
My Sister no Sane Father will do anyhow to his son!
If something happens to a child under you Roof , who will bare the Cost?

The days are Evil! Parents could be Hypertensive for that..

What he would have done is to communicate with his parents..

Just as the dad would have better handled the situation by communicating with his grown son

Ishilove:
And what stops his parents from communicating with him? If the child is being foolish, must the parents also be foolish?

Abeg ask am. According to some people, communication is a one way street....

Richy4:
I'm so loving you already u deserve daddy's hug..

Really?..

Kweensavvy:
Still doesn't justify an assault. If an adult refuses to listen, you leave him alone. It's called respect of Fundamental Human Rights.

Okay

situationreport:
Please is there anyone else experiencing what I'm passing through now, because it's making me sad and depressed I can't believe my dad still whips me at my age.. I don't want to confront him because, he's still my father even though I feel gutted for his actions

Yesterday I went to watch liverpool vs Arsenal match in a viewing center, and came back late at night by 9:55 pm, As soon as I came in, he was still awake in the parlor, what he did next was to use the cain he hid to start whipping me...i think is because I'm still living with him, at my age with no meaningful contribution right now, that's why

I have no where to go to, It seems I'm now a burden to them in our house...because I 'm currently jobless now and unemployed for six months now, due to this pandemic... I was initially working in the hospitality industry as a waiter, but was laid off at the beginning of the covid-19 pandemic, ever since then things have gone from bad to worse for me..... I'm broke to hell at the moment

I'm seriously depressed, I just wish I could relocate far away and look for something else to do, and fix my life back, but no where to go, I don't have anyone to help... � May God forgive me if I can't bear this anymore....

Any certificate? If yes which one? If no you can start somewhere,may be get a factory work that can pay you 25k,save up and learn a skill and move on with your life.

What the heck! I knew you were not OP from the beginning.I thought you had different monikers, cos i don't understand why this is an argument. Why are fiddling with trivial aspects of this back and forth. Ofcourse it's easier drive this argument by assuming you are the complainant. It helps keep this in perspective. It's quite disingenuous to argue the matter of who i am referring to. Did you call yourself an Investigator? Investigator who? Your argument regarding Zimbabwe doesn't fly, i'm afraid. What does "in no distant time" mean?. Mr predictor, talking like some political/social genius.You seem to know a lot about how policies work or come into effect. The government needs people like you. Get out of here ok. You are playing with phrases that are out of perspective, and in this case your "no distance time" is more or less an exaggeration. You have no idea if it'll ever be done, or if it will be, when? Stop rambling please. Stick to the subject. If you cannot, move on to something else that needs your time.

edoairways:
Since Zimbabwe government restricted teachers from flogging students,in no distance time they will extend to household and gradually other countries will copy them. I only cited Zimbabwe as an illustration. Now back to the question, a person above 18 years is an adult. @ bolded, if only you comprehend and read what I said earlier on, you would know that am not the victim rather an investigator. Such a shame that you couldn't digest all I said rather you misquoted my view.

First, I want to thank you for finding the courage to write this. Someone else would have kept quiet in heavy depression which might ultimately lead to taking the worst decision, suicide.
I want to encourage you to approach those who have the ears of your dad to intervene on ur behalf. Obviously it is beyond ur mum. Then, strive to get employed again, perhaps that will give him enough reasons to see you as a true adult who should be accorded some measure of respect.
However, at no time should u think stupid or get depressed over it.
The Lord will help you

light099:
Seems your dad is a perpetual ass whooper and since you're not yet making him feel proud to be a father, by travelling down home in a sleek car, perhaps on some weekends and dropping fat envelope in his hands, the only other way he feels like a father is by whooping your ass.

Like people say, age is just a number, your parents start to regard you as an adult, the moment you're able to survive on your own and they can live off on you.
If you're 50 years old still living under your parents and also living off them, then you're still a kid to them anytime any day, and your sorry ass can be whooped real bad, if situation warrants it. You don't amount to shiit to them, and they can fvck you up big time, if you trespass.
Since, you're yet to clock the criteria of an adult, the only choice left is to continue enjoying the ass whooping, while you work hard in order to gather enough escape velocity to break away from all the gravity of joblessness, grounding your ass in your parents' house.

poor ppl mentality..most guys frim very wealyhy homes stay thier parents, till they marry, go and nake reasearchw about it, it is when u and ur family is leaving in one room or a cery small apartment that u start feeling uncomfortable leaving with them, even at age 18..

benji93:
What the heck! I knew you were not OP from the beginning.I thought you had different monikers, cos i don't understand why this is an argument. Why are fiddling with trivial aspects of this back and forth. Ofcourse it's easier drive this argument by assuming you are the complainant. It helps keep this in perspective. It's quite disingenuous to argue the matter of who i am referring to. Did you call yourself an Investigator? Investigator who? Your argument regarding Zimbabwe doesn't fly, i'm afraid. What does "in no distant time" mean?. Mr predictor, talking like some political/social genius.You seem to know a lot about how policies work or come into effect. The government needs people like you. Get out of here ok. You are playing with phrases that are out of perspective, and in this case your "no distance time" is more or less an exaggeration. You have no idea if it'll ever be done, or if it will be, when? Stop rambling please. Stick to the subject. If you cannot, move on to something else that needs your time.

is you that deviating from the subject by passing the blame on me. If I hadn't draw your attention, you were already thinking that I was the victim based on your earlier narratives. I cited Zimbabwe because of the issue of discpline, this aligns with my assertion on why flogging is archaic. You don't flog an adult simply because he or she disobeys rather you teach such adult to be responsible. The victim may be at fault but it doesn't warrant flogging. And yes I still main my stand on arresting any who complain of beating especially from a parent.

What Nonsense. I quoted you first. I suppose i didn't know you are not the OP then. . I beg just go and do something else you are good at.

edoairways:
is you that deviating from the subject by passing the blame on me. If I hadn't draw your attention, you were already thinking that I was the victim based on your earlier narratives. I cited Zimbabwe because of the issue of discpline, this aligns with my assertion on why flogging is archaic. You don't flog an adult simply because he or she disobeys rather you teach such adult to be responsible. The victim may be at fault but it doesn't warrant flogging. And yes I still main my stand on arresting any who complain of beating especially from a parent.

benji93:
What Nonsense. I quoted you first. I suppose i didn't know you are not the OP then. . I beg just go and do something else you are good at.

One love

U Sabi lie ooo

Timiblanko:
Finally Nairalanders I think someone want to destroy this guys reputation by getting hold of his account...


But if eventually you are the one typing all this after all persuasion from people including wise people, then you need Christ that you preach always....

Remember the saying "Character is like smoke and can't be hidden forever?"
That's what's happening here, no one has gotten hold of his account.

One thing I learn here is: he's full of pride to accept he's wrong.
He's the ALL RIGHTEOUSNESS one

KayCee92:
LOL...You also watched

Of course... Its a lovely watch

Righteousness89:
Your Father is your Father! He can correct as he wants !
My GrandFather Dealt with his sons who Where Married..
More so when you are still under his Roof!

A very disturbing thing to write. You and the 21 people that liked your post must be joking.