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Re: What Is It That You Learned The Hard Way In Life? by tobechi74: 9:36am On Oct 07, 2020 |
Monogamy is not for everyone one. Most are polygamous in nature. Forcing them into monogamy make them unfulfilled. Cheating is inevitable Marriage is an individual choice and not a collective one. The government has no business regulating how I use my genital. It is mine and mine alone. I decide who I choose to get married to . I can decide to share it with a single person or a married person. It is my freedom to choose to be a celibate or be married. While married, I decide with my partner whether to make it open relationship or monogamy. Marriage is not for everyone. There are people who are happier single. I mean those who are do introverted that they cannot tolerate a very long time without feeling drained. There are people who prefer long distance relationship with few visits and frequent absence rather than continued presence. those whose high attention sexual urge cannot be satisfied by any one individual. There are others who dislike the boredom of sticking to one partner scares the hell out of them. Variety is the spice of life.The fun of experimenting with various sizes and types thrills them. There are yet another group whose need for independence and freedom makes them dislike the idea of consulting with another before making decision. There is another group that love to be in motion. They wake up one morning and decide to relocate to another state only to explore another culture the next year. Traveling is their hobby and getting married with kids hinders that . Settling down is like a death trap. Flowing water is cleaner. Stagnant water attracts mosquitoes and other microorganism. Human needs are various. the concept of getting married does not fit into their ideal future. They are better off single or in an open relationship. imposing monogamy marriage on them will choke them. Their partner and children would suffer . Cheating is bound to occur. The fact that cheating still exist means we should question the effectiveness of monogamy and possibility of open marriage. Investment experts would advice you never to put all your eggs in one basket to mitigate against risk. Economic expert suggest diversification and not depending on only crude oil. Why don’t we Apply the same analogy to our own emotional life. Risk is mitigated when we stop expecting one person to be our confident, sexual satisfier ,friend, mother of children etc. Can we consider open marriage and celibacy as alternative to monogamy 4 Likes |
Re: What Is It That You Learned The Hard Way In Life? by Nerdu(m): 9:44am On Oct 07, 2020 |
No be everybody wey call you "My gy" be your gy..... There is always another circle in your circle. 5 Likes |
Re: What Is It That You Learned The Hard Way In Life? by Akinbahm(m): 10:01am On Oct 07, 2020 |
Connected1: This is a short sentence but baba it covers everything especially @ the bolded bro... Baba, I award you this below Trophy.
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Re: What Is It That You Learned The Hard Way In Life? by Gabe427: 10:57am On Oct 07, 2020 |
GreenDee: I was going to reply your mention but then I was like... tommorow I would. |
Re: What Is It That You Learned The Hard Way In Life? by GreenDee(f): 11:48am On Oct 07, 2020 |
Gabe427:lmao..Omo your own worse oo |
Re: What Is It That You Learned The Hard Way In Life? by Papertrail11(m): 12:24pm On Oct 07, 2020 |
JIMMY1393: One man Mopol |
Re: What Is It That You Learned The Hard Way In Life? by Papertrail11(m): 12:28pm On Oct 07, 2020 |
-There are some risk in life you have to learn alone -Keep your ideas to yourself even away from family sometimes -Learn to chop your wins on a low -If you have money in NG, keep a low profile so you rest of mind. -Love is for sale -Never beg anyone to be in your life 5 Likes |
Re: What Is It That You Learned The Hard Way In Life? by JIMMY1393: 12:59pm On Oct 07, 2020 |
dukeprince50: @ the bolded.... literally the best way to summarize what I meant...wise words |
Re: What Is It That You Learned The Hard Way In Life? by JIMMY1393: 1:04pm On Oct 07, 2020 |
Papertrail11: Yessir |
Re: What Is It That You Learned The Hard Way In Life? by Lazykulture: 1:41pm On Oct 07, 2020 |
Age does not define maturity.
You can never please people.
U dont know the value of something till u loose it.
Dont treat someone as a priority when the person treats u as an option. |
Re: What Is It That You Learned The Hard Way In Life? by Nobody: 5:48pm On Oct 07, 2020 |
Zzor:shey you don finally chop ban now your body go calm down attention seeking Dumblina |
Re: What Is It That You Learned The Hard Way In Life? by ReluctantAdult(m): 5:56pm On Oct 07, 2020 |
The higher you rise, the harder the crash |
Re: What Is It That You Learned The Hard Way In Life? by placeofallure(f): 6:17pm On Oct 07, 2020 |
Never to attempt a paper without reading the instructions. Way back in the University, there's this 300 level core course I was to sit for. From the past questions we've seen, it's usually 3 questions and you would be required to do 2. Now, I was one of the best in my department, I was more than ready for the paper. As I took the question paper, I just studied the 3 questions and picked the 2 I was most comfortable doing. I settled for number 2 and 3. I did it with all vigour and zest, then submitted. I was waiting outside for my friends to finish. It took them a while. They came out of the hall and we were exchanging some banter on the just concluded paper, I wanted to show them how I did it. As I held up the paper to say something, behold the instruction was staring back at me..... Attempt question 1 and any other one!!!! Choi! I quickly rushed back in to see if I could be allowed to correct my error, I was denied even though the paper was still ongoing. Then I resorted to begging the lecturer on subsequent days to just allow me do number 1, he refused. This is a lecturer that was like my godfather. He never begins lectures without first asking after me. That was his way of ensuring I wasn't missing class. I was handed over to him since my 100 level by my big sister's friend and he has since been responsible for me. People thought we had an affair but we didn't. He was too serious minded. I carried the course over. He gave me 39 in that paper, pass mark was 40. Funny enough, I wasn't angry at him. After sulking initially, I accepted his decision. We need upright men. Our friendship continued and he even ensured he supervised my project. His refusal to budge taught me a big lesson I'd never forget. 2 Likes |
Re: What Is It That You Learned The Hard Way In Life? by Nobody: 6:35pm On Oct 07, 2020 |
Descortes:But how is that possible?, Her account is still active |
Re: What Is It That You Learned The Hard Way In Life? by Gabe427: 7:14pm On Oct 07, 2020 |
GreenDee: it is what it is the lockdown really showed me my issues and we growing and getting better |
Re: What Is It That You Learned The Hard Way In Life? by Gabe427: 7:16pm On Oct 07, 2020 |
GreenDee: |
Re: What Is It That You Learned The Hard Way In Life? by GreenDee(f): 7:21pm On Oct 07, 2020 |
Gabe427:lol..how do you now deal.with it. |
Re: What Is It That You Learned The Hard Way In Life? by Nobody: 8:30pm On Oct 07, 2020 |
Xoly:yeah you can still be active and see mentions but you can't post or like a post. |
Re: What Is It That You Learned The Hard Way In Life? by Gabe427: 8:50pm On Oct 07, 2020 |
GreenDee: firstly buck load of alarms and reminders... and my lil sis I tell her everything so she calls to remind me and tries to talk me into doing it ....it helps to an extent...I'm still a work in progress |
Re: What Is It That You Learned The Hard Way In Life? by Nobody: 8:57pm On Oct 07, 2020 |
Descortes:Wow , that's a big torment |
Re: What Is It That You Learned The Hard Way In Life? by BanjiRaymond(m): 9:12pm On Oct 07, 2020 |
Life isn't balance People aren't equal Sabbath day is Saturday the seventh day of the week which was meant for Christians to worship,but they chose Sundays God never condemn having more than one wife Death is a saviour of man especially in Nigeria 1 Like |
Re: What Is It That You Learned The Hard Way In Life? by Nobody: 9:29pm On Oct 07, 2020 |
[quote author=Mandela27 post=94683162]1.Nobody gives a fvck about u,no matter how nice society has painted itself to be,they will show u the real koko when u need them most. 2.Excess virtue is vice.[/quote] VERY TRUE 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: What Is It That You Learned The Hard Way In Life? by GreenDee(f): 9:44pm On Oct 07, 2020 |
Gabe427:wow..sure with time,you will get over it. |
Re: What Is It That You Learned The Hard Way In Life? by Blackmiserable(m): 9:59pm On Oct 07, 2020 |
placeofallure: Hmm. In the school of hard knocks, the lessons from this story would full 100 A4 paper. |
Re: What Is It That You Learned The Hard Way In Life? by placeofallure(f): 10:02pm On Oct 07, 2020 |
Blackmiserable: Don't exactly get you |
Re: What Is It That You Learned The Hard Way In Life? by Nobody: 10:09pm On Oct 07, 2020 |
Descortes:But how did you know that she has been banned? |
Re: What Is It That You Learned The Hard Way In Life? by Blackmiserable(m): 10:15pm On Oct 07, 2020 |
placeofallure: There are lessons and sublesons in your write-up and the sublessons can be further broken down. And that too, can be broken, O boy. I am talking of a combination of moral lessons from the story, the depiction of the human characters and their attributes and the outcome of the story. The education gained from this "negative" albeit good experience would linger long. |
Re: What Is It That You Learned The Hard Way In Life? by backbone503(m): 10:16pm On Oct 07, 2020 |
Not necessarily the hard way though, but I've learnt: 1. To be absolutely Okay with not being loved 2. To reduce to the barest minimum the possibility of someone else's personal decision negatively affecting me. 3. That what you give enriches you. 4. Humans will always be humans. And never to return evil with evil. 5. That God isn't an emotional being like we think It is. 4 Likes |
Re: What Is It That You Learned The Hard Way In Life? by Nobody: 10:20pm On Oct 07, 2020 |
Descortes:who chop ban,i have been very busy |
Re: What Is It That You Learned The Hard Way In Life? by Nobody: 10:40pm On Oct 07, 2020 |
Descortes:See this small boy ooo,can you say this to my face.Brolosho |
Re: What Is It That You Learned The Hard Way In Life? by Nobody: 10:44pm On Oct 07, 2020 |
Zzor:your Father |
Re: What Is It That You Learned The Hard Way In Life? by Nobody: 10:47pm On Oct 07, 2020 |
Descortes:You are always very aggressive and I know why |
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