Sweetcho:


So none of them married igbo women?

we are plenty guys.....my family is like the world; I have 3 Yoruba sister-in-laws, 4 Igbo sister-in-laws, 1 white sister-in-law, 1 Chinese sister-in-law and more to come



Me I am targeting Fulani or Arab

okpalaAnambra:

To each his own.. If Hausa and yoloba like they can continue burying their people like chicken as u acclaimed, is no one's business afterall the abokiiii behave like one while alive

Keep wasting your money and time on the dead...animal!

sisisioge:
You would have opted to bury him on Lagos jeje. All those men building houses or getting properties in their villages better be careful. Your home is where you raise your families! Stop being sentimental!

A country home is very important in Igbo land and happenings like this would never change that. It is one thing that brings us home and a crucial part of our culture that I am proud of. Why would I bury my father in Lagos? Am I mad?

Sunsets:
If you had taken your time to read her story, you would have deduced that the graves (two I guess) behind the building must have been dug by the wife and children. Whilst the one in front is being dug by the kinsmen.

Oh, thanks for the explanation.
Obviously the immediate family is trying to use the corpse of the man to secure a piece while their uncles want the man to be buried in front of his house.

pocohantas:


A country home is very important in Igbo land and happenings like this would never change that. It is one thing that brings us home and a crucial part of our culture that I am proud of. Why would I bury my father in Lagos? Am I mad?

so the soil back home dey different be that

PowerGlory:
I was in the said burial a d witnessed everything that happened.
1. The man died mysteriously in the house with wound on his head and the wife and children never told the man's brothers after 24hours but hurried him to the mortuary.
2. The man was a retiree of CBN a d pays the wife N100k and children N50k each every month but they starved him of food. It's his brothers that feeds him.
3. This same daughter asked his out of their house when he came to ask them why they beat up their father.
4. The said girl is in Law School and still behaves stupidly.
5. The man built a house but the wife a d children insisted that he'll be buried behind the house which his immediate brothers and kinsmen object that he be buried in front of his house.
6. Despite the money given to the woman she cooks with firewood upstairs.
7. The woman and children were asking the man's Will to be read while the corpse was still in the mortuary.
8. Anyone that cares should come to Oguta, Imo State to verify for himself or herself.

Have you people in nairaland seen the whole details.
My people says that
If you pass judgement with only one party's side of the story,
You the judge is guilty.
Try to verify whatever you hear before making a conclusion.

Igbo this, igbo that have you all seen the truth.

@OP,
young girl i pity your late dad.
He must have died an unhappy married man.
I have a lot to tell you and your mother but let me reserve my comments .
I pity some unlucky married gentlemen.
They're in hellfire already.
R.I.P.

humilitypays:
we are plenty guys.....my family is like the world; I have 3 Yoruba sister-in-laws, 4 Igbo sister-in-laws, 1 white sister-in-law, 1 Chinese sister-in-law and more to come



Me I am targeting Fulani or Arab

Interesting.... United nations!

Thegamingorca:

so the soil back home dey different be that

It is not different, but it our ancestral root. We can wake tomorrow and sell the house in Lagos, but we can never do that to the one in the village. Forget the “Lagos is a no man’s land”, that one is to find trouble. Na hustle we come hustle for Lagos. When e reach time to do certain things, we find our way back home.

This girl is foolish to drag Igbos into her feminist fight.

I won't swallow this until i hear from the other party.

Your Father's corpse was abandoned in his room. Where were his children? You no get brother? Did you take your uncle's or relations along to deposit the corpse? You obviously buried the man without the kinsmen knowledge.


What was the relationship b/w you and your father when he was alive? What was Ur dead father's relationship with your mum? For the fact that his dead corpse was abandoned shows the children never cared about the man


This girl is more of a rebel and disrespectful girl.

Don't judge a case from the mouth of a party.

Trying to bring Igbo culture and her hatred for Igbo into the picture shows the kind of useless girl she is

There are many contradictory statements in your story.

9icetoo:

You do not bury someone at the back of his house in igbo tradition.

Ohooo Its good I asked, now I know

PowerGlory:
I was in the said burial a d witnessed everything that happened.
1. The man died mysteriously in the house with wound on his head and the wife and children never told the man's brothers after 24hours but hurried him to the mortuary.
2. The man was a retiree of CBN a d pays the wife N100k and children N50k each every month but they starved him of food. It's his brothers that feeds him.
3. This same daughter asked his out of their house when he came to ask them why they beat up their father.
4. The said girl is in Law School and still behaves stupidly.
5. The man built a house but the wife a d children insisted that he'll be buried behind the house which his immediate brothers and kinsmen object that he be buried in front of his house.
6. Despite the money given to the woman she cooks with firewood upstairs.
7. The woman and children were asking the man's Will to be read while the corpse was still in the mortuary.
8. Anyone that cares should come to Oguta, Imo State to verify for himself or herself.

You see what I'm saying.


They abandoned the man to die and the kinsmen waited for them to come and do the needful.

The useless girl think bc she is Law student, she has arrived

May her Father's spirit torment her

tbest0213:
You wanted to spoil there plan of selling the land by burying someone on it wch won't enable them sell it again, if he has not built the land then that's why they are behaving that way, don't worry if u have money buy your own land and transfer the body, I don't think he bought that land with his money, it's probably the one he claimed when he was alive and didn't built on it, he would have even drop a foundation to show he have put money on the land... Just saying, out of experience

Do igbos not bury in cemetery?

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Stop making stupid insinuations, go to Oguta, Imo State and get your facts right. The house is not hidden and the uncles are more than rich to drag a piece of land which a house is built on.

Why would a 67year old man, a father and the first son of the family be buried behind his own house?

Ask the girl to tell you the full story and why they always fight their father.


You see?
Always fighting their father.
They killed their father and rushed his corpse to the mortuary without notifying any of his brothers so that
his kinsmen will not know how they killed him.
Upon killing him, the wicked mother and daughter are not yet satisfied.
They wanted to humiliate him eternally by burying him at the backyard and in another person's land.

No wonder the bible says that
It's better to be poor than to be rich and get married to a delilah.

Men be careful of the character and natural behaviour of any woman you want to marry.
Beauty and physique should be secondary.
ODIEGWU!!!!!!!!

pocohantas:


A country home is very important in Igbo land and happenings like this would never change that. It is one thing that brings us home and a crucial part of our culture that I am proud of. Why would I bury my father in Lagos? Am I mad?

Sebi dem don dig three holes for the guy now ba? Poor dude must be turning in heaven right now as the proud culture is embarrassing his corpse and refusing to let him rest. Hopefully, he gets buried soon.

And we hope the children carry on the countryside culture

sisisioge:


Sebi dem don dig three holes for the guy now ba? Poor dude must be turning in heaven right now as the proud culture is embarrassing his corpse and refusing to let him rest. Hopefully, he gets buried soon.

Burying him in Lagos wouldn’t have made anything better. Would they bury him without fulfilling rites or informing his kinsmen? While I agree that our burial (post and pre) processes should be made easier, I also have to state that burying away from home is not an option. Not one I will consider.

Yes, it is a proud culture to know the road that leads home and this takes nothing off it.

And we hope the children carry on the countryside culture lipsrsealed

That is left to them.

PowerGlory:
I was in the said burial a d witnessed everything that happened.
1. The man died mysteriously in the house with wound on his head and the wife and children never told the man's brothers after 24hours but hurried him to the mortuary.
2. The man was a retiree of CBN a d pays the wife N100k and children N50k each every month but they starved him of food. It's his brothers that feeds him.
3. This same daughter asked his out of their house when he came to ask them why they beat up their father.
4. The said girl is in Law School and still behaves stupidly.
5. The man built a house but the wife a d children insisted that he'll be buried behind the house which his immediate brothers and kinsmen object that he be buried in front of his house.
6. Despite the money given to the woman she cooks with firewood upstairs.
7. The woman and children were asking the man's Will to be read while the corpse was still in the mortuary.
8. Anyone that cares should come to Oguta, Imo State to verify for himself or herself.

God blessings bro , when i saw the story i knew it was a personal family issue , not even money issue , even poor igbo men who dont have heirs and money are buried by their kinsmen not to talk of a well accomplished igbo man

pocohantas:


Burying him in Lagos wouldn’t have made anything better. Would they bury him without fulfilling rites or informing his kinsmen? While I agree that our burial (post and pre) processes should be made easier, I also have to state that burying away from home is not an option. Not one I will consider.

Yes, it is a proud culture to know the road that leads home and this takes nothing off it.



That is left to them.

Oh my! Yes we bury him as we please! As for his kinsmen, they can check our status for the obituary or get a courtesy phone call. That's all!

Imagine how distraught the family he left behind is because they want to involve some MFs in their father's burial. It is well shall...I'm not Igbo so I won't even try to understand the motive behind involving none family members in loved ones burials like this.

Oracleforce:


Keep wasting your money and time on the dead...animal!

Is it your money?
Why drink paracetamol for another man's headache?
And what does that make you?
A wise man?.

Beremx:
there's nothing to be scared about. My maternal home is Ihioma. All depends on the family you're from. No need to generalize

Okay thank you.

PowerGlory:
I was in the said burial a d witnessed everything that happened.
1. The man died mysteriously in the house with wound on his head and the wife and children never told the man's brothers after 24hours but hurried him to the mortuary.
2. The man was a retiree of CBN a d pays the wife N100k and children N50k each every month but they starved him of food. It's his brothers that feeds him.
3. This same daughter asked his out of their house when he came to ask them why they beat up their father.
4. The said girl is in Law School and still behaves stupidly.
5. The man built a house but the wife a d children insisted that he'll be buried behind the house which his immediate brothers and kinsmen object that he be buried in front of his house.
6. Despite the money given to the woman she cooks with firewood upstairs.
7. The woman and children were asking the man's Will to be read while the corpse was still in the mortuary.
8. Anyone that cares should come to Oguta, Imo State to verify for himself or herself.

Worst thing that could happen to any man in life!! Dang!!

Get married because of old age,, get married because of old age.. Some men became unfortunate in life at old age.. A lot of married men don’t enjoy marriages at old age..

Was at a chilling spot few weeks ago then this man came around to chill. After few mins, he received a call and started saying... “ I don’t have a good/supportive wife. I’m always lonely even tho we stay together. The only time I do go out for drinking is when I’m feeling extremely lonely.”

I’ve learned a lot when it comes to marriage and I really appreciate that..

Some people thought their own ways of reason is the best, but this lady could have study the instruction her brethrens are giving before opposing their intention since the dead body must be burried.

SLOVFO:
I am afraid for this generation. We are too quick to believe anything we read online. How can sensible human beings jump to conclusions and start judging a matter as dicey as this without asking questions? It seems our brains have been taken away from us. How can you condem a whole tribe because of what happened to one family?

The yeeboz are very good at doing this..

They should deal with it..

PowerGlory:


Stop making stupid insinuations, go to Oguta, Imo State and get your facts right. The house is not hidden and the uncles are more than rich to drag a piece of land which a house is built on.

Why would a 67year old man, a father and the first son of the family be buried behind his own house?

Ask the girl to tell you the full story and why they always fight their father.

I see.

@OP
Your father's kinsmen are very kind and soft.
You and your evil spirit controlled wicked mother intentionally and conspiraciousely killed their brother and they are dealing with you devils with kidgloves.
In some cultures in igbo land a very close relative of the dead man would have singlehandedly dealt with you and your mother with everything at his disposal that you wount even know where nairaland is talkless of coming here to type rubbish against your people's noble native cultures of which you have intentionally decided to disrespect and disregard because of your callousness.

@OP
From what i see here.
I'm very very very sorry for that young man that will make the greatest mistake of his life by getting married to you.
Your late father's experiences and nightmares will be a child's play to the kind of delicacies you daughter of a delilah will dish out to him.
My dear young men beware her Ooooooo!!!!!!!

PowerGlory:
I was in the said burial a d witnessed everything that happened.
1. The man died mysteriously in the house with wound on his head and the wife and children never told the man's brothers after 24hours but hurried him to the mortuary.
2. The man was a retiree of CBN a d pays the wife N100k and children N50k each every month but they starved him of food. It's his brothers that feeds him.
3. This same daughter asked his out of their house when he came to ask them why they beat up their father.
4. The said girl is in Law School and still behaves stupidly.
5. The man built a house but the wife a d children insisted that he'll be buried behind the house which his immediate brothers and kinsmen object that he be buried in front of his house.
6. Despite the money given to the woman she cooks with firewood upstairs.
7. The woman and children were asking the man's Will to be read while the corpse was still in the mortuary.
8. Anyone that cares should come to Oguta, Imo State to verify for himself or herself.

I knew something was sketchy when she said the man was decaying in her room.
Like what took the man to her room? And if he died of illness like someone of his age she would have pointed that out.
Please you need to create a thread on this because I know that no Igbo kinsmen will allow their kinsman to be treated like this without getting justice.
If you read through her article you'll notice that she made no point but rode on the lie that "Igbo culture is rude to women" but she doesn't know about the culture at all.
She is dealing with ụmụnna that have mercy and they are sweating, when the umuada will descend on her and her mother. Nairaland and Nigeria won't even contain all of them because then it will be women vs women

IkpuNnegiEwu44:



You see what I'm saying.


They abandoned the man to die and the kinsmen waited for them to come and do the needful.

The useless girl think bc she is Law student, she has arrived

May her Father's spirit torment her

I don't know these people, they are being too lenient on that evil woman and her daughter.
They should shift and allow umuada to handle this issue, it's their area of expertise. Doesn't the man have sisters at all?
The girl is trying to use the old trick of women vs men to escape prosecution and justice. The kinsmen should not allow the sleeping dog to lie this time, they should give way for umuada

Oracleforce:


Keep wasting your money and time on the dead...animal!

Culture is made for a specific set of people. Stop viewing others own from your own perspective and most importantly, ban poverty from your life.
None of my relatives have been buried like a chicken from time immemorial and I won't be buried like a chicken.
My full respect will be paid that day to show that I attained something in life.
Poverty is a curse

Bkayyy:

Culture is made for a specific set of people. Stop viewing others' own from your perspective and most importantly, ban poverty from your life.
None of my relatives have been buried like a chicken from time immemorial and I won't be buried like a chicken.
My full respect will be paid that day to show that I attained something in life.
Poverty is a curse

Culture my foot....there are some civilized countries like China, the US, UK, etc that has adopted the process of cremation for corpse ....supposing that bill has been passed to law maybe your corpse will be kept in a coca-cola bottle or a nylon bag for future reference...after all, it is a sign of honor

PowerGlory:
I was in the said burial a d witnessed everything that happened.
1. The man died mysteriously in the house with wound on his head and the wife and children never told the man's brothers after 24hours but hurried him to the mortuary.
2. The man was a retiree of CBN a d pays the wife N100k and children N50k each every month but they starved him of food. It's his brothers that feeds him.
3. This same daughter asked his out of their house when he came to ask them why they beat up their father.
4. The said girl is in Law School and still behaves stupidly.
5. The man built a house but the wife a d children insisted that he'll be buried behind the house which his immediate brothers and kinsmen object that he be buried in front of his house.
6. Despite the money given to the woman she cooks with firewood upstairs.
7. The woman and children were asking the man's Will to be read while the corpse was still in the mortuary.
8. Anyone that cares should come to Oguta, Imo State to verify for himself or herself.

Are you sure of this?

Sanchez01:

I was almost thinking this was a gender issue but reading this... I am more disturbed.

They should have investigated the man's death before agreeing to bury him.

The kinsmen in igboland most times cover things like that up so as not to tarnish the image of the family. I've witnessed things like that a lot of times.

Oracleforce:


Culture my foot....there are some civilized countries like China, the US, UK, etc that has adopted the process of cremation for corpse ....supposing that bill has been passed to law maybe your corpse will be kept in a coca-cola bottle or a nylon bag for future reference...after all, it is a sign of honor

DO you realize that cremation is their Buddhist culture?
One thing wrong with you Africans is that most of you don't know is that all these European ways you are adopting is their special culture which doesn't apply to most Europeans.
In northern Nigeria, they bury people the day they died which they thought is Islamic culture but don't know it is actually Arabic culture.
Christians do procession before burying which is a serious Roman culture, not even that of English people.
Culture is for a particular set of people. It is only ignorant people that go on air to criticize theirs without first asking for reforms within themselves

Sonnobax15:
How many young imo state men doing legitimate businesses can boast of having a plot of land after paying their wives dowry ?

LOL, you yorubas won't kill me with laughter.
My dear, those bogus dowry is for women marrying outside their clan/village. It becomes more when she marries outside Igbo land.
For example and indigene of Onitsha marrying an indigene of Onitsha, the official bride price is far below 10000 naira other things can come as gift .
I won't tell you the exact money to avoid see finish. Just know that it is below, might be very far below or a little below