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What Exactly Is The Essence Of Marriage? by no1concept: 7:00am On Oct 25, 2020
Sometimes I ask myself what is so fascinating about marriage. The joy at which some people sing and dance at your face about the joy of being married amazes me.

I am a 29 year old male. I do have a good job. I can cook by myself any kind of delicacy I want anytime I want it. I very much can clean my entire apartment and do my own laundry impeccably. The joy I get going home everyday knowing that I am going back home to my apartment without any girl to bother me about this and that is just heavenly.

I have dated lots of girls just so that I can understand what is so fascinating about having them around but since I can do many personal stuffs myself, I hardly have any need being a relationship cos I noticed that it either requires more of your energy, more of your money, more of your peace of mind especially when you jam a girl that's constantly feels insecure. The worst encounter you would have as a young man looking for true love is to go into a relationship with a girl who doesn't know what she wants. You might die sooner than your maker planned it.

I know some people will say that I haven't met the right girl. But my question is; who exactly is the right girl

For me, there's this joy being single and free. Being able to run your life without a girl pinning you down about how old she's getting and that you need to come fast to see her parents. Shit! Being single and free leaves you living with a clear conscience of not committing to nobody and breaking nobody's heart.

For those that will say, marriage is good for the sake of child bearing, you are absolutely correct but I rather go into a contract with a girl I know about being my baby mama. There are so many girls out there who love such idea too.

So, asides these, what exactly is the essence of marriage

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Re: What Exactly Is The Essence Of Marriage? by dingbang(m): 7:04am On Oct 25, 2020
Because you now have everything, you feel you dont need anyone abi ..

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Re: What Exactly Is The Essence Of Marriage? by thesicilian: 7:08am On Oct 25, 2020
When you are ready for marriage, it's essence will become clear to you.

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Re: What Exactly Is The Essence Of Marriage? by Petyprincess(f): 7:10am On Oct 25, 2020
Na you ask question,na you still answer yourself grin

Maybe your destiny is to remain single! It ain't no crime tiough,not every man needs a woman in his life wink

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Re: What Exactly Is The Essence Of Marriage? by HRHQueenPhil(f): 7:11am On Oct 25, 2020
no1concept:
Sometimes I ask myself what is so fascinating about marriage. The joy at which some people sing and dance at your face about the joy of being married amazes me.

I am a 29 year old male. I do have a good job. I can cook by myself any kind of delicacy I want anytime I want it. I very much can clean my entire apartment and do my own laundry impeccably. The joy I get going home everyday knowing that I am going back home to my apartment without any girl to bother me about this and that is just heavenly.

I have dated lots of girls just so that I can understand what is so fascinating about having them around but since I can do many personal stuffs myself, I hardly have any need being a relationship cos I noticed that it either requires more of your energy, more of your money, more of your peace of mind especially when you jam a girl that's constantly feels insecure. The worst encounter you would have as a young man looking for true love is to go into a relationship with a girl who doesn't know what she wants. You might die sooner than your maker planned it.

I know some people will say that I haven't met the right girl. But my question is; who exactly is the right girl

For me, there's this joy being single and free. Being able to run your life without a girl pinning you down about how old she's getting and that you need to come fast to see her parents. Shit! Being single and free leaves you living with a clear conscience of not committing to nobody and breaking nobody's heart.

For those that will say, marriage is good for the sake of child bearing, you are absolutely correct but I rather go into a contract with a girl I know about being my baby mama. There are so many girls out there who love such idea too.

So, asides these, what exactly is the essence of marriage
Essence of marraige is
1. Companionship..covid and curfew has shown d benefit of marraige. U will be still lonely though if u married d wrong person
2. Partnership. ..this means u come together to bear a child and train,u come together to build that house, come together to make heaven and make more strategic decisions together
3. Sex.. if the both of u are faithful to each other, there is no fear of disease. The act is even a blessing and u can explore all u want..not devilish acts of sex like anal or group sex

It's majorly these but if u don't want to marry..it's perfectly ok just don't do baby mama. That child will be a curse to U and lead to ur death. It's an assurance..Go the right way by getting maried

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Re: What Exactly Is The Essence Of Marriage? by GboyegaD(m): 7:12am On Oct 25, 2020
At the right time and with the right person, things will fall in place. Sometimes, we do not know the worth of some things because it isn't the right time for us.
Re: What Exactly Is The Essence Of Marriage? by yanabasee(m): 7:13am On Oct 25, 2020
Well........I fear marriage more than anything as it'd take the grace to keep marriage to 40-50years......
Re: What Exactly Is The Essence Of Marriage? by LordIsaac(m): 7:14am On Oct 25, 2020
It is in the statement, "it is not good for a MAN to be alone! " That's from the creator direct. grin
Re: What Exactly Is The Essence Of Marriage? by Pauldollars(m): 7:17am On Oct 25, 2020
You have much pride Bro. Just because you can do some things yourself doesn't mean you don't need a woman to support you in life.
As great as Adam was in the garden of Eden, God knew he needed a partner even when Adam never knew he needed one.
Ask your maker to give you a suitable help meet for you and you will never have regrets.

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Re: What Exactly Is The Essence Of Marriage? by phelonrays: 7:26am On Oct 25, 2020
Pauldollars:
You have much pride Bro. Just because you can do some things yourself doesn't mean you don't need a woman to support you in life. As great as Adam was in the garden of Eden, God knew he needed a partner even when Adam never knew he needed one.
Ask your maker to give you a suitable help meet for you and you will never have regrets.

Same partner lead him to doom undecided

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Re: What Exactly Is The Essence Of Marriage? by ERCROSS(m): 7:31am On Oct 25, 2020
In my opinion, the only benefit of marriage for men is old age companionship.

Having a baby mama is good, but that can't build you a family. It would only give you offspring and an estranged woman.

Marriage would help you build a family that can stay with you at the time when you have no more strength to run up and down. Of course, a nanny/househelp can help at that time, but the love you'd like to experience in your old age can't be gotten from a househelp/nanny. It is the kind of love that would make you want to wake up the next day hoping to see the beautiful faces of your grandkids again as they swarm your compound, for their parents has enjoyed first hand love from you years ago when they were their age

This is why it pays to invest love into your family. The love would always come back to you when you need it the most, when your circle of friends must have grown very tiny. When a lot of people care less about your existence, the family you built with love will always cherish and give you back what you've sown.

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Re: What Exactly Is The Essence Of Marriage? by Nobody: 7:36am On Oct 25, 2020
HRHQueenPhil:

Essence of marraige is
1. Companionship..covid and curfew has shown d benefit of marraige. U will be still lonely though if u married d wrong person
2. Partnership. ..this means u come together to bear a child and train,u come together to build that house, come together to make heaven and make more strategic decisions together
3. Sex.. if the both of u are faithful to each other, there is no fear of disease. The act is even a blessing and u can explore all u want..not devilish acts of sex like anal or group sex

It's majorly these but if u don't want to marry..it's perfectly ok just don't do baby mama. That child will be a curse to U and lead to ur death. It's an assurance..Go the right way by getting maried
What of Adoption?
Re: What Exactly Is The Essence Of Marriage? by CosmicPhoenix: 7:38am On Oct 25, 2020
Marriage was designed to benefit only women,forget all this foolish talk of companionship and sex,you don't need to be married to have those.

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Re: What Exactly Is The Essence Of Marriage? by yomi007k(m): 7:39am On Oct 25, 2020
You are doing well for yourself my good man.

Effeminate men and women will try to talk you into entering the slaveship called marriage but stand firm and stand strong, you don't need them. Only women benefit from marriage.

You are a king!

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Re: What Exactly Is The Essence Of Marriage? by CAPSLOCKED: 7:43am On Oct 25, 2020
HRHQueenPhil:

Essence of marraige is
1. Companionship..covid and curfew has shown d benefit of marraige. U will be still lonely though if u married d wrong person
2. Partnership. ..this means u come together to bear a child and train,u come together to build that house, come together to make heaven and make more strategic decisions together
3. Sex.. if the both of u are faithful to each other, there is no fear of disease. The act is even a blessing and u can explore all u want..not devilish acts of sex like anal or group sex

THE MOST STUPIDEST LIST I'VE SEEN ALL MY LIFE.

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Re: What Exactly Is The Essence Of Marriage? by yomi007k(m): 7:57am On Oct 25, 2020
Pauldollars:
You have much pride Bro. Just because you can do some things yourself doesn't mean you don't need a woman to support you in life.
As great as Adam was in the garden of Eden, God knew he needed a partner even when Adam never knew he needed one.
Ask your maker to give you a suitable help meet for you and you will never have regrets.

And what happened after the partner(Eve) came in? Disaster.
Re: What Exactly Is The Essence Of Marriage? by HRHQueenPhil(f): 7:58am On Oct 25, 2020
csn01:

What of Adoption?
adoption is for two capable adults ready to cater for the needs of the child, if u cannot make up ur mind to chose one woman to marry, is it a child with all their issues u wld be able to handle

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Re: What Exactly Is The Essence Of Marriage? by HRHQueenPhil(f): 8:05am On Oct 25, 2020
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THE MOST STUPIDEST LIST I'VE SEEN ALL MY LIFE.
talk ur own and stop insulting. Yuck!

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Re: What Exactly Is The Essence Of Marriage? by Nobody: 8:18am On Oct 25, 2020
OP this is the answer,,,,,,

This is the only valid answer


Marry in other not to suffer when you're old,,,,,,

Though right now you might be ok,,,,,

But once you're old nah your child go dey give you happiness,,,they will take care of you,,,,,,,,

Please make sure you find the right patner because it is one of the greatest acheivment in man's life,,,,,,,,,,,


May God help you,,,,,,,,
Re: What Exactly Is The Essence Of Marriage? by Robertgreene1(m): 8:56am On Oct 25, 2020
interesting...u r still young nd enjoying ur youth...by d time u get 2 50 nd above nd start suffering from one chronic illness or d other...cancer..stroke e.t.c...or worst still get bedridden 4 life...nd all those ur baby mamas nd girlfriends that re js there now 4 d money will Js abandon u 2 ur fate nd evn ur family members will get tired of taking care of u cus they v got their own lives 2 live.. only then will u understand why having a good wife that truly loves u by ur side 2 support u in ur darkest moments matters a lot...nd mind u..even d richest men u know all married..dangote..otedola..evn d rich young bloods like E-money..shina peller..obi cubana Dem..e.t.c.. nd u will never be richer or smarter than them..
Re: What Exactly Is The Essence Of Marriage? by fuckaholic25(f): 9:16am On Oct 25, 2020
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THE MOST STUPIDEST LIST I'VE SEEN ALL MY LIFE.
lol... Omo bro u re wicked o, tf?
Re: What Exactly Is The Essence Of Marriage? by Nobody: 9:49am On Oct 25, 2020
Believe me the concept of marriage is changing.
Polygamy used to be the norm,then Christianity came and forced men who just happen to be polygamous in nature to a lifetime of barking up just one tree throughout their life time.
But the frailty of monogamy has been exposed in our modern society as evidenced by the surge in the rate of failing marriages.
We are gradually heading to a point where the concept of marriage will be just for child bearing.
A man and a woman would just get together have kids and go their separate ways,then share custody.
Their cohabitation will be completely subjective.

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Re: What Exactly Is The Essence Of Marriage? by Charx122: 10:08am On Oct 25, 2020
HRHQueenPhil:

Essence of marraige is
1. Companionship..covid and curfew has shown d benefit of marraige. U will be still lonely though if u married d wrong person
2. Partnership. ..this means u come together to bear a child and train,u come together to build that house, come together to make heaven and make more strategic decisions together
3. Sex.. if the both of u are faithful to each other, there is no fear of disease. The act is even a blessing and u can explore all u want..not devilish acts of sex like anal or group sex

It's majorly these but if u don't want to marry..it's perfectly ok just don't do baby mama. That child will be a curse to U and lead to ur death. It's an assurance..Go the right way by getting maried

Getting married isn't a priority many are happy being single while some are happy married for their own best interest isn't a do or die affair..no disrespect in being single or married...
Re: What Exactly Is The Essence Of Marriage? by Nobody: 10:15am On Oct 25, 2020
Robertgreene1:
interesting...u r still young nd enjoying ur youth...by d time u get 2 50 nd above nd start suffering from one chronic illness or d other...cancer..stroke e.t.c...or worst still get bedridden 4 life...nd all those ur baby mamas nd girlfriends that re js there now 4 d money will Js abandon u 2 ur fate nd evn ur family members will get tired of taking care of u cus they v got their own lives 2 live.. only then will u understand why having a good wife that truly loves u by ur side 2 support u in ur darkest moments matters a lot...nd mind u..even d richest men u know all married..dangote..otedola..evn d rich young bloods like E-money..shina peller..obi cubana Dem..e.t.c.. nd u will never be richer or smarter than them..so being rich doesn't in any way mean that u no longer need a wife 4 support nd companionship...js make sure u marry a decent girl that truly loves u...shalom
too much Nollywood no good 4 ur brain,,
#EndNollywoodwatching

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Re: What Exactly Is The Essence Of Marriage? by Shortyy(f): 10:17am On Oct 25, 2020
Hmmm.

Apparently you've made up your mind not to marry, then don't. It's not a do or die affair.

Sign a contract with a lady like you said and have a child.

Although the bible condones having a child out of wedlock. But, you might not be a Christian. So I wouldn't talk you out of your plans.
Re: What Exactly Is The Essence Of Marriage? by Mandela27: 10:22am On Oct 25, 2020
Companionship during ur lonely days.There's nothing like the right woman,Na u go make ur woman how u want am to dey,You can change any woman's attitude.Your job is to find ur spec,but how the union turns out to be lies on u The man.
I dunno if Adam was what redpill call simp,But u should be glad he made such mistake of being vulnerable to be lured into messing up,You should learn from that mistake,set boundaries,train ursef to think before saying yes to anything ur woman says,Because of their kind of nature.If she ever goes against ur boundaries,put her in her place,You dont need that type and she doesnt deserve a great guy like u.
Re: What Exactly Is The Essence Of Marriage? by JIMMY1393: 10:27am On Oct 25, 2020
Pauldollars:
You have much pride Bro. Just because you can do some things yourself doesn't mean you don't need a woman to support you in life.
As great as Adam was in the garden of Eden, God knew he needed a partner even when Adam never knew he needed one.
Ask your maker to give you a suitable help meet for you and you will never have regrets.
God gave Eve to Adam cos he didn't want him to be lonely and have a companion and not cos Adam needed Eve...and as op said he doesn't feel lonely, infact he feels joy when returning home and knows he's going to be alone

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Re: What Exactly Is The Essence Of Marriage? by hanyechukwu88981: 10:34am On Oct 25, 2020
At the right time and with the right person, things will fall in place. Sometimes, we do not know the worth of some things because it isn't the right time for us.
Re: What Exactly Is The Essence Of Marriage? by mrsteel: 10:40am On Oct 25, 2020
Pauldollars:
You have much pride Bro. Just because you can do some things yourself doesn't mean you don't need a woman to support you in life.
As great as Adam was in the garden of Eden, God knew he needed a partner even when Adam never knew he needed one.
Ask your maker to give you a suitable help meet for you and you will never have regrets.
But that same partner misled Adam & even created issue between God & Adam, which made God to lay curse on Adam that has landed us in the mess we are facing in d world today! Fact is marriage is not for everyone & doesn't mean a married man will live a fulfilled life.

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Re: What Exactly Is The Essence Of Marriage? by efosky1246(m): 11:02am On Oct 25, 2020
mrsteel:

But that same partner misled Adam & even created issue between God & Adam, which made God to lay curse on Adam that has landed us in the mess we are facing in d world today! Fact is marriage is not for everyone & doesn't mean a married man will live a fulfilled life.

Adam was not deceived. He failed to reprimand and lead his partner when he needed to.

You guys always like to relieve yourself of personal responsibility but always make it about the woman using a warped understanding of the scriptures.
Re: What Exactly Is The Essence Of Marriage? by Deceptionlove: 11:22am On Oct 25, 2020
no1concept:
Sometimes I ask myself what is so fascinating about marriage. The joy at which some people sing and dance at your face about the joy of being married amazes me.

I am a 29 year old male. I do have a good job. I can cook by myself any kind of delicacy I want anytime I want it. I very much can clean my entire apartment and do my own laundry impeccably. The joy I get going home everyday knowing that I am going back home to my apartment without any girl to bother me about this and that is just heavenly.

I have dated lots of girls just so that I can understand what is so fascinating about having them around but since I can do many personal stuffs myself, I hardly have any need being a relationship cos I noticed that it either requires more of your energy, more of your money, more of your peace of mind especially when you jam a girl that's constantly feels insecure. The worst encounter you would have as a young man looking for true love is to go into a relationship with a girl who doesn't know what she wants. You might die sooner than your maker planned it.

I know some people will say that I haven't met the right girl. But my question is; who exactly is the right girl

For me, there's this joy being single and free. Being able to run your life without a girl pinning you down about how old she's getting and that you need to come fast to see her parents. Shit! Being single and free leaves you living with a clear conscience of not committing to nobody and breaking nobody's heart.

For those that will say, marriage is good for the sake of child bearing, you are absolutely correct but I rather go into a contract with a girl I know about being my baby mama. There are so many girls out there who love such idea too.

So, asides these, what exactly is the essence of marriage

I'm starting to think I have a twinnie. You apparently wrote every single thing about me.....

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Re: What Exactly Is The Essence Of Marriage? by Deceptionlove: 11:29am On Oct 25, 2020
HRHQueenPhil:

Essence of marraige is
1. Companionship..covid and curfew has shown d benefit of marraige. U will be still lonely though if u married d wrong person
2. Partnership. ..this means u come together to bear a child and train,u come together to build that house, come together to make heaven and make more strategic decisions together
3. Sex.. if the both of u are faithful to each other, there is no fear of disease. The act is even a blessing and u can explore all u want..not devilish acts of sex like anal or group sex

It's majorly these but if u don't want to marry..it's perfectly ok just don't do baby mama. That child will be a curse to U and lead to ur death. It's an assurance..Go the right way by getting maried

The most useless post I've ever seen In my entire life......

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