First, don't beat yourself up. Sexual urge is normal and thoughts of it will come.

Here is what works for me though.

I talk to people around me, and try to come out of my private space (usually my room). Loneliness can be your enemy.

If i must engage in anything else, it is usually something i enjoy. Reading won't take your mind off it if you don't love reading.

There is no hack, you will always have to put in effort. If a lady catches your eye, try not to stare. I also try to burn myself out by exercising and watching movies - that way my body goes to rest faster, giving me less time for my mind to wander.

Viserion:
Hello Nairaland,

I believe it is normal for a human to fantasize about sex, but I often find myself daydreaming about it.
I'm working currently while waiting for ASUU to call off strike.


But when idle, I find it difficult to stop thinking about it, I have tried reading, engaging in physical activities, but as soon as I'm off, idle or see a fine lady I begin to fantasize about it.

I know I'm not the only one in this shoe.

I need help.



Lalasticlala
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Just have sex and get it off your mind abeg

Why do we make things always seem difficult when there’s a solution?

This is bad advice.

I suspect the OP is still in his pubescent years. Having sex will more likely create an addiction than help him.

Pancakeey:
Just have sex and get it off your mind abeg

Why do we make things always seem difficult when there’s a solution?

nwaezeemmanuel:
This is bad advice.

I suspect the OP is still in his pubescent years. Having sex will more likely create an addiction than help him.

Lol my bad. The OP never mentioned if he was in his pubescent years or not.

Lol so what’s the assurance that if he haves sex at a later time he won’t be an addict??
I don’t know why people sugar coat things here

How often do u masturbate, sometimes it can help relief sexual tension. But if u can get an understanding girl that's the best

He's not having an easy time taking his mind off sex - even before having it.

This means he hasn't gained enough control.

People in their pubescent years have higher tendencies of developing sex addictions. That is the period of hormone rush. Many do not handle it well. It's common sense

Pancakeey:

Lol my bad. The OP never mentioned if he was in his pubescent years or not.

Lol so what’s the assurance that if he haves sex at a later time he won’t be an addict??
I don’t know why people sugar coat things here

nwaezeemmanuel:
He's not having an easy time taking his mind off sex - even before having it.

This means he hasn't gained enough control.

People in their pubescent years have higher tendencies of developing sex addictions. That is the period of hormone rush. Many do not handle it well. It's common sense

If I’m not mistaken, from what I read he thinks about sex only when idle. Not that he thinks of it every time
So yes he has control but not full control of it. And i bet he just started getting these fantasies.
You can’t tell me he just began puberty. Pleaseee
Have sex or get busy it’s easy as that.

And oh, I do have common sense. That’s why I’ll always call a spade a spade.

Viserion:
Hello Nairaland,

I believe it is normal for a human to fantasize about sex, but I often find myself daydreaming about it.
I'm working currently while waiting for ASUU to call off strike.


But when idle, I find it difficult to stop thinking about it, I have tried reading, engaging in physical activities, but as soon as I'm off, idle or see a fine lady I begin to fantasize about it.

I know I'm not the only one in this shoe.

I need help.



Lalasticlala
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Once you have a girlfriend you will not have time for side attractions

Sex urge is normal

But if you don't love a particular woman or have a girlfriend, every thing under the skirt will attract you

nwaezeemmanuel:
First, don't beat yourself up. Sexual urge is normal and thoughts of it will come.

Here is what works for me though.

I talk to people around me, and try to come out of my private space (usually my room). Loneliness can be your enemy.

If i must engage in anything else, it is usually something i enjoy. Reading won't take your mind off it if you don't love reading.

There is no hack, you will always have to put in effort. If a lady catches your eye, try not to stare. I also try to burn myself out by exercising and watching movies - that way my body goes to rest faster, giving me less time for my mind to wander.

thank you

Pancakeey:
Just have sex and get it off your mind abeg

Why do we make things always seem difficult when there’s a solution?

and what happens when I'm not having it?

Fasting nd praying..

Thank me later

Pancakeey:

Lol my bad. The OP never mentioned if he was in his pubescent years or not.

Lol so what’s the assurance that if he haves sex at a later time he won’t be an addict??
I don’t know why people sugar coat things here

I'll be 25 by December

Chikarata2020:
How often do u masturbate, sometimes it can help relief sexual tension. But if u can get an understanding girl that's the best

one or twice a month, I have a gf

Pancakeey:

If I’m not mistaken, from what I read he thinks about sex only when idle. Not that he thinks of it every time
So yes he has control but not full control of it. And i bet he just started getting these fantasies.
You can’t tell me he just began puberty. Pleaseee
Have sex or get busy it’s easy as that.

And oh, I do have common sense. That’s why I’ll always call a spade a spade.

thank you

Viserion:
I'll be 25 by December

Oh that’s nice, that means you’re not in your pubescent years

Yellowblack:
Fasting nd praying..

Thank me later

thank you. It comes back when I'm idle

Pancakeey:

Oh that’s nice, that means you’re not in your pubescent years

yes please

Viserion:
and what happens when I'm not having it?

Occupy yourself with other things

Pancakeey:

Occupy yourself with other things

like what please?

There's a simple and 7times tested way to stop any thing you want to stop. Find where you are in the steps given and give it time to work it.

That expected version of yourself is what your Creator designed of you and it's all written in His Word (the Bible).
1. Surrender yourself to Him, by believing in the resurrection of Jesus Christ, His Son and confessing Hin as Lord over your life.
2. Lay hold of those things which He has said about you and let them transform your mind. This will take some little time, within which you have to guard your heart with all diligence, watching the things you view, listen to, think about, etc.
You lay hold of them by:
1. Attaching yourself to a family of God's children that will ensure you have the right mentorship about you and what your Creator said about you.
2. Study these things which your Creator said about you.
3. Think on them, intentionally think on then and give yourself wholly to them. Refuse any thought that is not consistent with them.
4. Verbally declare those things to yourself in agreement to what He has said about you. Write a new script with your tongue on your heart by talking who God has made you. By now, the ability to live accordingly would have welled up in you and you won't incline to the old fake you anymore.
5. Live accordingly until 2,3,4,and 5 become your new habit.
We can talk further on this if you please. WhatsApp or Telegram me on 07065255519.
God bless you.

Bro, i will advice you to pray and tell God to help you and direct you. Its only God and prayers that can solve it

Sex is overrated.... Do you have a girlfriend?

Lamanii22:
Sex is overrated.... Do you have a girlfriend?

how please?, and I have a gf

Oyidavies:
Bro, i will advice you to pray and tell God to help you and direct you. Its only God and prayers that can solve it

Thank you

lordC:
There's a simple and 7times tested way to stop any thing you want to stop. Find where you are in the steps given and give it time to work it.

That expected version of yourself is what your Creator designed of you and it's all written in His Word (the Bible).
1. Surrender yourself to Him, by believing in the resurrection of Jesus Christ, His Son and confessing Hin as Lord over your life.
2. Lay hold of those things which He has said about you and let them transform your mind. This will take some little time, within which you have to guard your heart with all diligence, watching the things you view, listen to, think about, etc.
You lay hold of them by:
1. Attaching yourself to a family of God's children that will ensure you have the right mentorship about you and what your Creator said about you.
2. Study these things which your Creator said about you.
3. Think on them, intentionally think on then and give yourself wholly to them. Refuse any thought that is not consistent with them.
4. Verbally declare those things to yourself in agreement to what He has said about you. Write a new script with your tongue on your heart by talking who God has made you. By now, the ability to live accordingly would have welled up in you and you won't incline to the old fake you anymore.
5. Live accordingly until 2,3,4,and 5 become your new habit.
We can talk further on this if you please. WhatsApp or Telegram me on 07065255519.
God bless you.

Thank you, I appreciate this

DesignAssasin:
I actually feel you bro. But in my opinion, try not to really think about it but make sure you get a stable girlfriend that actually understands you in every aspect, a girl that if eventually she gets pregnant for you, you can take her home to your parents, a girl that is worthy of been a mother of your children and a wife you can be proud of, then go ahead.


However please, f*CK responsibly.

God bless you... I like this you reply.

Best advise