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Blackmoran:
May day! may day! mayday!.... op abort operation and run for your life,
I have dated a girl like that, by your story it seems you are dating a girl with bipolar disorder.. BPD..
here are there trait, they are good on bed, they have mood swing, they are very needy, they are good manipulator... they are violent, and lastly they look innocent...
it takes me years before I got to my senses I thought that neediness was a sign she loves me, not until the day we had a argument and she threaten me she will commit suicide, at first I thought she was joking until the next morning when I find her piercing herself with a blade... God save me that morning I would have end up in jail...
so op to avoid stories like, " husband stab wife, wife killed husband, husband and wife found dead" please leave now!!!!!!!!!!!

Collinsemegreat:
what of if she is relating to you because her last relationship, she was cheated upon?

Just ask her about it maybe she dey traumatized or insecure because of it

HomerTimpson:
You sound like you want to make us believe she a narcissist.


Just say you have tasted the orange juice and afraid you might bite the seed sometime cos you know its bitter; actualy what am tryna say is that your 2month girl is cool but you are insecure just for the fact that you are prone to cheat anytime and you are seriouly scared of the penalties that will follow.

I see you are about to break her heart,you are just looking for a simply way to do it without stress since you are inexperienced,its your first relationship and your first breakup.

NOW MY ADVICE don't travel down this lane by cutting ties with her,it's dangerous & heartles, see it as a flaw,sit her down & [color=#000000]tell her this things. Who likes [/color]been cheated on? I also thinks she likes to be rational...it's a crazy world right?.

davidhobo:
These beautiful girls are always the ones who are bipolar. My ex had similar characteristics- she was very strict and had anger issues (any small thing will trigger her off).

Over beautiful, over desirable she was, inshort she was/is a trophy wife, but with a lot of insecurities and little things could set her off, just like that. If we were on a whatsap call and she heard females talking anywhere in the background, she will just switch to video imediately and start quarel- who are those girls seating/making noise behind you(in a public place o). Why are they there, who are they? Ah, ah..biii, how can i know?

She never showed her anger traits in public or with others, sha..only me(though she was once told me she slapped a cab man who was trying to take advantage of her from ICM ikeja.

She jumped me publicly like twice-jump as in got angry and started to hit/slap me (in that feeble, female way though) and i was just pulling back while others were begging her to stop. Just because of a comment i made.

She omce threatened she.was ready to go to any lenght to get revenge if i ever left her, for wasting two years of her life. Las las..it is she that packed up and left and has made me an enemy. Though i loved her like kilode, she refused all my entreaties to come back, though i knew she had anger issues. She was an all round good person, her nacks was A1++++, but meehn, werey dey disguise and mean too, in some aspects, never wanted me around others

In your case, so long as she is not physically violent, you will be fine, she is just bluffing. Mine could just physically pounce on me inside house, for something as inconsequential as refusing to add her on social media(that she deleted me from, ab initio, from anger).

So as for you, you are doing fine.

Seandisputed:
Mhen you're the real MVP.. how long did the relationship last?

I'm not a patient type. I move on immediately I see any trait i'm not comfortable with.

davidhobo:
Two years plus. Ended last year

aluyapreston:
I met this girl about two months ago when I went to visit my caterer friend in an hotel where he works. She makes sharwama there and mehn she was crazily beautiful and most importantly purpose and goal driven. In fact her ambition completely aligned with mine (this I knew when she showed me an incomplete feasibility study of her next line of business). I fell hard for her immediately but it was until a week later I let her knew my feelings and she reciprocated thesame, thanks partly to the fact that her ex broke up with her.

Our relationship from there simply skyrocketed. Our bond grew stronger, we took practical actions toward our goals, supported each other financially and in every other way and yes we had sex. However it didn't take long for me to notice some signs that gave me a odd feeling.

The first was her love for me: maybe it is because this is actually my first relationship, but there is a way she gets all over me that make me feel stuffed and choked sometimes. I'm an introvert and practically enjoy my me time but since we kicked off our relationship nothing of such exists anymore. From her ridiculous number of calls to her constant request for attention, I'm not sure of my sanity anymore.

Her strictness/anger: she has really never gotten angry with me before but I have seen her with other guys who try to cross boundaries. She can practically stare their soul from their body with just one look because of a simple a touch to her shoulder and that is when she's in a good mood. I saw how she once shouted the blood out of her male neighbour during one of my visit when he made a flirting remark. She does this to females as well and it kind of scare me. I mean she once made a cab man cry from her foul mouth because she found out he had overcharged her. I don't want that kind of anger directed at me for any reason. At least for now, anytime she gets angry she just stay quiet and turn away from me.

Death threats: when she first told me that she could blow off my brains if I ever cheated on her, I took it for laughs. After all how can she get a gun, but when she repeated it about two weeks later by promising to stab me if she see with another girl in a compromising position I knew it wasn't for comic relief anymore. I have no intention to cheat but for a relationship in its early stages I think the threats are uncalled for.

So I've been thinking if the threats are something I should take serious or let it slide, because apart from everything above she's just so perfect and lovely and brilliant. She can hold intelligent conversation for as long as need be, something I've never seen in other girls. I really don't want to break up with her but I don't want to die either

davidhobo:
These beautiful girls are always the ones who are bipolar. My ex had similar characteristics- she was very strict and had anger issues (any small thing will trigger her off).

Over beautiful, over desirable she was, inshort she was/is a trophy wife, but with a lot of insecurities and little things could set her off, just like that. If we were on a whatsap call and she heard females talking anywhere in the background, she will just switch to video imediately and start quarel- who are those girls seating/making noise behind you(in a public place o). Why are they there, who are they? Ah, ah..biii, how can i know?

She never showed her anger traits in public or with others, sha..only me(though she was once told me she slapped a cab man who was trying to take advantage of her from ICM ikeja.

She jumped me publicly like twice-jump as in got angry and started to hit/slap me (in that feeble, female way though) and i was just pulling back while others were begging her to stop. Just because of a comment i made.

She omce threatened she.was ready to go to any lenght to get revenge if i ever left her, for wasting two years of her life. Las las..it is she that packed up and left and has made me an enemy. Though i loved her like kilode, she refused all my entreaties to come back, though i knew she had anger issues. She was an all round good person, her nacks was A1++++, but meehn, werey dey disguise and mean too, in some aspects, never wanted me around others

In your case, so long as she is not physically violent, you will be fine, she is just bluffing. Mine could just physically pounce on me inside house, for something as inconsequential as refusing to add her on social media(that she deleted me from, ab initio, from anger).

So as for you, you are doing fine.

I met this girl about two months ago when I went to visit my caterer friend in an hotel where he works. She makes sharwama there and mehn she was crazily beautiful and most importantly purpose and goal driven. In fact her ambition completely aligned with mine (this I knew when she showed me an incomplete feasibility study of her next line of business). I fell hard for her immediately but it was until a week later I let her knew my feelings and she reciprocated thesame, thanks partly to the fact that her ex broke up with her.

Our relationship from there simply skyrocketed. Our bond grew stronger, we took practical actions toward our goals, supported each other financially and in every other way and yes we had sex. However it didn't take long for me to notice some signs that gave me a odd feeling.

The first was her love for me: maybe it is because this is actually my first relationship, but there is a way she gets all over me that make me feel stuffed and choked sometimes. I'm an introvert and practically enjoy my me time but since we kicked off our relationship nothing of such exists anymore. From her ridiculous number of calls to her constant request for attention, I'm not sure of my sanity anymore.

Her strictness/anger: she has really never gotten angry with me before but I have seen her with other guys who try to cross boundaries. She can practically stare their soul from their body with just one look because of a simple a touch to her shoulder and that is when she's in a good mood. I saw how she once shouted the blood out of her male neighbour during one of my visit when he made a flirting remark. She does this to females as well and it kind of scare me. I mean she once made a cab man cry from her foul mouth because she found out he had overcharged her. I don't want that kind of anger directed at me for any reason. At least for now, anytime she gets angry she just stay quiet and turn away from me.

Death threats: when she first told me that she could blow off my brains if I ever cheated on her, I took it for laughs. After all how can she get a gun, but when she repeated it about two weeks later by promising to stab me if she see with another girl in a compromising position I knew it wasn't for comic relief anymore. I have no intention to cheat but for a relationship in its early stages I think the threats are uncalled for.

So I've been thinking if the threats are something I should take serious or let it slide, because apart from everything above she's just so perfect and lovely and brilliant. She can hold intelligent conversation for as long as need be, something I've never seen in other girls. I really don't want to break up with her but I don't want to die either



Modified
hello guys, I really appreciate all the input. after reading some of the advice given here. I decided to have a talk with her about my concerns.

concerning the death threats, she told me that she really didn't mean it that way, that she is just concerned she is really into me and dumping her could have a really devastating effect on her. she said she would hate men for life if I did that to her but she couldn't possibly hurt me in anyway. she opened up that her fear was fuelled by the fact that I'm now a different man as I have gotten to lay with her and may want more with other girls. (she feels I'm the most innocent guy in the world despite clearly telling her that my not being in any previous commitment didn't mean I was a novice with girls)

conclusion:

I have decided to stick with her for now and watch for any crazy move, because in all truth I care about her and have no intention to leave her. she has invested so much in me without ever acting domineering or entitled, like b4 I met her I was moving at a steady rate but she just fired me to her level by getting me contacts to some designers in turkey while agreeing to make me a co partner on her design (I have my own designs I'm working on as well). this is just one part of the good things she has done for me. I have also done quite a little for her but she leads the chart. for me, I just think she choosed me because a lot of made guys have asked out with at least two proposing marriage in just the 2 months we've been together.

I just have this sick feeling I may be at the losing end if we part ways. her ex is a perfect example of that, the guy is still begging till now

Alfaaa maaail!!! I bow for you. So in some not-so-straightforward words, you just admitted to being a gold-digger sticking with a woman who is doing everything for you.

You wee na coman be form hard guy, hard guy. Falling hard. Hard guy, hard guy. Na crazy woman you carry. Hard guy, hard guy, she'll show you shege, you wee comman be weeping like an egbere on NL about how women are this and that.

You dun hassosiate wih hour type, yet na misandrist-in-making you jam. I pirry you.

Wo...

Magnoliaa:
Alfaaa maaail!!! I bow for you. So in some not-so-straightforward words, you just admitted to being a gold-digger sticking with a woman who is doing everything for you.

You wee na coman be form hard guy, hard guy. Falling hard. Hard guy, hard guy. Na crazy woman you carry. Hard guy, hard guy, she'll show you shege, you wee comman be weeping like an egbere on NL about how women are this and that.

You dun hassosiate wih hour type, yet na misandrist-in-making you jam. I pirry you.

Wo...

Magnoliaa:
Tears of consolation. Don't goan face your struggling business before your life fizzles out.

aluyapreston:
at least she is not a bitter feminist like you .

I will give it to you you made me laugh


I'm a statistician just so you know, so I will be lurking

Magnoliaa:
You will keep dropping tales about your life one way or the other. Tales no one has use for.

I am NOT doing a trolling game with you. Nah. If you want my attention (sustained), you get it other ways. Everything I point out about you is a fact, while you keep making shxt up about me. You obviously have no sense of esteem or self-image, hence why you are so quick to want to roll in the mud. If I don't engage you on your level, it doesn't point to any illusory superiority or win or jack on your part (over Me).

My mental e-life is too precious for me to trample in the cesspool of your hate and toxicity - offline and online.

You can continue haunting the skirt(s) of my space...