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Pancakeey:
I’m your worst nightmare.
I’m here to tell you what others can’t tell you.

You’re a mad man! Now run along, I don’t have time for senile idiots.

CsRockefeller:
I'm sorry for the insults, shouldn't have gone that route to make my point. You're a writer and should know better than say those words, nevertheless everyone is entitled to their opinions.

Have a nice day.

Flolovtri:
So I met this guy during a lecture. He collected my number and we became friends. I wasn't looking forward to dating him,it never crossed my mind. But we chatted regularly and well,I started to like him. And he said he loved me too and wanted me to be his girlfriend. I didn't because I felt it was too early and deep inside I never planned to have a boyfriend and it didn't feel like love. I had my doubt

After the decline,things were a lil bit shaky, awkward conversations unlike before. I just liked him and was confused if we should or not go into relationship. Relationship means alot to me and I felt he was trying to play around and didn't really want something serious. After awhile I left him,I was confused,I wasn't sure I could offer him what he wanted too-a romantic relationship. All this happened last year

During the very beginning of covid-19,he sent a text and I did same but not with the intention of getting back. But he suggested we spoke on WhatsApp and gbam!we were friends again. Telling me how much he missed me,how he felt about me and those stuffs they tell you. Well we were friends again and this time I wanted a defined relationship,if we have nothing then it's nothing. He wanted me to be his girlfriend but I didn't feel that he wanted something serious. He never calls. If I don't greet he won't. And when he does he'd take time to reply this was like few weeks after we reconnected o. He started saying he was busy. Like mannn,I'm busy too but will still tàje time to text you. It got so so so bad. Man whatsup?why you like this?

Nothing,I don't just feel like talking to you or anyone else. Which was a big lie

I just stopped texting him,took him off my WhatsApp. I was really pained. Had to start working to get my mind of it. I was really hurt.

All this still happening during this lockdown.
Then one day he called my phone, remember I took his number off my phone,so I didn't know he was the one.

Well,we got talking again. I made sure I let him know why I took him off and he apologized. I accepted and we were back again. I know, I'm such an idiot. But are we not supposed to give people benefits of doubt -atleast he apologized.

Well,we became friends again. Told me he loved me and wanted me to be his girlfriend. At this point I was scared and I hardly trust him. Why you always leaving? I have this guess that he's still stucked to someone else maybe his ex. But they only guesses.

I told him I didn't want a romantic relationship. Well,we didn't come to a conclusion but we were still friends. Until recently,he said he was going through shi and normally, I'd do what I can. But I knew it was about another girl he's after. He post romantic shi on his status and I just feel pain really. Why? I always leave because you are not ready but then you come back forming whatever,I always do the mistake of letting you in back because I feel I could give you another chance.

Just recently he posted something on his status telling a girl he loved her blahhh(he wanted me to be his GF when he was actually chasing someone else.Yes,I'm pained. I know he's gone but ahhhh.


I've been off WhatsApp for like Two weeks and baba hasn't called or texted. Something I'd never do if he were in my shoes.

A part of me was waiting for closure but I know it's not necessary. This is not the first the second time

Sincerely, I'm pained. I know I should move on but that hurt is just too much. I really loved him

At this point I don't even know what to do with him.

I'm stupid? I dunno

Flolovtri:
So I met this guy during a lecture. He collected my number and we became friends. I wasn't looking forward to dating him,it never crossed my mind. But we chatted regularly and well,I started to like him. And he said he loved me too and wanted me to be his girlfriend. I didn't because I felt it was too early and deep inside I never planned to have a boyfriend and it didn't feel like love. I had my doubt

After the decline,things were a lil bit shaky, awkward conversations unlike before. I just liked him and was confused if we should or not go into relationship. Relationship means alot to me and I felt he was trying to play around and didn't really want something serious. After awhile I left him,I was confused,I wasn't sure I could offer him what he wanted too-a romantic relationship. All this happened last year

During the very beginning of covid-19,he sent a text and I did same but not with the intention of getting back. But he suggested we spoke on WhatsApp and gbam!we were friends again. Telling me how much he missed me,how he felt about me and those stuffs they tell you. Well we were friends again and this time I wanted a defined relationship,if we have nothing then it's nothing. He wanted me to be his girlfriend but I didn't feel that he wanted something serious. He never calls. If I don't greet he won't. And when he does he'd take time to reply this was like few weeks after we reconnected o. He started saying he was busy. Like mannn,I'm busy too but will still tàje time to text you. It got so so so bad. Man whatsup?why you like this?

Nothing,I don't just feel like talking to you or anyone else. Which was a big lie

I just stopped texting him,took him off my WhatsApp. I was really pained. Had to start working to get my mind of it. I was really hurt.

All this still happening during this lockdown.
Then one day he called my phone, remember I took his number off my phone,so I didn't know he was the one.

Well,we got talking again. I made sure I let him know why I took him off and he apologized. I accepted and we were back again. I know, I'm such an idiot. But are we not supposed to give people benefits of doubt -atleast he apologized.

Well,we became friends again. Told me he loved me and wanted me to be his girlfriend. At this point I was scared and I hardly trust him. Why you always leaving? I have this guess that he's still stucked to someone else maybe his ex. But they only guesses.

I told him I didn't want a romantic relationship. Well,we didn't come to a conclusion but we were still friends. Until recently,he said he was going through shi and normally, I'd do what I can. But I knew it was about another girl he's after. He post romantic shi on his status and I just feel pain really. Why? I always leave because you are not ready but then you come back forming whatever,I always do the mistake of letting you in back because I feel I could give you another chance.

Just recently he posted something on his status telling a girl he loved her blahhh(he wanted me to be his GF when he was actually chasing someone else.Yes,I'm pained. I know he's gone but ahhhh.


I've been off WhatsApp for like Two weeks and baba hasn't called or texted. Something I'd never do if he were in my shoes.

A part of me was waiting for closure but I know it's not necessary. This is not the first the second time

Sincerely, I'm pained. I know I should move on but that hurt is just too much. I really loved him

At this point I don't even know what to do with him.

I'm stupid? I dunno

Flolovtri:
So I met this guy during a lecture. He collected my number and we became friends. I wasn't looking forward to dating him,it never crossed my mind. But we chatted regularly and well,I started to like him. And he said he loved me too and wanted me to be his girlfriend. I didn't because I felt it was too early and deep inside I never planned to have a boyfriend and it didn't feel like love. I had my doubt

After the decline,things were a lil bit shaky, awkward conversations unlike before. I just liked him and was confused if we should or not go into relationship. Relationship means alot to me and I felt he was trying to play around and didn't really want something serious. After awhile I left him,I was confused,I wasn't sure I could offer him what he wanted too-a romantic relationship. All this happened last year

During the very beginning of covid-19,he sent a text and I did same but not with the intention of getting back. But he suggested we spoke on WhatsApp and gbam!we were friends again. Telling me how much he missed me,how he felt about me and those stuffs they tell you. Well we were friends again and this time I wanted a defined relationship,if we have nothing then it's nothing. He wanted me to be his girlfriend but I didn't feel that he wanted something serious. He never calls. If I don't greet he won't. And when he does he'd take time to reply this was like few weeks after we reconnected o. He started saying he was busy. Like mannn,I'm busy too but will still tàje time to text you. It got so so so bad. Man whatsup?why you like this?

Nothing,I don't just feel like talking to you or anyone else. Which was a big lie

I just stopped texting him,took him off my WhatsApp. I was really pained. Had to start working to get my mind of it. I was really hurt.

All this still happening during this lockdown.
Then one day he called my phone, remember I took his number off my phone,so I didn't know he was the one.

Well,we got talking again. I made sure I let him know why I took him off and he apologized. I accepted and we were back again. I know, I'm such an idiot. But are we not supposed to give people benefits of doubt -atleast he apologized.

Well,we became friends again. Told me he loved me and wanted me to be his girlfriend. At this point I was scared and I hardly trust him. Why you always leaving? I have this guess that he's still stucked to someone else maybe his ex. But they only guesses.

I told him I didn't want a romantic relationship. Well,we didn't come to a conclusion but we were still friends. Until recently,he said he was going through shi and normally, I'd do what I can. But I knew it was about another girl he's after. He post romantic shi on his status and I just feel pain really. Why? I always leave because you are not ready but then you come back forming whatever,I always do the mistake of letting you in back because I feel I could give you another chance.

Just recently he posted something on his status telling a girl he loved her blahhh(he wanted me to be his GF when he was actually chasing someone else.Yes,I'm pained. I know he's gone but ahhhh.


I've been off WhatsApp for like Two weeks and baba hasn't called or texted. Something I'd never do if he were in my shoes.

A part of me was waiting for closure but I know it's not necessary. This is not the first the second time

Sincerely, I'm pained. I know I should move on but that hurt is just too much. I really loved him

At this point I don't even know what to do with him.

I'm stupid? I dunno

Hey florisent..u not stupid.. u are beautifull

Best advise & great idea.

.. juss sleep wit me so we can make him jelos (simple)

emmyN:
You've obviously gotten emotionally attached to him but are still indecisive. He's wooed you thrice and you turned him down, what then do you expect he sticks around doing? Oh you want friendship? He made it clear from the get-go he wasn't in for "just friends". The kind of relationship he's proposed you've consistently turned down, so you shouldn't feel sad that he is backtracking.

Next time you are with someone, ensure to know what you really want to avoid unnecessary emotional entanglement. Now tell me, why has he met you "single" every time he breezes in? No option?

Pancakeey:
Hey flolovtri I hope I spelt the moniker right.

Well, what can I say? I’ve not really been in this position but I’ve been with someone who didn’t care or do too much to reciprocate my feelings.
No calls, slow replies, he’ll ghost and all. Then after a while he’ll come back saying something happened and that he’s sorry. Lol, NEVER AGAIN will I let that rubbish happen to me.

Just move on. It’s even foolish telling you to move on when you guys never started anything together.
And you said you don’t want a romantic relationship then what do you want?
A platonic relationship?? You want a platonic relationship and you’re already having feelings and writing an epistle over this guy who doesn’t care about you.
Believe me, if a guy is really into you, you’ll see it.

I’m sure you’re feeling this way about the guy maybe because he was the first person to make you feel wanted or something Idk.

Lemme not talk too much. Take your mind off him and breathe fresh air
Also go back to WhatsApp abeg. You didn’t download WhatsApp to be staying offline and waiting for someone to notice your absence.

jornwhite:
You will get pregnant maybe not now, don't curse yourselve o ! the best way to move on is to look for a long term distraction & don't isolate yourself.
i think meeting new people is the best form of distraction ever.

Privatepart00:
Are you still available for a new beginning huh?

Flolovtri:
No

I need healing and have work to do on myself

Thanks

Stargurl20:
Listen, sis. I'm aware it isn't easy, but trust me, you will be doing yourself a great favor by moving on. Stop checking up on him. You could even ignore his messages if need be cos your sanity right now, is important. Love can be acted just like in the movies. Don't let a guy toy with your emotions cos he has nothing to lose but you. I understand how you feel and don't mind those criticising your age. Love has nothing to do with age. Just move on... Only you can help your self move on... By always resisting the urge to check up on you.

Flolovtri:
So I met this guy during a lecture. He collected my number and we became friends. I wasn't looking forward to dating him,it never crossed my mind. But we chatted regularly and well,I started to like him. And he said he loved me too and wanted me to be his girlfriend. I didn't because I felt it was too early and deep inside I never planned to have a boyfriend and it didn't feel like love. I had my doubt

After the decline,things were a lil bit shaky, awkward conversations unlike before. I just liked him and was confused if we should or not go into relationship. Relationship means alot to me and I felt he was trying to play around and didn't really want something serious. After awhile I left him,I was confused,I wasn't sure I could offer him what he wanted too-a romantic relationship. All this happened last year

During the very beginning of covid-19,he sent a text and I did same but not with the intention of getting back. But he suggested we spoke on WhatsApp and gbam!we were friends again. Telling me how much he missed me,how he felt about me and those stuffs they tell you. Well we were friends again and this time I wanted a defined relationship,if we have nothing then it's nothing. He wanted me to be his girlfriend but I didn't feel that he wanted something serious. He never calls. If I don't greet he won't. And when he does he'd take time to reply this was like few weeks after we reconnected o. He started saying he was busy. Like mannn,I'm busy too but will still tàje time to text you. It got so so so bad. Man whatsup?why you like this?

Nothing,I don't just feel like talking to you or anyone else. Which was a big lie

I just stopped texting him,took him off my WhatsApp. I was really pained. Had to start working to get my mind of it. I was really hurt.

All this still happening during this lockdown.
Then one day he called my phone, remember I took his number off my phone,so I didn't know he was the one.

Well,we got talking again. I made sure I let him know why I took him off and he apologized. I accepted and we were back again. I know, I'm such an idiot. But are we not supposed to give people benefits of doubt -atleast he apologized.

Well,we became friends again. Told me he loved me and wanted me to be his girlfriend. At this point I was scared and I hardly trust him. Why you always leaving? I have this guess that he's still stucked to someone else maybe his ex. But they only guesses.

I told him I didn't want a romantic relationship. Well,we didn't come to a conclusion but we were still friends. Until recently,he said he was going through shi and normally, I'd do what I can. But I knew it was about another girl he's after. He post romantic shi on his status and I just feel pain really. Why? I always leave because you are not ready but then you come back forming whatever,I always do the mistake of letting you in back because I feel I could give you another chance.

Just recently he posted something on his status telling a girl he loved her blahhh(he wanted me to be his GF when he was actually chasing someone else.Yes,I'm pained. I know he's gone but ahhhh.


I've been off WhatsApp for like Two weeks and baba hasn't called or texted. Something I'd never do if he were in my shoes.

A part of me was waiting for closure but I know it's not necessary. This is not the first the second time

Sincerely, I'm pained. I know I should move on but that hurt is just too much. I really loved him

At this point I don't even know what to do with him.

I'm stupid? I dunno

Htop:
he knew you have a soft heart..... you should help yourself no one will..... disconnect him in ur life... avoid conversation with him.... time will heal u

Starz825:
bae , calm...I know aw you feel...I guess you feeling hurt because you did the right thing...*you don't want a romantic relationship**...you stood your ground!...
me like your courage. muah

Flolovtri:
You are so blunt. True talk though but why he keeps coming back. I know you don't want me so why you back?

Shortyy:
Lmaoooooooooooooo

I don't know why it's hard for women to realize that most times men use them to catch cruise.

Sawzer:
Isn't it obvious?
He's just catching cruise. When he feels bored and lonely he comes back to cruise. He doesn't really love you. He also wanted you to be jealous because you are not really giving him the answer he wanted that's why he post those things on his status without blocking him from seeing his status.


And always follow your instinct, you did the right thing for not accepting go his demands the first time.

Flolovtri:
exactly guyyyy


The first time I decided to leave I should have just trusted my instinct. But give him another chance na, maybe he'd change baah blah blah,see where it got me to

I'd block my access to him


Oshey dear

Flolovtri:
please note that I leave whenever I notice he's doing that,I always leave so he can focus on whosoever he's after.

And for why I'm always single-i don't rush our of one to rush into another,I'm not that desperate to have someone in my life.

Thanks though

Flolovtri:
You saw where I wrote I didn't want a romantic relationship

lagusboyyy:
you are the one confusing yourself sis.

What do you want from him? Do you love him? You dont want a romantic relationship right? Yet! You cant let go,its obvious he wants to date you,but you dont want this.

My sister,you cant eat your cake and still have it,the guy is not ready to be a casual friend to you,he wants a relationship,why not give him a chance,since you like him so much,or are you scared of something?

CoderX:
Yan yan yan... Are u above 20 yrs?

You are a small girl my dear. They sent you to school to learn, not to follow a boy. After all the lovey lovey, what next, isn't it premarital sex?

What an elder sees sitting down, a child cannot see even if he climbs the iroko tree.

emmyN:
Smiles. You know you don't need closure, because there was no proper definition to what you had. Platonic friendship between opposite sexes are often difficult to keep, especially when one party wants more. Give it time, you'll get over it.

For the reason you gave for being single, you were never in a relationship before, remember ? I think you ladies should be realistic on what you look out for in a partner. Be flexible but firm. Show whoever doesn't tick most boxes the door and keep the door closed.

Regards.

Flolovtri:
if he didn't want a romantic relationship then just maybe we might date,I can't offer anything romantic.and yes,it's hard letting go and maybe that's my mistake

tiffanyfan:
Why do you think that a 20yrs old will still be in school?... Lets be guided pls....infact some of us are more sensible than some

lagusboyyy:
In your own terms,whats the difference between DATING and ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIP?

CoderX:
Yan yan yan... Are u above 20 yrs?

You are a small girl my dear. They sent you to school to learn, not to follow a boy. After all the lovey lovey, what next, isn't it premarital sex?

What an elder sees sitting down, a child cannot see even if he climbs the iroko tree.

kingvick09:
so pregnancy na crime？
we need to stop having this .........mentality of seeing pregnancy as sort of a crime or abomination

Flolovtri:
This is easier said but I know it's like almost the only option

Thanks

Flolovtri:
Dating to me is just growth,I'd manage to be there in anyway. Romantic -Im sorry,If we're not married,don't touch me!