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Re: Married Women Come Here by ImaIma1(f): 7:39pm On Nov 01, 2020 |
Re: Married Women Come Here by ImaIma1(f): 7:48pm On Nov 01, 2020 |
pocohantas: I agree. Some small boys that are still collecting pocket money from their parents will come and shout simp. But I cannot resist the urge to share small. Marrying my friend was the best decision ever. His liberality and selflessness makes my life easy. Cc Hathor5 8 Likes |
Re: Married Women Come Here by Sixfeetbelle: 11:18pm On Nov 01, 2020 |
pocohantas: As surprising as it sounds, I once saw a post not too long ago that stated that some alpha males do get married and I was stunned. Who knew they were family oriented! If I find the post, I'll tag you. |
Re: Married Women Come Here by Hathor5(f): 12:33pm On Nov 02, 2020 |
ImaIma1: But I cannot resist the urge to share small. Marrying my friend was the best decision ever. His liberality and selfishness makes my life easy. Happy to hear it. I love happy love stories and easy is how it is supposed to be. |
Re: Married Women Come Here by Vyolet(f): 12:53pm On Nov 02, 2020 |
When a woman comes here to praise her husband and say good things about him, Monikas like Crackhaus's will be the first to call names and tell her she is lying like they know her more than she knows herself. 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Married Women Come Here by Nobody: 2:05pm On Nov 02, 2020 |
Vyolet:You can't actually blame them for disbelieving. You know people are being influenced by their own family setup so they might not believe a woman could have a good husband 11 Likes |
Re: Married Women Come Here by ImaIma1(f): 8:58pm On Nov 02, 2020 |
Hathor5: I meant selflessness...lol 1 Like |
Re: Married Women Come Here by prophetfire: 2:02am On Nov 03, 2020 |
Zzor:. Maybe that's your experience and the experience of the members of your family. I have three of my blood sisters, they are married and enjoying their marriages while I have a wonderful friendship with their husbands. So your majority might be your usual exaggeration as a part-time online feminist crying wolf or your own family experience because some problems are deeply rooted in evil family patterns. |
Re: Married Women Come Here by UjuJoan2: 5:22am On Nov 03, 2020 |
nahzyla: Not all Nigerians marriages are bleak and unhappy. The problem with Nigerian marriages is the environment. The environment is structured to surpress women in marriages. One person has too much power and mis-uses it, the other had less power and secretly resents it. If you are married to Nigerian man, no matter what you are or how hard you've worked to get to where you are, you will still be treated like nobody in his house by his friends and family. I consider myself one of the lucky few in marriage, but that's just because my husband doesn't behave like a typical Nigerian man. The bottom-line is marry your friend. Someone who understands you, who is ready to make sacrifices for you, and who doesn't care what people think about him when it comes to you. I tell you, a lot of men do the things they do so people won't think their wives are controlling them. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Married Women Come Here by UjuJoan2: 5:34am On Nov 03, 2020 |
nahzyla: So what are the things he does . . . 10 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: Married Women Come Here by mrblessed(m): 7:44am On Nov 03, 2020 |
We have to be careful before we describe a slave in the guise of a desirably good, non-Nigerian husband. The immediate commenter has practically turned her husband into a slave that, never opposes her, allows her to get away with almost everything, and will always take her side in dispute, even when she is wrong. The crowning accomplishment of it all is that he makes enemy to anyone who is not in the good books of his wife.This is not rational, even in the starry-eyed western standard. 11 Likes |
Re: Married Women Come Here by AstroG: 8:07am On Nov 03, 2020 |
UjuJoan2: Hmmmm,I can feel ur husbands innocent spirit 4 Likes
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Re: Married Women Come Here by vandp: 2:54pm On Nov 03, 2020 |
UjuJoan2: I don't believe you. |
Re: Married Women Come Here by Nobody: 3:11pm On Nov 03, 2020 |
mrblessed:Don't believe anything that comes from that schizophrenic. She can only lie to newbies. |
Re: Married Women Come Here by Raalsalghul: 9:43pm On Nov 03, 2020 |
mrblessed: I really commend your ability to see through the bullshit. If we talk, dem go attack us with the "alfa male" line. 2 Likes
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Re: Married Women Come Here by RightToReject(m): 9:49pm On Nov 03, 2020 |
UjuJoan2: The two posts you made above have proven right my belief that people who have persecutory delusions aren't against injustice/oppression because they hate it; rather, they only hate it when they aren't the ones oppressing others. Talk about sententiousness, conceit/egoism, and hypocrisy. Your husband uses servility wittingly or unwittingly to sustain his relationship with you in the marriage, as you presented in this second post. So, you may be happy in the marriage, but it's obviously far from being a healthy marriage, and the only way your husband would claim to be happy in it is if he's inherently servile or held by Stockholm syndrome. The wish of every crass and or opportunistic man and woman is to always have an inherently servile person as a spouse, and the more economic buoyant the servile spouse is the better. Ironically, I haven't known you as a crass and opportunistic woman rather as a maverick one, your obvious self-absorption notwithstanding, and maverick people don't derive pleasure from oppressing others. So, it's obvious that you didn't give a correct account of your relationship with your husband and marriage. Try harder. 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Married Women Come Here by Raalsalghul: 9:49pm On Nov 03, 2020 |
UjuJoan2: 1 Like
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Re: Married Women Come Here by magkhan(f): 9:58pm On Nov 03, 2020 |
1. Prays for me and with me. I’m not the prayer type of person but his midnight prayers gives me joy. 2. Supports my career and education. Has no issues with late nights at work or out of town engagements. 3. Gives me ANYTHING I ask for even jokingly. I’m not demanding or unreasonable. I’ve never asked for a house because I know he can’t afford to buy me one even if he wants to. 4. Aside being a good husband he is a perfect perfect father I sometimes envy my kid�. He is also a good son and brother to his sister. 5. His sacrifices. Don’t get me started on this. He is the typical Igbo anambra man that will give his wife his car and use public transport. He is not perfect but I married right. 6 Likes |
Re: Married Women Come Here by UjuJoan2: 1:46am On Nov 04, 2020 |
RightToReject: Lol . . . Okay! But just so you know, if I were your wife you'll be the exact same way. There are people you come across and you just want to protect them . . It's like a gift you know . . . . people say it's in my eyes I mean, I'm kind of fabulous like that! Okay, now I'm just teasing you. I just couldn't resist, your post is hilarious!!! 3 Likes |
Re: Married Women Come Here by UjuJoan2: 2:06am On Nov 04, 2020 |
I expected this backlash . . . . It's like for some reason, Nigerian men don't like to hear there are others actually doing things right and keeping their home. So they call them weaklings to justify their own insensitivities. But I made the post to encourage people who think most Nigerians marriages are dead on arrival. If you marry a man who has respect for women, he will treat you with respect irrespective of what people will say or think about him. I think that is the fundamental problem. A lot of men don't have any regards it value for women, how then will they be able to treat their wives right? 5 Likes |
Re: Married Women Come Here by UjuJoan2: 2:22am On Nov 04, 2020 |
pocohantas: I agree . . . But this thread was created to encourage those who are getting cold feet, so we see it as giving back in a way . . . Of course, life is not a bed of roses. If they create a thread for the struggles we face we will go and bitch about our husbands and make the sadists very happy. 2 Likes |
Re: Married Women Come Here by RightToReject(m): 7:06am On Nov 04, 2020 |
UjuJoan2: If I were the husband of a maverick Ujujoan, the only thing I'll not deny her from the listed items is item 3: "3. He supports me . . . Whatever I need to get to that next level, he provides. He doesn't get threatened, instead he pushes me to reach for the top. He thinks I'm the best, most intelligent and most gifted person on earth. I wish I could see myself through his eyes." 1 Like |
Re: Married Women Come Here by UjuJoan2: 7:16am On Nov 04, 2020 |
RightToReject: Okay, let's say for arguments sake that I was subservient . . Do you think marrying one will make you do 1, 2 and 4? |
Re: Married Women Come Here by RightToReject(m): 7:22am On Nov 04, 2020 |
UjuJoan2: No. Truth is that I consider subservient (servile) people as draining as crass people - both personify opportunism, with the difference being that while the latter is haughty, the former is self-effacing. In the absence of a conscientious woman, a maverick one that has an altruistic interest in me has always been my best bet. 1 Like |
Re: Married Women Come Here by UjuJoan2: 7:31am On Nov 04, 2020 |
RightToReject: Oh, I get it . .. you want an independent woman who is "humble" enough to follow follow you. Of course she can't be too "follow follow" cos we don't want to irritate you. Doesn't that make you a bit manipulative too? |
Re: Married Women Come Here by RightToReject(m): 8:04am On Nov 04, 2020 |
UjuJoan2: Neither a conscientious woman (person) nor a maverick one who has an altruistic interest in me (or you) does "follow follow." Both always do what they know is right but for different reasons. The former does what's right because she's fundamentally or inherently from strong ethical leanings, while the latter does so because, despite being self-absorbing, has a special interest in me that isn't primarily centered on material things. In a nutshell, neither of them will mete out a pernicious act against me, provided that I stay conscientious. The only person that needs to be conditioned is a manipulator (the opportunist), and when one does that, he/she can be said to be diplomatically offensive than manipulative. |
Re: Married Women Come Here by UjuJoan2: 8:48am On Nov 04, 2020 |
RightToReject: So do you think you know me well enough to categorically say that I am NOT conscientious, thereby undeserving of my husband's unreserved love and respect How do you know he is not just reciprocating my own unconditional love? I mean for all you know, my husband's attitude could be as a result my own behaviour and attitude towards him. Also, let's assume I don't have high ethical and moral standards, isn't love supposed to be unconditional? You want a relationship where you can only love someone who you think deserves your love, but do you think you yourself really deserve to be loved? I know you think you are altruistic, conscientious and bla bla bla, but then you are still human nonetheless. Except you want to tell me you are PERFECT!!! Trust me, you are already coming off as self righteous and conceited as it is. 7 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Married Women Come Here by RightToReject(m): 9:11am On Nov 04, 2020 |
UjuJoan2: LOL. Ujujoan, you've mistaken descriptive assertions for normative ones; refer to your two posts I made mention of in my foremost reply to you. About your last paragraph here, believe you me, you're better than me. Stay safe. |
Re: Married Women Come Here by Teespice(f): 10:12am On Nov 04, 2020 |
I came here to read happy stories but alas, poco was right. look at how they descended on uju's post like vultures. make I waka abeg. I no get strength this morning. 4 Likes |
Re: Married Women Come Here by chii8(f): 10:19am On Nov 04, 2020 |
Hmmm.... please, I have been married for 11years, I'm happy.If you are not happy that people could be happy in their marriage,then deal with it.My husband has been good and supportive.We've been through thick and thin together.But we are very happy.Although,it wasn't much of our personal efforts but only by God's grace. 6 Likes |
Re: Married Women Come Here by Fountainofyouth(f): 10:22am On Nov 04, 2020 |
UjuJoan2: This is funny, weird, and wrong, are you both Christians? 5 Likes |
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