Women that got married very early, how did you conquer your fears? my friend don't know how it will turn out for her if she accept this proposal staring at her, this is supposed to be once a lifetime opportunity to get such proposal(theres explanation to this but nairalanders will insult her if i share them). She's scared of the uncertainties, she's scared of living her own life, aside this fears she would have loved to be married early. She's confused, should she take the risk? the man involved is a very gentleman and will surely treat and pamper her well but she's scared of taking that bold step.

Marriage is not for babies.

My question is... Does she have mother or elder sister to coach or put her fears to rest... Taking a bold step like dis she need all the counsel she will need to build her morale.. You can help her also in building her morale...wat are friends for..

If she is afraid of getting married, let her stay single, everybody must not marry.

If you're scared of the uncertainties of life, you'll never step out of your house every morning.

With the right person, there won't be uncertainties or confusion.

chychy12:
My question is... Does she have mother or elder sister to coach or put her fears to rest... Taking a bold step like dis she need all the counsel she will need to build her morale.. You can help her also in building her morale...wat are friends for..

she doesn't have an elder sister,shes the only female,her mother thinks she's still too young for marriage but the mom got married two years younger her age

Freestainworld:
If she is afraid of getting married, let her stay single, everybody must not marry.

You don't get it,theres this fear especially being too young

DimplesLikeWow:
With the right person, there won't be uncertainties or confusion.

I think so too

I pity the poor fellow. A "friend" of yours That man is finished. I pray your Friend ain't like you, if not, that innocent man is about to drink from a poisoned chalice. God please save this man. Anyhow you are going to do it for me. In the mighty name of jesus.!!

Zzor:
she doesn't have an elder sister,shes the only female,her mother thinks she's still too young for marriage but the mom got married two years younger her age

Then if the mom thinks she is too young and the girl inquestion feel she doesn't have the morale yet to take that bold step.. Then Let her chill... Other options will come in the nearest future..

[quote author=Zzor post=95785190]You don't get it,theres this fear especially being too young [/quote how old is she?

MOLOTOVcockTAIL:
I pity the poor fellow. A "friend" of yours That man is finished. I pray your Friend ain't like you, if not, that innocent man is about to drink from a poisoned chalice. God please save this man. Anyhow you are going to do it for me. In the mighty name of jesus.!!

What if I and my friend happens to be the sweetest and coolest people you can ever find outside here.Dont be quick to condemn people based on what they write.

how old is she?

Zzor:
she doesn't have an elder sister,shes the only female,her mother thinks she's still too young for marriage but the mom got married two years younger her age

she should listen to her mother.her mother knows better from experience

[quote author=Freestainworld post=95785433][/quote] she'll be twenty soon

chychy12:


Then if the mom thinks she is too young and the girl inquestion feel she doesn't have the morale yet to take that bold step.. Then Let her chill... Other options will come in the nearest future..

hmm

bjprodint:
she should listen to her mother.her mother knows better from experience

same mother that got married at eighteen

Zzor:
Women that got married very early, how did you conquer your fears? my friend don't know how it will turn out for her if she accept this proposal staring at her, this is supposed to be once a lifetime opportunity to get such proposal(theres explanation to this but nairalanders will insult her if i share them). She's scared of the uncertainties, she's scared of living her own life, aside this fears she would have loved to be married early. She's confused, should she take the risk? the man involved is a very gentleman and will surely treat and pamper her well but she's scared of taking that bold step.

She is still immature and has alot of growing up to do. Marriage is for matured ppl ready to face challenges therein it's not a bed of roses.

It's like most things in life there is no certainty or guarantee of outcome from the beginning but just faith that it will turn out fine

legacystore:


She is still immature and has alot of growing to do. Marriage is matured ppl ready to face challenges therein it's not a bed of roses.

This proposal is kind of hard to say no to,i wish I can explain without people insulting my friend

Zzor:
same mother that got married at eighteen

same mother that married early might have experienced what she may not wish to share.

I became a baby mama at age 22,I endured d toxic relationship until did week when I walked out (9 years relationship with two kids).I never complained to anybody until last month.I regret going against my parents,cos I was warned

still young but marriage is a decision, what is she afraid of in particular, is she not educated or still schooling, or she don't likes the proposer of the marriage.

bjprodint:
same mother that married early might have experienced what she may not wish to share.

I became a baby mama at age 22,I endured d toxic relationship until did week when I walked out (9 years relationship with two kids).I never complained to anybody until last month.I regret going against my parents,cos I was warned

you are a strong woman dear,everything shall be fine. she's kind of scared but the man is very matured cool calm and collected and his history is well known to my friend,hes a good man

Zzor:
This proposal is kind of hard to say no to,i wish I can explain without people insulting my friend

I understand u perfectly who turns down a rich gentleman that will pamper her

Well let her pray about it and go for him since it is hard to turn down already.

Times are hard and u don't get a proposal from a rich dude often, just like u said it's often a once in a lifetime opportunity.

Zzor:
hmm

Yes... Except there are other details you are failing to tell is here... Which can help is to modify of change the perspective of our advice towards her...

legacystore:


I understand u perfectly who turns down a rich gentlemen that will pamper her

Well let her pray about it and go for him since it is hard to turn down already.

Times are hard and u don't get a proposal from a rich dude often, just like u said it's often a once in a lifetime opportunity.

Be doing like you are smart

Zzor:
This proposal is kind of hard to say no to,i wish I can explain without people insulting my friend

Lemme guess. The guy is super rich? To be honest, 20 years old is still too young. She's got her whole life ahead of her. Dreams, goals, lessons, memories...marriage is not for children. Tell her to try and look beyond the goodies and pampering. That's not what marriage is about

LadyTianna:

Lemme guess. The guy is super rich? To be honest, 20 years old is still too young. She's got her whole life ahead of her. Dreams, goals, lessons, memories...marriage is not for children. Tell her to try and look beyond the goodies and pampering. That's not what marriage is about

hmm you will not understand sha,all these things you mentioned will be highly taken care of

Enjoy the husband of your youth

Does she have a source of income? No Lady should be a liability in marriage, it leads to unwarranted insults and verbal abuse.

Nuttella:
Does she have a source of income? No ladu should be a liability in marriage, it leads to unwarranted insults and verbal abuse.

she already has a small business which will be expanded and this wont stop her from pursuing her carrier as well

Zzor:
she already has a small business which will be expanded and this wont stop her from pursuing her carrier as well

Then she is good to go. I will not advice anyone to enter a marriage without a source of income, most times or ends in premium tears.