This guy na Dundee united abeg.

Arsenate:

Yes they are and they understand the advantage it gives them in the dating world, in life in general. That's why they try so hard to discourage men from being red pilled through shaming, because they do not want the playing field levelled.
As it is, for most men, dealing with women is like a boxer going into a boxing match with both hands and legs tight while his opponent has his free. just fccking look how hopeless the op sounds.

Lol, he's really hopeless and the guy no send am one bit while he's running around suffering himself,.. Women are born with redpill just like the other guy said, they do what they want and them no send u if it won't be to their advantage, I have learnt this and it paid me off

Alennsar:

You have only one problem and that is your wife. Your problems will be solved when you learn to live without her because you can still be very responsible for your children even when you are not together.

How will the children know him when he's far off and their mom feed them with poison about their sad, best is to cut everything off and move on

It is guys like you that come to tell nairalanders not to think of love when they don't have money...lol you advise them to always have money before thinking of love so oga now that you don't have money forget about your wife and stop thinking of love... when you have money again you can continue.... Foolish Nigerian men should continue to buy themselves a girlfriend and wife

Perfectsouth:
Cc royalroy

Well, I don't wNt my kids to go through what I went through so I forgave her.. God was answering my prayers and things started picking gradually.. I went to meet them, took them all out and did shopping for them..
I was planning on how to relocate them to where I was...
Now this is the revelation..
My wife has been used,thats the fact...
My photography business first collapsed.
I did about 5 businesses that just one of it can make me a millionaire, every business collapsed.. The more I sleep with her, the more things become worse for me...
All these revelation came after I was told to pray and fast..

When things started picking gradually for me this year, I payed for a shop 300k,it was almost my son's birthday. So I went to see them.. We slept together, I came back after the birthday.. Could you believe, I was chased away from that shop and till now, I was only able to recover just 50k from the money..
Before my mom's birthday again, I was doing some business and it started picking. Went for my mom's, she came for the birthday too, we slept together, and when I came back to my business, the war I fought was unfathomable.. It collapsed too..
I am a very prayerful person and believe me, in the 8yrs we've been together, I never slept with another woman. I sweared with everything they gave me cos they couldn't believe me..
Before my daughter's birthday, God was merciful to me and I started another business.. I was warned severely never to sleep with her again.. Till now, my business is gradually picking and am able to send them money for upkeep and my kids school fees....

Now this my wife have an immediate younger brother who is a travel agent, I remember last year I introduced a friend to him and even vouch and stood for him that nothing will go wrong.. Truly he did this guy's traveling to Dubai and the guy went.. But we didn't know what happened and this guy came back.. Maybe he was deported or not, nobody knows but this my friend came to arrest me and I was told to produce my Inlaw.. He came and we were both locked up for 3days..along the line, the matter got settled, I parted with some money after selling one of my equipment. And he too also raised some money.. So this year, when things were already picking up for me, he got into another problem and this time, they were gonna jail him, so I borrowed him 100k and he promised to pay them 50k monthly till he complete the payment.. It was a travel gone sour though I know some people he has done traveling for and they are doing fine in their respective country of choice.

So this year, someone decided to help me travel out, he gave me UNIVERSITY OF MANITOBA admission processing fees, it was 120cad, but I gave this my Inlaw 150$ believing that atleast, since I am his Inlaw and have done him alot of goods before nothing will go wrong..
That was in August..
Fast forward to 2days ago, I messaged University of Manitoba since I wasn't getting any update, and I was told my application was not submitted neither paid for, I almost collapsed... So what he did was doctored some documents and sent to me and I believed him..
Right now, I am in a fix..
About my wife's promiscuity, I have all evidence of their chat..
After forgiving her over that chat, when I went for my daughter's birthday, I wanted to go through her phone, she gave me a heavy fight that I can't go through her phone, the phone I bought for her with my money..
When she slept, I opened it with her Fingerprint.
The chats there are so damaging. Some have slept with her and still wanting to do more, some she is already negotiating with.
She works in a beer parlor now and she is already using waist beads, she knows I hate these things..

I can't tell it all but if you have a question to ask, or anything you think I missed, ask me and i will tell you the truth..
My Inlaw hasn't pick my call to tell me why that happened..

If you think this is a fabricated story,
I have all evidences.
If enough people ask for it, I will release it here..

u keep saying u don’t want ur children to go through wat u went through, u don’t want to be like ur dad . If u had this in mind from the onset then u should have been careful In d kind of woman and family you marry. It’s one thing to have a self proposition it’s another thing to work towards it being a reality. Accept that you’ve got it wrong from d beginning. Uve made a mistake. Ure lucky enough to know that now and know wat is happening to you. Some guys didn’t even get d chance and Dey died in d process. Help yourself my friend. Body no be firewood it is this same body no be firewood that led u to living a couple’s life wen u were supposed to b focused now see where it has landed you.

Am over 50 years in age. Call me or DM me and I will help. This is my area

murphyrichy:
[b][/b][font=Lucida Sans Unicode][/font][color=#990000][/color] This your story looks somehow, you said that your wife slept with the Yahoo guy, and that the Yahoo boy knows both of you, but some where along the line you said someone she has not met before. so how come?

the yahoo guy used a different pics on Facebook, a wealthy rich man pics

smartNerd:


What do prostitutes like you know about elders, nah community borehole you be, anyone can fetch.

You are sick seek for help asap.
psycho.

But must say something on this tread. there good women out there but they r hard to come by. they r like diamonds that u dont just pick any how. very rare. if GOD blesses a man with one he should b thankfull. but op no go dey marry another one again o! it is natural for a woman to want d best for her children. so she il want ur attention on her own kids.

According to what I read, you're are a very nice young man. I pray for you, may all your hard works back in the days pay you in a day! Amen.

First thing first, Sir please don't be too conscious about the physical being of anyone especially ladies. for this is what I believe too, I am sorry to say this, that lady is not your wife, yes she is not, and even if she is, that means she must be deliver and need to be liberated Asap. There are so many reasons for me to say that she isn't your wife.

1) A lady that sees reasons to pick offences whenever you correct her? I hate it when people pick offence when they are been corrected especially ladies and now wife, that kind of lady your wife oh..... no she isn't

2) A lady that doesn't have the spirit of contentment and the spirit of teamwork? I was told by my father back then in school, although he is my lecturer (DR. BARR. ELO) that without the spirit of teamwork the set goals will never be achieved, on my own I thought about this towards the family, a family that doesn't have the spirit of teamwork, a family that do things on their own will oh...... no. for this is what leads to single mothers and sometimes polygamy for both parties.

3)A lady her own family can't correct? Until the matter seems very serious and unbearable, then they will come with the entire family to beg for the bad attitude of their daughter hell.... no.

4) Finally, a lady that don't look up to her children and say oh.... because of this kids I forsake every other things so they will have a bright future why do I say that (Of course, we are Nigerians and we have tranditions, we are believers too, we have traditions also, these things have one way or the other of affecting us positively or negatively).


I always recommend to our beautiful ladies out there, a man that doesn't drink, smoke, womanize and act with conscience all the time.

To you man, you probably pay no attention to her, there were signs and signs that she wasn't for you but you went ahead now see, well, you already have children with this lady, love her and love the kids but don't sleep with her, some will say now, tha! you think say e easy, man i know is not easy but we talking about your life here, try not to pls. My opinion, there is nothing you or any other man will do for this lady that she will be satisfied, I know it's hard but look for another lady.

I pray God almighty gives you all what you have lost back in the days just in a day.

Perfectsouth:
thanks bro for the words.. Since I stopped mating with her, have seen improvement.. Don't just don't want to break up with her yet cos she will do everything to stop me from seeing my kids

You are not a man. Move on. If you don't see your kids, that's not the end of the world.

Perfectsouth.

Thank you for this thread, I have learnt a lot.

It may sound foolish, but mo matter how strong a man is, he can fall into the mercy of a woman. I almost did, this girl almost ruined my life while we were dating, gulping down my hard earned money like a sink hole and yet cheating on me....it was hard leaving her because we were close to marriage but I did.....and your thread gives me this extra confidence I made the best decision

Perfectsouth:
yeah he slept with her and she felt cheated according to her..

I was legally married to her, do you wish I become promiscuous?

1st born Sept 2
2nd Sept 28..
We are not living together, we stay in separate states and body no be firewood.

I am not a gum gum guy, from what I experienced in my family, I decided to stick to one woman to avoid my kids going through whatever I went through in life.

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Since u already know she's the reason of all ur misfortune, legally divorce her. How can u b sharing a private party with people u don't even know and u still call her ur wife?
Go get ur kids and disassociate urself from dat woman.
Forget about her brother/family, try and raise another money for your admission, God will do it for you

CsRockefeller:
O boy

Some women dey sha, I won't make a mistake in choosing a spouse, e too sure for me, I can't.

for the sake of your sanity and your kids

7BigSquids:



D sweating almost ruined the fine makeup

hahahaha

the raw truth is...no matter the bucket of advice given to the op....he'd still go back to his wife.
its evident in his writeup.
so why bother us in the first place?

Some men and women sometimes go into marriage cos of outward looks not minding the aftermath.

legacystore:
Oga those children u are calling urs may not be yours

Say u dey fuk woman no mean say na u give am belle

another angle..well said

I don't really have strength reading all through but my advice to you is that check if those kids are really yours... just saying tho bcs a promiscuous woman can carry other men kids and put it on ur head.... Be Wise

endeavor:


My friend faced similar issues.. I'd love to talk with you privately. There'll be a solution.

sent a dm

I will advise u to live that woman immediately, (are you sure the kids are even yours)

So sorry u went through this bitter experience, If u truly you were not at fault on ur part,to make her behave that way. I understand u wanted a good home and didn't want ur children to experience what u did; a broken home.
Meanwhile I have some questions for you.

1.Did you pray and fast to God on your own not by a prophet or pastor telling you she is ur wife? Did you hear from God to know if she is the woman for you,ur destiny wife before u married her,did you ask your maker?U have been unequally yoked. Cos there is a perfect soulmate for everyone.

2.When u were dating her and u saw all this signs,did U ask urself if u can cope with her because people hardly change?

3.Why did u go ahead,give money and make traveling plans with her brother knowing fully well through experiences that he is not mostly a trustworthy man? You know once bitten,twice shy.

4.Did u tell ur wife and her family of ur family background,are they aware that u went through devastating family experiences when growing up and how ur father treated you all? And how you struggled to build a good life for yourself?

4.This is an important fact.There are some women who carry favor and good luck(fountain of water) and some women who carry badluck and misfortune.In occult mysteries they are known as (dry leaves of the desert) ur contact with such people (women)will leave u with misfortune and disaster.unfortunately ur wife is a dry leaf.
quoterfectsouth post=96430898]Cc royalroy

Well, I don't wNt my kids to go through what I went through so I forgave her.. God was answering my prayers and things started picking gradually.. I went to meet them, took them all out and did shopping for them..
I was planning on how to relocate them to where I was...
Now this is the revelation..
My wife has been used,thats the fact...
My photography business first collapsed.
I did about 5 businesses that just one of it can make me a millionaire, every business collapsed.. The more I sleep with her, the more things become worse for me...
All these revelation came after I was told to pray and fast..

When things started picking gradually for me this year, I payed for a shop 300k,it was almost my son's birthday. So I went to see them.. We slept together, I came back after the birthday.. Could you believe, I was chased away from that shop and till now, I was only able to recover just 50k from the money..
Before my mom's birthday again, I was doing some business and it started picking. Went for my mom's, she came for the birthday too, we slept together, and when I came back to my business, the war I fought was unfathomable.. It collapsed too..
I am a very prayerful person and believe me, in the 8yrs we've been together, I never slept with another woman. I sweared with everything they gave me cos they couldn't believe me..
Before my daughter's birthday, God was merciful to me and I started another business.. I was warned severely never to sleep with her again.. Till now, my business is gradually picking and am able to send them money for upkeep and my kids school fees....

Now this my wife have an immediate younger brother who is a travel agent, I remember last year I introduced a friend to him and even vouch and stood for him that nothing will go wrong.. Truly he did this guy's traveling to Dubai and the guy went.. But we didn't know what happened and this guy came back.. Maybe he was deported or not, nobody knows but this my friend came to arrest me and I was told to produce my Inlaw.. He came and we were both locked up for 3days..along the line, the matter got settled, I parted with some money after selling one of my equipment. And he too also raised some money.. So this year, when things were already picking up for me, he got into another problem and this time, they were gonna jail him, so I borrowed him 100k and he promised to pay them 50k monthly till he complete the payment.. It was a travel gone sour though I know some people he has done traveling for and they are doing fine in their respective country of choice.

So this year, someone decided to help me travel out, he gave me UNIVERSITY OF MANITOBA admission processing fees, it was 120cad, but I gave this my Inlaw 150$ believing that atleast, since I am his Inlaw and have done him alot of goods before nothing will go wrong..
That was in August..
Fast forward to 2days ago, I messaged University of Manitoba since I wasn't getting any update, and I was told my application was not submitted neither paid for, I almost collapsed... So what he did was doctored some documents and sent to me and I believed him..
Right now, I am in a fix..
About my wife's promiscuity, I have all evidence of their chat..
After forgiving her over that chat, when I went for my daughter's birthday, I wanted to go through her phone, she gave me a heavy fight that I can't go through her phone, the phone I bought for her with my money..
When she slept, I opened it with her Fingerprint.
The chats there are so damaging. Some have slept with her and still wanting to do more, some she is already negotiating with.
She works in a beer parlor now and she is already using waist beads, she knows I hate these things..

I can't tell it all but if you have a question to ask, or anything you think I missed, ask me and i will tell you the truth..
My Inlaw hasn't pick my call to tell me why that happened..

If you think this is a fabricated story,
I have all evidences.
If enough people ask for it, I will release it here..
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Punstar:

I don't want my kids to go through what I went through, I don't want my kids to go through what I went through.....That's the stupid sh!t you've been deceiving yourself with. They are going through it already, they may go through worse if you don't break ties with that woman.
File for divorce and request custody of your kids. If you tell your story in court, the judge will gladly release your kids to you.
Your sentiments are ruining your life

dont b decieved if he goes to court no judge il give him custody of those children unless he can prove that is mentally not ok. that is mad or a drug addict. he il only go n throw away money he would ve used to pay school fees n take care of those children. d court knows as the children r small their father might not ve time to bath them n do other neccessary things a woman can do n he might want to remarry so that the new wife can help him, but all that na trash. d new wife il maltreat them n when she has her own children il turn those children to slaves in their fathers house. then he il b the bad person to his children. like i said no court il grant him custody of those children now, rather they il even make him make sure he sends money to her for the children up keep. na there she done win cus she il use d money for what she wants , ur children might not b in school sef n u il not know cus u ve sent school fees but she used d money to buy something else. go to their school n pay their fees urself n see them in school while u r at it.

Sir, I really appreciate you for the bold step taken to get best advice. God bless you.

Well, I won't have to go to the past because when things happen on a tragic note, the next is to find solutions.

Concerning what you are facing presently, I think you have to get a formal meeting of both families urgently and table the issues.

You have to exercise great patience. For now, do away with sex, pray more, believe in God's word and your self. Greater things are ahead of you.

Never think of divorce. its not an option at all. That's not the solution. I say again patience and pray for divine intervention,u to handle this situation.

Forgive your dad and your wife's brother. Don't keep any bitterness in you at all.

Now you are concerned about your children. You don't want them to fall victim of what your parent and you faced.

The solution to this is to really commit them to God. Teach them the way of the lord. Pray for their genuine salvation experience. Then the lord will guide them as they follow Him. Let them learn from your mistakes. Advice them.

Your wife with divine help and prayers will turn to a new person in Christ. Don't condemn her or think of any evil against her.

Your family will be back alive and florish Amen.

I advice you for now to be more serious with God. Do you really have a personal experience with God? I dont mean go to church, pray stuff. If perhaps, you haven't please do.
Every thing that happens on earth happen in the spirit realm really. It's only the manifestations we see on earth.

Restoration comes your way soonest.
Amen.

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My brother my only advise to you is to run fast from this lady and her family, this bad luck is really too much and if you dont run far away from her it might cost you your life......

It will do you a lot of good if you adhere to my advise.

petitejolie:
as in d guy is something else. Even after marrying her Nd later knowing that she’s d course of your problem , he still accepts her, sleep with her. Why are you killing ur small surviving destiny because of puna.

Hahahahaha..

Could be under a spell maybe, never underestimate the power of puna..

But sincerely sha, the bros no try. His is a classic case of "Architect of your own downfall".. Make God show am mercy.

.z

You are your own problem that's all I have to say to you, What are you expecting us to tell you here. Na only talk we go talk here, you know your problem and the solution,but you just too go love the problem

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You are very lucky that you are not from Edo state. I mean esan in particular. If not you would have been long dead.

In esan tribe, any man who discovered that his wife is promiscuous yet refuse to kick her out, would either die or their Children would die of incurable diseases.

And to make matters worst, the kids are with her... Trust me, those kids are no longer yours. I mean they would be overly promiscuous than your wife when they grow up.

Man, you have to embrace your mistake and move on. She is not the one for you. She would never change and not even you can change her. Try as possible to take your kids away from her ontime lest that would be your next regret.

Divorce her, even the Bible isn't against it.
She is an adulterous woman and her bed is the way to the grave.

InvertedHammer:
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When your in-laws are very excited about your marriage to their daughter, it is either:

She is from a very good family
OR
They are glad they have pushed their liability to a loser.

Knowing the difference is very difficult. Sometimes a tad too late.

If my mother-in-law dance too much, I no do again. Something is fishy.
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Hahahahaha... Na wa for you ooo