Perfectsouth:
no matter what happens, those kids will never suffer their mother's sin....
Wish she could give me my kids but she is using them as her bargaining chip

don't get yourself hoodwinked by even yourself, 'èlèkè májàá sílé májàá síta, ibìkan lóma padà jásí.'
she's got no leverage just that you are giving her a none existing leverage to duel on. if it will be possible for you to take your kids to yourself go ahead. if for some other reasons you can't (finance) try get your sound footing then bring the kids over to yourself.
settling down is necessary but if there are other priorities for now go on to fix them, then do by making your kids are under your direct watch, caring and upbringing, (either by you or your mum if the kids can be entrusted to her.)
if you can move those kids off now do it, she nothing but a bad influence. it is you make and take the decision now or you latter on make take it the harder leading to more regret of you are currently trying to avoid hence my earlier adage.

Some men and women go into marriage cos of physical looks

UjuJoan2:


Actually, I don't even belive his businesses are failing because he sleeps with her, but let's just leave him to keep believing that. Maybe it will prompt him to leave the toxic relationship.

People love to blame others for their worng choices in life.

And Oga Perfectsouth it's funny how nobody has popped this vital question- Are you 100% sure those kids are yours?

because e go shock you say you been de suffer all these things for another man pikin.

And dont even bother about getting married again till you understand women nature and go FULL BLOWN RED-PILL

But na wa for you Sha... You experienced all these and you still went back to her? Are you stupid....? For the sake of your kids call it quits. She was never meant for you. If God is blessing me like he is blessing you that blessing wouldn't be a waste.


Leave her alone and don't help her do anything. You already have kids, take good care of them simple.

Maybe you think you love her. You don't, you are just entrapped by the fact that you think you can't get anyone else.


Trust me. Train your mind to forget her and for the sake of no body but your kids leave it and take care of only!!!!! Only your kids

profbray:
Some men and women go into marriage cos of physical looks

Loud am Abeg.... Some ke... Most people

ahnie:
my questions....
1...Did the Yahoo guy that she stole fuel money from later slept with her?
2....Are you a sex freak?
3...after you were warned not to have sex with her...why do you always have sex with her and the romp days always coincides with your kids birthdays.
4...I noticed from your narrative that you're the clingy and gum gum type.


please be kind enough to answer my questions.

I didn't check ur gender bf reading..but after I got to d last one, I knew u must be a lady...you don't even condemn the lady's promiscuity but all you see is the guy gum gum hand.

women! women! women!

hashtagged:


Pls you have to leave your wife if it's for the sake of the kids leaving her is better for them let me tell you she can never change no amount of prayer can do that.
See my mom and dad had this kind of situation but reversed and my mom kept staying and praying hoping he would change (for more than 18yrs) when she realised he was too far gone(just like your wife in this case, she left and it was the best choice she ever made I was so happy when she left and I wish she did it sooner. Take your children and flee from her use your evidence in court, As for the kids having one parent is better than having a useless parent that can't keep his/her privates in, trust me I learnt first hand.
And lastly I can bet 100k that one or both children are not yours. But please please I beg you leave that marriage.

Did your mom later remarried?

You got what you deserve.
These are the kind of men that make ladies look down on men.

You knew so well that she was a LovePeddler, yet you got married to her all in the name of what you delusional guys called love.

Love doesn’t exist. Take it or leave it.

I don’t have any iota of pity for you.

AddictedToTech:
You this southniyi your problem no dey finish, haba!

Mad ooo na true talk be that oo why be say problem upon problem coming for u.. Make she leave the yeye wife abi na until e give u heartache abi

2oby:


I can relate bro. Though my wife not promiscuous but does similar but i sacrifice a lot for my son cos i dont want him to experience challenges i still face today due to bad background i got from my fathers polygamous life. I dropped out of medicine due to no support after struggling 2 years. There was even a time in university i forgot i had parents honestly, i was just buried between work n schooling, yet bore no anger against them cos i was used to such life, looking now is wen i realised it was wrong. I was d best n best graduating student in my secondary but no 1 cares except my immediate elder bro who was young as myself. Wen i look at my son today, i always want to be around for him to help him to his best potential by God's grace. My wife doesnt know wer i come from(i guess) n she cares less. Mind u, i am a handsome guy but i always try my best to resist sex(especially wt random ladies) cos i bliv it limits my growth. My story don dey plenty pass OP own. So wen i say i can relate wt d OP is because we have similar experience. I also notice wen i am away from home(cos i work in lagos while my family is in Jos), things work smoothly but d moment we r together, all positives begin to negate for the past 7 years we have been together, even she too noticed. I was told she needs deliverance but she wouldnt just listen to none of that. It was war b4 i could stop her from still chatting her former yahoo boyfriend who is now in china.

Where una de see these kind of women marry sef, if I no see virgin gal, I no de marry, most of these issues are usually from women's past life

Perfectsouth:
no matter what happens, those kids will never suffer their mother's sin....
Wish she could give me my kids but she is using them as her bargaining chip

Seek divorce, present your evidences in court you will be granted custody of your kids.

Perfectsouth:
yeah he slept with her and she felt cheated according to her..

I was legally married to her, do you wish I become promiscuous?

1st born Sept 2
2nd Sept 28..
We are not living together, we stay in separate states and body no be firewood.

I am not a gum gum guy, from what I experienced in my family, I decided to stick to one woman to avoid my kids going through whatever I went through in life.

Guy , Let me advise you . Work hard to raise your children the way you wanted it . Your father didn't focus on you guys but you can focus on your own children. Avoid girls for now and Divorce your wife except she change. What kind of responsible married woman works in a beer parlour . Please stay unmarried . If your body dey do gish gish . Find a young lady to date not you marry .

Dreyton36:
Damn this got me deep

Bro on Friday this coming week
Send me a mail and identify yourself , I'll bless you with 100K it's a promise

INSHA ALLAHU

but on one condition, you must let go of that woman , stay safe

I will mail you sir, thanks..

Dreyton36:
Damn this got me deep

Bro on Friday this coming week
Send me a mail and identify yourself , I'll bless you with 100K it's a promise

INSHA ALLAHU

but on one condition, you must let go of that woman , stay safe

Woow. Thanks for lending a hand out.


This is good.

MyVILLAGEpeople:
I will even advice you do DNA test on the kids, so you will sure if you're the real father. Going by your story, that your wife is a hoe.

I will never do DNA, if am still sane today it is because of those kids.. If they turn out not to be mine, bro you don't wanna know the outcome

ThEGodFaThEr101:


Mumu, big head nor be big sense. Didn't you read all that the Op stated? Na wah o for you sef.

small boy, must you insult your father Always. I don't blame you..It's the way you were trained. sorry for you man...Incase you qoute me, don't expect any reply.

Perfectsouth:
I will never do DNA, if am still sane today it is because of those kids.. If they turn out not to be mine, bro you don't wanna know the outcome

You are not being wise. It seems you have a thing for making continous wrong decisions. You will never do a DNA test


It seems like someone said you're mad to suffer. Smh. You know the right thing to do but don't like doing it

Perfectsouth:
I will never do DNA, if am still sane today it is because of those kids.. If they turn out not to be mine, bro you don't wanna know the outcome

Bro I get you.. But it's still for your own good and paternity sake. Going through your story, Your wife has been hoeing before and during the marriage. Bro go do DNA test on those kids.

murphyrichy:
small boy, must you insult your father Always. I don't blame you..It's the way you were trained. sorry for you man...Incase you qoute me, don't expect any reply.

Mumu boy, you don't have respect for your elders. If you continue this way you'll end up in a very bad place.

ahnie:

You are sick seek for help asap.
psycho.

.

Acrobatics01:

Hmmm
How do you feel after spewing this rubbish from your mouth?
I want to believe you're joking sha, else this is unwarranted.
she's made her comment, is it yours? was it directed to you?
Ahh, oga, you're so bitter

You are just a dunce, yen yen "is it yours?".

Athemisia:

It's just a made up story don't take it too serious

send me a Dm and I will furnish you with evidence

mariahAngel:
Tragic!

My advice:
Divorce your adulterous wife and put her away.
Forgive yourself for your past mistakes. What's done is done.
Pick up what's left of you and start over.
It is never too late to correct our mistakes.

Jesus allows for divorce only on the ground of infidelity. Your wife has displayed that so many times. Please save your own life or you die untimely. Your hands are blessed obviously because you alway get back on track financially but your cursed wife is bent on ruining your life. It was time to run a long time ago. It's time to run again. Dunno what ur waiting for.

Yoruba people are promiscuous. No offence

Perfectsouth:
not that, I could have said this with my main account, but it was banned..
You see in life, if your first step was a mistake, you will keep having problems....
The mistake I made early in life keeps bringing more problems..
The one his brother did recently was what brought about this thread..
I have been through alot in life, from one problem to another, I keep fighting, I keep praying but if your problem lives with you, you hardly get an escape route..
Those kids should never suffer for what they knew nothing about believe me... Every decision am still making revolves around my kids..
Till today, I blame my father for every thing that has happened to me cos he was nowhere to be found when we needed him most..
And let me shock you, we now give him monthly stipends to feed himself.. The wife he wanted to die for abandoned him.

Bros you really tried.....i see that you were so much in love with a professional prostitute....and you did not know until it was revealed....so sad..but try to not near her again let her be destroyed forever.... get a foreign babe..

you are doing well for your self...try to travel out brother....and get a foreign gal....forget Nigerian gals they are all bankrupt morally....

Prostitution too much for them blood and Gold diggin and they aint got notin to offer...just see what a stupid gal did to you a good man...

@womenareapes will explain more

Perfectsouth:
Cc royalroy

Well, I don't wNt my kids to go through what I went through so I forgave her.. God was answering my prayers and things started picking gradually.. I went to meet them, took them all out and did shopping for them..
I was planning on how to relocate them to where I was...
Now this is the revelation..
My wife has been used,thats the fact...
My photography business first collapsed.
I did about 5 businesses that just one of it can make me a millionaire, every business collapsed.. The more I sleep with her, the more things become worse for me...
All these revelation came after I was told to pray and fast..

When things started picking gradually for me this year, I payed for a shop 300k,it was almost my son's birthday. So I went to see them.. We slept together, I came back after the birthday.. Could you believe, I was chased away from that shop and till now, I was only able to recover just 50k from the money..
Before my mom's birthday again, I was doing some business and it started picking. Went for my mom's, she came for the birthday too, we slept together, and when I came back to my business, the war I fought was unfathomable.. It collapsed too..
I am a very prayerful person and believe me, in the 8yrs we've been together, I never slept with another woman. I sweared with everything they gave me cos they couldn't believe me..
Before my daughter's birthday, God was merciful to me and I started another business.. I was warned severely never to sleep with her again.. Till now, my business is gradually picking and am able to send them money for upkeep and my kids school fees....

Now this my wife have an immediate younger brother who is a travel agent, I remember last year I introduced a friend to him and even vouch and stood for him that nothing will go wrong.. Truly he did this guy's traveling to Dubai and the guy went.. But we didn't know what happened and this guy came back.. Maybe he was deported or not, nobody knows but this my friend came to arrest me and I was told to produce my Inlaw.. He came and we were both locked up for 3days..along the line, the matter got settled, I parted with some money after selling one of my equipment. And he too also raised some money.. So this year, when things were already picking up for me, he got into another problem and this time, they were gonna jail him, so I borrowed him 100k and he promised to pay them 50k monthly till he complete the payment.. It was a travel gone sour though I know some people he has done traveling for and they are doing fine in their respective country of choice.

So this year, someone decided to help me travel out, he gave me UNIVERSITY OF MANITOBA admission processing fees, it was 120cad, but I gave this my Inlaw 150$ believing that atleast, since I am his Inlaw and have done him alot of goods before nothing will go wrong..
That was in August..
Fast forward to 2days ago, I messaged University of Manitoba since I wasn't getting any update, and I was told my application was not submitted neither paid for, I almost collapsed... So what he did was doctored some documents and sent to me and I believed him..
Right now, I am in a fix..
About my wife's promiscuity, I have all evidence of their chat..
After forgiving her over that chat, when I went for my daughter's birthday, I wanted to go through her phone, she gave me a heavy fight that I can't go through her phone, the phone I bought for her with my money..
When she slept, I opened it with her Fingerprint.
The chats there are so damaging. Some have slept with her and still wanting to do more, some she is already negotiating with.
She works in a beer parlor now and she is already using waist beads, she knows I hate these things..

I can't tell it all but if you have a question to ask, or anything you think I missed, ask me and i will tell you the truth..
My Inlaw hasn't pick my call to tell me why that happened..

If you think this is a fabricated story,
I have all evidences.
If enough people ask for it, I will release it here..

I don't know you from anywhere, but if this your story is not fabricated my prayer for you is that you will not die young.

You have been sleeping with your enemy and you are comfortable.

If your wife has committed adultery and you still forgave that's your cup of akamu.

Nobody will tell you to divorce your wife because you know what to do you are only waiting for online validation and it's a sign that you are a very weak man.

Ponder on what i have written and take your decision.

When you are buoyant enough go do a DNA Test, the children may not be yours after all.

I wish you peace

Perfectsouth:
thanks bro for the words.. Since I stopped mating with her, have seen improvement.. Don't just don't want to break up with her yet cos she will do everything to stop me from seeing my kids

Go to court or seek a legal counsel. You still need to leave her completely or else she will ruin your life completely. Also be a man, nobody should come and beg for her that you will accept, even if she begs and cry blood forgive her but don't take her back. I will advise that you do paternity test for your children. Until you eject her from your life, problems with still be coming, so do the needful now. it's not easy but you need to take that tough decision now.

Moral of the story: never wife a whoree

Perfectsouth:
not that, I could have said this with my main account, but it was banned..
You see in life, if your first step was a mistake, you will keep having problems....
The mistake I made early in life keeps bringing more problems..
The one his brother did recently was what brought about this thread..
I have been through alot in life, from one problem to another, I keep fighting, I keep praying but if your problem lives with you, you hardly get an escape route..
Those kids should never suffer for what they knew nothing about believe me... Every decision am still making revolves around my kids..
Till today, I blame my father for every thing that has happened to me cos he was nowhere to be found when we needed him most..
And let me shock you, we now give him monthly stipends to feed himself.. The wife he wanted to die for abandoned him.

Taking care of your old man is good regardless of the mistakes he has made in life. My prayer is you dont repeat same mistakes in your life.

Like someone said up here, face your front, forget that woman, her family and them women. Now you have been liberated from these shackles, Put power to your hustle. Hustle and make it!

Perfectsouth:
my kids will never suffer the consequences of faulty foundation.. Here on out, I just want a way forward.. I want to cut all ties with this family but how do I go about it with my kids with them?

Please if I may ask (I like seeing things from different angles and hope this doesn't in anyway hurt you).

PLEASE HOW ARE YOU SURE THE CHILDREN YOU DEARLY LOVE AND GIVING ALL THIS HEADACHE FOR ARE ACTUALLY YOURS? HAVE YOU DONE A DNA TO ASCERTAIN THAT?

I asked the above cos you can't be dealing with such a woman and not think this through and factually establish it. Do your findings my brother and then you can even know if your thoughts should be for yourself alone, maybe with one of the kids or both!

Stop being manipulated because of your background and don't let it subject you to some wrong ideas.

If the kids are yours, then set your mind to care for them whilst avoiding this woman and her family as a plague, because that's what they're.

Remember YOU ONLY LIVE ONCE, so the earlier you stop any nonsense in your life the better!