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Re: Marrying An Older Lady? by Rexnegro(m): 6:49am On Nov 30, 2020
sKeetz:
I'm dating an older woman. The difference in our ages is just 2 years. She is everything a man can ever dream of.

She's very supportive. Doesn't bother me and let's me do my thing. She doesn't boss me or anything of sorts. She's also very independent, but the only thing that stresses me out is our age difference and it's quite obvious cause i even look quite younger than my age and she's quite matured both physically and mentally.

Are there any cons to marrying a lady that is older? Guys who are married to older ladies, are there any traits i should look out for ?

Ps: we've been dating for 4 years now, so its not like i just met her. So i know everything about her and she knows everything about me.
I have not dated an older lady but I would love to if it happens cos I don't see anything wrong about it. as a matter of fact they are the best to even hook up with . my opinion tho
Re: Marrying An Older Lady? by doggedfighter(f): 6:57am On Nov 30, 2020
nairalandbuzz:


How can age be stressing him after four years? Ha!

I wonder too grin
Re: Marrying An Older Lady? by BobbyGenius(m): 6:59am On Nov 30, 2020
Sameazy15:
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Re: Marrying An Older Lady? by TrumpDonald2: 7:03am On Nov 30, 2020
Kestolove:
God4bid, I can't marry a man that am older than...guy beta leave that girl for somebody better
Easier said than done. Pray you marry early then. If you don't, there's no way you can reject a man showing serious interest in you simply because you are older than him.

We need to put ourselves in peoples shoes, understand the situation, before concluding.

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Re: Marrying An Older Lady? by Donshegxy10(m): 7:09am On Nov 30, 2020
sKeetz:
I'm dating an older woman. The difference in our ages is just 2 years. She is everything a man can ever dream of.

She's very supportive. Doesn't bother me and let's me do my thing. She doesn't boss me or anything of sorts. She's also very independent, but the only thing that stresses me out is our age difference and it's quite obvious cause i even look quite younger than my age and she's quite matured both physically and mentally.

Are there any cons to marrying a lady that is older? Guys who are married to older ladies, are there any traits i should look out for ?

Ps: we've been dating for 4 years now, so its not like i just met her. So i know everything about her and she knows everything about me.



i dont want you to be worried about negative comments online and offline.

I am in a relationship with a lady who is 3 years my senior, she is way matured than i am , just like you i have a stature that doesn't represent my age.

At the beginning my family and friends were not in support not because she is only older but we are also not from the same tribe, i am yoruba why she is akwa-ibom but me as a person , i am always firm with my decision, they have no choice but to agree when i told my dad that he is not the one getting married to her but me.

When they eventually gave her a chance i can tell you that they now like her even more than i do.

The most important thing is the love you shared and if you are ready to spend the rest of your life with her.

We have been dating for 2 years and we will be getting married February next year.

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Re: Marrying An Older Lady? by Vickygirk(f): 7:10am On Nov 30, 2020
Uniquekriss:
Something to worry about. With time her respect for you as her husband will fade considering many factors other than her seniority, she's independent too. Bros u no go get say, u also may at some point lose courage to confront certain issues around her.

African men and their scare of independent ladies. Low self esteem always written all over them.

OP choose, who do you prefer, independent lady or dependent lady that can't even think for her self?

As for her age, I don't see a problem there. You guys are practically age mates and I can't see anybody including your family faulting that...
Re: Marrying An Older Lady? by sweetrace(f): 7:13am On Nov 30, 2020
Cutiekatty:

God bless you, if she is a white woman now there will be no problem, even the family will be pushing him to settle down with her. From my experience marrying my wife was the best decision I ever made, she is almost 5 years older than me, she respect me more than I respect myself, after all these years of being with her I still always look forward to coming back home to meet my queen, with her I have my peace of mind, she a mother. If you lose this woman to marry some of these end time Jezebel na high BP dem go take kill you.

Exactly!!!

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Re: Marrying An Older Lady? by Mires: 7:14am On Nov 30, 2020
hakeem4:
Actually there’s nothing to worry about. But the problem is that the lady would quickly reach the wall and she would not be sexually appealing to you, and you’d have to go out to keep looking for ladies in their 20’s

You can see the graph I uploaded below to see the age preferences of men and women respectively

Please I need source of your graphical illustrations. Thanks
Re: Marrying An Older Lady? by Liposure: 7:18am On Nov 30, 2020
Nazgul:

Age is just a number... follow your heart.
it takes maturity and courage to overlook age
Re: Marrying An Older Lady? by Verysmart101: 7:24am On Nov 30, 2020
sweetrace:
Op, age is not the issue here. You’re too immature for her. Please do her a world of good and let her go. She needs to be free to meet a mature and compassionate man who will treat her well and not seek seek approval from Nairaland or others.

Wats d immaturity here? Havnt u ever asked for advice b4 concerning marital or relationship issue b4? As if u sef is even mature to say d least.Rubbish
Re: Marrying An Older Lady? by wisdomkid: 7:25am On Nov 30, 2020
Kobicove:


The major con is that in the next 10 years she will likely be looking far older than you and you may be embarrassed to introduce her as your wife undecided

Just like the President of France, Macron is ashamed of introducing his wife.
Guys that got married to women 10 years younger, what has it changed in their life?

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Re: Marrying An Older Lady? by Obedinho130: 7:32am On Nov 30, 2020
after tasting her kpekus, u haf started thinking of another one. The cycle goes on and on
Re: Marrying An Older Lady? by Gadsun39(m): 7:32am On Nov 30, 2020
sKeetz:
I'm dating an older woman. The difference in our ages is just 2 years. She is everything a man can ever dream of.

She's very supportive. Doesn't bother me and let's me do my thing. She doesn't boss me or anything of sorts. She's also very independent, but the only thing that stresses me out is our age difference and it's quite obvious cause i even look quite younger than my age and she's quite matured both physically and mentally.

Are there any cons to marrying a lady that is older? Guys who are married to older ladies, are there any traits i should look out for ?

Ps: we've been dating for 4 years now, so its not like i just met her. So i know everything about her and she knows everything about me.

There is no rule that says the Man must be the senior,so long as she loves and respect you you are good to go please.
Re: Marrying An Older Lady? by Immarocks(f): 7:35am On Nov 30, 2020
Op..the problem is not her age...its you.you are obviously too concious of the age so when she does or say something that pricks your ego even if her intention are for good you will misinterpreted it for her age and independence .my advice be liberal and come interms with your age difference .

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Re: Marrying An Older Lady? by Liposure: 7:36am On Nov 30, 2020
Follow your heart
Re: Marrying An Older Lady? by Aguilar(m): 7:41am On Nov 30, 2020
follow your heart, don't let anyone mislead you. I love ladies with matured minds
Re: Marrying An Older Lady? by wolexy14(m): 7:50am On Nov 30, 2020
ThEGodFaThEr101:

Suffering and Smilling! Even you self know say na lie you dey lie. You're just trying to console yourself on the dilemma you've entered. Na like dis una dey take put people for trouble.
shuu if what am into is dilemma to u I pray for it again and again ......bro I just move into my o n house ,,,brought 2 new cars ....infact opening anoda biz .......pally wen u know what u want u beta no let am slip away ...else u go suffer
Re: Marrying An Older Lady? by Mrscarter(f): 8:22am On Nov 30, 2020
sKeetz:
I'm dating an older woman. The difference in our ages is just 2 years. She is everything a man can ever dream of.

She's very supportive. Doesn't bother me and let's me do my thing. She doesn't boss me or anything of sorts. She's also very independent, but the only thing that stresses me out is our age difference and it's quite obvious cause i even look quite younger than my age and she's quite matured both physically and mentally.

Are there any cons to marrying a lady that is older? Guys who are married to older ladies, are there any traits i should look out for ?

Ps: we've been dating for 4 years now, so its not like i just met her. So i know everything about her and she knows everything about me.

You're stressing over two years?!
In other countries ppl marry many years apart. Once your an adult n so is the other person why is age a problem. As long as U can have children.
Two years is nothing five years, nothing
Re: Marrying An Older Lady? by ostechno(m): 8:23am On Nov 30, 2020
yYot:

May I respectfully tell you that you can not! By the time I see the bag under your eyes and the lines on your neck, no matter how attractive you look, I will always guess your age rightly!
Wrong,
If you see me, you'll think I'm like 26 year old
I'm just 20
People older than me think I'm older than them, so they try to respect me
It means that is not applicable to everyone
And what I'm just saying is age is just a number
If I'm 50 and I tell you I'm 25, it's non of your businessb grin grin
Re: Marrying An Older Lady? by Elsueno: 8:23am On Nov 30, 2020
Kobicove:


The major con is that in the next 10 years she will likely be looking far older than you and you may be embarrassed to introduce her as your wife undecided

Oga, then you never loved her in the first place!!!
Re: Marrying An Older Lady? by Nobody: 8:32am On Nov 30, 2020
Priyanka Chopra married a man that she seniors with 10 years. His name is Nick Jonas. Meghan Markle seniors Prince Harry with some few years too. Ashiwarya Rai seniors Abishek Bachchan with three years.

I don't think an older lady is a big deal. Though personally my preference is to be with a guy older than me.

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Re: Marrying An Older Lady? by supereagle(m): 8:44am On Nov 30, 2020
olumide4christ:


You are so correct sir, in this statement.."Marrying someone you are older than does not mean the woman will respect you".
My advice to you is to invite God into the situation, if you haven't already done so. Pray for yourself and your wife, seek for Biblical counseling from genuine pastors/counselors...all shall be well by God's grace.

If you wish, you may chat me on WhatsApp via the MTN line in my signature for further guidance and help. Marriage Counseling and Youth Counseling are part of my God-given calling/ministry.

Its well with your home in Jesus name, Amen!

Thank you, my brother. Many counsels and prayers have been offered. The only thing I am yet to understand is whether she is possed or she is having bipolar disorder. Anyway, God is still giving grace to hang on.

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Re: Marrying An Older Lady? by olakan22: 8:54am On Nov 30, 2020
sKeetz:
I'm dating an older woman. The difference in our ages is just 2 years. She is everything a man can ever dream of.

She's very supportive. Doesn't bother me and let's me do my thing. She doesn't boss me or anything of sorts. She's also very independent, but the only thing that stresses me out is our age difference and it's quite obvious cause i even look quite younger than my age and she's quite matured both physically and mentally.

Are there any cons to marrying a lady that is older? Guys who are married to older ladies, are there any traits i should look out for ?

Ps: we've been dating for 4 years now, so its not like i just met her. So i know everything about her and she knows everything about me.

Well chief, that gap isn't much na, two years? If for 4 years you didn't see any offs (assuming, your eyes were opened Sha) then, don't look for trouble that doesn't exist.

I understand that your concern is primarily of respect. Will she respect you and all. A woman will truly respect her husband not because of his age or physique but because he's a man (and I am not talking about macho Man). I recommend you read DIGNITY OF MANHOOD by Gbile Akanni. You'll find it a good Christian bookstore. It's really good, even for non Christians.

P.S: I really hope you marry each other o. Throwing away four years isn't going to be easy especially for your emotional health.

Godspeed bro!
Re: Marrying An Older Lady? by Zeinymira(f): 9:01am On Nov 30, 2020
Kobicove:


The major con is that in the next 10 years she will likely be looking far older than you and you may be embarrassed to introduce her as your wife undecided
Remember Lola and Peter Okoye?
Re: Marrying An Older Lady? by dstar01(m): 9:05am On Nov 30, 2020
There's absolutely nothing wrong bro, wishing you the best with her. cheesy






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Re: Marrying An Older Lady? by addictiv(m): 9:13am On Nov 30, 2020
A 40 year old woman will respect a 19 year old man if he is able to handle his affairs as a man, show leadership and truly be someone she can look up to and be vulnerable with.... A 25 year old woman will disrespect a 60 year old man if he still behaves like a child. Age has nothing to do with it. Respect is earned in life as it is in marriage and relationships.

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Re: Marrying An Older Lady? by Kobicove(m): 9:14am On Nov 30, 2020
Elsueno:


Oga, then you never loved her in the first place!!!

Do you really think love exists in Nigeria now? undecided
Re: Marrying An Older Lady? by Thattallgirl(f): 9:38am On Nov 30, 2020
yYot:

Well.... looking at numbers, you may think age difference is harmless. In Nigeria however, older lady and younger guy relationship doesn't work! no matter the age difference!
I've seen few work
Re: Marrying An Older Lady? by MondayOsunbor(m): 9:57am On Nov 30, 2020
sKeetz:
I'm dating an older woman. The difference in our ages is just 2 years. She is everything a man can ever dream of.

She's very supportive. Doesn't bother me and let's me do my thing. She doesn't boss me or anything of sorts. She's also very independent, but the only thing that stresses me out is our age difference and it's quite obvious cause i even look quite younger than my age and she's quite matured both physically and mentally.

Are there any cons to marrying a lady that is older? Guys who are married to older ladies, are there any traits i should look out for ?

Ps: we've been dating for 4 years now, so its not like i just met her. So i know everything about her and she knows everything about me.

Doesn't bother me and let's me do my thing. She doesn't boss me or anything of sorts.

MARRY HER AND FIND OUT WHO SHE REALLY IS
Re: Marrying An Older Lady? by Kokaine(m): 10:20am On Nov 30, 2020
Thattallgirl:
grin cheesy grin grin grin Okay I'll permanently leave one. It's not full picture though
my God! That height is tall for a girl ooooh.
I don't think I personally know a girl as tall as you. I can imagine if you do squats for up to eight months with that height and size. You'll get a buttocks and shape that's like a license to go anywhere and seize anything you feel like. You can walk into any iPhone store and point at anything you like and people will be lining up and even fighting each other to pay for it
Re: Marrying An Older Lady? by calabardick(m): 10:25am On Nov 30, 2020
sKeetz:
I'm dating an older woman. The difference in our ages is just 2 years. She is everything a man can ever dream of.

She's very supportive. Doesn't bother me and let's me do my thing. She doesn't boss me or anything of sorts. She's also very independent, but the only thing that stresses me out is our age difference and it's quite obvious cause i even look quite younger than my age and she's quite matured both physically and mentally.

Are there any cons to marrying a lady that is older? Guys who are married to older ladies, are there any traits i should look out for ?

Ps: we've been dating for 4 years now, so its not like i just met her. So i know everything about her and she knows everything about me.

You have nothing to fear my brother.
Inasmuch as your relationship is peaceful fire on.

When will the card be out?
Re: Marrying An Older Lady? by calabardick(m): 10:31am On Nov 30, 2020
Legendkilanko:


You can never know everything about a woman, you can only know the things she wants you to know

You can know beyond what she wants you to know, it all depends on you.

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