I bashed an SUV yesterday, I thought the driver was taking off and I charged up to follow him just to beat the messy traffic, he braked immediately and it happened. His bumper was a bit disjointed on the right side, and almost pulled off one of the mini brake lights on the bumper. Nothing happened to my car.

We parked by the road side and Mr got out of control. I kept telling to calm down that I acknowledged it was my fault and mistake. I started hearing things like, who are you? How old are you? You small boy, go and ask of me in so so and so autos store”

I kept telling him to calm down but he wasn’t having it. Cost of damage running into hundred and some thousands was given to me. I was working on making a transfer while he was still fuming in anger and saying a lot. All of a sudden he entered his car and told his friend to hop in, I tried pleading with him to wait, he refused and even told me he will do worse should he get down from his car. I told his friend to tell him to calm down but he shouted at his friend to close his door and zoomed off.

On my way home I realized a lot from the incident, ALOT. The man was not interested in taking money from me. He was that angry because he knows he was not going to take money from me and he knows he was going to bear the cost of fixing the car. He was angry because he did not leave his house to go and bear cost for another person and the incident will likely ruin the rest of his day. I felt bad. I felt his pain. A Lexus SUV for the men.

But why was he feeling intimidated by asking my age and social status? Maybe it was my body composure, because I wasn’t looking fazed, I knew I already made a mistake which I have to pay for. I accept my mistakes easily, it helps me beat and teach myself for correction.

Then he also asked me this question;

“Where are you rushing to?”

this question will be my motto for 2021.


The incident also reminded me of my Ma, back then when it was time to pay school fees and we ask her for money, she starts acting as if they are stinging her needles. Woe betide you should you forget to do chores or refused to run errands for her, she’ll kill you in peace and keep the school fees money instead.

Most humans expresses pains with anger and rage

I'm glad you took a thing or two from the incident because I just did too.

Sometimes while trying to rush to something meaningful, we rush ourselves into unfortunate and unforgettable incidents.

interesting.. you have to clam down when driving next time at least you will not past where you are going

You have to be in secondary school before 12. A BSc before 20. Msc before 23. PhD before 25. A wife and 2 kids before 30.

Where exactly are we rushing to kwanu?!

You are lucky you bashed a good guy's ride.


On a normal day, na your body them for bash instead of paying for the damage you caused.

Better make that "where are you rushing to" your 2021 slogan.

Glad you took some vital lessons from the incident.


"Where are you rushing to?"

A true question we should all ask ourselves and calm down on the race and finish line we set for ourselves.

Oftentimes, we fail to path ourselves on the back for the things we have done or we are doing, whilst we ignorantly fixate on what's to be done...we haven't even taken account of what's done!

We need to calm down and enjoy the life we have.

I no need take your story for the lessons of "where are we rushing to?"
2020 alone has taught me a lot..

You got lucky you hit a good guy car..or maybe your composure and manner of approach helped you evade the situation.. but whichever way..

Next time, no hurry in life

Thanks for passing a lesson learnt to us..I'm so gonna be a better me as I will work towards a different me even in situations when I'm pushed to the wall..life Sha

@op change your heading to "where are you rushing to"

it makes more sense and will attract more comments.

Carchoice:
I bashed an SUV yesterday, I thought the driver was taking off and I charged up to follow him just to beat the messy traffic, he braked immediately and it happened. His bumper was a bit disjointed on the right side, and almost pulled off one of the mini brake lights on the bumper. Nothing happened to my car.

We parked by the road side and Mr got out of control. I kept telling to calm down that I acknowledged it was my fault and mistake. I started hearing things like, who are you? How old are you? You small boy, go and ask of me in so so and so autos store”

I kept telling him to calm down but he wasn’t having it. Cost of damage running into hundred and some thousands was given to me. I was working on making a transfer while he was still fuming in anger and saying a lot. All of a sudden he entered his car and told his friend to hop in, I tried pleading with him to wait, he refused and even told me he will do worse should he get down from his car. I told his friend to tell him to calm down but he shouted at his friend to close his door and zoomed off.

On my way home I realized a lot from the incident, ALOT. The man was not interested in taking money from me. He was that angry because he knows he was not going to take money from me and he knows he was going to bear the cost of fixing the car. He was angry because he did not leave his house to go and bear cost for another person and the incident will likely ruin the rest of his day. I felt bad. I felt his pain. A Lexus SUV for the men.

But why was he feeling intimidated by asking my age and social status? Maybe it was my body composure, because I wasn’t looking fazed, I knew I already made a mistake which I have to pay for. I accept my mistakes easily, it helps me beat and teach myself for correction.

Then he also asked me this question;

“Where are you rushing to?”

this question will be my motto for 2021.


The incident also reminded me of my Ma, back then when it was time to pay school fees and we ask her for money, she starts acting as if they are stinging her needles. Woe betide you should you forget to do chores or refused to run errands for her, she’ll kill you in peace and keep the school fees money instead.

Most humans expresses pains with anger and rage

A queation i have come to always ask myself when I am over running my car!

Last week I was trying to cross the road at night when I narrowly missed being hit by a speeding car. Unfortunately, the child behind me was not so lucky as he was knocked aside like a rag doll. I was furious because I don't understand the rationale behind speeding in a residential area. I did not feel an atom of pity for the driver when all the thugs, hoodlums and riffraff in the neighbourhood converged around the car, an RX 350 and dragged him out by his shirt through the window. No joke. They didn't bother opening the door. The window was a good enough gateway. After giving him a good beating they led him to the hospital where the child was rushed to, to go and check on his 'property'.

Where were they speeding to? At the end of the day they did not get to their destination despite the satanic speed at which they were driving. Yoruba people will say 'afi suuru.' Yes, afi suuru so that you don't invite trouble into your life.

I'm glad you took a thing or two from the incident because I just did. Sometimes while trying to rush to something meaningful, we rush ourselves into unfortunate and unforgettable incidents.

"you kept telling him to calm down".

you aggravated him all the more via those words then. rather, you should have been telling him you were sorry or showing remorse. the latter would have calmed him down. words impact reactions.

That calm down has been turned into a joke, the guy may feel you were trivializing the matter with those words.


Anyway, we are interested. Please answer the question ... Where were you rushing to?

We thank God it wasn't worse

Lol

You have not offended us - the villagers

Thank your stars

Only a few men can compose themselves in the face of danger. Tough times are when you know the real men.

I was once approached by armed robbers whilst on a trip, that night was something else. The robbers shot for over 2 hours like their bullets couldn't get exhausted.

He came to my car and asked me to jazz down, I came down and asked him what he wanted with a smile. He wanted to slap me and I held his hand tightly (fear left me), I asked him again, oga what do you want?!? He beckoned to the others to take my car, immediately one of the boys wanted to move with the car, the leader said, make we free this man, e go track us later, e no even shake as e see us.

Always appear unfazed in the face of danger.

Nice one op.

Next time you offend someone, try to keep calm and follow their lead in resolving the matter
In your small mind, you could fix the problem with the small money you have... forgetting that a simple apology goes a long way.

Apart from the "where are you rushing to lesson", also realize that you just benefited from the goodness of the world either from what you've done in the past or from a goodness the man received. Don't forget to pay it forward as well!

What's tha business?

. Where are you rushing to?

I love that line line.......slow and steady wins the race.... oyinbo wey talk am no be fool at all....

T

No matter where you were rushing to, thank God that he's a good man. If you had paid for the damage that you didn't budget for, your tone would've been different

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Not long ago I made a post about why Nigerians drive like they are deranged. Like they are rushing to die. I drive everyday and I sincerely have no reason to overspeed. If I need to get to a place early then I leave home early. No need to start acting like small d1ck maniac on wheels

If you ever feel useless, think about the guy that writes Terms and Conditions.

Yes, humans tend to express their pain through anger and rage..

- Anger can also be a substitute emotion.
- Sometimes people make themselves angry so that they don't have to feel pain.
- People change their feelings of pain into anger because it feels better to be angry than it does to be in pain.

Mentalhelp.net

Send me the money, am a mechanic. I will explain to him, that you willingly wants to repairs his car from your heart

Speeding on the road is similar to paying extra money for a first class on an aeroplane just because you'll be on the front seat and you'll enter the destination a few milliseconds before the economy class. Except that in the case of a car you're paying with your safety/life not money.

The funniest thing about speeding is if you stop for a moment to piss, all the cars you left behind will still zoom past you. Meaning that speeding doesn't really buy you useful time.

Carchoice:
I bashed an SUV yesterday, I thought the driver was taking off and I charged up to follow him just to beat the messy traffic, he braked immediately and it happened. His bumper was a bit disjointed on the right side, and almost pulled off one of the mini brake lights on the bumper. Nothing happened to my car.

We parked by the road side and Mr got out of control. I kept telling to calm down that I acknowledged it was my fault and mistake. I started hearing things like, who are you? How old are you? You small boy, go and ask of me in so so and so autos store”

I kept telling him to calm down but he wasn’t having it. Cost of damage running into hundred and some thousands was given to me. I was working on making a transfer while he was still fuming in anger and saying a lot. All of a sudden he entered his car and told his friend to hop in, I tried pleading with him to wait, he refused and even told me he will do worse should he get down from his car. I told his friend to tell him to calm down but he shouted at his friend to close his door and zoomed off.

On my way home I realized a lot from the incident, ALOT. The man was not interested in taking money from me. He was that angry because he knows he was not going to take money from me and he knows he was going to bear the cost of fixing the car. He was angry because he did not leave his house to go and bear cost for another person and the incident will likely ruin the rest of his day. I felt bad. I felt his pain. A Lexus SUV for the men.

But why was he feeling intimidated by asking my age and social status? Maybe it was my body composure, because I wasn’t looking fazed, I knew I already made a mistake which I have to pay for. I accept my mistakes easily, it helps me beat and teach myself for correction.

Then he also asked me this question;

“Where are you rushing to?”

this question will be my motto for 2021.


The incident also reminded me of my Ma, back then when it was time to pay school fees and we ask her for money, she starts acting as if they are stinging her needles. Woe betide you should you forget to do chores or refused to run errands for her, she’ll kill you in peace and keep the school fees money instead.

Most humans expresses pains with anger and rage

Watch videos of how people in the Western world drive.

Learn from this.

I had a very similar experience about 7months back. Was trying to avoid a vulcanizer who was pumping a vehicle's tire while his body was on the road.
On the other hand I was checking something on my phone cos I already calculated that I'd swerve for the vulcanizer but unfortunately my side mirror slightly scratched a man's Venza, then boom the man came down with his driver telling me he's a lawyer and he was just coming back from ibadan and all that he was going to call the Dpo of the station to arrest me and take me for brain test. What pissed me off most is I kept on pleading with this man that brake oil will clean it off then he asked me set of foolish questions 'How old are you, who owns the car you're driving and nonsense questions.
The man was so proud to the extent that he told me he bought the car in 2013 for 7million he brought out some papers from his safe too and that he was planning on selling it as tokunbo, all in all after begging for about 30minutes he left me.

Ok