Also had similar experience some years ago. Bashed a two weeks old Toyota SUV. And the the most interesting aspect of it was that i used one of my dad's official car to cause the damage. And my dad didn't authorised nor did I even had his permission to drive the car in the first place. To cut the long story short, the owner of the SUV told me that the only way she can let go is if I call my dad. Had to call my dad from office. You need to see how he was fuming when he finally arrived. Since that day I resolved that I will forgive/let go of anyone that damage my property unintentionally.

Carchoice:
I bashed an SUV yesterday, I thought the driver was taking off and I charged up to follow him just to beat the messy traffic, he braked immediately and it happened. His bumper was a bit disjointed on the right side, and almost pulled off one of the mini brake lights on the bumper. Nothing happened to my car.

We parked by the road side and Mr got out of control. I kept telling to calm down that I acknowledged it was my fault and mistake. I started hearing things like, who are you? How old are you? You small boy, go and ask of me in so so and so autos store”

I kept telling him to calm down but he wasn’t having it. Cost of damage running into hundred and some thousands was given to me. I was working on making a transfer while he was still fuming in anger and saying a lot. All of a sudden he entered his car and told his friend to hop in, I tried pleading with him to wait, he refused and even told me he will do worse should he get down from his car. I told his friend to tell him to calm down but he shouted at his friend to close his door and zoomed off.

On my way home I realized a lot from the incident, ALOT. The man was not interested in taking money from me. He was that angry because he knows he was not going to take money from me and he knows he was going to bear the cost of fixing the car. He was angry because he did not leave his house to go and bear cost for another person and the incident will likely ruin the rest of his day. I felt bad. I felt his pain. A Lexus SUV for the men.

But why was he feeling intimidated by asking my age and social status? Maybe it was my body composure, because I wasn’t looking fazed, I knew I already made a mistake which I have to pay for. I accept my mistakes easily, it helps me beat and teach myself for correction.

Then he also asked me this question;

“Where are you rushing to?”

this question will be my motto for 2021.


The incident also reminded me of my Ma, back then when it was time to pay school fees and we ask her for money, she starts acting as if they are stinging her needles. Woe betide you should you forget to do chores or refused to run errands for her, she’ll kill you in peace and keep the school fees money instead.

Most humans expresses pains with anger and rage

I had a similar experience last week Sunday.
I just crossed a traffic light and this guy parked by the roadside. Ordinarily no one should park there. Ordinarily too, I should have passed without any incidence.

Then, I clipped his side mirror.

I looked for a wider portion of the road and parked. He came out blazing. I told him I was certain it was my fault. But like your case, he was angry and rightly too.

I asked him to call him mechanic, he said he doesn't have. How much do you want, he doesn't know. Oya take my number, he was like, what will he do with it.

At that point he said, let me go remove my car from the road. That was it. He literally disappeared before my eyes. Lol

Nuyokoi:
"you kept telling him to calm down".

you aggravated him all the more via those words then. rather, you should have been telling him you were sorry or showing remorse. the latter would have called him down. words impact reactions.

My thoughts too.

"Calm down" is like asking a Nigerian, "Are you ok?"

Bros, if you know what is in the heart of that man you will pity him. I understand why he was angry, he was angry because most of our youth with the little money we have we think we can control the world, that make us to always be on the rush lane. i know some youth will not understand till you are in that man's shoe then you will come back and read this post again. Guy is well just pray for him and always be careful as we enter the new year.

ProfAmaben:
Only a few men can compose themselves in the face of danger. Tough times are when you know the real men.

I was once approached by armed robbers whilst on a trip, that night was something else. The robbers shot for over 2 hours like their bullets couldn't get exhausted.

He came to my car and asked me to jazz down, I came down and asked him what he wanted with a smile. He wanted to slap me and I held his hand tightly (fear left me), I asked him again, oga what do you want?!? He beckoned to the others to take my car, immediately one of the boys wanted to move with the car, the leader said, make we free this man, e go track us later, e no even shake as e see us.

Always appear unfazed in the face of danger.

Nice one op.

Hmm. Adrenaline must have been rushing through you. Wawu

I fully understand that part where you get so angry over some else's mistake because at the end of the day , you are the one to bear the cost.

ProfAmaben:
Only a few men can compose themselves in the face of danger. Tough times are when you know the real men.

I was once approached by armed robbers whilst on a trip, that night was something else. The robbers shot for over 2 hours like their bullets couldn't get exhausted.

He came to my car and asked me to jazz down, I came down and asked him what he wanted with a smile. He wanted to slap me and I held his hand tightly (fear left me), I asked him again, oga what do you want?!? He beckoned to the others to take my car, immediately one of the boys wanted to move with the car, the leader said, make we free this man, e go track us later, e no even shake as e see us.

Always appear unfazed in the face of danger.

Nice one op.

Ur lucky day sir..
One passenger tried it once...
Dose robbers held him hostage...
Dey told all other passengers includin the driver to continue their journey...
No one knows what happened to him till date..
Driver say they will shoot him
And drop his body in the bush...

But even third party insurance can take care of this. Why are Nigerians not using it.

Reasonable thread and contributions I have seen in a while... I always knew Nigerians are very sensible people but the country condition activates their madness majority of time.

Need to conduct mire experiments

Willie2015:


Ur lucky day sir..
One passenger tried it once...
Dose robbers held him hostage...
Dey told all other passengers includin the driver to continue their journey...
No one knows what happened to him till date..
Driver say they will shoot him
And drop his body in the bush...

Honestly, was really lucky, if I had been killed that night, nobody would have discovered my corpse, I appreciate their leader for ignoring my impertinence.

Carchoice:
I bashed an SUV yesterday, I thought the driver was taking off and I charged up to follow him just to beat the messy traffic, he braked immediately and it happened. His bumper was a bit disjointed on the right side, and almost pulled off one of the mini brake lights on the bumper. Nothing happened to my car.

We parked by the road side and Mr got out of control. I kept telling to calm down that I acknowledged it was my fault and mistake. I started hearing things like, who are you? How old are you? You small boy, go and ask of me in so so and so autos store”

I kept telling him to calm down but he wasn’t having it. Cost of damage running into hundred and some thousands was given to me. I was working on making a transfer while he was still fuming in anger and saying a lot. All of a sudden he entered his car and told his friend to hop in, I tried pleading with him to wait, he refused and even told me he will do worse should he get down from his car. I told his friend to tell him to calm down but he shouted at his friend to close his door and zoomed off.

On my way home I realized a lot from the incident, ALOT. The man was not interested in taking money from me. He was that angry because he knows he was not going to take money from me and he knows he was going to bear the cost of fixing the car. He was angry because he did not leave his house to go and bear cost for another person and the incident will likely ruin the rest of his day. I felt bad. I felt his pain. A Lexus SUV for the men.

But why was he feeling intimidated by asking my age and social status? Maybe it was my body composure, because I wasn’t looking fazed, I knew I already made a mistake which I have to pay for. I accept my mistakes easily, it helps me beat and teach myself for correction.

Then he also asked me this question;

“Where are you rushing to?”

this question will be my motto for 2021.


The incident also reminded me of my Ma, back then when it was time to pay school fees and we ask her for money, she starts acting as if they are stinging her needles. Woe betide you should you forget to do chores or refused to run errands for her, she’ll kill you in peace and keep the school fees money instead.

Most humans expresses pains with anger and rage

Sorry about your ordeal, but you are a wise man. Your ability to pick out lessons out of an undesirable and impromptu event makes you wise. I must applaud you also, for admitting fault. It is something some of us are not accustomed to. Nigerians need to adapt the " where are you rushing to" mantra. A lot of people want to get rich fast without necessarily putting in the work.
Students want to ace and progress without putting in the work and some even resort to all sorts to vices to achieve this. The resultant effect of all these is a crash and when it happens, they question God, compare their progress with that of their mates and so on... Life na jeje!!!

If someone else's bash you car and mess up your car someday soon. Don't collect a dime from him just as the man did.
Just walk away.

ProfAmaben:
Only a few men can compose themselves in the face of danger. Tough times are when you know the real men.

I was once approached by armed robbers whilst on a trip, that night was something else. The robbers shot for over 2 hours like their bullets couldn't get exhausted.

He came to my car and asked me to jazz down, I came down and asked him what he wanted with a smile. He wanted to slap me and I held his hand tightly (fear left me), I asked him again, oga what do you want?!? He beckoned to the others to take my car, immediately one of the boys wanted to move with the car, the leader said, make we free this man, e go track us later, e no even shake as e see us.

Always appear unfazed in the face of danger.

Nice one op.

Please brothers and sisters, Don't try this at home

Funny story. He just wanted to vent his anger. He probably has a comprehensive auto insurance. Which most Nigerians neglect. If you have a comprehensive auto insurance where you pay 2 or 3 or 4% of the total cost of your car depending on the plan a year. NOT THAT 3RD PARTY RUBBISH. You will not even have time to be shouting. You will over look it and call your insurance to inspect and give them price to fix and your money is back.

Some Nigerians are also naturally wicked, they will still collect money from you even when they have comprehensive auto insurance.

So OP if you had an insurance plan that covers that other damages cause by you, You will not be speaking be calm down. Simple call them and they do their work you paid for.

wellmax:
But even third party insurance can take care of this. Why are Nigerians not using it.

3rd party doesn't take care of anything. Only comprehensive auto insurance does. Read your insurance policy.

J111333:
I'm glad you took a thing or two from the incident because I just did too.

Sometimes while trying to rush to something meaningful, we rush ourselves into unfortunate and unforgettable incidents.

Same here bro. Mine was on Saturday. The man came from my blind side and I started apologizing for my damage immediately I came out. I checked his SUV, (Toyota Highlander) and told him we needed a panel beater to fix his disjointed bumper. I was waiting for him to call one or ask me to call mine. Sincerely I won't mind picking the bills. Instead, he kept insulting me and my wife who sat beside me for not calling my attention to his vehicle on my blind side. I was angry but then I understood that he was angry too and our mood will not undo what has been done. I refrained from reacting negatively as he was expecting. After hulling insult at us without any negative response from us, he entered his vehicle and drove off.
I learnt that as much as possible, I should not assume for my blind side to be free. I should always make allowance for others who probably don't know what my decision tree look like on the road. Above all, I should be mindful and careful of my responses no matter what.

pocohantas:


One thing I never do is speed in a residential area. I never did it in my erratic days, never picked a call while driving too.

I was driving home one day and these kids were playing by the roadside, next thing, the boy turned and ran into the road. I saw that coming, but somehow I still had to brake abruptly and swerve. They took off immediately.

Omo!! I parked the car, left it like that with my door open and chased them. Ishi I pursued these kids o. I caught them na. Held him and asked if he wants to kill me. He started crying, I was crying too. People were telling me sorry. Left him and went back to my car. Till date, I am very paranoid when I see kids walking by the roadside.

My sister, my mum calls these kinds of children 'end time children'. They are on a mission to implicate someborri. That is how they will be running upandan in front of vehicles like big rats. Several times I have had to yell at them to leave the road otherwise they would receive the fury of my palms.

visijo:
If you ever feel useless, think about the guy that writes Terms and Conditions.

Cliche . . if you don't know how important T&C's are, and believe nobody reads them . . then i'm very sorry for you . . .

We are always in a rush from this part of the world. If only we could calm down and take the chill before we make the decision.

One thing I have learnt is that, the 1 second you refuse to wait can take hours of waiting.

InventTech:
Yes, humans tend to express their pain through anger and rage..

- Anger can also be a substitute emotion.
- Sometimes people make themselves angry so that they don't have to feel pain.
- People change their feelings of pain into anger because it feels better to be angry than it does to be in pain.

Mentalhelp.net

Anger is better than despair

Thank goodness it ended in praise, for your life and you got to learnt some lessons from the experience...


CARCHOICE las las 1k transfer to my account no go bad o bros, show me love abeg, guyman broke... make i drop my digits?

J111333:
I'm glad you took a thing or two from the incident because I just did too.

Sometimes while trying to rush to something meaningful, we rush ourselves into unfortunate and unforgettable incidents.

Same here bro. Mine was on Saturday. The man came from my blind side and I started apologizing for my damage immediately I came out. I checked his SUV, (Toyota Highlander) and told him we need a panel beater to fix is disjointed Bumper. I was waiting for him to call one or ask me to call mine. Sincerely I don't mind picking the bills. But instead, he keep insulting me and insulting my wife who sat beside me for not calling my attention to his vehicle on my blind side. I was angry but then I understood that he was angry too and our mood will not undo what has been done. I refrained from reacting negatively as he was expecting. After hulling insult at us without any negative response from us, he entered his vehicle and drove off.
I learnt that as much as possible, I should not assume for my blind side to be free. I should always make allowance for others who probably don't know what my decision tree look like on the road. Above all, I should be mindful and careful of my responses no matter what.

Ishilove:
Last week I was trying to cross the road at night when I narrowly missed being hit by a speeding car. Unfortunately, the child behind me was not so lucky as he was knocked aside like a rag doll. I was furious because I don't understand the rationale behind speeding in a residential area. I did not feel an atom of pity for the driver when all the thugs, hoodlums and riffraff in the neighbourhood converged around the car, an RX 350 and dragged the him out by his shirt through the window. No joke. They didn't bother opening the door. The window was a good enough gateway. After giving him a good beating they led him to the hospital where the child was rushed to go and check on his 'property'.

Where were they speeding to? At the end of the day they did not get to their destination despite the satanic speed at which they were driving. Yoruba people will say 'afi suuru.' Yes, afi suuru so that you don't invite trouble into your life.

This is jungle justice. Irate youths fuelled by envy.
very wrong!

Slymonster:


3rd party doesn't take care of anything. Only comprehensive auto insurance does. Read your insurance policy.

Third party will take care of the suv and not your own car.
Except your third party is fake.

pocohantas:
Very important question @ WHERE ARE YOU RUSHING TO?

My dad would always say, the difference between you and the car in front is brake.

When I was younger, I was a very nasty driver. The way I come out of our gate alone, people would call my father and tell him to hold that his daughter. Even when I am going to work, I don’t see anyone. I dey speed pass my colleagues steady, before they bring out phone to call me, I done reach America.

I never had an accident, but on my own, I calmed down. Nothing dey for speed. Last last, we would all reach our destination.

That said, why will you want to pay? What happened to insurance?

Which yeye insurance are you talking about here in Nigeria or do you just want to form Alatokumbo?

As calabar boy wey i be... Men like you rarely exit am so happy for you to admit ur fault.

Ishilove:
Last week I was trying to cross the road at night when I narrowly missed being hit by a speeding car. Unfortunately, the child behind me was not so lucky as he was knocked aside like a rag doll. I was furious because I don't understand the rationale behind speeding in a residential area. I did not feel an atom of pity for the driver when all the thugs, hoodlums and riffraff in the neighbourhood converged around the car, an RX 350 and dragged the him out by his shirt through the window. No joke. They didn't bother opening the door. The window was a good enough gateway. After giving him a good beating they led him to the hospital where the child was rushed to go and check on his 'property'.

Where were they speeding to? At the end of the day they did not get to their destination despite the satanic speed at which they were driving. Yoruba people will say 'afi suuru.' Yes, afi suuru so that you don't invite trouble into your life.

But did you realize though, that the child only crossed at the same time, because you crossed and was simply following the footsteps of an elderly person?
And because the child subconsciously perceives an older person has better timing of when to cross a road

Macsjebs:
We thank God it wasn't worse

It reminds me of my experience today with a lady in a car, everyone is pissed with the incessant traffic jam in Lagos lately and as if that isn't enough stress already, she shocked me when she engaged me in an argument over how I smelled

And I was like, Ma'am pls calm down and give me a minute to explain. It was no small drama as she went on and on, saying, I am a guy and not a lady, I shouldn't 'bath' myself with perfumes

Eventually, I explained to her that less is more with our mind blowing fragrances, It was indeed a happy ending after she got from me for trials and confirmed saying 'never in my over three decade on earth have I used such a potent and astounding fragrance'

This isn't made up and even reviews from Nairalanders on the thread on my signature corroborates it.

How much are your perfs sef? What's the price range?

This your mouth too much. I'm tempted to give you a try.

Slymonster:


3rd party doesn't take care of anything. Only comprehensive auto insurance does. Read your insurance policy.

That's the ignorance prevalent among Nigerians

a guy that did ths similar shit to me , i collected the money and gave it to beggers because he also insulted me before agreeing to pay. the fact that u accepted your fault is what saved you

ProfAmaben:


True talk. I was indeed lucky, they probably didn't want to kill that day, I had nightmares for over 5yrs about that incident, that particular squad except for 2 members are now in the grave as they were killed by soldiers 7-8months later. Life goes on.

You seem to know more than what you are painting here. How come you know how many were killed by soldiers and how many of their gang members remaining? Hmnnnnn!

wellmax:
But even third party insurance can take care of this. Why are Nigerians not using it.

They don't use it because they are unaware of its coverage.