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Macsjebs:
Na first page everything dey happen

I dey tell you

BeWarned5:
This is my first and last relationship.. 5yrs and counting

u just enter league come dey form last man standing unto make dem. crown yhu king NH?

Gentle0wavez:
Lol.
I can't lie. I gained NOTHING from my last relationship.

You just lie, prolly you didnt engage in any relationship at all...

JohnspeakU:
Hello Everyone!! I am here again with another discussion thread that we can all learn from.

Some people make the mistake of going into a relationship without knowing why they were there. The reason why people rain curses on their exes is simply because they felt they only wasted their time and never benefited anything from the relationship. But the truth is, there is always a lesson or two to learn from every relationship either positively or negatively So the question is, what life lessons did you learn from your past relationship?

Let me share mine.
Before now I used to believe that men are richer than females not until I dated one calabar girl in Abuja that opened my eyes. This girl works as a nurse in a private clinic and earns about 80k. The surprising thing is that she belongs to about 6 contributions that she puts almost all her salary in��‍♀️ After using her money to pay contributions, she will start demanding money from me for everything even down to recharge card to call her mom. So as a sharp Edo guy, I rallied among my colleagues and started paying contributions too��

She thought me how to save unknowingly.

Tell us about yours.

chop knockle my Edo broda,dat girl for use survive

That black women are naturally very harsh, stiff, closed hearted, poor,very unromantic but loves materialism a lot, all these combines to make them the most unloving race of women out of the the other races, ask why they are at the lowest perking order out there, even once our men leave the shores of this country they quickly go for women from other races..

(1) Don't judge your new relationship with your past relationship.

(2) Never ignore red flags.

(3) Pay attention to the unspoken words.

(4) Pay attention to the things you fight about.

(5) Never compromise on values.

(6) Know the kind of friends she keeps.

Cant even remember, e don tey.

ILoveDemMANNA:
Joy, Nothing but Joy!

always doing the opposite public nuisance

I learn say most Girls wants to achieve something through YOU... You should strive to know that achievement either monetarily or otherwise... No go dey claim Mr Lover when you are just an Enzyme in their Pathways.... if you know the pathways, Just introduce an INHIBITOR, then you will see their REACTION

The one wer I dey go soon end. I have learnt that it’s totally wrong for you to be 100% honest over your emotions with a woman, they will totally take advantage of it. Make sure you hold back a lot, the fact that you leave them wondering who exactly you are, works.

As expected never put too much trust on anyone.
Don't be needy (always maintain a high level of self esteem). Having a high sense of self worth keeps you from making some kinds of mistakes
Still keep a fair amount of your secrets close to your self. Don't divulge too much about yourself. Humans are unpredictable.

Downplay your achievements and keep them vague. Envy kills every relationship very fast.

Lastly be very very very observant of nonverbal cues in any interaction. Or else you miss out on an incredible amount of useful information.

always keep an open mind about everything....
always know that there will be a Bleep up and an unreasonable explanation for it...
Always TRUST ur instincts(they don't lie)..
EXPECT everything and anything

Akinbahm:
You just lie, prolly you didnt engage in any relationship at all...

Lol, I was 18 then, she was 27 and From Ebonyi. The relationship lasted a year. We don't chat much, just regular bleep. After I was through with my ND programme I travel, relationship end.

virginprincess:
Hmmm, in this life i have learnt that you should never play the role of a fool for a man, men don't value such women, when you take a decision stand up your ground and also never allow a man make decisions for you.

Clap! Clap!! Clap!!!

All good, as long as you dont marry a man or you get married to a SIMP.

1:Learned Never to carry any relationship on.my head like gala.
2: Never to take any man serious. They say one thing and do another.
3: learned do do only what I can do and never to go an extra mile trying to make a guy happy.
4: To always remind any man coming into my life my happiness is in my hands not his so that he doesn't go about feeling like I will die if he doesn't do this or that and so is his happiness. I owe him not happiness and he owes me none.
5: Learned that my happiness in Paramount and should not be traded for any kind of relationship.
6: learned never to try saving a stressfull relationship cos it sucks blood more than HIV.
7: most importantly, I learned never to place any man over my personal development, dreams and aspirations.
8: never to start what I can not finish in a relationship.

Life goes on - Tupac

Never to seek happiness from another. Always make yourself the source of happiness in your life.

Loyalty is a scarce commodity and never again let distance come between my partner and I

Loyalty is a scarce commodity and never again let distance come between my spouse and I

saxtaiwo:
I learnt a deeper lesson of thou shall not help or sponsor a poverty stricken girl to school because......, you know the rest.

If you want to sponsor, do so for charity not as investments. In most cases it comes aoit as bad investment.

Never give a lady commitment , resources and attention unless you are receiving sex from her.

Never date a virgin if u don't plan to marry her

Learn to value ur loyalty, time,attention, resources and commitment

Ance4Liverpool:
I learnt that all the girls of this generation are the same.

Likewise the guys.

Nicklaus619:
All my past relationships ended on a good note as the relationships are defined from the beginning, only but one relationship I got to end as it was too toxic, unbalanced and unhealthy, but guess what's, I still fvck all my exes occasionally, it's Okafor's law effect

Ehn.....Okafor law effect

I met her in school and i wooed her though there were kind of resistance from her but I never gave up on her till she finally accepted me.. We were so compatible, the relationship was so healthy despite our flaws.
We dated for about 2years until yeye covid19/ASUU strike sets in.. So she departed to her home town same to me. To cut the long story short..
I met this damsel in my community so I decided to take her out, on a long run we became friends (that's relationship) you know ... She loves me and I do same to her.. Along the line, I discovered that my love for my ex diminished.. I don't call as I used to, if she calls or demands anything from me I'll get angry. So I decided to call it a quit with her. Omo I broke that girl heart.. She cried all night long.
So after she could consoled herself she decided to moved on(that's in a new relationship now). After everything its looked as if I was being enchanted, I started begging her, demanding for her forgiveness, I did all I could do for her to accept me back but all to no avail... Mehn i was down, I was thinking about this girl. Its took me 3months to get rid of her... All I could say, I cheated on her. She was good and most times she used to offered me help in school. Then I vowed to myself never to repeat the same mistake again.

Gentle0wavez:
Lol, I was 18 then, she was 27 and From Ebonyi. The relationship lasted a year. We don't chat much, just regular bleep. After I was through with my ND programme I travel, relationship end.

Definitely you must learn sth either not dating someone older than u as a man or dont engage in a distance relationship...

Never trust a woman!

Nazgul:
My first relationship hmmm, I was still a simp. It happened a year after I finished secondary school.

I loved her from the bottom of my heart, I even took the phone my aunt bought for me and give her as a birthday present, spent so much on her, I just wanted her to be happy, I even brought her home to to meet my mum. in all the relationships I've been so far that was the one I invested the greatest.

She later left me for an apprentice learning electrical work under his oga, he impregnated her and ran away. Whereas the highest romance we shared were kisses and hugs, nothing more. I was a male virgin and she also claimed to be a virgin as well.

She came back to me with the pregnancy after some months telling me she still loves me, that I should accept it, it doesn't mean anything thing. Do you know I was still ready to accept her back. It was my mum that talked sense into my head. Poor naeiv me.

We're all good people till evil people teach us lessons we might never recover from.

What I gained? Never trust anyone until they give you a reason to trust them.

Assume everyone is bad

Assume everyone is cheating on you so that when they eventually do, you won't be disappointed cos you've already conditioned your mind for the worst

Bottom line is that, the girl was far smarter than you relationship wise. I guess you can't be that naive now!

emkz:
(1) Don't judge your new relationship with your past relationship.

(2) Never ignore red flags.

(3) Pay attention to the unspoken words.

(4) Pay attention to the things you fight about.

(5) Never compromise on values.

(6) Know the kind of friends she keeps.

Good One!

Also, "Beware of yoru In-laws" when money is flowing, when it slows down, you will see them in true colors.

OVA200:
The truth is I'm presently in my first serious relationship and sincerely I can confidently say that I'm blessed with the person I'm dating, we have our problem but she's everything I want in my woman; we are approaching 3 years now and anything can happen but she has proven to me that virtuous woman is still around.
Abi what can you call a woman who never ask you for anything in 3 years and so much grateful for anything you give her even as small as #100 airtime.
She trust me with very serious life decisions and heed to every advise I give her.
I'm also trying to be the best boyfriend I can be because she didn't deserve someone bad so I can't afford to fvck up.


Love you so much miss M.

Try check her social m chats b4 concluding bro

Wouldn't have any lessons learned cause I've never been in one

Nazgul:
My first relationship hmmm, I was still a simp. It happened a year after I finished secondary school.

I loved her from the bottom of my heart, I even took the phone my aunt bought for me and give her as a birthday present, spent so much on her, I just wanted her to be happy, I even brought her home to to meet my mum. in all the relationships I've been so far that was the one I invested the greatest.

She later left me for an apprentice learning electrical work under his oga, he impregnated her and ran away. Whereas the highest romance we shared were kisses and hugs, nothing more. I was a male virgin and she also claimed to be a virgin as well.

She came back to me with the pregnancy after some months telling me she still loves me, that I should accept it, it doesn't mean anything thing. Do you know I was still ready to accept her back. It was my mum that talked sense into my head. Poor naeiv me.

We're all good people till evil people teach us lessons we might never recover from.

What I gained? Never trust anyone until they give you a reason to trust them.

Assume everyone is bad

Assume everyone is cheating on you so that when they eventually do, you won't be disappointed cos you've already conditioned your mind for the worst

Everybody is your friend, Everybody is your enemy, live your life like that and nothing will surprise you.

Akinbahm:
Definitely you must learn sth either not dating someone older than u as a man or dont engage in a distance relationship...

You have a point sha, maybe if we were age mates we would be chatting more. Our communication was F9