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emkz:
(1) Don't judge your new relationship with your past relationship.

(2) Never ignore red flags.

(3) Pay attention to the unspoken words.

(4) Pay attention to the things you fight about.

(5) Never compromise on values.

(6) Know the kind of friends she keeps.

Noticing red flags is as important as reading road signs. That's what will tell you how fast to move, where to take U turns whee to speed, when to cross lanes and be on one lane and when to go back to your lane and mom's your side.

Drsnives:
Try check her social m chats b4 concluding bro

I've done that over a 100 times.
She's not a social media person, she enter Facebook like once in three months and na only me she dey chat with on WhatsApp.
I have her password self.

Bro I've brace myself for any possibility though but for now I don't have any reason to doubt her.

Jesslove:
Never to seek happiness from another. Always make yourself the source of happiness in your life.

Very important. Don't ever give anyone the key to your happiness because they can't take care of your heart the way you do.
Your happiness is Paramount.

OVA200:
The truth is I'm presently in my first serious relationship and sincerely I can confidently say that I'm blessed with the person I'm dating, we have our problem but she's everything I want in my woman; we are approaching 3 years now and anything can happen but she has proven to me that virtuous woman is still around.
Abi what can you call a woman who never ask you for anything in 3 years and so much grateful for anything you give her even as small as #100 airtime.
She trust me with very serious life decisions and heed to every advise I give her.
I have her Facebook password and also have access to her WhatsApp. She enter Facebook like once in three months if you leave vital information for her on Facebook you are on your own.
I'm also trying to be the best boyfriend I can be because she didn't deserve someone bad so I can't afford to fvck up.
I'm bracing myself if anything happen I will just mourn for a week and move on.

Love you so much miss M.

keep her bro

Greystone:
If i had known how some relationships wud turn out, the morning i was to meet some of my exes I wud have stayed at home and cooked beans one by one

Lmao

teeboy100:
keep her bro

I'm trying everything everything to.
Thank you boss

When she start having a male bestie, forget it, she's gone.

Never put all your eggs in one basket

My past relationships bleeped me up like.... The last one was even the worst.

What I learned from the first, never be with a guy you don't see yourself loving. Karma is a bitch. It bit me in my second relationship.

Never love with your heart but your head. Expect the worst from him or don't even expect anything at all. So it won't shock you.
Also, do not lose your sense of self to please him. Being stubborn is better than being weak willed.
Also don't invest what will hurt you when its over.
Lastly, never see a breakup as a bad thing. Some things need to happen for us to change our perspectives. The second one taught me these.

Alexaonfleek:
Hmm if you keep thinking like this you won't find wife ooo nazgul

What do you want me to do na

Decimus:
That sex is overrated. once you ejaculate, your brain will rival Einstein's.

evaristus22:
The one wer I dey go soon end. I have learnt that it’s totally wrong for you to be 100% honest over your emotions with a woman, they will totally take advantage of it. Make sure you hold back a lot, the fact that you leave them wondering who exactly you are, works.

This doesn't necessarily work for all ladies, you know that right? Enlightened ones will not wait a minute more with a guy that withhold emotions and vital things of himself

MrJavaS:
As expected never put too much trust on anyone.
Don't be needy (always maintain a high level of self esteem). Having a high sense of self worth keeps you from making some kinds of mistakes
Still keep a fair amount of your secrets close to your self. Don't divulge too much about yourself. Humans are unpredictable.

Downplay your achievements and keep them vague. Envy kills every relationship very fast.

Lastly be very very very observant of nonverbal cues in any interaction. Or else you miss out on an incredible amount of useful information.

This is 100% true.

No one is special
Dating without plans to marriage is for cruise and trips

The relationship is 50/50 it may or may not Amount to anything.

Forget about motivational speakers you can't change a hoe, don't invest in a hoe you will end up in regrets. That's what I learnt in my last relationship.

Gwan2:
I encountered one witch that the devil sent my way in a club, I was so high that I took this lady home,,,my mouth no fit talk wetin happen...after the incidence, it down on me that I needed a very spiritual church for remedy. It was then i remembered the church my girlfriend sister advice me on. I was more connected to God and attended the church services regularly....After some months, my life took a new path and as they say the rest is history. My ex is married now with a Kid. I never intended marrying her, reasons I wasn't reciprocating her affections towards me. [/b]

What is/are her evil(s) or wickedness?

You wrote an headline without details.

Long story short, no matter how much you sacrifice, some people would still be assholes.

MISSCONGENIALITY:
1:Learned Never to carry any relationship on.my head like gala.
2: Never to take any man serious. They say one thing and do another.
3: learned do do only what I can do and never to go an extra mile trying to make a guy happy.
4: To always remind any man coming into my life my happiness is in my hands not his so that he doesn't go about feeling like I will die if he doesn't do this or that and so is his happiness. I owe him not happiness and he owes me none.
5: Learned that my happiness in Paramount and should not be traded for any kind of relationship.
6: learned never to try saving a stressfull relationship cos it sucks blood more than HIV.
7: most importantly, I learned never to place any man over my personal development, dreams and aspirations.
8: never to start what I can not finish in a relationship.

Sweetie, who broke your heart? this is too long nah

Pelxmiye:
Sweetie, who broke your heart? this is too long nah

Lol. E never even finish

OVA200:
I've done that over a 100 times.
She's not a social media person, she enter Facebook like once in three months and na only me she dey chat with on WhatsApp.
I have her password self.

Bro I've brace myself for any possibility though but for now I don't have any reason to doubt her.

Oga! You think sai them de pay to open multiple social media account? Just saying shaa!!

Aileexa1:
My past relationships bleeped me up like.... The last one was even the worst.

What I learned from the first, never be with a guy you don't see yourself loving. Karma is a bitch. It bit me in my second relationship.

Never love with your heart but your head. Expect the worst from him or don't even expect anything at all. So it won't shock you.
Also, do not lose your sense of self to please him. Being stubborn is better than being weak willed.
Also don't invest what will hurt you when its over.
Lastly, never see a breakup as a bad thing. Some things need to happen for us to change our perspectives. The second one taught me this.

Nicely spoken!

Nicely spoken

@womenareapes over to you about naija gals

Most definitely many guys here are regretting about their former relationships

Don't trust any naija gal ...this generation don cast ...70 percent na olosho

Catch cruise and bang Dem Taya and pregnate Dem before u can wife any unless you go end up being a mugu ..fathering someone child

My regret is keeping a girlfriend ...they will want to carry their problems put on your head

Gentle0wavez:
Lol.
I can't lie. I gained NOTHING from my last relationship.

Never show a woman how much you truly love her

Lights up my kpoli in peace

MISSCONGENIALITY:
Lol. E never even finish

Hmmmm..okay

JohnspeakU:
Hello Everyone!! I am here again with another discussion thread that we can all learn from.

Some people make the mistake of going into a relationship without knowing why they were there. The reason why people rain curses on their exes is simply because they felt they only wasted their time and never benefited anything from the relationship. But the truth is, there is always a lesson or two to learn from every relationship either positively or negatively So the question is, what life lessons did you learn from your past relationship?

Let me share mine.
Before now I used to believe that men are richer than females not until I dated one calabar girl in Abuja that opened my eyes. This girl works as a nurse in a private clinic and earns about 80k. The surprising thing is that she belongs to about 6 contributions that she puts almost all her salary in��‍♀️ After using her money to pay contributions, she will start demanding money from me for everything even down to recharge card to call her mom. So as a sharp Edo guy, I rallied among my colleagues and started paying contributions too��

She thought me how to save unknowingly.

Tell us about yours.

she had threesomes with my friends guys please don't date damaged ladies.

Dreyton36:
Never show a woman how much you truly love her

Lights up my kpoli in peace

Well....it depends on whether she has shown you 100 percent what she feels for you and also showing her feelings for you goes beyond words , that's why it's good to be 100 percent convinced of her commitment to you and the relationship before showing your true feelings, i used to believe that people should allow their feelings to show without holding back, but I saw how easily the other person could take advantage of that, everyone dey guide their heart jejely ...anyway sha..do whatever you believe would work for you...

SoftP:
Last relationship was a flop,
Now I’ve realized, there’s no honey without money

Amplify that shi that's wsup bruh!

futurerex:
Oga! You think sai them de pay to open multiple social media account? Just saying shaa!!

I know all that so that's why I'm saying am bracing myself for anything.

I'm not hellbent on making it work if it didn't I can't die now.

Decimus:
That sex is overrated. once you ejaculate, your brain will rival Einstein's.

Hahahaha hahahaha hahahaha oooobbbooyyyy
Tho badt gan.... Werey nani