I have been dating this guy for 2 years now and oh yes I really like him, we met during my NYSC through my cousin who is a friend of his, he do come visit me during my service year, he has a good job in Lagos and he is doing well on his own. Recently, he proposed to me and I accepted, we are making arrangements for him to come see my parents. But I noticed recently that he has a bit of temper which doesn't last and he insults me a lot at ease, I told him I don't like it, he apologised but he does it even when we are having a normal conversation, recently he insulted my parents on one of our conversations and I was devastated, I hold my parents in high esteem and I can't imagine myself with a guy who has no respect for me or my parents. He chatted me up but I am yet to reply, and I know he will apologise, should I accept his apology and continue with the wedding plans, I am scared for what the future holds if I finally get married to him. I need some opinions please

Don't be carried away by his proposal, that's a red flag, any guy that dish out insults easily must also be very toxic and violent, he's just hiding that side of him for now. Don't rush into something you might regret.

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MarvelouzB:
I have been dating this guy for 2 years now and oh yes I really like him, we met during my NYSC through my cousin who is a friend of his, he do come visit me during my service year, he has a good job in Lagos and he is doing well on his own. Recently, he proposed to me and I accepted, we are making arrangements for him to come see my parents. But I noticed recently that he has a bit of temper which doesn't last and he insults me a lot at ease, I told him I don't like it, he apologised but he does it even when we are having a normal conversation, recently he insulted my parents on one of our conversations and I was devastated, I hold my parents in high esteem and I can't imagine myself with a guy who has no respect for me or my parents. He chatted me up but I am yet to reply, and I know he will apologise, should I accept his apology and continue with the wedding plans, I am scared for what the future holds if I finally get married to him. I need some opinions please

You know what, whenever he insults your parents, return it back multiple times by insulting his own parents

If he bashes you bash him back

Let's see how far this will go

Marriage proposal has never been a guarantee that your happiness is assured

MarvelouzB:
I have been dating this guy for 2 years now and oh yes I really like him, we met during my NYSC through my cousin who is a friend of his, he do come visit me during my service year, he has a good job in Lagos and he is doing well on his own. Recently, he proposed to me and I accepted, we are making arrangements for him to come see my parents. But I noticed recently that he has a bit of temper which doesn't last and he insults me a lot at ease, I told him I don't like it, he apologised but he does it even when we are having a normal conversation, recently he insulted my parents on one of our conversations and I was devastated, I hold my parents in high esteem and I can't imagine myself with a guy who has no respect for me or my parents. He chatted me up but I am yet to reply, and I know he will apologise, should I accept his apology and continue with the wedding plans, I am scared for what the future holds if I finally get married to him. I need some opinions please

I hope you're not making him pay too much bills for you or your parents, because such can make guys to extends their anger to their wife's parents, or could it be that your parents influence is already showing in the relationship, if yes not all men takes that, they may try to manage this situation but can voice it out when there is any quarrel and your parents name would not be left out.

You need to talk to him that he should quarrel you if he must and leave your parents out of it, telling this should be done with hot temper, again don't let him be paying bills for relations, if he choose to do so on his own, better.

Are you the type with hot temper, if so drop it, it doesn't pay in any relationship mostly if your guy is the type with ego.

frozen70:


You know what, whenever he insults your parents, return it back multiple times by insulting his own parents

If he bashes you bash him back

Let's see how far this will go

Marriage proposal has never been a guarantee that your happiness is assured

Your advice is similar to petrol explosion, do a compression you would understand what I mean.

forget him

Firstly, he is not paying any Bill for my parents or relatives, plus I rarely make demands, he has not formally met my parents yet he is already giving authority on how things must be done knowing fully well that marriage involves both families. Secondly I take some of the insults cos I feel it is out of anger but its getting too much, sometimes I am pushed to insult back and also crossing the line by insulting my parents, I can't possibly bring myself to the level of insulting his parents. I know it's not right. I have tried talking to him but it's not yielding anything

correctyourself:


Your advice is similar to petrol explosion, do a compression you would understand what I mean.

There is nothing to comprehend

Is the guy still learning etiquette

For how long will one be tolerating such nonsense all because of marriage proposal?

MarvelouzB:
I have been dating this guy for 2 years now and oh yes I really like him, we met during my NYSC through my cousin who is a friend of his, he do come visit me during my service year, he has a good job in Lagos and he is doing well on his own. Recently, he proposed to me and I accepted, we are making arrangements for him to come see my parents. But I noticed recently that he has a bit of temper which doesn't last and he insults me a lot at ease, I told him I don't like it, he apologised but he does it even when we are having a normal conversation, recently he insulted my parents on one of our conversations and I was devastated, I hold my parents in high esteem and I can't imagine myself with a guy who has no respect for me or my parents. He chatted me up but I am yet to reply, and I know he will apologise, should I accept his apology and continue with the wedding plans, I am scared for what the future holds if I finally get married to him. I need some opinions please

wow, that ain't good.
If he can't respect your parent then he can't respect you. Our parent is our value and if anyone respect our parent it show great importance to the family and honour. I don't think they should be any excuses for anyone to insult someone's parent who you are about to get into a relationship with.

Hmmm.. That's a red flag. You need to think very well.

Such people tend to be violence.

IdJack:
Hmmm.. That's a red flag. You need to think very well.

Such people tend to be violence.

Yes o.....very violence

Leave while you can. When he eventually marries you, you will suffer from domestic violence. He that has ear, let him hear

Temper is too dangerous to overlook.

Someone who has been casually insulting you, your parents, and your lineage will somehow stop after marriage? Na magic?

You probably overlooked all these crimson flags because he is financially stable, as you say.

It seems anything other than complete and total submission will shake this marriage. Why join a faulty boat? Leave the boat, try to fix the boat, if that fails, find another boat.

Just expect enough battering during the marriage,na from clap we dey take enter dance.

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Red flags waving in your face and you asking if to keep on going? A guy a out to propose... should be trying his best to hide his bad side.... this one can't help himself while courting...... why on earth will you think he will behave in marriage? Wife abuse loading.

MarvelouzB:
I have been dating this guy for 2 years now and oh yes I really like him, we met during my NYSC through my cousin who is a friend of his, he do come visit me during my service year, he has a good job in Lagos and he is doing well on his own. Recently, he proposed to me and I accepted, we are making arrangements for him to come see my parents. But I noticed recently that he has a bit of temper which doesn't last and he insults me a lot at ease, I told him I don't like it, he apologised but he does it even when we are having a normal conversation, recently he insulted my parents on one of our conversations and I was devastated, I hold my parents in high esteem and I can't imagine myself with a guy who has no respect for me or my parents. He chatted me up but I am yet to reply, and I know he will apologise, should I accept his apology and continue with the wedding plans, I am scared for what the future holds if I finally get married to him. I need some opinions please

Physical and emotional abuse loading....you better quit

MarvelouzB:
I have been dating this guy for 2 years now and oh yes I really like him, we met during my NYSC through my cousin who is a friend of his, he do come visit me during my service year, he has a good job in Lagos and he is doing well on his own. Recently, he proposed to me and I accepted, we are making arrangements for him to come see my parents. But I noticed recently that he has a bit of temper which doesn't last and he insults me a lot at ease, I told him I don't like it, he apologised but he does it even when we are having a normal conversation, recently he insulted my parents on one of our conversations and I was devastated, I hold my parents in high esteem and I can't imagine myself with a guy who has no respect for me or my parents. He chatted me up but I am yet to reply, and I know he will apologise, should I accept his apology and continue with the wedding plans, I am scared for what the future holds if I finally get married to him. I need some opinions please

I will advised you still be patient with him...during your patient time with him...try stop that is habit of insulting or giving out abusive words...! I hope he will changed.


But wait ooh...why is it now that he proposed to you that he now exhibited such Habit..?

Acrimony comes to mind

frozen70:


You know what, whenever he insults your parents, return it back multiple times by insulting his own parents

If he bashes you bash him back

Let's see how far this will go

Marriage proposal has never been a guarantee that your happiness is assured

.This is what an idiotic teenager will do, what is the point of this line of action?

Babe use your head o, any man that can insult a girl's parent isn't worth marriage, and pls anytime he is insulting your parent, pls don't answer him just be calm because if you answer him na that can lead to domestic violence.

frozen70:


You know what, whenever he insults your parents, return it back multiple times by insulting his own parents

If he bashes you bash him back

Let's see how far this will go

Marriage proposal has never been a guarantee that your happiness is assured

Babe this your advice no follow at all, don't forget this your advise can lead to domestic violence.

MarvelouzB:
I have been dating this guy for 2 years now and oh yes I really like him, we met during my NYSC through my cousin who is a friend of his, he do come visit me during my service year, he has a good job in Lagos and he is doing well on his own. Recently, he proposed to me and I accepted, we are making arrangements for him to come see my parents. But I noticed recently that he has a bit of temper which doesn't last and he insults me a lot at ease, I told him I don't like it, he apologised but he does it even when we are having a normal conversation, recently he insulted my parents on one of our conversations and I was devastated, I hold my parents in high esteem and I can't imagine myself with a guy who has no respect for me or my parents. He chatted me up but I am yet to reply, and I know he will apologise, should I accept his apology and continue with the wedding plans, I am scared for what the future holds if I finally get married to him. I need some opinions please

Don't Take Dis Signs 4 Granted. Dis Are Warning & Danger Signs.

Please I think you shouldn't cos this is emotional abuse, nobody knows when he will proceed to physical abuse. This is just like a time bomb, when you guys get married it will explode. Think twice miss.



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virginprincess:
Babe this your advice no follow at all, don't forget this your advise can lead to domestic violence.

My dear, it takes madness to correct nonsense

If my advice can lead to domestic violence

The abuse the guy is giving her is worst than domestic violence because its killing her emotional state

Ditch him. He will someday in the marriage beat the hell out of you and your papent too. People with anger problem don't change.

Xxx123xxx:
.This is what an idiotic teenager will do, what is the point of this line of action?

Is only idiots like you that can detect one

Zzor:
Don't be carried away by his proposal, that's a red flag, any guy that dish out insults easily musr also be very toxic and violent, he's just hiding that side of him for now. Don't rush into something you might regret.

Women and Hypocrisy!

If the Genders were reversed,you would have Adviced the guy to Talk to her and go ahead and marry her because he loves her

It seems men are the only ones capable of love

frozen70:


Is only idiots like you that can detect one

.On a final note, You are clearly a child regardless of how old you are.

MarvelouzB:
I have been dating this guy for 2 years now and oh yes I really like him, we met during my NYSC through my cousin who is a friend of his, he do come visit me during my service year, he has a good job in Lagos and he is doing well on his own. Recently, he proposed to me and I accepted, we are making arrangements for him to come see my parents. But I noticed recently that he has a bit of temper which doesn't last and he insults me a lot at ease, I told him I don't like it, he apologised but he does it even when we are having a normal conversation, recently he insulted my parents on one of our conversations and I was devastated, I hold my parents in high esteem and I can't imagine myself with a guy who has no respect for me or my parents. He chatted me up but I am yet to reply, and I know he will apologise, should I accept his apology and continue with the wedding plans, I am scared for what the future holds if I finally get married to him. I need some opinions please

My sister, how old are you?