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virginprincess:
Op she doesn't want you again na, is it by force? seriously if i'm close to that lady i will surely advise her to marry you, because is men like you that go to the extent of washing their wife undies just to pls her, by the time she turn you into her houseboy you will have sense by force since you don't what to have sense.

DukeJoe17:
first time you escaped the spell of sentiment with a conscious input here, you have failed your gang on this thread,
Op, I won't waste my precious words on you sorry.

coming2america:
She did love me, more than i actually thought i loved her. She made life changing decisions for my sake, but well, i guess love is never enough.

Psych412:
seriously, I hate men like you.



your type are too weak to make thier stand and move on.




why can't you move on. she told you she's done with the relationship yet you are begging her to mend the relationship back.



if you were my brother I would have knock that your big head.




Op if you accept and marry that lady, you will regret it(may be in the other world, when she finally kills you).



sissy OP

coming2america:
Hello Nairalanders,

Save A Soul plsease.

I dated this girl for like 2yrs, known her for 4 and we have been apart for a little more than a year. She is 28 now, and she was only23 when i knew her and we started dating when she was 24. She is a recent graduate too,(2yrs) but still job hunting and/or hoping to start a business.

I am in my mid 30's and quite ready to settle down. Everything was cool between me and this girl till sometime last year when we fell out. She is hyper, very insecure, has trust issues and a tad temperamental.

Both families knew about our relationship and we were meant to be married.

I loved her whole heartedly but due to these flaws of hers(which i was ready to tolerate) things got awry between us, we got into a heated argument and a minor fracas(no violence or insults)/but she packed her things and left.

Just like that.

Her father even called me to tell me, i shoukdnt worry, things woukd settle between me and his daughter very soon.

I was really broken and I have tried to get back with her since. No way. She blocked me everywhere-on social media, whatsap, regular line, everywhere. She never as much as uttered a word to me since she left.

The few times we ran into each other, she embarassed me thoroughly and only ever told me we can never come bacl together.

Fast forward, early this month, she finally picked my call for the first time in a year ( the call, from an official line) and we spoke.

She ranted, shouted and reminded me what she thought i did. I apologized and she said she had forgiven me but we can never come back together. I should stop calling her and move on,she was going to block this line i had used to call her.

She didnt.

Then i discovered all my lines she had blocked,(for more than a year) all three lines were unblocked and i could actually call her from either. I did on my main line and she returned my call. I was shocked. I called her later and we spoke again, like mature adults for the first time in a long while.

I was happy.

We agreed to have dinner and talk things over and she got me to assure her i wont be nasty to her if we did agree to meet.

I gave her the assurance and she said she will think about our date and when we can actually have dinner within the week. I suggested a date and time.

When the day came, she wont take my call and when i called her when it was time, she went ballistic on me again, warning me never to call her again, that we were done and we could never get back together again and I should leave her alone, she was going to block.my numbers.

She still didnt, and has refused to pick my calls till today. What could she be upto? I really want this woman as we have been togetger for so long, but I am jist frustrated by her antics.

I am not hard up for women or female company and i have the very best and creamest, but this my former fiancee has me tottering towards depression.

What do I do?

RisenPhoenix1:
Lol. How are you doing Martinez39s? Glad to see you still have your acerbic wit still up and running.

GLYCOLYSISS:
Op,She honestly gave you a genuine advice a sister will give to a brother she cares for.

How are you ready to overlook those red flags she displayed so far ? Because you allow oxytocin to do the thinking for you ?
You don't overlook red flags in your partner, especially when marriage is in the picture.

The easiest people to manipulate are those who are heavily governed by emotions,and because you're in love, you can't see through the games she's playing.
And unfortunately, because you're in love, you are not going to make a more informed choice in these situation, and why those asking you to cut your losses and move on are sounding like haters to you.

The most difficult people to advice are men in love,most cases, is like pouring water in a basket, a total waste of time and energy.

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But then, are you a female for real ?

coming2america:
I have tried. I dont know whether she hexed me. I have girl running ariund the house half naked as i replying this. But my mind always goes back to this girl once i have a second to think

virginprincess:
Op she doesn't want you again na, is it by force? seriously if i'm close to that lady i will surely advise her to marry you, because is men like you that go to the extent of washing their wife undies just to pls her, by the time she turn you into her houseboy you will have sense by force since you don't what to have sense.

virginprincess:
Seriously, i don't believe they are still men like you.

coming2america:
Hello Nairalanders,

Save A Soul plsease.

I dated this girl for like 2yrs, known her for 4 and we have been apart for a little more than a year. She is 28 now, and she was only23 when i knew her and we started dating when she was 24. She is a recent graduate too,(2yrs) but still job hunting and/or hoping to start a business.

I am in my mid 30's and quite ready to settle down. Everything was cool between me and this girl till sometime last year when we fell out. She is hyper, very insecure, has trust issues and a tad temperamental.

Both families knew about our relationship and we were meant to be married.

I loved her whole heartedly but due to these flaws of hers(which i was ready to tolerate) things got awry between us, we got into a heated argument and a minor fracas(no violence or insults)/but she packed her things and left.

Just like that.

Her father even called me to tell me, i shoukdnt worry, things woukd settle between me and his daughter very soon.

I was really broken and I have tried to get back with her since. No way. She blocked me everywhere-on social media, whatsap, regular line, everywhere. She never as much as uttered a word to me since she left.

The few times we ran into each other, she embarassed me thoroughly and only ever told me we can never come bacl together.

Fast forward, early this month, she finally picked my call for the first time in a year ( the call, from an official line) and we spoke.

She ranted, shouted and reminded me what she thought i did. I apologized and she said she had forgiven me but we can never come back together. I should stop calling her and move on,she was going to block this line i had used to call her.

She didnt.

Then i discovered all my lines she had blocked,(for more than a year) all three lines were unblocked and i could actually call her from either. I did on my main line and she returned my call. I was shocked. I called her later and we spoke again, like mature adults for the first time in a long while.

I was happy.

We agreed to have dinner and talk things over and she got me to assure her i wont be nasty to her if we did agree to meet.

I gave her the assurance and she said she will think about our date and when we can actually have dinner within the week. I suggested a date and time.

When the day came, she wont take my call and when i called her when it was time, she went ballistic on me again, warning me never to call her again, that we were done and we could never get back together again and I should leave her alone, she was going to block.my numbers.

She still didnt, and has refused to pick my calls till today. What could she be upto? I really want this woman as we have been togetger for so long, but I am jist frustrated by her antics.

I am not hard up for women or female company and i have the very best and creamest, but this my former fiancee has me tottering towards depression.

What do I do?

Psych412:
seriously, I hate men like you.



your type are too weak to make thier stand and move on.




why can't you move on. she told you she's done with the relationship yet you are begging her to mend the relationship back.



if you were my brother I would have knock that your big head.




Op if you accept and marry that lady, you will regret it(may be in the other world, when she finally kills you).



sissy OP

Martinez39s:
Monkey S—I—M—P—A—N—Z—E—E.

coming2america:
Meeeehn...me, that the minute a gorl starts telling me she loves me, i ghost her or slide het along. The minute you start saying come and meet my family, i movr you along.

This girl practically forced me to go meet her parents and tell them i want to marry her..i hesitated cos then, i wasnt too sure i wanted her totally, then along the line, the story changed.

And dont think they've done worse to you. I only told half the story.

coming2america:
She calls me weak. Well for every man, i gues theres that one woman who is his archilles heel- for samson, it was delilah, for Napoleaon, it was Josephine, for ceasar...i could go on and on.

And i have knocked myself too, sis. But oh, well..life happens

Psych412:
seriously, I hate men like you.



your type are too weak to make thier stand and move on.




why can't you move on. she told you she's done with the relationship yet you are begging her to mend the relationship back.



if you were my brother I would have knock that your big head.




Op if you accept and marry that lady, you will regret it(may be in the other world, when she finally kills you).



sissy OP