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Re: Sad Truths About Living Abroad by VeeVeeMyLuv(m): 6:05am On Dec 24, 2020
gregyboy:



I still like nigerian ladies but their attitudes is what other people cant cope with outside nigeria


Guess who made them so, we nigerian men

Anything our women are is just a shadow of we men.....

If our women are downgraded outside, who do u think feel d insult, is we nigerian men that shoulders the humiliation

Nigerian men are still one of d least sort after, too in the western world
just like your signature states "great minds" which I love by the way. Nigerians have collectively refused to recruit the best candidates to direct and govern Thier affairs.

What we have is worthless (yes though these individuals may have looted billions seating in their bank account, I don't care what any other person thinks, they're just worthless), low value, visionless individuals into certain sensitive leadership positions.

We just have an incurable penchant for placing idiots on the pedestal of governance just because they are physically large in size, or their kleptomaniac prowess, not what they can offer, their mental capacity, their content

This nonsense is now rubbing off on all of us, including those in those in diaspora.

The solution to all these is to destroy these "idiotic toxic low value individuals" to prevent them from continuously replicating and perpetuating their useless toxic genes.

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Re: Sad Truths About Living Abroad by Dagger111(m): 6:14am On Dec 24, 2020
MIRACOOD1:
It's more better than the current state this country is.

Follow my signature for 250# free airtime


Na im make u snap only booby for us.
Re: Sad Truths About Living Abroad by StJorge: 6:22am On Dec 24, 2020
Newman20:
#5 is so true.
Want to elaborate a little?
Re: Sad Truths About Living Abroad by StJorge: 6:23am On Dec 24, 2020
Keshinr0:
Just avoid Nigeria churches abroad
Want to elaborate a little?
Re: Sad Truths About Living Abroad by bigcasava1(m): 6:32am On Dec 24, 2020
Leshurr:
#1. The Silence is Deafening!
When I first arrived in the West, I was so taken aback by how quiet everywhere was. On the way out of the airport, I looked around in awe as the pristine clean roads were not littered with with hawkers, jampacked cars , numerous pedestrians and the blaring sounds of horns! - although, mega-cities like New York is an exception to the rule. 

#2. Your Neighbours & The Police: You Can Co-exist with Neighbours for Years Without Ever Saying a Word to Each Other.
In the average neighbourhood, you can't make noise anyhow. Everyone minds their business. ... The most you will get out of your neighbors is an occasional nod and smile.
Although this doesn't deter them from watching your every move through their windows... they won't hesitate to call the cops/snitch on you at any slight opportunity. Make noise and fight with your spouse anyhow and you will find police knocking at your door.

#3 Raising kids in a Predominantly Black Neighbourhood Can Spell Doom.
Bullying is incessant in these communities. Gang culture, crime, violence  etc..

#4. Your Child(ren) can be Taken from You.
This almost happened to a close friend of mine whose nosy neighbour called  child services on her because she heard her baby crying for a lengthy period of time. And the police actually showed up to her house to carry out a thorough investigation on the living conditions of the baby.. Thank God nothing incriminating was found..
Moral of the story: be careful with how you care for/discipline your kids when living abroad.

#5. Nigerian Churches (most RCCG branches) are Epicenters for Drama & Toxicity.
Avoid! Just Avoid!

#6. Black (especially Nigerian women) are at the Bottom of the Food Chain; be it at the Workplace or on the Dating Scene.
Young black guys will rather date white or mixed race girls.. (may not be true for all) but my observation living in London.
...and at work, we have to work twice as hard to be respected and valued. The biggest oppressor of a black woman at work is a white woman (and in some cases, your fellow blacks).. but not a white man surprisingly. 

#7. You will Happily Miss Home from Afar and be so Much More Invested in the Affairs of Nigeria than Those Living in Nigeria.

Need I say more? smiley

#8.You May Gain Weight.
Why??
Kebabs & Pizzas
Chicken and chips.
Cheap and irresistibly delicious chinese takeaways cheesy
Fish & chips
Burgers,
TGI Fridays & Nandos

Important Note: This is a light hearted post and just a snippet of my experience so far living abroad.. it isn't perfect here, but I'd choose this over and over again than my experiences living in Nigeria.
Ah! To me this one is absolutely perfect.

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Re: Sad Truths About Living Abroad by luminouz(m): 6:33am On Dec 24, 2020
Ninokingz1:


Sorry, shoe get size. Go search am not a regular comments giver here cause of kids like you who can't read with understanding but rather rush to abuse with stupid words.

Single out one PLC I did attack the writer if not pls get out of my mention. Since you don't knw the differences between counter writing and attack.
*yawns*

Boring repartee!!!! undecided
Re: Sad Truths About Living Abroad by descarado: 6:35am On Dec 24, 2020
Leshurr:


My point is, you would think white men would be the biggest perpetrators of racism and oppression in the workplace but in actual reality, white women are...
...and your fellow blacks will never have your back.
U are indeed grounded.
Blacks especially Nigerians.
If u happen to be above them, be very careful. They will pull you down. Have never seen very jealous entity like us.

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Re: Sad Truths About Living Abroad by RosyIsBlessed: 6:38am On Dec 24, 2020
Nice piece. I need an exposé on life in Canada.

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Re: Sad Truths About Living Abroad by RosyIsBlessed: 6:41am On Dec 24, 2020
yemiosinbajo:

Not only in the church, but also anywhere Nigerians predominantly are. Check Nigerian organizations, even some campus organizations such as African Students Organizations and compare them to European Students (or Lantinx) Organizations. Check hospitals where Nigerians form the majority of nurses and check how they interact with each other. Now, compare the relationships of Nigerians in America to Indians or Chinese in America, and you'll find a stark difference. This shows that the problem of Nigeria isn't just the leaders but the people, and this is justified because the leaders come from among the people. And the weird thing is that when I discuss these things with other Africans in America such as Ghanaians and east Africans, they mention the same problems in their own communities too. Probably why Africa is the way it is today.

Fact!!

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Re: Sad Truths About Living Abroad by Hathor5(f): 6:44am On Dec 24, 2020
A thread full of negativity. OP check yourself. You have problems with every race and gender.

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Re: Sad Truths About Living Abroad by tundeport(m): 6:51am On Dec 24, 2020
I just want to go out there with my family, to leave bad omen people with there darkness life
Re: Sad Truths About Living Abroad by Nicoswit(m): 7:16am On Dec 24, 2020
Map1:
.not wickedness bro,every black living in abroad is a suspect and that is part of their security system
Every black is a suspect? Thats racism!

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Re: Sad Truths About Living Abroad by VeeVeeMyLuv(m): 7:21am On Dec 24, 2020
King44:
Make I no lie.

As long as I am making enough legit money in Nigeria I have no problem living here, though the thought of living outside the country crosses my mind at times but abroad no freak me a bit.

I can't come and die of depression because there is no one to talk to or everywhere is silent I like making noise... I like saying hi to my neighbours, the sensible neighbours.

I like noise on a steady.

But if God can grant me one wish, that would be may God put anyone who doesn't want this country to move forward to complete and utmost shame, that is my only problem.

Abroad no freak me but it wouldn't be bad if I make money finish travel out for a vacation, that's highly needed.
lol just enter police trap in the midnight u go know say even your money cannot save u in naija. Or have u not been hearing of hospital rejecting individuals with gunshot wounds and even accident victims

What is there to love in such a place? U only love the money that u are making here.

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Re: Sad Truths About Living Abroad by generationz(f): 7:24am On Dec 24, 2020
BRATISLAVA:


Those two men who keep quoting you are just pathetic white arselickers with who hate women and have ego issues. It destroys their world when a black woman rejects them. They have fits when black women express opinions and choices on them, nevermind the way they have always been on womenfolk cases.

They think they are all that. They think women are falling all over them. They live in a lie they have told themselves to believe.

Too much porn and Playboy has destroyed their perception of white women. They've lied that white women are submissive to them, when the truth is that they so adore white skin that they become slaves to white women. If it's black women, they will show that they are egotistic men.

No wonder more black women are getting trendy young men, while they are looking for old white mother's at retirement age. You need to see them at it lol

Hahaha, you've said it all.

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Re: Sad Truths About Living Abroad by Overgrownbaby: 7:31am On Dec 24, 2020
nograv:



No your message to me said simply



So don’t tell lies. Especially when I was talking about the different socio economic outcomes of middle class and upper class Nigerians who migrated to the UK I’m the 80s.

If your point is different races have a better mindset of cooperation, again you don’t know what you are talking about.

Take Jewish people, I know them well as I do business with them often. Once you climb the socio economic you start to meet the other players and I will give it to this group they’re very shrewd.

But they are not as united as you think. Sephardic Jews who come from Arabian regions don’t always get along with Ashkenazi Jews who hail from Europe. They often go to separate Synagogues which they call Shuls, this occurs even in New York!!! How do I know this, my Jewish associated kindly told me.

Next Indians, as well know mercantilist group. Light skinned Indians from the North west of India from cities like Mumbai don’t like darker skined Tamils from the Southbwho are heavily involved in IT in cities like Chennai and Bangalore. They don’t even like to see another of their number succeed if they are no gaining. So much for unity... I know this because I started out a programmer in Java before building trading platforms..

Chinese are similarly divided Cantonese speakers from Hong Kong don’t like Mandarin speaking mainlanders..

so get your facts straights few groups are as united as you think..

I get tired of this silly mindset of always talking down Nigerians. You may have a lot of self hate but I don’t. Nigerians especially the Yoruba and Igbo have a lot to offer this world and I have seen it first hand..


also white Dominicans (Taino’s)don’t like black Dominicans .. there is hate in the world , in every corner

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Re: Sad Truths About Living Abroad by fotadmowmend(m): 7:32am On Dec 24, 2020
I like this post. There is nothing absolutely bad in leaving Nigeria since as it is now there is no hope for the upcoming ones. That is the frank truth. Except one wants to give him/herself false hope. Meanwhile, I believe there is no place no cannot live the main thing is that one should just focus and leave distractions alone
Re: Sad Truths About Living Abroad by MyGeneration(m): 7:44am On Dec 24, 2020
sultaan:
Nigerian women tend to get into a lot of drama at work, fighting with other black women then expect us to have their back, when the had used us for practise in the first place.

They go sleeping around with akata/married men but can't deal with the consequences of the lifestyle.
Nigerians are their own worst enemy, the notion to outwit the other guys tends to make us all suspicious of each other.
Nigerian women do well but when they do too well, they find themself alone, or loose the Nigerian identity
Do u stay abroad?
Re: Sad Truths About Living Abroad by Indiaburger187(m): 8:05am On Dec 24, 2020
Keshinr0:
Just avoid Nigeria churches abroad
Why do you say so bro
Re: Sad Truths About Living Abroad by FreQ: 8:35am On Dec 24, 2020
Leshurr:



Point 5 is pretty much self explanatory... but to expand further, ... Nigerian churches abroad are toxic because everything bad about Nigeria is practised there; mediocrity, corruption, nepotism, classism, hypocrisy, wickedness, envy, arrogance etc..
The focus is neither on God, nor attaining righteousness but rather on showing off, making money and being rewarded with titles in within the organisation (church).
... This is why you'd see economically disadvantaged people who actually live in council houses, dressing like millionaires in church whilst looking down on others who are just as poor as they are.. respect and honor is given to the most superficial of things.



shocked cool

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Re: Sad Truths About Living Abroad by mamajaz(f): 8:35am On Dec 24, 2020
Leshurr:


My point is, you would think white men would be the biggest perpetrators of racism and oppression in the workplace but in actual reality, white women are...
...and your fellow blacks will never have your back.



Wey you dey work please?

For our area here, most of us wey be black dey look out for ourselves oh. We take good care of other blacks. Naija, Zimbs, Kenya, Ghana...the few bitchy behaviours among us are just the regular stuffs. Otherwise...all good!

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Re: Sad Truths About Living Abroad by King44(m): 8:35am On Dec 24, 2020
VeeVeeMyLuv:
lol just enter police trap in the midnight u go know say even your money cannot save u in naija. Or have u not been hearing of hospital rejecting individuals with gunshot wounds and even accident victims

What is there to love in such a place? U only love the money that u are making here.
We here of people, black people getting shot in US and we even see clips, there are instances where people are arrested and jailed for a crime they didn't commit.

Crime happens everywhere around the world, it's just that Naija is has gotten out of hands.

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Re: Sad Truths About Living Abroad by BigBashiru: 8:44am On Dec 24, 2020
Leshurr:
#1. The Silence is Deafening!
When I first arrived in the West, I was so taken aback by how quiet everywhere was. On the way out of the airport, I looked around in awe as the pristine clean roads were not littered with with hawkers, jampacked cars , numerous pedestrians and the blaring sounds of horns! - although, mega-cities like New York is an exception to the rule. 

#2. Your Neighbours & The Police: You Can Co-exist with Neighbours for Years Without Ever Saying a Word to Each Other.
In the average neighbourhood, you can't make noise anyhow. Everyone minds their business. ... The most you will get out of your neighbors is an occasional nod and smile.
Although this doesn't deter them from watching your every move through their windows... they won't hesitate to call the cops/snitch on you at any slight opportunity. Make noise and fight with your spouse anyhow and you will find police knocking at your door.

#3 Raising kids in a Predominantly Black Neighbourhood Can Spell Doom.
Bullying is incessant in these communities. Gang culture, crime, violence  etc..

#4. Your Child(ren) can be Taken from You.
This almost happened to a close friend of mine whose nosy neighbour called  child services on her because she heard her baby crying for a lengthy period of time. And the police actually showed up to her house to carry out a thorough investigation on the living conditions of the baby.. Thank God nothing incriminating was found..
Moral of the story: be careful with how you care for/discipline your kids when living abroad.

#5. Nigerian Churches (most RCCG branches) are Epicenters for Drama & Toxicity.
Avoid! Just Avoid!

#6. Black (especially Nigerian women) are at the Bottom of the Food Chain; be it at the Workplace or on the Dating Scene.
Young black guys will rather date white or mixed race girls.. (may not be true for all) but my observation living in London.
...and at work, we have to work twice as hard to be respected and valued. The biggest oppressor of a black woman at work is a white woman (and in some cases, your fellow blacks).. but not a white man surprisingly. 

#7. You will Happily Miss Home from Afar and be so Much More Invested in the Affairs of Nigeria than Those Living in Nigeria.

Need I say more? smiley

#8.You May Gain Weight.
Why??
Kebabs & Pizzas
Chicken and chips.
Cheap and irresistibly delicious chinese takeaways cheesy
Fish & chips
Burgers,
TGI Fridays & Nandos

Important Note: This is a light hearted post and just a snippet of my experience so far living abroad.. it isn't perfect here, but I'd choose this over and over again than my experiences living in Nigeria.

Your point number 3 confirms blacks are the same everywhere - all their neighbourhoods are backward....or will Buhari be blamed for US black communities too?

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Re: Sad Truths About Living Abroad by FreQ: 8:48am On Dec 24, 2020
seunny4lif:
I have over 5 people that I know, so called Nigeria church have led to end of their marriage and it’s almost happened to me but lucky my woman understand everything and she told the craps they were feeding her


Wooooow
Re: Sad Truths About Living Abroad by Nobody: 8:59am On Dec 24, 2020
justwise:


When you said ... let me tackle your points one by one.. I thought you were going to actually dispute her points but no we went on attacking her and asking questions.

This is exactly what many Nigerians churches have trained their members to do, anybody that dare criticise a church or a pastor will be met with army of keyboard warriors who will throw around insults.


You are absolutely correct. The writer deliberately refused to explain or deliberate more on item 5 because it is a Church matter. I can tell you, thousands of Church members are monitoring responses to Item 5 , waiting to launch attacks.

The issue of Nigerian or Blacks Churches is something the members don't want anybody to discuss.

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Re: Sad Truths About Living Abroad by genq(m): 9:03am On Dec 24, 2020
These troll monikers called BRATISLAVA & Hathor5 are so desperate to derail OP's thread into a gender-bashing shiiitshow!
.. still pained about her previous "Ladies..." thread huh? cheesy
She didn't respond to any of you frustrated souls then, and I doubt she will now.

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Re: Sad Truths About Living Abroad by FreQ: 9:05am On Dec 24, 2020
Leshurr:



Point 5 is pretty much self explanatory... but to expand further, ... Nigerian churches abroad are toxic because everything bad about Nigeria is practised there; mediocrity, corruption, nepotism, classism, hypocrisy, wickedness, envy, arrogance etc..
The focus is neither on God, nor attaining righteousness but rather on showing off, making money and being rewarded with titles in within the organisation (church).
... This is why you'd see economically disadvantaged people who actually live in council houses, dressing like millionaires in church whilst looking down on others who are just as poor as they are.. respect and honor is given to the most superficial of things.



It will be helpful if you create another thread with the title... Ten things to look out fellowship ping in a Nigerian church abroad... To help other people against falling into errors when they relocate

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Re: Sad Truths About Living Abroad by genq(m): 9:07am On Dec 24, 2020
RosyIsBlessed:
Nice piece. I need an exposé on life in Canada.

I'd say it's pretty much the same but far more boring than the UK.

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Re: Sad Truths About Living Abroad by Jaqenhghar: 9:07am On Dec 24, 2020
banmee:


Try that shit in Germany and see what happens. I love the way they handle things over there. Every action has a monetary price and they make you pay heavily.
Oh boy I fear Germany. Very thorough guys. My friend was telling me that you could loose your driving license for jaywalking.

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