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Re: Sad Truths About Living Abroad by boyjo: 12:54pm On Dec 24, 2020
Newman20:
#5 is so true.

Kindly expansiate?
The grammar just big anyhow.
Re: Sad Truths About Living Abroad by boyjo: 12:58pm On Dec 24, 2020
Keshinr0:
Just avoid Nigeria churches abroad

Make una expansiate nah, abeg.

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Re: Sad Truths About Living Abroad by boyjo: 1:24pm On Dec 24, 2020
mightyokwy:
I almost got depressed the very first month I entered Germany. My neighbours non speak English. This guys live such a boring life. I can't deal with it.
Lol, so how did you handle it?
Re: Sad Truths About Living Abroad by boyjo: 1:31pm On Dec 24, 2020
seunny4lif:
I have over 5 people that I know, so called Nigeria church have led to end of their marriage and it’s almost happened to me but lucky my woman understand everything and she told the craps they were feeding her
What do they tell the wives?
That their husbands are not good?

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Re: Sad Truths About Living Abroad by seunny4lif(m): 1:39pm On Dec 24, 2020
Do you know how many benefits, you will get been a single parent?
Then you will understand
boyjo:

What do they tell the wives?
That their husbands are not good?

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Re: Sad Truths About Living Abroad by justwise(m): 2:06pm On Dec 24, 2020
JovialJune:



So we should believe Op's narrative as the absolute truth without valid questions or a counter opinion?

No you should not neither should you attack and insult her because she dare criticise the church or pastor.

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Re: Sad Truths About Living Abroad by mightyokwy(m): 2:22pm On Dec 24, 2020
boyjo:

Lol, so how did you handle it?
Bro e no funny oo. It's already one year and nothing has changed. I got used to it. Beside, studies and hustle is keeping me busy. I have linked up with some Naija friends here and I also bought sound system where I dey jam my Igbo highlife each time I'm bored. cheesy cheesy

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Re: Sad Truths About Living Abroad by Nobody: 2:30pm On Dec 24, 2020
gregyboy:


Dont like mixed children they leads to extinction of natural race and betrayal of ones race






It is not about what you like or think then is it? cheesy go study the first humans to live on earth or the origin of white people, you would find that they are all black people originally.
What does extinctions of natural race and betrayal of ones race even mean? Did you make this rubbish up? grin
Anyway, who give a shit what a racist like you think? angry

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Re: Sad Truths About Living Abroad by boyjo: 2:39pm On Dec 24, 2020
seunny4lif:
Do you know how many benefits, you will get been a single parent?
Then you will understand
Choi!
Re: Sad Truths About Living Abroad by FreQ: 2:41pm On Dec 24, 2020
mightyokwy:

Bro e no funny oo. It's already one year and nothing has changed. I got used to it. Beside, studies and hustle is keeping me busy. I have linked up with some Naija friends here and I also bought sound system where I dey jam my Igbo highlife each time I'm bored. cheesy cheesy



What do you mean by saying nothing has changed
Re: Sad Truths About Living Abroad by virago(f): 2:41pm On Dec 24, 2020
Leshurr:
#1. The Silence is Deafening!
When I first arrived in the West, I was so taken aback by how quiet everywhere was. On the way out of the airport, I looked around in awe as the pristine clean roads were not littered with with hawkers, jampacked cars , numerous pedestrians and the blaring sounds of horns! - although, mega-cities like New York is an exception to the rule. 

#2. Your Neighbours & The Police: You Can Co-exist with Neighbours for Years Without Ever Saying a Word to Each Other.
In the average neighbourhood, you can't make noise anyhow. Everyone minds their business. ... The most you will get out of your neighbors is an occasional nod and smile.
Although this doesn't deter them from watching your every move through their windows... they won't hesitate to call the cops/snitch on you at any slight opportunity. Make noise and fight with your spouse anyhow and you will find police knocking at your door.

#3 Raising kids in a Predominantly Black Neighbourhood Can Spell Doom.
Bullying is incessant in these communities. Gang culture, crime, violence  etc..

#4. Your Child(ren) can be Taken from You.
This almost happened to a close friend of mine whose nosy neighbour called  child services on her because she heard her baby crying for a lengthy period of time. And the police actually showed up to her house to carry out a thorough investigation on the living conditions of the baby.. Thank God nothing incriminating was found..
Moral of the story: be careful with how you care for/discipline your kids when living abroad.

#5. Nigerian Churches (most RCCG branches) are Epicenters for Drama & Toxicity.
Avoid! Just Avoid!

#6. Black (especially Nigerian women) are at the Bottom of the Food Chain; be it at the Workplace or on the Dating Scene.
Young black guys will rather date white or mixed race girls.. (may not be true for all) but my observation living in London.
...and at work, we have to work twice as hard to be respected and valued. The biggest oppressor of a black woman at work is a white woman (and in some cases, your fellow blacks).. but not a white man surprisingly. 

#7. You will Happily Miss Home from Afar and be so Much More Invested in the Affairs of Nigeria than Those Living in Nigeria.

Need I say more? smiley

#8.You May Gain Weight.
Why??
Kebabs & Pizzas
Chicken and chips.
Cheap and irresistibly delicious chinese takeaways cheesy
Fish & chips
Burgers,
TGI Fridays & Nandos

Important Note: This is a light hearted post and just a snippet of my experience so far living abroad.. it isn't perfect here, but I'd choose this over and over again than my experiences living in Nigeria.


How can you say silence is bad , I crave for the silence

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Re: Sad Truths About Living Abroad by wisdomiskey(m): 2:42pm On Dec 24, 2020
genq:
These troll monikers called BRATISLAVA & Hathor5 are so desperate to derail OP's thread into a gender-bashing shiiitshow!
.. still pained about her previous "Ladies..." thread huh? cheesy
She didn't respond to any of you frustrated souls then, and I doubt she will now.

grin grin
Those two accounts are run by the same person. Our resident "savage" qweeeen! I just love how OP no send am cheesy

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Re: Sad Truths About Living Abroad by boyjo: 2:43pm On Dec 24, 2020
mightyokwy:

Bro e no funny oo. It's already one year and nothing has changed. I got used to it. Beside, studies and hustle is keeping me busy. I have linked up with some Naija friends here and I also bought sound system where I dey jam my Igbo highlife each time I'm bored. cheesy cheesy
Okay, you try.
You try so tey when you visit Nigeria again na, "Why is everyone so nosey and everywhere so noisy mehn...?", we go dey hear that timegrin
Re: Sad Truths About Living Abroad by mightyokwy(m): 2:58pm On Dec 24, 2020
FreQ:




What do you mean by saying nothing has changed
The boring life around my neighbours. Nobody cares wether you are dead or alive.

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Re: Sad Truths About Living Abroad by jesmond3945: 3:02pm On Dec 24, 2020
Rosskivvyy:


You're talking absolute rubbish and are simply displaying your self hate, and hatred for your own people, which I believe is the Number 1 problem of Nigerians.

You're never happy with your own people, but when you see a white, you're all smiles and loveliness.

Let me tackle your baseless grievances against Nigerians one by one.



Meaningless words without specifics.




Highly subjective. You cannot look at people and tell what their ''focus'' is on.

What does ''showing off'' mean?

Dressing well? Wearing a nice wristwatch?

Nice shoes? What?

If you saw whites around you dressing in Armani and Gucci, would you say they were ''showing off''?

We know the answer. You wouldn't. It wouldn't even occur to you to say that.




How do you know where they live? Did they tell you? Or you just assume they live in council houses because they're Nigerians?



How do millionaires dress?

Are there some special clothes reserved for millionaires?



What does that mean? How can you tell when a person you've never met, and don't know, is ''looking down'' on you or any other person?



How do you know who is as poor or as rich as whom, in a church filled with thousands of people, the majority of whom you don't know?



What does that mean? Who made you judge of what is 'superficial' and what isn't?

ABSOLUTE GARBAGE.

The whole experiences you had at that church would be wonderful experiences in your head, if one thing was different, ie if the skin colour of the people in that church was white.

All these ''problems'' you dreamt up in your head, you would not notice or think about, because you would respect the people there, because they were whites.

You only ''see'' problems because you have an original hatred for your people where you should not.

If you went there with a feeling of love and respect for Nigerians, 4/5ths of these 'faults'' you claim to see, you would not ''see''.

The 'problems' and 'faults' you see are in your head.

Deal with your mentality. Stop being a self-hating negro, and quit being stupid.


We have good Nigerians in the diaspora and we also have also terrible Nigerians from personal experience. So I would say we should judge people individually, focus on the people who love and respect us. Leave the ones who hate and despise us. I would also say that the Nigerian community should work on their attitude, sometimes it stinks.
Re: Sad Truths About Living Abroad by BRATISLAVA: 3:07pm On Dec 24, 2020
wisdomiskey:


grin grin
Those two accounts are run by the same person. Our resident "savage" qweeeen! I just love how OP no send am cheesy

Is this how men reason?

What if you're also genq? Wait. What if you're everybody here who had an opposing opinion to mine? shocked grin grin grin

Hathor5, come see logical/deduction skills from the brotherhood.

No wonder the world is falling apart with men in control. This is how wars and bad economic policies begin.

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Re: Sad Truths About Living Abroad by wisdomiskey(m): 3:08pm On Dec 24, 2020
BRATISLAVA:


Is this how women reason?

What if I'm poco?

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Re: Sad Truths About Living Abroad by gregyboy(m): 3:20pm On Dec 24, 2020
gypsey:
It is not about what you like or think then is it? cheesy go study the first humans to live on earth or the origin of white people, [s]you would find that they are all black people originally[/s].
What does extinctions of natural race and betrayal of ones race even mean? Did you make this rubbish up? grin
Anyway, who give a shit what a racist like you think? angry



Stop recircling this rubbish, marrying outside your race is betrayal coupled with inferiority complex

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Re: Sad Truths About Living Abroad by King44(m): 3:24pm On Dec 24, 2020
VeeVeeMyLuv:

US? thank God that is the country u mentioned as example! Did you know what? US is one the last places one should consider running to, just like Lagos many "craze (skosko for head) people" full there no be small.

Check out their president Trump, they are arrogant, but also know their worth and onions very well. They are always battling with issues till tomorrow...check those gun man who will just wake up shoot plenty people without any justification. It is saturated already. Though it is the most developed and advanced country in the world.
There is no where that is safe UK of free of corrupt practices but how serious it is varies from one country to another.
Re: Sad Truths About Living Abroad by Hassanmaye(m): 4:48pm On Dec 24, 2020
mightyokwy:
I almost got depressed the very first month I entered Germany. My neighbours non speak English. This guys live such a boring life. I can't deal with it.
Bro tell me more na Germany I want to visit next year o
Re: Sad Truths About Living Abroad by Hassanmaye(m): 4:51pm On Dec 24, 2020
Frustrated007:
they will try to trick you into marrying an evening newspaper with dried ovaries grin
Wickedness grin
Re: Sad Truths About Living Abroad by Hassanmaye(m): 4:56pm On Dec 24, 2020
jajeri3216:


So they don't take your kids at the slightest mistake, abroad isn't quiet and cold?, Europeans are not private people, black neighborhoods like Camberwell London, freehold new Jersey are not rough, black churches are not full of crappy people who go there to show off.

Like for real. I know you getting some white punna grin, that's why you think otherwise
grin

Re: Sad Truths About Living Abroad by Hassanmaye(m): 4:58pm On Dec 24, 2020
Frustrated007:
our women are very ungrateful creatures.
You won't believe the amount of effort I have put into just trying to see if things would work out between anyone I come in contact with..but I always end up getting burnt.

They are so fake! everything with them has to be a transaction.
Even the ugly and despicable ones..they have this exaggerated sense of self importance.

There's this church girl I approached several months back. Took her on several expensive dates and all.
God knows the girl no be my spec but I just wan manage am.
If you see the kind behavior wey this girl display ehnn.
Untop say her teeth rotten oo.
Chai I was just laughing, disappointed with myself that I ever went this low!!!


grin grin sorry bro
Re: Sad Truths About Living Abroad by Hassanmaye(m): 5:09pm On Dec 24, 2020
watchindelta:
Even here in Italy! Nigerian churchs are like a club. Every sunday now competition of cloth! I no dey waste my time to go there, because they are not worshiping God, I know God no they there self ..
grin grin grin
Re: Sad Truths About Living Abroad by Hassanmaye(m): 5:10pm On Dec 24, 2020
Reex12:
no 6 is so true black girls are undesirable for blacks there toowhy because nigerians have had enough of urgent 2k back here and all their drama so they mix and explore other races
grin grin

Re: Sad Truths About Living Abroad by justwise(m): 5:29pm On Dec 24, 2020
gregyboy:




Stop recircling this rubbish, marrying outside your race is betrayal coupled with inferiority complex





How is that a betrayal?

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Re: Sad Truths About Living Abroad by gregyboy(m): 5:59pm On Dec 24, 2020
justwise:


How is that a betrayal?


Are u still asking or is it that you dont know the meaning for the word betray

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Re: Sad Truths About Living Abroad by Nobody: 6:06pm On Dec 24, 2020
nograv:



No your message to me said simply



So don’t tell lies. Especially when I was talking about the different socio economic outcomes of middle class and upper class Nigerians who migrated to the UK I’m the 80s.

If your point is different races have a better mindset of cooperation, again you don’t know what you are talking about.

Take Jewish people, I know them well as I do business with them often. Once you climb the socio economic you start to meet the other players and I will give it to this group they’re very shrewd.

But they are not as united as you think. Sephardic Jews who come from Arabian regions don’t always get along with Ashkenazi Jews who hail from Europe. They often go to separate Synagogues which they call Shuls, this occurs even in New York!!! How do I know this, my Jewish associated kindly told me.

Next Indians, as well know mercantilist group. Light skinned Indians from the North west of India from cities like Mumbai don’t like darker skined Tamils from the Southbwho are heavily involved in IT in cities like Chennai and Bangalore. They don’t even like to see another of their number succeed if they are no gaining. So much for unity... I know this because I started out a programmer in Java before building trading platforms..

Chinese are similarly divided Cantonese speakers from Hong Kong don’t like Mandarin speaking mainlanders..

so get your facts straights few groups are as united as you think..

I get tired of this silly mindset of always talking down Nigerians. You may have a lot of self hate but I don’t. Nigerians especially the Yoruba and Igbo have a lot to offer this world and I have seen it first hand..



You claim jewish people are not United, go talk about anything bad about jewish people, lets see if every quarter of the member of the tribe wont attack and destroy you while labeling you their usual antisemetism rants, infact, you will be arrested by the police

If you have a business, it will be boycotted, nobody will do business with you, your reputation will be destroyed.
Re: Sad Truths About Living Abroad by justwise(m): 6:12pm On Dec 24, 2020
gregyboy:



Are u still asking or is it that you dont know the meaning for the word betray



I know what betrayal means but i want to know why marrying outside your race is a betrayal.
Re: Sad Truths About Living Abroad by gregyboy(m): 6:18pm On Dec 24, 2020
justwise:


I know what betrayal means but i want to know why marrying outside your race is a betrayal.



While our black ladies hope to take their black men home for marriage gbam he gets married to a white lady betraying the black women who longed for him for him.....

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