₦airaland Forum

Newman20:
#5 is so true.

Keshinr0:
Just avoid Nigeria churches abroad

mightyokwy:
I almost got depressed the very first month I entered Germany. My neighbours non speak English. This guys live such a boring life. I can't deal with it.

seunny4lif:
I have over 5 people that I know, so called Nigeria church have led to end of their marriage and it’s almost happened to me but lucky my woman understand everything and she told the craps they were feeding her

boyjo:
What do they tell the wives?
That their husbands are not good?

JovialJune:
So we should believe Op's narrative as the absolute truth without valid questions or a counter opinion?

boyjo:
Lol, so how did you handle it?

gregyboy:
Dont like mixed children they leads to extinction of natural race and betrayal of ones race

seunny4lif:
Do you know how many benefits, you will get been a single parent?
Then you will understand

mightyokwy:
Bro e no funny oo. It's already one year and nothing has changed. I got used to it. Beside, studies and hustle is keeping me busy. I have linked up with some Naija friends here and I also bought sound system where I dey jam my Igbo highlife each time I'm bored.

Leshurr:
#1. The Silence is Deafening!
When I first arrived in the West, I was so taken aback by how quiet everywhere was. On the way out of the airport, I looked around in awe as the pristine clean roads were not littered with with hawkers, jampacked cars , numerous pedestrians and the blaring sounds of horns! - although, mega-cities like New York is an exception to the rule. 

#2. Your Neighbours & The Police: You Can Co-exist with Neighbours for Years Without Ever Saying a Word to Each Other.
In the average neighbourhood, you can't make noise anyhow. Everyone minds their business. ... The most you will get out of your neighbors is an occasional nod and smile.
Although this doesn't deter them from watching your every move through their windows... they won't hesitate to call the cops/snitch on you at any slight opportunity. Make noise and fight with your spouse anyhow and you will find police knocking at your door.

#3 Raising kids in a Predominantly Black Neighbourhood Can Spell Doom.
Bullying is incessant in these communities. Gang culture, crime, violence  etc..

#4. Your Child(ren) can be Taken from You.
This almost happened to a close friend of mine whose nosy neighbour called  child services on her because she heard her baby crying for a lengthy period of time. And the police actually showed up to her house to carry out a thorough investigation on the living conditions of the baby.. Thank God nothing incriminating was found..
Moral of the story: be careful with how you care for/discipline your kids when living abroad.

#5. Nigerian Churches (most RCCG branches) are Epicenters for Drama & Toxicity.
Avoid! Just Avoid!

#6. Black (especially Nigerian women) are at the Bottom of the Food Chain; be it at the Workplace or on the Dating Scene.
Young black guys will rather date white or mixed race girls.. (may not be true for all) but my observation living in London.
...and at work, we have to work twice as hard to be respected and valued. The biggest oppressor of a black woman at work is a white woman (and in some cases, your fellow blacks).. but not a white man surprisingly. 

#7. You will Happily Miss Home from Afar and be so Much More Invested in the Affairs of Nigeria than Those Living in Nigeria.

Need I say more?

#8.You May Gain Weight.
Why??
Kebabs & Pizzas
Chicken and chips.
Cheap and irresistibly delicious chinese takeaways
Fish & chips
Burgers,
TGI Fridays & Nandos

Important Note: This is a light hearted post and just a snippet of my experience so far living abroad.. it isn't perfect here, but I'd choose this over and over again than my experiences living in Nigeria.

genq:
These troll monikers called BRATISLAVA & Hathor5 are so desperate to derail OP's thread into a gender-bashing shiiitshow!
.. still pained about her previous "Ladies..." thread huh?
She didn't respond to any of you frustrated souls then, and I doubt she will now.

mightyokwy:
Bro e no funny oo. It's already one year and nothing has changed. I got used to it. Beside, studies and hustle is keeping me busy. I have linked up with some Naija friends here and I also bought sound system where I dey jam my Igbo highlife each time I'm bored.

FreQ:
What do you mean by saying nothing has changed

Rosskivvyy:
You're talking absolute rubbish and are simply displaying your self hate, and hatred for your own people, which I believe is the Number 1 problem of Nigerians.

You're never happy with your own people, but when you see a white, you're all smiles and loveliness.

Let me tackle your baseless grievances against Nigerians one by one.



Meaningless words without specifics.




Highly subjective. You cannot look at people and tell what their ''focus'' is on.

What does ''showing off'' mean?

Dressing well? Wearing a nice wristwatch?

Nice shoes? What?

If you saw whites around you dressing in Armani and Gucci, would you say they were ''showing off''?

We know the answer. You wouldn't. It wouldn't even occur to you to say that.




How do you know where they live? Did they tell you? Or you just assume they live in council houses because they're Nigerians?



How do millionaires dress?

Are there some special clothes reserved for millionaires?



What does that mean? How can you tell when a person you've never met, and don't know, is ''looking down'' on you or any other person?



How do you know who is as poor or as rich as whom, in a church filled with thousands of people, the majority of whom you don't know?



What does that mean? Who made you judge of what is 'superficial' and what isn't?

ABSOLUTE GARBAGE.

The whole experiences you had at that church would be wonderful experiences in your head, if one thing was different, ie if the skin colour of the people in that church was white.

All these ''problems'' you dreamt up in your head, you would not notice or think about, because you would respect the people there, because they were whites.

You only ''see'' problems because you have an original hatred for your people where you should not.

If you went there with a feeling of love and respect for Nigerians, 4/5ths of these 'faults'' you claim to see, you would not ''see''.

The 'problems' and 'faults' you see are in your head.

Deal with your mentality. Stop being a self-hating negro, and quit being stupid.

wisdomiskey:

Those two accounts are run by the same person. Our resident "savage" qweeeen! I just love how OP no send am

BRATISLAVA:
Is this how women reason?

What if I'm poco?

gypsey:
It is not about what you like or think then is it? go study the first humans to live on earth or the origin of white people, [s]you would find that they are all black people originally[/s].
What does extinctions of natural race and betrayal of ones race even mean? Did you make this rubbish up?
Anyway, who give a shit what a racist like you think?

VeeVeeMyLuv:
US? thank God that is the country u mentioned as example! Did you know what? US is one the last places one should consider running to, just like Lagos many "craze (skosko for head) people" full there no be small.

Check out their president Trump, they are arrogant, but also know their worth and onions very well. They are always battling with issues till tomorrow...check those gun man who will just wake up shoot plenty people without any justification. It is saturated already. Though it is the most developed and advanced country in the world.

mightyokwy:
I almost got depressed the very first month I entered Germany. My neighbours non speak English. This guys live such a boring life. I can't deal with it.

Frustrated007:
they will try to trick you into marrying an evening newspaper with dried ovaries

jajeri3216:
So they don't take your kids at the slightest mistake, abroad isn't quiet and cold?, Europeans are not private people, black neighborhoods like Camberwell London, freehold new Jersey are not rough, black churches are not full of crappy people who go there to show off.

Like for real. I know you getting some white punna , that's why you think otherwise

Frustrated007:
our women are very ungrateful creatures.
You won't believe the amount of effort I have put into just trying to see if things would work out between anyone I come in contact with..but I always end up getting burnt.

They are so fake! everything with them has to be a transaction.
Even the ugly and despicable ones..they have this exaggerated sense of self importance.

There's this church girl I approached several months back. Took her on several expensive dates and all.
God knows the girl no be my spec but I just wan manage am.
If you see the kind behavior wey this girl display ehnn.
Untop say her teeth rotten oo.
Chai I was just laughing, disappointed with myself that I ever went this low!!!

watchindelta:
Even here in Italy! Nigerian churchs are like a club. Every sunday now competition of cloth! I no dey waste my time to go there, because they are not worshiping God, I know God no they there self ..

Reex12:
no 6 is so true black girls are undesirable for blacks there toowhy because nigerians have had enough of urgent 2k back here and all their drama so they mix and explore other races

gregyboy:
Stop recircling this rubbish, marrying outside your race is betrayal coupled with inferiority complex

justwise:
How is that a betrayal?

nograv:
No your message to me said simply



So don’t tell lies. Especially when I was talking about the different socio economic outcomes of middle class and upper class Nigerians who migrated to the UK I’m the 80s.

If your point is different races have a better mindset of cooperation, again you don’t know what you are talking about.

Take Jewish people, I know them well as I do business with them often. Once you climb the socio economic you start to meet the other players and I will give it to this group they’re very shrewd.

But they are not as united as you think. Sephardic Jews who come from Arabian regions don’t always get along with Ashkenazi Jews who hail from Europe. They often go to separate Synagogues which they call Shuls, this occurs even in New York!!! How do I know this, my Jewish associated kindly told me.

Next Indians, as well know mercantilist group. Light skinned Indians from the North west of India from cities like Mumbai don’t like darker skined Tamils from the Southbwho are heavily involved in IT in cities like Chennai and Bangalore. They don’t even like to see another of their number succeed if they are no gaining. So much for unity... I know this because I started out a programmer in Java before building trading platforms..

Chinese are similarly divided Cantonese speakers from Hong Kong don’t like Mandarin speaking mainlanders..

so get your facts straights few groups are as united as you think..

I get tired of this silly mindset of always talking down Nigerians. You may have a lot of self hate but I don’t. Nigerians especially the Yoruba and Igbo have a lot to offer this world and I have seen it first hand..

gregyboy:
Are u still asking or is it that you dont know the meaning for the word betray

justwise:
I know what betrayal means but i want to know why marrying outside your race is a betrayal.