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RedPanthar:
You lots should keep deceiving yourself.


The wife also got the treatment, love and care she has to reciprocate as a kid. She didn't drop from the sky.


Marriage is for men, not boys.

Get lost

Klass99:
You don't even need to be in a relationship or married to realize how wrong the OP's wife is, on so many levels.

The situation is so wrong in every way, I was shocked and awed at how anyone (wifey in this case) can be this clueless and insensitive.

I am too shocked I can't even articulate the thoughts running through my head right now. Like seriously, who does this?

It feels very disrespectful to me especially the part where she let the brother sleep in their bed, like common now!!! How old is this woman abeg?

@ OP/T817, let me tell you a true life story about my friend Alex (not real name). Alex travelled home to marry, when it was over and done with, him and his wife were to return together to his base.

On the day of their departure at the motor park, his wife's people bundled a relative of theirs to join them on the trip to their new home WITHOUT asking Alex if it was okay or informing him either.

It was at the park Alex first became aware of their plans, he firmly put his foot down and told his wife's elder sister and other relatives present (who accompanied them to the park) that there's no way that's going to happen.

There was a bit of drama where his in-laws started pleading with him and pressuring him to take that relative along. The wife was almost in tears as well because she could see Alex was not in a good mood about it.

The drama attracted other passengers who were paying attention to the exchange, but Alex was firm and refused to be coerced into what he didn't plan for.

This is the most important part of the story so pay attention - an elderly passenger in their vehicle (can't remember again if it was a man or woman) said to Alex, what you did was solid and completely right, because how you start your marriage, handle your in-laws and situations like these, will set the tone for the remainder of your married life.

You have started on a good note already by not bowing to their inappropriate plans and pressure, don't feel bad about it. Because, now they know that any plans they hatch without your knowledge or approval will not see the light of day.

It is not too late to readjust if you started on the wrong foot, if I were you two things will happen;

1. I will promptly inform my wife this is not a good time for me as money is tight, allow the in-laws stay till boxing day and dispatch them ASAP on the 27th. They don't need to be there till January

2. Let your wife know that this sort of thing can never happen again, without your endorsement. Are you not the one paying the bills in that house and the one who knows where it hurts?

rill:
Why would a responsible parent even allow that number of children to stay with there married daughter. Every parent should know the financial capacity of their in-law, and not throw unnecessary burden on them. The parents share a blame here.

BKsoul:
Please go and get a seat and sit your ass down, so that you will comment with sense, because it seems your sense is tied to your anus....... You are not even worth half a man with that thinking faculty of yours.

Opus85:
OP your wife is not working and she is inviting four members of her family for holiday without informing you to plan even with your baby. This is absurd. Just a sinking visiting is fine but four is at a time is a no.

First, you were not respected as the man and provider of the house. Imagine 6 jobless people feeding on your pocket at once and someone is here blabbing nonsense.

If it had been your siblings that came like this, your wife would have released the gate of hell on them. Now she doesn't see anything wrong because it is her siblings. Me poster, just invite your siblings too let the house be filled up everyone would then look for their square root.

Klass99:
My sister ehn the thing weak me. As I read through the original post I kept saying no, no, no, no nah!

All the while wondering how on earth are some women this foolish? You see that my friend Alex, his wife is the last born of her family but you won't believe the kind of pressure her older siblings regularly put on her, for help with funds and she doesn't work either.

It got to a point where she once took the money Alex gave her for their children's school fees and sent it to one of her elder sisters. Alex was mad, that their marriage didn't break that time ehn, e no go ever break again, considering how livid Alex was.

Of course the sister never returned the money, Alex had to hustle new funds to pay the fees. Some of these married women dey shame person (as a fellow woman) with the kind of things they do I swear.

A common denominator with the ones who behave like OP and Alex's wife is this;

1. They don't work and most likely have never worked to earn a living by themselves and for themselves.

2. They moved straight from daddy's house to hubby's house where others have always picked up the tab for them.

3. They claim to have or run a business which is bleeding money and largely unsuccessful in yielding returns.

4. They're not good with managing resources well either because at the back of their minds they believe hubby, can, should and will always provide....

So, they don't understand the value of making, spending and saving money or the importance of planning and budgeting for things, prioritizing essential needs over non-essential wants.

And they are usually the ones who want to breed children anyhow, because the idleness and lack of work related activities in their lives, doesn't help at all.

tunjijones:
This one is just typing trash since.

Everything whey u dey type just de irritate me.

Didi u read the part he said the wifes last born has been staying with them for 2 yrs now?

Do you have issues with comprehension or u are just been dumb intentionally?

EdmundDantes:
Chai... sister, be calming down. All reasonable persons know the guy is a clown....

BKsoul:
Please go and get a seat and sit your ass down, so that you will comment with sense, because it seems your sense is tied to your anus....... You are not even worth half a man with that thinking faculty of yours.

RedPanthar:
Smiles. Why are you on my matter? Have you come across people that exhibit the condition called Misantropism?

BKsoul:
Ehn, is it the misanthropism that makes you to comment like someone that lacks wisdom?

RedPanthar:
Continue deceiving yourself. You can deceive gullible people but not me.


You're the breed of men that are so overly possessive you don't want your wife to be around anyone of influence especially her family besides you.


YOU COVERTLY HATE YOUR WIVE'S FAMILY AND SADLY YOU'RE NOT DISCREET ENOUGH TO HIDE THE DUSGUST. YOU CAN'T STAND THEM TO TOLERATE THEM LET ALONE TO EMBRACE THEM AS YOUR OWN.

I PRAY YOU KNOW THE FUTURE AND CAN SEE IF YOUR KIDS WILL NEVER NEED THEIR HELP FOREVER THAT WAY I CAN ASSURE YOU TO CONTINUE WITH YOUR ANTICS. UNTIL THEN, TRED SOFTLY.

There are a specie of men that hate it when a woman's family or friends is around her. And use all sorts of antics to act victimised.

Only God will deliver you from you and teach you different ways of doing things. Your children would grow up too and become adults, should brothers not visit sisters and vice versa. When it's time to shine with opportunity some men act coy.


7k will enough rice and small meat to entertain your guests for the short duration they will be around.


Be Christ-like, Christ-mas is about sharing not only about eating rice.


Stop deceiving people in the time being. You know it's hatred you have for her being around her family and not about money




Should anything happen to you tomorrow, those are the ones that would stand for her, your kids and even you. And it's how you draw them close with what you have now that will make them endear to you should the chips fall down on your end however plenty your tiny peanuts maybe as of the moment.


You will know them ladies. They are the kinds that assume thier wives fell from heaven. Once they get married to them they don't want their wives to be around anybody, friends or family.



There's also female versions. These women marry them give them the entire world. They will never be with you or love you atall and will only stick around cause of favors they get in the marriage. They won't give happiness and after a few years leave you down the line.


It's a personality-complex. Open your eyes to find these kinds out to do the needful.

Tenshades:
Bro, the truth is there is no love in that OP's house.

Nothing else.

RedPanthar:
Insults. Bye

BKsoul:
awww...so sorry, i never knew you were unreasonable..

EdmundDantes:
You didn't get the gist of my post. If you did you wouldn't have insulted me.

BKsoul:
i understand what you meant, nut the way you put the sentence wasn't good enough.... You wrote {all reasonable people knows the guy is a clown}, its just like saying we that doesn't know he is a clown is unreasonable.... That was why i replied you that.

EdmundDantes:
You still don't get it....

DukeJoe17:
You'll be seen as a bad man, just allow them to feel the scourge including your wife

RedPanthar:
It's not the scenario of take care of our struggling family. It's just Christmas. Nothing more, nothing less. And it won't cost a fortune in the Spirit of the season to act as a father when opportunity calls. It's not give us your family. It's just Love. Nothing more.

Chrisjay1998:
Your a big fool , I have kept on reading ur Comments and I see someone that isn't matured if your still a teenager , I pray you grow up to have Sense and if ur already a grown up
den your own don be
u didn't bother asking how much the Op has in his account, u didn't bother asking where he works
you start typing rubbish thinking you made sense
what baffled me was you wrote a lengthy Message and yet failed to make any Sense in evryting you typed
Swears am baffled your such an Inconsiderate human being

DMerciful:
I'm not afraid to be seen as a bad guy. I like people to know my position without pretence

dorin27:
we are still saying same thing na.

Vivuch:
You're just a nagging man. Keep deceiving yourself. Why did you even marry the lady when you know you can't take care of her. You even brought it here. The innocent woman doesn't even know you're here disgracing yourself. I know this night you will climb on her. Stupid man.

Vivuch:
You're just a nagging man. Keep deceiving yourself. Why did you even marry the lady when you know you can't take care of her. You even brought it here. The innocent woman doesn't even know you're here disgracing yourself. I know this night you will climb on her. Stupid man.

baajetu:
This is why marriages crash... intolerance from the husband's end just because they asked for Christmas gift and the food they came to eat, kuku ma call them ebina... they are here to share love and it's all about the season... They didn't tell you because they wanted to make it a surprise not knowing you are bitter that they are coming to eat the chicken with you... If you live as family, it should not be too hard to open up to them, with love you all will rugged it. The truth is they know your worth, thinking they don't know your worth is a lie. Stingy man

Tenshades:
God go bless you for this comment.

Some wealthy people are looking for who to visit them, but nobody. Loneliness is raping them internally.

Na im one man dey shakara...The last time my sister's husband tried that nonsense with me, I made it known to him he bleeped up. Me I no dey talk much. He was calling to beg even if I wasn't up to his age. Na family meeting settle am.

You go marry my blood come dey give me one nonsense law like say na inmate I wan come visit.

And no be say person dey beg am for money...just to say hello after many months.

Some men need 2 by 2 for head.

BarrElChapo:
You are crazy and dumb.. and surely unmarried paint this scenario to your dad and see his reaction..

P.S. I didn't even read past your first paragraph now I have You are a Bastard and a Buffoon, I bet you didn't grow up with a father so you don't have any of such traits. Anuofia Ezi, You and everything you represent are disgusting.