Guys let's hear your opinion, from the story Bellow.


My name is Chidi-ebere Lewis, I have an issue on my mind which I really need your opinions and not insults. I am a teacher in one of the private schools in my area in Isefun and my wife is a Secretary/PA in a big company and her salary a month is like four times what I receive. We have a daughter of two years old and on the day of her second birthday my wife and I decided to throw her a birthday party because on her first birthday we didn’t do much, we just marked the birthday with family members only since I was not buoyant enough to throw an elaborate party for her so for some weeks my wife was very angry with me and when the issue got to my mum she was furious that she was inconsiderate and heartless.

Now the 2nd birthday was at the corner so she began the preparation without my knowledge, buying things for the celebration and keeping them in her friend’s place. Later, she came and told me our child’s birthday was just a week away what was the plan. In response, I said you know, I haven’t been paid for two months now and you have been given me transport to go to work, so, what is on your mind. She gave me a paper with a list of items needed for the party summing up to N105,000 approximately; I was alarmed. ‘Are we throwing a party for the whole community or what, where do you want me to get such an amount from?’ I yelled at her. That’s how trouble started again? I spoke to her mum about it who told her to cut her coat according to her cloth; likewise my mum was.

Unknown to me, some of the things she bought were on credit from her friend who owns a super-market in our area. After the party, some weeks later, her friend, the owner of the super-market, came to the house on a Sunday evening to ask for her money and my mum came to visit us that same day. As we were seeing my mum off, we met her friend coming in from the gate. She started shouting that we have been avoiding her and that we were not coming to her shop to buy things since then. She also said she has seen my wife go to other shops to buy. I was lost in words and I advised her to calm down so that we could talk. We all went back inside the house to listen to her. She narrated to us the whole story and I asked my wife if what she was saying was true and to my greatest surprise she confirmed. In anger, my mum stood up and slapped her and immediately she slapped my mum back and I was so disappointed with her to the extent that I threw all her belongings out and told her to leave my house without touching her. This led to me filing for divorce, ever since the incidence, I have not had peace of mind because I miss my family but if you were in my shoes; what would you do?

Story for the gods

Why did you start your personal story on a faceless forum with your full name...that's bizarre....To what end?

Sometimes I just wonder if most women were created to be trouble in a man Life..... Men are passing through alot ooo.


Your mum was wrong
Your wife was wrong
All of you were wrong

You made a big mistake marrying a materialistic woman and one whom you can't control due to lack of finance.

I wouldn't have divorce her but she stops to be my wife that day.

Hmmmn!


Your wife was wrong, not justifying your mums rage,but your mum is just like a mother to her too. If her mum slaps her,would she retaliate?

She is a very ruthless,mannerless,and inconsiderate wife who you are not supposed to marry In the first place.
But drop the divorce idea ,and sort our your differences. .

M

Damnnn niggarrrr
Isoright

One useless wife will slap my mother!!, is she mad orthopaedic hospital will reject her body and soul the way I go take beat her

Your mum may be wrong, but your wife is like a child compare to your mom..and your mom must have been fed up of her disrespect and frustration on you. That's why she slapped her.

If she slapped my mummy in my presence after all her role in the birthday debt stuff, I will lay my hand on her to appease my mother. I won't throw her bag out just yet and won't file for divorce just yet, that will be impulsive...
I will just beat her on the spot for slapping my mom. And live with the malice that will ensue.Till she's ready to make peace and apologize, I won't care. I can't live with the idea that my wife slapped my mother without doing anything.That's disrespect to both me and my mother....And such wife will hardly respect me. And depending on her attitude after that incident, that will determine how long we will be together.

From the story your wife is a total piece of. Crap no offense. If she wanted a party since she earns 4times more than you then she should use her own money yet she bought on credit expecting you to pay for it women are heartless. But your mom was wrong to slap her but who can blame her it's good you got that useless woman out of your life, if it was my mom she hit I would have made sure I broke her nose I would have made sure I saw her blood lots of it.

If my Wife's Father Slapped me I'll punch a tooth out of his face

Never ever tolerate people attacking you physically for whatever reason

A mother wanted to give her own child the best second birthday (after poverty made the first one uninteresting) and make the child happy, she works and have means of income, took a loan at a grocery store to make her child happy on the 2nd birthday, she got embarassed for defaulting, untop that she got Slapped by the mother in law

Let them go their separate ways, marriage is not by force or for any party to suffer or become slave


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a wife that can slap ur mum in front of you can kill you. although, your mum dose not have right to slap her.
now listen is better to path in peace than to let death path you is obvious that u can't control your wife.
both of you should visit marriage counselor and hear from them

Exc2000:



If my Wife's Father Slapped me I'll punch a tooth out of his face

Never ever tolerate people attacking you physically for whatever reason



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If my wife's father hit me I would beat him up and ask him for a refund for my bride price.

Your mum has and had no right to slap your wife.

Whatever your wife did, she meant well, even though it's bad she collected items on credit.

Your mum should count on you to address the issue, if your mum slapped your wife, she prolly did it cause she didn't think you can handle matters in your home.

If I was your wife, how you set your mother straight will determine if I'll let you continue to lead me as a husband.

Cause a lot of women have been led astray cause the man leading them lacks the capacity to do so.

Hard one here again. Marriage and issues

Washing your dirty lining in public...

Your mum has no right to lay her hand on your wife

Freestainworld:
Guys let's hear your opinion, from the story Bellow.


My name is Chidi-ebere Lewis, I have an issue on my mind which I really need your opinions and not insults. I am a teacher in one of the private schools in my area in Isefun and my wife is a Secretary/PA in a big company and her salary a month is like four times what I receive. We have a daughter of two years old and on the day of her second birthday my wife and I decided to throw her a birthday party because on her first birthday we didn’t do much, we just marked the birthday with family members only since I was not buoyant enough to throw an elaborate party for her so for some weeks my wife was very angry with me and when the issue got to my mum she was furious that she was inconsiderate and heartless.

Now the 2nd birthday was at the corner so she began the preparation without my knowledge, buying things for the celebration and keeping them in her friend’s place. Later, she came and told me our child’s birthday was just a week away what was the plan. In response, I said you know, I haven’t been paid for two months now and you have been given me transport to go to work, so, what is on your mind. She gave me a paper with a list of items needed for the party summing up to N105,000 approximately; I was alarmed. ‘Are we throwing a party for the whole community or what, where do you want me to get such an amount from?’ I yelled at her. That’s how trouble started again? I spoke to her mum about it who told her to cut her coat according to her cloth; likewise my mum was.

Unknown to me, some of the things she bought were on credit from her friend who owns a super-market in our area. After the party, some weeks later, her friend, the owner of the super-market, came to the house on a Sunday evening to ask for her money and my mum came to visit us that same day. As we were seeing my mum off, we met her friend coming in from the gate. She started shouting that we have been avoiding her and that we were not coming to her shop to buy things since then. She also said she has seen my wife go to other shops to buy. I was lost in words and I advised her to calm down so that we could talk. We all went back inside the house to listen to her. She narrated to us the whole story and I asked my wife if what she was saying was true and to my greatest surprise she confirmed. In anger, my mum stood up and slapped her and immediately she slapped my mum back and I was so disappointed with her to the extent that I threw all her belongings out and told her to leave my house without touching her. This led to me filing for divorce, ever since the incidence, I have not had peace of mind because I miss my family but if you were in my shoes; what would you do?

I don't think your mum should have slapped her at all, it's like your mum doesn't love her at all and that moment was an excuse for her to pounce on your wife. Your wife shouldn't have retaliated with a slap and you were just caught in a war. It would be best if you could resolve the matter rather than filing for divorce. And it's very wrong for your mum to interfere in your internal affairs like that, that slap is so unwarranted.

Lightangel65:



If my wife's father hit me I would beat him up and ask him for a refund for my bride price.

Lol even if he was a military man

You cant hit a grown-up person now. Divorce wasn't necessary. You both wanted a good life for your daughter. It was just a mistake, you took it over board. Please ignore your pride and apologise to her and your daughter. That girl doesn't deserve a separated parents.

I'm not saying much, but let go of that woman totally. whatever is not giving you peace of mind, discard it.

let assumed it was her mum nko.

The thing is, no matter how worse, your wife is at fault for slapping your mum.. That's nonsense, I like you for doing the best, that is , sending her away, and don't ever do the mistake of taking her back pls.

It's obvious that a wife that slaps your mum will surely not respect you, never, and she won't even respect anyone.

Taking her back is another second slap to your mum, even if your mum oblige to it

If this story is true.

Your mum deserve the slap.

Your mum does not have any right to slap your wife.

You are not a man, aren't you supposed to protect your wife.

Which man allows his mother to slap his wife.

This means that Someone can beat your wife publicly and you won't do anything

Oga u know the type of woman she was. You weren't sleeping or dreaming when u proposed to her. Everybody wants the married title because society says we ought to be married at a certain stage in life. Men and women rushing to sign up their lives just for the sake of being addressed as husbands and wives. If u could marry her with her nature and have been raising a child with her then put all these behind and stop that divorce move for the sake of ur child and family. You made ur bed don't run away from it. You can't honestly say u were unaware of her materialistic/ owambe nature before marrying her.. As for ur mom, she shouldn't have interfered in that manner. You don't go about hitting grown up people at will.. She must be troublesome. You, ur wife and mom are all errors. Which kind family be that sef? Nobody get head

1. Probably a fake story.

2. Your mum has NO right to slap anybody.

3. You sef no get sense. You allow your mom slap the breadwinner for house. If she pack now, who go give you transport?

4. Your wife should not be entering into unnecessary debt.

5. Apologise to your wife, kiss her, hug her, tell your mum you disapprove of her violence (in your wife's presence!!!!), kiss her where she wants, maybe even wash her pant sef. Look back at No. 3.

6. You and your wife and the vendor should work out a payment plan. Add N2k as interest.

Move on. Limit your mum's appearance in your house until the debt is paid off, you are back to earning money, and you and your wife have settled.

EDIT: LOOL, I did not even read the last 2 sentences.

Oga, you truly have NO sense. Your mum slapped your wife and she slapped her back. What did you expect?? Is she a baby? A married woman with a child is being slapped anyhow. Maka gini? On top of that, she is the breadwinner sef. Your head is not correct. You and all the other Mama's boys that go around falling men's hands need cane.

EDIT 2: You should have been happy that your wife retaliated immediately. Some people do not slap back immediately but will spend 4 years planning a much more devastating retaliation.

Lol.

If you try to kill her first, she will kill you na.

The mum slapped her first.

Men, we need fighters in this world o.

I give your wife 5 gbosas.

1beat:
a wife that can slap ur mum in front of you can kill you.
now listen is better to path in peace than to let death path you is obvious that u can't control your wife.
both of you should visit marriage counselor and hear from them

You forgot that:
- OP's mum slapped first.
- OP's wife is the breadwinner and the source of his transport.

leksite120:
The thing is, no matter how worse, your wife is at fault for slapping your mum.. That's nonsense, I like you for doing the best, that is , sending her away, and don't ever do the mistake of taking her back pls.

It's obvious that a wife that slaps your mum will surely not respect you, never, and she won't even respect anyone.

Taking her back is another second slap to your mum, even if your mum oblige to it

True. OP's mum is questioning his 'leadership' to his face!

Romanoff:
Your mum has a s had no right to slap your wife.

Whatever your wife did, she me at well, even though it's bad she collected items on credit.

Your mum should count on you to address the issue, if your mum slapped your wife, she prolly did it cause she didn't think you can handle matters in your home.

LOOOOL

You will beat your wife, the one who pays your transport, for defending herself from assault?

LOOL.

You are not serious.

NiRfreak:
Your mum may be wrong, but your wife is like a child compare to your mom..and your mom must have been fed up of her disrespect and frustration on you. That's why she slapped her.

If she slapped my mummy in my presence after all her role in the birthday debt stuff, I will lay my hand on her to appease my mother. I won't throw her bag out just yet and won't file for divorce just yet, that will be impulsive...
I will just beat her on the spot for slapping my mom. And live with the malice that will ensue.Till she's ready to make peace and apologize, I won't care. I can't live with the idea that my wife slapped my mother without doing anything.That's disrespect to both me and my mother....And such wife will hardly respect me. And depending on her attitude after that incident, that will determine how long we will be together.

Duru9:
Story for the gods

Why are you Nigeria very? With this your comment what do you mean

Duru9:
Story for the gods

Why are you Nigeria very stupid? With this your comment what do you mean

NiRfreak:
Why did you start your personal story on a faceless forum with your full name...that's bizarre....To what end?

Advice him if you have any advice but if you don’t have any advice keep quiet