I thought I was the only one finding hard to fall in love. But how can you marry someone you don't love? There's this guy that has been pestering me. He has everything a woman can ever hope for, but I don't just feel anything for him; or love him. I can't date someone I don't love not to talk of marrying them.

No.
You can love when you marry.
Forget all these fall in love stuffs. Marriage is by calculation and God's grace.

A Poem: Love Is Not Enough

Curtains drawn
as in a Shakespearean play
nightfall in paradise
in a steamy session
cuddling and murmurings
still, we didn't hear a word -
No doubt, we are in love!

Never felt this way
nor this secured.
Just like a cub in a pride
this seemed like home.
It was for us a beginning
the beginning of an end.

No more games!
The time has come
to hang this booth.
Make me a home
and focus on tomorrow
the one that is filled with hopes.

But I am in love!
In this journey of "Yes I Do"
is love just enough?
What about my dreams
does it matter to him?
He never talks about it.
Is this a red flag?

I worshiped you Diana
when you said "love is all that matters".
Did you think about compatibility?
What if he doesn't like 69?
What if he is SS?
Diana, just what if...?

Today in my world
the economic pendulum is swinging
fast in favour of women.
What if he is not willing to work?
So many “what ifs” left unanswered.
But I love you...
Is love just enough?

We can plan for years
use the best wedding planner
hire the best artist.
So much buzz and pageantry
put into an event of one day.
What about the marriage?
What if she still has baggage?

I love sex, she doesn't;
I love to club, but he'll pass.
Should I lose my life
because of marriage?
But I'm in love...
Doesn't love conquer all?
Should I just submit
and how for the best?

Love is not enough!
The real question should be
are we really compatible?
I have gone through my checklist
and suddenly realised
we are in love,
but incompatible.
So, this is where the road ends
for decision decides destiny.

Babatunde Raimi
Author, Life Coach & Poet
+2348178827380 & +2348035063895

No pls

whyteteeth:
I am 30 this year and it has always been my dream to marry @ 30 or before 30. But the truth is I haven't been able to fall in love with any woman for years now. I do have sex. And I have women in my life from time to time yet I am not in love with any of them.

Now the real issue is this, I stumbled on an article in this forum days back that says that an arranged marriage is the best meaning that without being in love with your spouse, you two can still have a successful marriage, and I have been giving it a thought.

With this premise, Should I just marry and then maybe love can grow over time or should I keep waiting till I fall in love before I marry? I seriously need your advice please..

Give your life to Jesus first and stop having premarital sex upandan.

Then you'd get a woman youll fall in love with.

Marriage can be define as the legal relationship between a husband and wife.

Ikjosh04:
Love is commitment, understanding the value, the worth, the importance and the significance of a person to God, to me and to society.

To get married look for attraction and compatibility, then love who you are attracted and compatible with.

Oga forget all these bullshit ! Just get money the rest will get in place.money can buy you love in Nigeria

It's better to walk in love, than to fall in love!

You see, falling in love is too risky. But shining ya eyes and walking in 'love' is the way to go.

Now, suppose you meet a woman, she looks great and appeals to you - sexually; walking in Love would mean:
- Delaying the kissing and close physical contact that could lead to practical strangers sleeping together - TRP brothers sha no go gree

But guy too much too soon, and heavy emotional clouds will blind you from really knowing the other person - everything go just be vibes on vibes.

Anyways, instead of finding the right person, falling in love, fixing all your hopes and dreams on that one person; try becoming the right person, fix your hope on God and seek to please him through your relationship (I assume you are Christian). If failure occurs, repeat steps 1,2,3...

PS: Do as I say

You can kidnap her and see how it goes, the North does it just fine.

Ask Google

Was Regina In Love With Ned Nwoko before Marriage?

Think Of This First before Anything

Olunmercy56:
You can't marry someone you are not in love with.

If I marry without loving my partner,how will I cope in the marriage? Live as enemies? Or friends? Or strangers?
With love every other thing in marriage can be put in place. I think at the initial phase of marriage love is needed, paramount.

Imagine living with a partner for years with no love, everything would be bland Na.

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Na you sabi as na only you ask question and na only get the answer.

RisenPhoenix1:
No. In fact, falling in love must be the single greatest reason why so many marriages end up in divorce. This is because when you love, you close your eyes to her faults and still go ahead to marry. By the time your eyes open after one or two children; as they surely will; all the faults will just hit you gbam in the face. You will then either divorce, start cheating, or live out the rest of your life in an unhappy and dysfunctional marriage. It is far better to go into marriage with open eyes; i.e. no love blinding you. That way, you choose wisely.

Of course the above advice is obviously only for men, since women never marry for love but enter marriage with open eyes, and are always fully aware of the man's faults before they marry.

this is just the fact,they marry who is ready or capable but men marry for love....our mumu don do!

Olunmercy56:
You can't marry someone you are not in love with.

This is not true.
You can marry someone you are not in love with. On the condition that he/she is valuable and is ready to join hands with you to make the marriage work.

Love is like a seed, it can be planted consciously and nurtured to grow.

Husbands love thy wife, not boyfriends love thy girlfriend.

I'm 24, I have same problem as you inability to love women. I hope to get married at age 34 to any good lady around me by then....I don't have to necessary love her...

Olunmercy56:
You can't marry someone you are not in love with.

Marrying for love is a major reason many mnarraiges collapse. You need to enter a marraige with a clear head. if you marry a compatible partner chosen with a clear head you will grow to love each other. if you marry out of love you will ignore the danger signs that will come back to haunt you.

Aileexa1:
I dont believe in love before marriage because we humans tend to have a flawed perception about love.
Let me just say physical attraction. That's is what I will call the love we claim to feel.
Now, it is a matter of decision. A decision you might not be able to do. If you are not physically attracted to a woman strongly before you get married to her (as you are in this case), you would have to make the decision to love her. Yes, I said make the decision to love her. Love here is a conscious effort. To love her is to accept her despite her flaws and trying to make her a better person. And it is quite hard to do this for someone you aren't attracted to. On the other hand, what if its when you get into the marriage that you see someone who you have great attraction for??
Humans like sweeter things and love as it is isn't always sweet but attraction is. Why? Because love stays when all things fall but attractions falls when problem stays.

Ask yourself this question. Why do you want to get married? Do you want to fulfil a societal obligation or because you want to start a family or because you want to build love in it's purest form.

May God help you.

May God increase your wisdom... Few women know this

Brownpeanut:
I thought I was the only one finding hard to fall in love. But how can you marry someone you don't love? There's this guy that has been pestering me. He has everything a woman can ever hope for, but I don't just feel anything for him; or love him. I can't date someone I don't love not to talk of marrying them.

Is he ugly?

Yes. fall, fall and fall again before u marry

whyteteeth:
I am 30 this year and it has always been my dream to marry @ 30 or before 30. But the truth is I haven't been able to fall in love with any woman for years now. I do have sex. And I have women in my life from time to time yet I am not in love with any of them.

Now the real issue is this, I stumbled on an article in this forum days back that says that an arranged marriage is the best meaning that without being in love with your spouse, you two can still have a successful marriage, and I have been giving it a thought.

With this premise, Should I just marry and then maybe love can grow over time or should I keep waiting till I fall in love before I marry? I seriously need your advice please..

To be inlove u must 1st know what it means to be inlove. Some people are just confused about a lot of things.

Being inlove isn’t automatic or instant. It’s a combination of things u like and value in a person/partner over time.

2, to be inlove u must know what u want. Do u even know what Ure searching for and does it exist??

3. Why haven’t u met anyone all this while to fall inlove with or even close? Are u restricting or suppressing ur emotions? Are u confused about ur emotions and the concept of love? Are moving with the wrong crowd??

4. What are the issues with the people u have met sofar and what’s the reason u don’t seem to love or fall inlove with them?

5. Do u believe in love?? U have to believe in it to an extent to experience it or Smtn close to it.

6. Can u handle love?? Are u mature for love? Can u win it and can u afford to loose it? Love is not obsession.

7. Lastly....

Marriage na scam

Farki:


Is he ugly?

No, he isn't. He's this kind of guy that thinks money is all that matters.

First of all define love

What does love mean to you. From there u can continue

Marriage is built on love. Initially it's all about physical attraction, but love is what sustains marriage.

Just like bees are attracted to honey, your partner's physical appearance draws you to him or her, but your ability to love your partner despite all their flaws, takes time, even a lifetime!

I wouldn't advise you to enter any marriage until you have learnt how to love your partner really very well. Marriage is full of risks and ups and downs. It's not about infatuation or physical attractiveness.

U r asking d wrong question!
The right question shd be: "is he/she the right one 4me?"

Love can fade. How else do u think divorce rate is ds high?
U think those guys didn't love themselves b4 saying "I do"?

Shine ur aiz lest u/ur marriage be added to d numbers.

whyteteeth:
I am 30 this year and it has always been my dream to marry @ 30 or before 30. But the truth is I haven't been able to fall in love with any woman for years now. I do have sex. And I have women in my life from time to time yet I am not in love with any of them.

Now the real issue is this, I stumbled on an article in this forum days back that says that an arranged marriage is the best meaning that without being in love with your spouse, you two can still have a successful marriage, and I have been giving it a thought.

With this premise, Should I just marry and then maybe love can grow over time or should I keep waiting till I fall in love before I marry? I seriously need your advice please..

@whyteteeth, start with listing out what you seek/desire in a woman.

Check among your many options to see the one that ticks most of the boxes, then, try to build the love.

You can't love in totality in one day. It's a process. It's part of your marital growth.
As you grow older together, you tend to love her more.

Good luck finding her

Brownpeanut:
I thought I was the only one finding hard to fall in love. But how can you marry someone you don't love? There's this guy that has been pestering me. He has everything a woman can ever hope for, but I don't just feel anything for him; or love him. I can't date someone I don't love not to talk of marrying them.

U can't date someone u don't love

No you must fall inside a gutter before you marry