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Re: Can You Live In Your Parents House And Not Eat Their Food? by Munzy14(m): 10:05pm On Jan 02, 2021
mariahAngel:


O ma ha ga ekwe nu nti...

Ha ga rush kwa gi one day here o...cheesy
Re: Can You Live In Your Parents House And Not Eat Their Food? by EmekaBlue(m): 10:10pm On Jan 02, 2021
Avoid being in their presence too much

No worry u go make am and get your place.

If your dad apartment was big better because u can be having ur privacy in your room
Re: Can You Live In Your Parents House And Not Eat Their Food? by Keketu(m): 10:11pm On Jan 02, 2021
Mhizkel:
Simply move to a house of your own.
That automatically stops you from eating their food.
Op, no offence intended, but this your post made no sense to me.
Ask me why! undecided
hi please pm me
Re: Can You Live In Your Parents House And Not Eat Their Food? by Nobody: 10:11pm On Jan 02, 2021
BarrElChapo:


No worries at all. It's an OS (Operating System) update. It can't brick your phone even if you ignore. Cheers

Thanks
Re: Can You Live In Your Parents House And Not Eat Their Food? by mariahAngel(f): 10:13pm On Jan 02, 2021
Munzy14:

Ha ga rush kwa gi one day here o...cheesy

Owu Ihe ta? As a very opinionated person that I am, I've learned to be thick skinned.
I can't help being blunt, and there consequences that come with it.
Although, sometimes I am caught off guard and blow up!
Re: Can You Live In Your Parents House And Not Eat Their Food? by Munzy14(m): 10:19pm On Jan 02, 2021
mariahAngel:


Owu Ihe ta? As a very opinionated person that I am, I've learned to be thick skinned.
I can't help being blunt, and there consequences that come with it.
Although, sometimes I am caught off guard and blow up!
Lol, u know yourself...cheesy


No mata what o, some attacks can be brutal. Thick skin is important.
Re: Can You Live In Your Parents House And Not Eat Their Food? by mariahAngel(f): 10:29pm On Jan 02, 2021
Munzy14:

Lol, u know yourself...cheesy


No mata what o, some attacks can be brutal. Thick skin is important.

Very brutal!

And o na ra'm ahu I ghara...m ga e megwa ke'm, agaghi'm a gha. Ya na e re m oku n'ahu until m were oku ahu wuzuo onye owu n'ahu, obi e hie m nturu.

Anaghi'm acho, onye achola'm...m'owu choo ndi Igbo grin
Re: Can You Live In Your Parents House And Not Eat Their Food? by Lucasmuyiwa: 10:44pm On Jan 02, 2021
Thank God that someone finally brought up this topic. I've always thought I'm the only person in this kind of shoe... As for me, I love in my parents house consisting of my Dad and his two wives with my stepbrothers and stepsisters .my mom died before my Dad remarried. Living in my father's house is like living in hell I don't have peace of mind, I can't do anything I want like smoking with confidence (I smoke in my toilet with all windows closed and doors closed with 100 percent at alert). My Dad always nag at me and yell at me all the time.. I can't look him in the eyes whenever he's talking or I'm talking and he sends me disgusting errands and I will just keep hoping that everything will change very soon if I can afford to get my own apartment but I Never come up with the money and it always pain me a lot Though Dad is financially OK but I'm always afraid to ask him for money, not that he's not going to give me but I'm always scared of the insults that I will collect before he give me quarter of what I asked him. I don't have a job right now and all I depend on is their food and my yahoo job which is not paying me...its always a sorrowful moments for me whenever I eat their food..please ask me questions about how worst my own is

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Re: Can You Live In Your Parents House And Not Eat Their Food? by Nobody: 10:48pm On Jan 02, 2021
Helpfromabove1:
They are ur parent , if you want to be respected like a man then be a man and get your apartment

Simply

If u are under dere root then you must dance to dere music
So getting your own apartment earn you respect?
Hahahaha, very funny . If you are from a well to do home, it goes beyond that. Some people rent their own apartment yet bring shame to the family.
Re: Can You Live In Your Parents House And Not Eat Their Food? by Mhizkel(f): 10:51pm On Jan 02, 2021
Keketu:
hi please pm me
For what reasons? undecided
Re: Can You Live In Your Parents House And Not Eat Their Food? by Nobody: 10:51pm On Jan 02, 2021
chatinent:
Sometimes, it is not about feeding yourself yet in their house.


Most parents don't just want to see you haven't started being a man already yet they cannot tell you upfront.

If the world isn't shifted, aren't children to stay in their parents’ house till the same parent find them a path to standalone? These days papa will use torment to tell you it's high time you left.
So if he goes visiting if he has a rented apartment, he can't help his parents?

Re: Can You Live In Your Parents House And Not Eat Their Food? by rtdCivilservant: 10:52pm On Jan 02, 2021
Kestolove:
I can't stop eating my parents food, not because I can't feed myself, I can't stop going errands for my parents even if am d president of nigeria...
What about that ur 'big nose' picture?
Re: Can You Live In Your Parents House And Not Eat Their Food? by Nobody: 10:54pm On Jan 02, 2021
Draslo:
That would be rude. Instead, man up and buy food stuff, provisions and toiletries when you can. They would respect you and you would keep your mental health in check because nobody can mentally frustrate you worse than your parents.
Ogah it is not about buying those things, it goes beyond that, he should respect his parents whether he has a rented apartment or not.
Re: Can You Live In Your Parents House And Not Eat Their Food? by Nobody: 10:57pm On Jan 02, 2021
Kingscee:
Guys my Infinix Hot 8 just pop up this alert to my phone and I don't want to update anything that'll brick my phone, please should I ignore this alert or should i go ahead and do the update?
Go to gsmarena or phone arena to know if it safe to update from users who has done it . Here isn't the platform for such.

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Re: Can You Live In Your Parents House And Not Eat Their Food? by Nobody: 11:01pm On Jan 02, 2021
onyechez:

Go to gsmarena or phone arena to know if it safe to update from users who has done it . Here isn't the platform for such.

So you're warning me or you're replying my comment?
Re: Can You Live In Your Parents House And Not Eat Their Food? by Nobody: 12:04am On Jan 03, 2021
Kingscee:


So you're warning me or you're replying my comment?
Lol,,, just an advice

Go to phones section
Re: Can You Live In Your Parents House And Not Eat Their Food? by NarnieAceTech: 12:08am On Jan 03, 2021
It all depends on the type on house you grew up in. After service, I spent only two weeks in my parents house: I used some of the money saved from my allowee and freelancing jobs to pay electricity bills, fill the cooking gas, even cooked stews/soups I learnt from the state which I served under. I was even cooking my own food because my mom don't have the time to prepare breakfast before leaving for their places of work. Despite that, they still sent me on errands because I'm their last child and of course there's no ones else to send. I don't see that as "see finish". I mean, who else are they supposed to send to buy recharge cards, freshly baked bread in the morning

I left after two weeks to stay with my older brother, and continued my freelancing business. My mom was close to tears when I told her I was leaving, but she had to know that Obi is now a man and the earlier I moved out the better for us all.

Like I said, it depends on the family you grew up in

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Re: Can You Live In Your Parents House And Not Eat Their Food? by Emeka71(m): 12:11am On Jan 03, 2021
CalliDora1:
See wahala...

Are you the one paying the rent? As long as you're still staying under their roof, the errand go still dey gbono. So to avoid "see-finish" leave their house.

Wait, at 24, you already consider yourself too big to go on errand for your old man and mumsy? Chilax.

Honor they father and mother so thy days will be long.

Shalom.
You said my mind.

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Re: Can You Live In Your Parents House And Not Eat Their Food? by Emeka71(m): 12:18am On Jan 03, 2021
chii8:
Other than that, take the responsibility of doing one thing in the house, filling out the gas or paying Nepa bills or water bill or buying provision whenever it finishes....


Inukwa!!!my first FTC this year,dear brother mynd44 or Bro Seun or Bro lala, can I forward my account number?
Exactly; GOD forbid that I should be in my parents house and refuse to eat thier food because no matter how big I am; I am still thier child and can never be too big to eat thier food or too big to go thier errands.
Re: Can You Live In Your Parents House And Not Eat Their Food? by chatinent: 12:39am On Jan 03, 2021
onyechez:

So if he goes visiting if he has a rented apartment, he can't help his parents?


Read again.
Re: Can You Live In Your Parents House And Not Eat Their Food? by chatinent: 12:40am On Jan 03, 2021
Emeka71:
Exactly; GOD forbid that I should be in my parents house and refuse to eat thier food because no matter how big I am; I am still thier child and can never be too big to eat thier food or too big to go thier errands.


Baba just tell us you can't resist the sight of good food.
Re: Can You Live In Your Parents House And Not Eat Their Food? by intruder15(m): 12:52am On Jan 03, 2021
IamD18:
The truth is; If you stop eating their food and maintain your lane, they'll actually get triggered, annoyed and confused. They'll see no reason to feel they are doing much for you, which will surely make them reduce they way they disrespect you.

Just pipe low, go out, come back, return to your lane, support them the way you can, reduce your familiarity and jokes, talk less and act like you give less fvck. They'll actually seat up and make some adjustments.

Not eating in a house you are being accommodated in is a very underrated way of gaining your respect and avoiding "See finish".

Even in your father's house?
Re: Can You Live In Your Parents House And Not Eat Their Food? by Nobody: 12:53am On Jan 03, 2021
chatinent:



Read again.
It is the same thing, you live under your parents roof when you don't have an apartment, you have an apartment but you decide to visit and stay 2 weeks, so you can't help out?
It is just respect, you will not spend your entire Life or time with your parents.
When I was 16 years I helped my parents with their poultry farm though there was workers who were employed, I just helped but now I am no longer doing such.
Don't think everything last forever, if you think so go create your own world.
Re: Can You Live In Your Parents House And Not Eat Their Food? by intruder15(m): 1:04am On Jan 03, 2021
SaveMeLord:
Ok so I'm writing this to ask whether some of you live with your parents but don't eat their food to avoid "see finish". You know how some parents mentality is they feel because they feed you they will disrespecting you and talking to you anyhow and sending you errands meant for 12 year olds.

I feel if I start from not eating their food and be getting my own food the disrespect will reduce until I finally leave them for good. What do you think? anyone has experience? BTW I'm 24

Most times in life, it's not our actions that matters. It is the reason behind our actions that matters the most.

Your reason is messed up. Why? Because no matter the age u are, you will keep running errands for your parents. The farther u are from home, the lesser the errands. It has nothing to do with eating their food. I find it rude not to eat from a home you lay your head to sleep.

The kind of mother you have matters the most. If she is cool headed, and you are thinking like this, then it's u that have problem. But if she is the type that frustrates everybody, then u can work towards getting your own place. As long as you live there, always eat their food. Just ensure u are not the one that instigates them to prepare the food. E.g if there is nothing to eat in the morning or evening when u are back, just walk to your room and sleep. If there is soup in the fridge and mum is not the dramatic type who complains when someone fetch the food she cooked, then u can always make ur eba and soup in peace. Anything other than that, only eat when there is food available.

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Re: Can You Live In Your Parents House And Not Eat Their Food? by Munzy14(m): 2:16am On Jan 03, 2021
mariahAngel:


Very brutal!

And o na ra'm ahu I ghara...m ga e megwa ke'm, agaghi'm a gha. Ya na e re m oku n'ahu until m were oku ahu wuzuo onye owu n'ahu, obi e hie m nturu.

Anaghi'm acho, onye achola'm...m'owu choo ndi Igbo grin
Lol..but sometimes some cases are not worth the stress....u have to just skip and move...

Elecha a ghara o nwegi ujo o wu.
Re: Can You Live In Your Parents House And Not Eat Their Food? by mariahAngel(f): 5:24am On Jan 03, 2021
Munzy14:

Lol..but sometimes some cases are not worth the stress....u have to just skip and move...

Elecha a ghara o nwegi ujo o wu.

Of course, I let go of most cases...you have no idea.
When threads I comment on hit front-page, I do get lots and lots and lots of mentions, both positive and negative. (My comments can be quite controversial and not everyone will agree or disagree with me)
I ignore most, answer some, and laugh over others...
All in all, it has shaped me to the person that I am now...a person who stands for what she believes in without fear of attacks and criticism. I'm also not a people pleaser, even though I joke a lot.

I fight when I need to fight for myself (especially for my honour and reputation) I let go when it's not necessary.
Re: Can You Live In Your Parents House And Not Eat Their Food? by Frankcallys(m): 5:31am On Jan 03, 2021
SaveMeLord:
Ok so I'm writing this to ask whether some of you live with your parents but don't eat their food to avoid "see finish". You know how some parents mentality is they feel because they feed you they will disrespecting you and talking to you anyhow and sending you errands meant for 12 year olds.

I feel if I start from not eating their food and be getting my own food the disrespect will reduce until I finally leave them for good. What do you think? anyone has experience? BTW I'm 24

Look at this dogonyaro insulting and calling his parents disrespectful. You are the one that is an ingrate, disrespectful, disobedient and... somebori please help me find other names to call this Namah!

What's wrong in your parents sending you on errands? Do you know what the went through to bring you into this world up till this forming age you are right now? Do you know how low they stooped to make ends meet so that you grow up and become like this yeye dogonyaro you turned into?

Damn it! A condom would have saved us from all this nonsense you just vomited here.

When I was 30, I had my own business, shops, cars but still live with my parents, eat their food, watch them laugh while I compete with my sisters to cook for them, go errands for them and go any kind of... what you termed "errands meant for 12 year old"

Thank God you still have them around. Those of us that don't have, we know the pain of not having parents who would send us on 12 year old errands. Don't worry, y'all will understand me when the time comes, but I pray you will be matured enough to handle the situation by then cry cry cry

Re: Can You Live In Your Parents House And Not Eat Their Food? by JustAPhase(m): 6:06am On Jan 03, 2021
IamD18:
The truth is; If you stop eating their food and maintain your lane, they'll actually get triggered, annoyed and confused. They'll see no reason to feel they are doing much for you, which will surely make them reduce they way they disrespect you.

Just pipe low, go out, come back, return to your lane, support them the way you can, reduce your familiarity and jokes, talk less and act like you give less fvck. They'll actually seat up and make some adjustments.

Not eating in a house you are being accommodated in is a very underrated way of gaining your respect and avoiding "See finish".
Na street you be.
If the house is your parents, and you have your selfcon in the same house... just live like a tenant. Avoid so much familiarity; jokes and too many talks and gist. What you own them is greeting whenever you cross path with them. Create some rules and limits. Mind your business, avoid anything that will bring problem or them calling you for a talk. Take up responsibilities of paying some bills and once in a while support them with foodstuffs... in all to avoid see finish. Make sure you work, leave in the morning and be back...no late nights. Respect yourself and make sure you cook your own food. Don't let them know your movement and plans. If you go same church, change it. Or sometimes, don't go at all. Create scarcity of your presence. Watch them avoid you...lol!
Re: Can You Live In Your Parents House And Not Eat Their Food? by AmUmokeme(m): 6:12am On Jan 03, 2021
Yes,mine wasnt see finish,i discoverd early that foods like,okoro,beans,dont go with me,but my parent due to age they make it thier day 2day food. About food like plantains if not ripe i dnt look at it twice,but my parent love it unripe.so u see?
Re: Can You Live In Your Parents House And Not Eat Their Food? by JustAPhase(m): 6:14am On Jan 03, 2021
It's simple as ABC. Na see finish dey cause all these insults. Conceal your plans, be less independent and create scarcity of your presence. Don't even seat with them to watch movies in the sitting room.
See, if the house is your parent's, and you have your selfcon in the same house... just live like a tenant. Avoid so much familiarity; jokes and too many talks and gist. What you own them is greeting whenever you cross path with them. Create some rules and limits. Mind your business, avoid anything that will bring problem or them calling you for a talk. Take up responsibilities of paying some utility bills, electrical fault maintenance and once in a while support them with foodstuffs... in all to avoid see finish. Do things that will make them to always have confidence that you're around. Once in a while, stir the water to catch fish. Get provoked and put everyone in their place. No liberation comes peacefully. In all, make sure you have a work, leave in the morning and be back...no late nights. Respect yourself and make sure you cook your own food. Don't let them know your movement and plans. If you go same church, change it. Or sometimes, don't go at all. Create scarcity of your presence. Watch them avoid you...lol!

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Re: Can You Live In Your Parents House And Not Eat Their Food? by illicit(m): 7:02am On Jan 03, 2021
After NYSC, if you still stay with your parents, you will soon become persona non grata especially if u haven't got a job....


It may drive u crazy....

Everything u have learned at school will be questioned

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Re: Can You Live In Your Parents House And Not Eat Their Food? by Thazard(m): 7:15am On Jan 03, 2021
Enudapan:
Nah eh! No qualms
Depending on the type of parents you have shaa,
In btw you are still young son
But
The thing is work on your self first
Always show your parents love,
Also always try to respecting yourself and
Have self control over food, don't always act hungry
Infact always wait for your mom to call you for dinner or lunch an some times turn her down (just tel her you aren't eating for any cool reason)
An by that way you will earn her respect,




Buh if you have parents or step mom like mama gee
En don be for you





grin

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