₦airaland Forum

milky3:
the Fcmb boss shd be condemned for banging someone else's wife and to the point of impregnating her twice. for the woman to commit these abominable atrocities probably on d ground to keep her job. well no peace for the wicked. @ Op you are really vexing , all these Lamentations on top women. you cannot totally condemn all women based on one silly woman error

ObaKlaz:
I wonder what your grouse about the greatest apostle could be, though. C'mon, he was the most outstanding, more impactful than EVERY OTHER apostle, and that includes Peter the Rock himself!

when2:
What you just made me to understand stand is that men don't know their left from right again, that they're not disciplined, take and stand by their decisions. Anyway you're just beating round the bush. The moment men decide to zip up, these cases of infidelity will be reduced.

TONYE001:
Question bro,
Have you met 99% of Nigerian ladies?

when2:
What you just made me to understand stand is that men don't know their left from right again, that they're not disciplined, take and stand by their decisions. Anyway you're just beating round the bush. The moment men decide to zip up, these cases of infidelity will be reduced.

Hintona:
Thank you sis.

wheelchairboy:
Jesus kept the teachings simple. Paul made it more difficult. Jesus said we should pray in our homes behind closed doors, Paul said we should not forsake the gathering of the brethren. Then, there is the library burning or burning of books at some point inspired by Paul. Also, when he cursed out the chief priest, although the guy deserved it but Paul apologized. . .why? Then the cryptic "sore in his flesh" that he won't talk about. . .etc.

I feel you... But, Paul's teachings ARE NOT at variance to the teachings of Jesus. In fact, Paul's teachings are deeper revelations which he received from Jesus Himself. Jesus never taught what GRACE is, for instance, and some other things during His earthly ministry. They were all revealed to Paul. Talk about revelational knowledge of scriptures, that's one of the gifts and edges Paul had over the rest. It takes a diligent study and the help of the Holy Spirit to fully grasp Paul's teachings.

Jesus admonishes us to pray in secret - yes. But don't forget that Jesus (with His disciples) used to teach in the temple. The message Jesus passed with that is simply this: DON'T BE HYPOCRITICAL! OK... Lemme shock you: JESUS ENDORSES THE GATHERING OF THE BRETHREN as preached by Paul! How? Mathew 18:12. That's the gathering of the brethren for you, spoken of by Jesus Himself!

Paul apologised to the chief priest because according to the law and Jewish customs (which Paul had perfect understanding of), it is wrong to rail on constituted authorities, hence the 'apology'.

The books which were burnt as an impact of Paul's demonstration of the power of Jesus were that of mystical arts, spells and magic (Acts 19:19). And that's right, because God detests mystical knowledge and dark arts.

As per the "thorn by his side", Paul was silent on what exactly it is, but the purpose of the "thorn" was explained by him.

Why do I feel you might not be a Christian after all?! (No offense intended, believe me)

Excuse the lengthy mention, it had to be done, though!

Akinbahm:
When they told you ladies to stop dressing half naked around like a headless chicken, you all channel your energy against it and said Men should rather learn to control themselves.

Someone said you should learn to say NO your response again is to say MEN should zip up. Biko, when will you ladies start holding yourself for your mischievous deeds




No wonder you all are only perceived as s3x tools nd procreation being since u can't use ur sense.

when2:
Whether some women have decided to dress naked and some men decided to turn to he goat s, all I know is that both parties should be blamed for their actions and not laying the blame only on the women folks.

when2:
The truth of the matter is that men are enemies of themselves. The MD of FCMB, didn't he know that the woman he was dating is the wife of his fellow man? In many cases a man will be demanding for sex from a married woman before doing her a favour: knowing fully well that she is the wife of his fellow man. So instead of coming to social media to cry that women can't be trusted, men should zip up. And stop being witches to their fellow men.

ObaKlaz:


I feel you... But, Paul's teachings ARE NOT at variance to the teachings of Jesus. In fact, Paul's teachings are deeper revelations which he received from Jesus Himself. Jesus never taught what GRACE is, for instance, and some other things during His earthly ministry. They were all revealed to Paul. Talk about revelational knowledge of scriptures, that's one of the gifts and edges Paul had over the rest. It takes a diligent study and the help of the Holy Spirit to fully grasp Paul's teachings.

Jesus admonishes us to pray in secret - yes. But don't forget that Jesus (with His disciples) used to teach in the temple. The message Jesus passed with that is simply this: DON'T BE HYPOCRITICAL! OK... Lemme shock you: JESUS ENDORSES THE GATHERING OF THE BRETHREN as preached by Paul! How? Mathew 18:12. That's the gathering of the brethren for you, spoken of by Jesus Himself!

Paul apologised to the chief priest because according to the law and Jewish customs (which Paul had perfect understanding of), it is wrong to rail on constituted authorities, hence the 'apology'.

The books which were burnt as an impact of Paul's demonstration of the power of Jesus were that of mystical arts, spells and magic (Acts 19:19). And that's right, because God detests mystical knowledge and dark arts.

As per the "thorn by his side", Paul was silent on what exactly it is, but the purpose of the "thorn" was explained by him.

Why do I feel you might not be a Christian after all?! (No offense intended, believe me)

Excuse the lengthy mention, it had to be done, though!

Kobicove:
How did this article arrive at the conclusion that "Adultery is common with most Nigerian women"?

Decryptor:
The internet has been agog for a while over the death of Tunde Thomas a.k.a "Gentle Tunde" who died of heart break over his ex-wife's infidelity.

Tunde Thomas was said to be married to Moyo Thomas (alias Nee Ojo) with two kids.

According to the story, his wife, an adulteress which is common with most Nigerian women was engaged in an office romance with her MD of FCMB, Adam Nuru. It’s said that their secret relationship that was well known throughout the organization.

Though Adam was happily married, he was overwhelmed with adultery despite knowing that her staff was also married to Mr Tunde.

Not knowing the truth about the kids, Tunde spent all his resources on the children as how every responsible father would do for their wards.

He flew them (the two kids) to London and Dubai during holidays and they attended the best schools just to give them better foundation.

Tunde’s wife resigned from FCMB all of a sudden when the older child was about 8 years old and went on holidays in the US as planned by her ‘boyfriend’ boss.

Little did Tunde know that was the last time he would ever set his eyes on the children.

His wife refused to return to Nigeria when the school resumed and she gathered courage to tell him that the children were not his.

To prevent Tunde from hunting her down in the US, she filed asylum in the US based on marital violence in Nigeria.

According to reports, Tunde couldn’t take the bad news in 2017. He never felt good after recovering from a stroke.

He tried to get his life together by beginning another relationship with a lady who is a lawyer. It was gathered that he invited a few friends to help him visit the lady’s family on 26th December.

Alas, Tunde didn’t get to see that day. He collapsed and died while returning from work on December 15, 2020. He was laid to rest on Wednesday, December 30, 2020.

If Tunde hadn't died, we probably wouldn't have heard about this story. Even with his death, there isn't much weight thrown around it if not for the call for paternity testing that has been trending for a while now, women activists and feminists have all gone hush!

Nobody is carrying placards with hashtags like #JusticeForTunde...WHY?...Because Tunde is another MAN who is a victim of treachery perpetuated by a woman! If the tables were to be turned, by now there would have been a procession to Aso Rock by women, petitions would have been opened in websites like Change dot org for Moyo to be deported and all that.

But no...v@ginal people have suddenly gone mum because it was perpetrated by a woman against a man!

I don't blame women like Moyo who shamelessly opened her legs for her Boss and still got pregnant not even once but twice for him...

I blame men like Tunde Thomas who was too daft to reason like an alpha-male because he was lost in the euphoria of that stupid over-hyped emotional irrational feeling they call love for his estranged wife!

Yes! Men like Ozor of Big Brother Naija and Tunde Thomas who would see the signs and still ignore it simply because they want to play "the good guy" and "perfect gentleman" to please a woman simply because they believe that women are "frail" and deserve attention and deserve to be showered with love!

Although Tunde Thomas was not as lucky as Ozor to survive his ordeal although he lost concentration in winning the quest for which he signed up for in a reality tv show to win a whooping N85m worth of prices in both cash and materials.

What exactly is my point in opening this thread? I simply want to remind the male folk just like i have always hammered it here that is it really worth it to show a woman all the care, love and affection in the world and after that, you still get stabbed at the back?

Women have known to be crying all over social media about how their men maltreat and mistreat them and often we see them in talkshows and even religious institutions where the message is always about how men should treat women right with respect.

But the question is DO WOMEN TREAT WE THE MEN WITH RESPECT AFTER ALL THE LOVE AND ATTENTION SHOWERED ON THEM? If the answer is yes, Tunde Thomas would be alive today with kids looking like him with darker complexion just as his unlike those kids who looked more like Shuwa Arab kids with the same replica of his wife's sugar daddy!

I heard from some close sources that the reason why the hoe decided to relocate to the US was because tongues had already started wagging about the questionability in resemblance of the children to Tunde which was becoming obvious each passing day.

Some people even whispered to his ears about the fact that those kids were not him but he even lashed out at them and told his wife not to mind "rumor mongers" who wanted to separate her from him and assured her of his "undying love" for her! So much for undying love!!

I have played the Ozoemena Chukwu role about thrice or more in the past until experiences from Red Pillers taught me that loving a woman whole heartedly, giving her attention she needs and bending down to appeal to her sense of entitlement is akin to living in self-denial and cheating yourself!

I have always said that the only woman on earth who deserves your true and undying love is your mother (that is if she made motherly sacrifices for you) and not a dead-beat mother! The next creature you should give undying love to which will forever remain loyal to you till the very end is your pet dog! Yes...little wonder they tag dogs as "Man's Best Friend".

A woman is not meant to be loved! It is totally unnatural and abysmal to bring yourself as a man to giving love to a woman!

When God created Adam, he brought Eve to Adam to be his companion and not for him to love her! The lame concept of love for a woman in the bible originated from Ephesians 5:25 where it says “Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it.” This was coming from an apostle called Paul in the Bible who was not even married! and so doesn't know the rudiments of what marriage between a man and woman entails. So to me that bald-headed Paul had no right to tell men what to do with their wives!

Apostle Paul went further to state that Men should love their wives just as Christ loved the church and gave himself for it (Now if we look further, the church Paul talked about is known as the body of Christ which Jesus Christ said he would come back for when it is rupturable (only Bible scholars and chronic Bible readers would understand and agree with me) isn't it?...
Now my dear Bible Scholars, with the events of what is going on in the world today in the so-called body of Christ with all the moral decadence and increasing sinful activities, would it be out of place to say that the church is becoming less and less rapturable with each passing year? So you see...Even Jesus Christ who gave his life for the Church is even being disappointed by the church he gave his life for how much more you that is a mortal man who thinks that being a puppet in the hands of your woman will make her loyal!

Paul was purely a SIMP and was definitely trying to brush the feminine ego of women because of the role they played during his evangelism in feeding him, providing meeting places for his preaching and even hiding him from those who wanted him killed. ( Read the Epistolary evidence of Paul the Apostle and Women on Wikipedia). Of course it was natural to talk in favor of those that provide food, shelter and safety for you when the opportunity arises!

There are so many men like Paul littered all over our society today. Men like Ozor who was emotionally manhandled by Nengi but still refused to take a cue until he came out and saw the damage he had done to his personality, men like Uti Nwachukwu who hailed Ozor for being a mumu in the house and men like Tunde Thomas who was being a loving wife to a hoe and enrolled the kids of another man in the best schools outside Nigeria until the hard reality hit him like a thunderbolt which cost him his life!

If only Tunde Thomas had a side chick or baby mama outside his unholy marriage with "Moy-hoe", at least the effects of knowing that the kids who called him daddy for years were not biologically his would have been drastically reduced. He would have ended up fathering his own kids outside because from what i have noticed, Nigerian v@ginal people a.k.a women will most of the time carry your own seed when they are rolling in the sheets with you while you are married to your main wife!

But of course he wanted to be a "good husband and loving father" and so he was "faithful" to Moy-hoe and look where his faithfulness and gentility got him...SIX FEET BELOW! To even think that the man even saw that these children had no semblance to him in anyway but tuned a blind eye to it got me gobsmacked!

What has the modern day Nigerian women who are notoriously known as the second in position to committing paternity fraud after Jamaican women have to offer these days? Absolutely nothing apart from buying you boxer shorts and singlets during valentine or your birthday! Show me a Nigerian lady who has gifted her man "Husband or lover" a Play Station 4 or 5, an iPhone not to talk more of a posh ride?

It is foolish Nigerian men who are the ones doing all the spending like the women are entitled to it! Why? Simply because you want to please her so she can allow you slip your stiff male appendage into her slippery smelly female anatomy?

Stop wasting your time being a good guy to a woman because it will always end up in premium tears! Women do not deserve love. They are only meant for procreation and sexual gratification! The earlier you as a man understands it, the better for you! Women can only stay loyal to you when you treat them like the second fiddle and make them feel like they are not really worth it!

The only thing you should ensure you offer a woman living under the same roof with you is the shelter over her head! This is because when she is the one who pays the rent, and there is a dispute, it would be ratified that you the man should leave the premises except you are in an environment where the women are given an upper hand like the United States which will impose it on you to vacate even if you are the owner of the house. (Something which the women here wish that it would be played out in Nigeria which as God lives, will never happen).

As for Feeding, to me, it should be reciprocal. If you are not capable of feeding her in a particular point in time, she should return the favour.

Afterall, in the animal kingdom, most of the times, the Lion sleeps while the lionesses hunt and he the lion comes to eat and it doesn't strip him of his kingship.

Exchange of gifts should be reciprocal! Outings should be reciprocal....paying of bills should be shared! If she sucked you dry during the dating and courtship era, after the marriage, revenge by taking care of your basic needs and wants as a man and let her be the one to start the spending in the house to recoup all your loses!

You as the man IS DOING HER A FAVOUR IN MARRYING HER AND NOT THE OTHER WAY ROUND!

If she can't deal with it, let her pack her things back to her father's house and stay there! Don't bring yourself down to go there and plead for her to come back!

A woman is more attracted to a man who has other women in competition with her and abhors the man who is clingy to her alone! When she sees there is no competition, she will kick you to the curb and go after that bad guy who she knows has numerous women flocking after him.

As foolish as they are, their quest is to WIN THE PLAYBOY'S HEART TOTALLY but ignore you WHOSE HEART HAS TOTALLY BEEN WON AND MAKES YOU COMPLETELY USELESS TO HER!

Many men be looking radiant before their union with women all in the name of marriage and all of a sudden, they start taking semblance to a disheveled cockerel suffering from feather-loss! It is because you allowed yourself to look and be that way! Get yourself girlfriends and let your wife know that you have them in abundance! In that way, you will keep her on her toes.

If she is the toxic type you feel can go lethal because of your escapades like Maryam Sanda, kick her out of your house and file a petition and restraining order stating that if anything happens to you, she should be held accountable for it. Do a DNA test on your children and if they are yours, take care of them by providing their basic and fundamental needs so they won't forget you.

If she is the one who has custody of the kids, share the responsibility of caregiving between you and her. It is either she pays for their school fees and you provide for their feeding and wardrobe or the other way round.

You can accomplish this by opening a something like a "Kids Savings Account" with the names of the children where cash remitted for their personal use will accounted for with relevant documentation which you will show to them later on in life! This is to counter any damaging lies she will tell your kids about you abandoning them and not taking care of them! Remember, women are very trecherous beings!!

I Decryptor is a typical example...i have 2 children from 2 different ladies (a boy and a girl) and they come to visit me during the holidays. I opened a Kiddies account where monies for their fees is sent to their mothers' account with the statements clearly documented. I have a lawyer whom is on standby to show them every documentation on every dime i spent on them from their birth till if (God forbid) anything should happen to me before they both turn 18!

When they are 18, the accounts will be changed to a normal savings account but not until i sit them down to have a rundown of all the figures spent during their childhood! I still have further plans for the both of them which i will not want to enumerate here for personal reasons and in order not to give away my identity.

The mother of one is married to another man whom she has some kids for. One day when she brought my child during their mid-term break, she made advances at me and was proposing sex! A request i turned down.

You can imagine if i accepted to sleep with her and maybe she conceives, she'll take it home for her husband to "topup" and 9 months later, he will be beaming with smiles that "his loyal wife" has given him another child!

Both women even though not living with me see me as a demi-god because of how i decided to carry myself as a man. I chose never to get married and my kids are my priority. Marriage to me is never a union between a man and a woman but an emotional enslavement of a man to a woman!

These women don't love you! They only want you to help them achieve the highest societal strata a woman can achieve by bearing the title "Mrs" and you as the man is the only one who can help them climb up that ladder. After that, they'll continue their whoring activities unabated!

You reading this, if you aren't married, i am not asking you to take the decisions i took as it is a matter of choice...but know your place in a woman life!
Place higher value on yourself before you place value on a woman!

Sex these days is cheap and you can get it if you have the right verbal slurs and the right amount in cash or kind.

LOVE YOURSELF and LIVE YOUR LIFE TO THE FULLEST and don't allow any woman to take you to eternal demise like Tunde Gentle!

Always remember, "Good Guys finish last"!