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Re: Let’s discuss by olasubomi2354: 8:00pm On Dec 30, 2020
yes, very possible. She should be open minded, simple, her natural self, be honest and She will definitely find love.
Re: Let’s discuss by eyinjuege: 8:24pm On Dec 30, 2020
Yes.
Single mothers have been in existence for several generations, and it's nothing new. They have also been getting remarried or newly married since then too.
I can't help but wonder why some young people in 2020 think it's a rarity.
Look around you well, you will see that quite a few people grew up with step fathers.

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Re: Let’s discuss by culf: 11:51am On Dec 31, 2020
Kondomatic:
She's too good because she's got over 0.5 already.

A child reduces a woman's chance of getting her choice of man by at least 50% same way being broke reduces a guy's own by 90%.

She knows this so she's making up for it with the good character she's portraying

Give her a husband and watch her become a Lannister after she gives birth to a male child.




So many good single moms out there though but none for me.


a woman that will become a 'Lannister' after child's birth will do so, it has nothing to do with being a single mother. The numerous marriages that are crashing these days, how many of them are single mothers.

I'm not encouraging single motherhood but to me, it doesn't reduce their chances of marriage but rather increases it

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Re: Let’s discuss by culf: 11:52am On Dec 31, 2020
debbydams:
thanks

you're welcome
Re: Let’s discuss by Kondomatic(m): 12:05pm On Dec 31, 2020
culf:



a woman that will become a 'Lannister' after child's birth will do so, it has nothing to do with being a single mother. The numerous marriages that are crashing these days, how many of them are single mothers.

I'm not encouraging single motherhood but to me, it doesn't reduce their chances of marriage but rather increases it

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Re: Let’s discuss by Ryan03(f): 12:45pm On Dec 31, 2020
olabrinks:
Hi guys

I just want to know if it will be possible for a single mom in her 20s to find a husband. It’s just a topic I was discussing with a friend,

A mother of a son

Let’s discuss, what she should expect
Her limitations
How she should go about dating
And the possible experiences you’ve had dating single moms or being a single mom dating yourself.

Are you seen as less than and do you veiw single Moms as nothing ?
some men don't care about marrying single moms, when you meet a guy, let him know you have a son. His response will determine if you are going forward or quitting right there.
What I can't accept is you trying to force the idea of marrying a single mother on everybody, we all have our choices.
I will rather marry a single mom with good character and peace of mind that a tear rubber who is a mummy's girl ( I can't cope with this group at all), jobless, entitlement mentality, and lazy. A lady giving birth out of wedlock is not the only criteria not to marry her

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Re: Let’s discuss by Ryan03(f): 12:50pm On Dec 31, 2020
FinianIb:
Hi, not all men can take in / father a child that isn't theirs. A lot of single moms are overprotective of their heart, baby etc, also they hide feelings claiming to be Jason Bourne, cause of these they have toxic behaviours. It isn't their fault as quite a number have been in abusive relationships in the past. What happens is they still feel hurt from the previous relationships and it affects their going forward.
When you have hatred in your heart for someone, you'll be so blind as to how it affects your relationship with other people, that's the problem with a lot of them, and because of this, men that don't have time for stress simply avoid.
Happy New Year in advance!
very true. Even some young girls who have been in abusive relationships are like that, person gat open eyes well.
Re: Let’s discuss by Ryan03(f): 12:52pm On Dec 31, 2020
Kamdil:
I haven't seen any. Is either she cheats,or she is a core feminist,or mannerless,etc.


If they are that good,they won't be single with child.
lol, so you mean it's always their fault that they are not together with the said baby daddy? I didn't know all men are saints lipsrsealed

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Re: Let’s discuss by Ryan03(f): 12:54pm On Dec 31, 2020
debbydams:
I hop some guys can reason like u tho.. How can a guy be saying he can't eat someone leftover because the lady in question is a single mother my reply to him was atleast she is can have kids not all this walking � corpse that does hookups nd jump from one guy to another..in the future m gonna help a thousand single mother if possible a million single mother. . to any guy that discrimate any single mother may God have mercy on u o
it's a thing of choice. Not everyone wants to raise another man's child especially when the said woman does nothing to raise income. In fact, she becomes a liability with extra liability. lol
Re: Let’s discuss by JustCruise(m): 1:32pm On Dec 31, 2020
For me, I can't marry or have anything serious with a single mother. It just doesn't feel right.

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Re: Let’s discuss by TheCongo2: 2:33pm On Dec 31, 2020
olabrinks:
Hi guys

I just want to know if it will be possible for a single mom in her 20s to find a husband. It’s just a topic I was discussing with a friend,

A mother of a son

Let’s discuss, what she should expect
Her limitations
How she should go about dating
And the possible experiences you’ve had dating single moms or being a single mom dating yourself.

Are you seen as less than and do you veiw single Moms as nothing ?

I married my wife when she was a single mother and I never regret it. We have been married for 14 years now.

I don't see any issue with raising what some people here had described as "someone's else child". A child is a child . I have 6 kids (including the one from my wife before marriage) and I am very happy with my family.

The fact is to each his own. We should avoid putting stigma on people. All single mothers aren't the same just like all black people aren't criminal. In every groups of people there are always the good and bad apple. And single mothers aren't exempt from this rule.

You never know what tomorrow can bring. Who knows if the one you are referring to as someone's else child would become the cornerstone of your own family if you adopt him and raise him well.

Life is too short. We should focus on spreading love and giving people hope instead of discriminating or excluding them. If you can't marry a single mother, that is fine but please stop spreading condescending or pejorative messages about single mom. Single moms are human too. They deserve to be happy just like everyone.

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Re: Let’s discuss by chrisj2(m): 5:24pm On Dec 31, 2020
I don't think being a single mum is any different from other ladies but I believe a single mum should be more humble and understanding because being a step parent is not easy at all
Re: Let’s discuss by chrisj2(m): 5:29pm On Dec 31, 2020
Marriage should not be a charity from a man to a woman!

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Re: Let’s discuss by ysalli: 12:59am On Jan 02, 2021
culf:


A childhood friend that knows her in and out was the one making Referer and telling us about her. she honestly say among all her friends, she(single mother) is the only one she can refer to anyone because she is too good. she told us the complete story.

They are beautiful angels among them


While we can not generalize the story, I have had experience with more than two single mother, and the experience is not palatable
Re: Let’s discuss by culf: 6:48am On Jan 02, 2021
ysalli:



While we can not generalize the story, I have had experience with more than two single mother, and the experience is not palatable


some have their issues like everyone else but they are good ones among them

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Re: Let’s discuss by bdchange(m): 7:20am On Jan 02, 2021
Two facts about single mothers. Firstly, there is nothing wrong being a single mother, for all we know it might be a single mistake which resulted in that situation. Secondly, there is everything wrong in being a single mother, for all we know she might be a greedy, promiscuous, lying daughter of Jezebel who got to that mess due to her careless lifestyle. Now considering this two options, how then do you decide which is who? If so many guys are complaining of being with a single mother even without meeting them. It means there must be some things most are doing that is putting most men away. I can give you more details if you request for it.

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Re: Let’s discuss by ysalli: 7:50am On Jan 02, 2021
[quote author=culf post=97634427]


some have their issues like everyone else but they are good ones among them[/quote

Truth, like I said before, we cannot generalize the experience to be the same for every single mother, there will still some who will be very good as I expected they are supposed to be. I would have love to marry a single mother for reason personal to me, but I labour for sometimes in vain as a result.

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Re: Let’s discuss by Nobody: 8:27am On Jan 02, 2021
They are fuckaholics, they Bleep for a living.

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Re: Let’s discuss by LutanFyah: 12:20pm On Jan 02, 2021
Why waste your timeand resources on filth, on the lowest quality when you have so many quality girls (even virgins) to choose from.


Any man that chooses a single mother over virgins and girls without baggages is reeking of very very low self esteem and definitely not self-aware.



Tuehhhh.

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Re: Let’s discuss by jabolo(m): 1:23pm On Jan 02, 2021
LutanFyah:
Why waste your timeand resources on filth, on the lowest quality when you have so many quality girls (even virgins) to choose from.

Any man that chooses a single mother over virgins and girls without baggages is reeking of very very low self esteem and definitely not self-aware.

Tuehhhh.

SMH

Re: Let’s discuss by LutanFyah: 1:33pm On Jan 02, 2021
jabolo:


SMH

You can shake your head very well.


Only classless men and simps end up with used up women, vomits, rejects (single mothers).




Pukes

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Re: Let’s discuss by Frustrated007: 2:42pm On Jan 02, 2021
you look like one ugly lady I dated a long time ago..
Una two resemble no be small.
I keep wondering why I ever went that low tho.. guess I was young and naive grin
debbydams:
undecided
Re: Let’s discuss by GorillaApp(m): 2:53pm On Jan 02, 2021
Yeah! Seen a couple of them getting married
Re: Let’s discuss by Frustrated007: 4:50pm On Jan 02, 2021
obviously looking for the next unfortunate fool that you will heap your financial problems on..under the guise of "love" whatever the f**k that means in this day and age undecided

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Re: Let’s discuss by mosdii(m): 7:09pm On Jan 02, 2021
never date or marry a single mother. Single mothers are only good for straffing and flinging.
Nigerian Girls Are Nitwits....All Of Them

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Re: Let’s discuss by Smile4mee01: 10:28am On Jan 03, 2021
let's be real.

Being a single reduced your chances of landing a high value guy but not completely eliminates it. Think of it, the same guy you want is being desired by other possibly younger women who have no kids.

Personally I dont fancy single mothers, if at all I do. I would be intrested in knowing the quality of man . Was he a high value man or just a aRIF RAF.

In addition, it does not set a good example to young and upcoming girls. You will see some girls give example of how a single mother found love again and so she can too. Very few get lucky.

In a nutshell, single mothers seeking love again should reduce thier expectation of who a man is. The problem is that womens hypergamy instinct only makes them consider men above them or are on the same level. If she looks closely a man maybe somewhat below her would would love her more than she wants sef.

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Re: Let’s discuss by MSGAMBLE9: 4:47pm On Jan 04, 2021
LutanFyah:
Why waste your timeand resources on filth, on the lowest quality when you have so many quality girls (even virgins) to choose from.


Any man that chooses a single mother over virgins and girls without baggages is reeking of very very low self esteem and definitely not self-aware.



Tuehhhh.
And this is da fucking TRUTH.


You will play second fiddle to her child in term of Attention and Care.


They are only good for FVCkERY thou.

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Re: Let’s discuss by Sonfethopia: 5:56pm On Jan 04, 2021
Kamdil:
that is what she told you. Confirm from the guy,and you will be shocked.

No mind that guy ,me I no fit marry single mother, the child will now be in my house and there is every tendency he or she will be a head ache to my own kids and it will be hard to seperate from the mother.

Because anything u talk , her attitude is separating u from your kids. So she has u at her palms. Single mother for me is a no no.

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Re: Let’s discuss by comtem2011: 2:03pm On Jan 05, 2021
LutanFyah:
You can shake your head very well.


Only classless men and simps end up with used up women, vomits, rejects (single mothers).









Pukes
Without offense, what is the definition of single mother? According to you!!!
Re: Let’s discuss by cooooooks(m): 2:31pm On Jan 05, 2021
Yes many 'traditional' people (esp the family) will look as single moms like they're less desirable than women without kids.

However, someone with whom you share a mutual attraction will not allow that stop him.

Are there people you knew or even loved before you became a mom?

When courting, you have to talk about how you two, TOGETHER, will raise your son and any other children if desired.

Don't try to play games or to play with his head. Realise that family and some friends will discourage him from dating you. Any small thing will make those voices louder in his head. Things that he could have let slide with a non-mom will all of a sudden be a big deal.

Good luck.
Re: Let’s discuss by cooooooks(m): 2:40pm On Jan 05, 2021
It seems like you maligned someone's profession.

grin
debbydams:
do u even understand English? Do u read what I wrote?, wait how on earth is this a low self esteem..whats your problem about what I posted? Answer me,, when will u learn how to mind your business, I posted what like nd m not trying to shade or bring anybody down so why are making it a problem tori'olohun..u were even nonsense I no blame u..i don't v any reason to exchange � words with u, by their fruits u shal know them.. Nd guess what I don't need your support hanty wa elenu pelebe.. Nobi everything them dey shuk mouth � for, my mention my life
Re: Let’s discuss by coputa(m): 5:04pm On Jan 05, 2021
culf:



they are so many good ones among them please
those that were divorced are lions, they can't stay with a man

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