[quote author=doggedfighter post=97817045]

You sound confused and mad here[/quote

I'm not confused and I'm not mad, I find everything I want in her but I'm still not ready to get married ....will you foot the marriage bills for me my friend?...
Or will you take care of my kids ??.
I know what I want and Ive a target

baralatie:

condoms can break

and sometimes all these family planning can disappoint

A good condom guarantees 98% protection. However, it could break if:
• it expired
• worn inappropriately
• scratched or mistakenly torn.
Etc.

There are lots of highly effective contraceptive out there, so what's your point?

Thinee:


I understand your point also friend, but I see everything I want in a wife in her ,just that I'm not ready for marriage, and that's why I'm also trying to have sex with her cus I don't know what might happen tomorrow, she could break up with me and the next guy she meets she gives him her virginity immediately....and I don't want that

You are seriously sick.

Thinee:


If while having sex she gets pregnant, then good luck and goodness also , but I'm not even talking of condoms, I dated a girl for 2years + while growing up, I don't think we used condoms more than 5 times in a period of 2 years , she has a very high libido more than me, she never got pregnant until at the end of our relationship and she decided to terminate it herself even tho I wanted her to keep it.......I told her twas her decision and I was ready for whatever she thought was right

What I'm saying is that we could have sex without her getting pregnant, I'm almost perfect at withdrawing and I despise condoms that's why I don't have random sex just one person is enough for me..

You ain't thinking to her own end , what if she ends up with someone else after I've waited for her or she ends up sleeping with someone else ?? Or leaving me what will I do, knowing I didn't have sex with her and she left for another person

You are selfish and only interested in satisfying your selfish desires.

Tomorrow you will come back here on Nairaland to lament how you can't find any decent girl to marry. Whereas you had them on a platter of gold but immaturity and selfishness made you loose them.

themaestro08:


Understand this: A tight vagina doesn't mean a girl is a Virgin, or less promiscuous, to believe this is naïvity and ignorance.

Some sluts are tight down there despite their promiscuity, it all boils down to body difference.

The earlier you know this the better for you

There is not how a slut will be so tight that it will hinder penetration , as far as she isn't a virgin, It must penetrate especially when she's really wet...all will be opened!!..... Even when my girl is really dripping wet , I see that as a opportunity , but still on still it doesn't go in no matter how I tried , even my fingers find it hard so I know what I'm talking about

Thinee:


I've actually never thought of settling down while still struggling, maybe cus I've got really big ambitions, I've always thought my settling down will be when I've All basic things of life including a fat account

Now you see? You've got your own dreams, she's got hers which bn a virgin till after marriage is part of. Now you can't compromise your dreams for you both buh you want her to compromise hers just for you. Don't you think you are being selfish here brother? Why not find other way to satisfy your sexual urge and let her be if you love her like you claim. Or send her packing already and let her find the one that will help her fufill her dream. She's just 22 now so don't waste her time.

themaestro08:


A good condom guarantees 98% protection. However, it could break if:
• it expired
• worn inappropriately
• scratched or mistakenly torn.
Etc.

There are lots of highly effective contraceptive out there, so what's your point?

simple it can break and contraceptive can fail.it is because you are not the one taking those contraceptive pills .just be a woman for one month and take these pills (you will know some things are not normal).
if the op wants to marry let him marry.
if he is not ready for responsibility let him free the girl and get olosho girls.
olosho girls (this is there department and faculty...there no wan marry.they just wan gbensh okpari)

doggedfighter:


You sound confused and mad here.

You really want to take the virginity by all means without marriage.

Are you nuts or what?

Gerrrrrarahia

Lol .. I'm not nut !!... She knows the kinda person I am, so why accepting when you ain't ready or is she thinking I'll be able to wait til marriage?
What if the marriage is gon be in 2 years time...so no sex til then
My point is that if she knows she wasn't willing she for no just come back ni......

[quote author=Thinee post=97817131][/quote]

You can't foot marriage but your dick can foot virginity

Nazgul:

You are seriously sick.

I'm not sick my friend, maybe when you are in my shoes you will understand what I'm talking about

Nazgul:

Leave contraceptives, only a naiev girl will take that rubbish. Cos constant taking of it can damage the womb leading to barrenness.

If you look carefully on drugs like "Azurette" which is a very strong contraceptive pill you'll see where it's written clearly to be taken not more than once or twice in a month, a situation where he's constantly releasing inside her and she's constantly taking it, and her womb damages will he still marry her?

Let's not be selfish with our advices please, these are people's children you're trying to ruin and it's very bad.

Utter rubbish! Contraceptive pills are safe and effective( if use perfectly could be 99% effective but humans ain't perfect so its at least 91% effective).

Of course it has sides effects, which is unsurprising, considering the fact even paracetamol itself is not 100% safe nor effective. I asked again what's your point?

doggedfighter:


You can't foot marriage but your dick can foot virginity

You think marriage is a small thing....it's not even about footing the bills, my little savings , combine with my parents and her parents can get us married but right now that's not in my agenda...I need to make a lot of money on my own before married...

This kinda things are no big deal to decipher and sort, but cos of your ulterior motives: hence you are confused.
You agreed she come over cos she promised you sex ( her virginity) ... Not minding whatever ( work related and such) she was doing in ilorin. You played the "sex" card and she is git you locked in. What else did you bargain with her?
She is a smart one( the girl), looks like she could use you as a stepping stone.
Cos you never gonna have the "cookie" until she done.
And good luck with your 15 mil account balance.

Thinee:



Lol .. I'm not nut !!... She knows the kinda person I am, so why accepting when you ain't ready or is she thinking I'll be able to wait til marriage?
What if the marriage is gon be in 2 years time...so no sex til then
My point is that if she knows she wasn't willing she for no just come back ni......

Make up your mind, dearie.

Go for her if you really want her.

Send her away and get sex if you don't want her enough. It's simple.

Nazgul:

You are selfish and only interested in satisfying your selfish desires.

Tomorrow you will come back here on Nairaland to lament how you can't find any decent girl to marry. Whereas you had them on a platter of gold but immaturity and selfishness made you loose them.

Okay I get your point my friend, so what exactly is the advise you have for me
Cus I really love her and would love to spend the rest of my life with her.....the only thing I think is giving us issues is sex , so what do you advise me to do

Thinee:


I'm not sick my friend, maybe when you are in my shoes you will understand what I'm talking about

I can never be in your shoes cos I've been begging God for a decent girl to marry. And if any miraculously comes my way, I'll happily embrace the opportunity and get married to her, rather than defile and convert her into a street girl, then complain of how useless women are, whereas you're the ones making them useless.

Thinee:


I understand your point also friend, but I see everything I want in a wife in her ,just that I'm not ready for marriage, and that's why I'm also trying to have sex with her cus I don't know what might happen tomorrow, she could break up with me and the next guy she meets she gives him her virginity immediately....and I don't want that

YOU CANT MARRY HER, ARE YOU DEAF?
24yr old boy, with a 22/yr old. The only thing you can do now is fvck, her thats all.
In 10yrs sef you wont be ready and sont even remember this girls name.

Her husband will show up in the next 3yrs of her life, else she will also joing the gang of old, old bitter haaanty dem by 30.

themaestro08:


Utter rubbish! Contraceptive pills are safe and effective( if use perfectly could be 99% effective but humans ain't perfect so its at least 91% effective).

Of course it has sides effects, which is unsurprising, considering the fact even paracetamol itself is not 100% safe nor effective. I asked again what's your point?

Name the ones you know that are 91% safe, and wouldn't have severe side effects on the womb when taken for a long period of time?

baralatie:

simple it can break and contraceptive can fail.it is because you are not the one taking those contraceptive pills .just be a woman for one month and take these pills (you will know some things are not normal).
if the op wants to marry let him marry.
if he is not ready for responsibility let him free the girl and get olosho girls.
olosho girls (this is there department and faculty...there no wan marry.they just wan gbensh okpari)

This is getting ridiculous: I mean we are talking about a girl who came all the way from illorin to delta to co-habit with a guy for an indefinite period of time - what was she expecting? Prayers and sermons?

Thinee:


Okay I get your point my friend, so what exactly is the advise you have for me
Cus I really love her and would love to spend the rest of my life with her.....the only thing I think is giving us issues is sex , so what do you advise me to do

My advice is promise her marriage...keep her close then work on your finances.

She's a graduate, she can look for a job as well, you don't have to wait till you're 30, once you both can attain a certain level of financial stability, you can get married.

If okada and Keke riders can singlehandedly foot their traditional marriage rites, then I strongly believe that you will be equal to the task if you put in more efforts.

sex is overated jare

Odoogu:
This kinda things are no big deal to decipher and sort, but cos of your ulterior motives: hence you are confused.
You agreed she come over cos she promised you sex ( her virginity) ... Not minding whatever ( work related and such) she was doing in ilorin. You played the "sex" card and she is git you locked in. What else did you bargain with her?
She is a smart one( the girl), looks like she could use you as a stepping stone.
Cos you never gonna have the "cookie" until she done.
And good luck with your 15 mil account balance.

Lol she stays with her parents , Ive spoken to her mum about 2 times and her mum knows we are in a relationship, but I don't think her mum know she's staying at my place cus she also has her own place over here in delta, tho the rent will soon expire
I agreed her coming over cus I wanted a future with us both and I see a future with us....so the sex was just a side something, she knows the kinda person I am ...that's why we talked about sex also cus she know I love it ..
If you read well you will see we have agreed along time on the sex issues ,only for her to come over and said another cus she said she couldn't tell me on phone


And let be sincere here....many of you guys talking here can't do without sex in your relationship ...so you all shouldn't make me feel like a bad person

Thinee:


There is not how a slut will be so tight that it will hinder penetration , as far as she isn't a virgin, It must penetrate especially when she's really wet...all will be opened!!..... Even when my girl is really dripping wet , I see that as a opportunity , but still on still it doesn't go in no matter how I tried , even my fingers find it hard so I know what I'm talking about

You know little to nothing bro... A virgin could be wide and deep down there. It's nothing new. Maybe you haven't cone across them but they do exist.

Nazgul:

I can never be in your shoes cos I've been begging God for a decent girl to marry. And if any miraculously comes my way, I'll happily embrace the opportunity and get married to her, rather than defile and convert her into a street girl, then complain of how useless women are, whereas you're the ones making them useless.

All indecent girls were once decent, getting a decent girl today doesn't mean she can't be indecent tomorrow
The question is that what if by playing decent she ends up with someone else after I've stay with her

themaestro08:


You know little to nothing bro... A virgin could be wide and deep down there. It's nothing new. Maybe you haven't cone across them but they do exist.

I've had a fair taste of girls , even during my schooling days...but I've never been with a virgin, she's the first!!..... The fact still remains that you can never easily penetrate a virgin ...you can never!!

Nazgul:

Name the ones you know that are 91% safe, and wouldn't have severe side effects on the womb when taken for a long period of time?

The condom, the contraceptive pill, as well as the implant. Further more you have the contraceptive ring and the injection variant. All are highly effective and safe to use. It boils down to which suit you best.

Keep in mind there are many contraception pharmaceutical companies out there and quality differs.

Thinee:


I've had a fair taste of girls , even during my schooling days...but I've never been with a virgin, she's the first!!..... The fact still remains that you can never easily penetrate a virgin ...you can never!!

What made it a fact?

Thinee:

All indecent girls were once decent, getting a decent girl today doesn't mean she can't be indecent tomorrow
The question is that what if by playing decent she ends up with someone else after I've stay with her

Stop seeing negativity when there is none.

A girl will leave you for the following reasons.

1. If she notices that you're a chronic cheat/womanizer.

2. You're the type who yells at her and even beat her up whenever you're angry.

3. You lie a lot and you're cunning. Most of the things you told her about yourself, are all lies.

4. You're only interested in sex. You care less about her life, dreams, visions, goals...etc.

5. You don't behave or act like someone who has a goal to achieve. You're so comfortable with your current state and show very little effort in career advancement.

6. You are very bossy, controlling, demanding.

7. She doesn't feel comfortable sharing personal secrets about herself or family with you.

8. She doesn't enjoy your company.

9. You complain and nag over irrelevant issues.

If you're guilty of one or more of these, then change cos she'll definitely leave you for a guy with much better prospects, she she won't be the only one to do so. Other girls will leave you as well.

Argue all you want, and say whatever you like, still doesn't negate my stance. As for you and your manipulative gf, I don commot my hand for una matter . Your confusion just begins.

themaestro08:


This is getting ridiculous: I mean we are talking about a girl who came all the way from illorin to delta to co-habit with a guy for an indefinite period of time - what was she expecting? Prayers and sermons?

then let the guy leave the girl alone!
Does he want to rape the girl by force?

Thinee:



Lol she stays with her parents , Ive spoken to her mum about 2 times and her mum knows we are in a relationship, but I don't think her mum know she's staying at my place cus she also has her own place over here in delta, tho the rent will soon expire
I agreed her coming over cus I wanted a future with us both and I see a future with us....so the sex was just a side something, she knows the kinda person I am ...that's why we talked about sex also cus she know I love it ..
If you read well you will see we have agreed along time on the sex issues ,only for her to come over and said another cus she said she couldn't tell me on phone


And let be sincere here....many of you guys talking here can't do without sex in your relationship ...so you all shouldn't make me feel like a bad person

Bro nobody is making you feel bad. If you want a future with her as you said... The sex thing is never gonna be a stumbling block. Cos you gonna own the coochie after marriage. So what's the yarn?

coming2america:


YOU CANT MARRY HER, ARE YOU DEAF?
24yr old boy, with a 22/yr old. The only thing you can do now is fvck, her thats all.
In 10yrs sef you wont be ready and sont even remember this girls name.

Her husband will show up in the next 3yrs of her life, else she will also joing the gang of old, old bitter haaanty dem by 30.

So what you are saying is that I should just try to Bleep her then as we can't get married ..so I don't loss on both side ??