| Re: Some Damaging Words My Wife Said During A Quarrel by Damitism: 4:43pm On Jan 11, 2021 |
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| Re: Some Damaging Words My Wife Said During A Quarrel by victorazyvictor(m): 4:44pm On Jan 11, 2021 |
CrescentMoon:
Let me first tell you my kind of character. For you to make me angry, you have to repeat an offense more than 30 to 40 times. After each offence, I would only give you facial expression that will let you know that you offended me. And I would ensure you get the message.
So wife kept repeating same offence. I told her I don't like what she was doing. She said she would adjust, but kept repeating the same thing. When I got fed up, I tried to retaliate. My only retaliation is that I stopped being around in the house. I would leave the house very early in the morning and return late at night. I would go for business in another town and return 4 days later. She knows nothing stops me from coming home everyday from the other town because I have means of transportation. She flared up. Started calling relatives that I'm maltreating her. They asked her to say which ways I have been maltreating her...she said I'm avoiding our home. Relatives asked if I'm beating or starving her. She said no.
I know why it pained her very well. If she wants to go and urinate outside, I would go and drop her there. When she is through, she would call me and I would go and pick her up again.
She's a woman that's always settling fights for couples in the street. So, she never wanted it to be heard anywhere that we are quarelling in our home. She won't want anybody to come to our house to settle disputes. So this prolongs our fights always.
When she couldn't bear it again, she sent a message to me that goes like this: I INITIALLY DIDN'T WANT TO DIVORCE YOU BECAUSE OF YOUR DISABILITY AS I PITY YOU. BUT NOW, IT'S OVER. YOU HAVE TO BEAR THE CONSEQUENCES OF YOUR ACTIONS TOWARDS ME ALL THESE YEARS. WHAT DID I HAVE TO DO WITH A JUJU DIABOLIC MAN IN THE FIRST INSTANCE.
Let me disect those words in capital letters for you. I have a disability, but you can't notice it easily until you start talking to me. She said I have to bear the consequences of my actions towards her... looking back, I have done unimaginable things to make her happy. I even saved her life when she didn't want blood transfusion from unknown persons as a result of her Christian belief not to contract demons from the blood of unknown person. Fortunately, my blood group is that of a universal donor. That means I can donate blood for anybody. Note that she had never done any noteworthy thing for me apart from giving birth to our babies. About being a juju man, I will tell you how she arrived at this: somebody was about to give birth from her family side and the baby was in breech position. She asked for advice and I told her that if I take the woman to the village my uncle will give the woman a concoction to reverse it. Her faith is against it, but because someone from her side just gave birth through CS, which almost led to the death of mother and baby, she asked me to take the woman to the village. The breech position was reversed. I'm surprised she now labelled me a juju man.
Instead of me to take her message personal, I urged her to please herself. This infuriated her the more. Instead of leaving me, she invited someone to intervene, tracked me to the second town, and it was settled there.
My problem now is that those words are still ringing in my head... someone I thought was a lover said she married me out of piety. Juju man  2 Likes |
| Re: Some Damaging Words My Wife Said During A Quarrel by Sunnydoo: 4:45pm On Jan 11, 2021 |
This is nice. Let me keep it in my archive. More wisdom abimbola74:
Aswear she didn’t mean those words . Women and their mouth like tap water. She just want to hurt you with words and let you feel miserable. Show her this text and tell her you won’t delete that message that it reminds you who she really is and watch how she will cry uncontrollably. Bruh abeg no vex |
| Re: Some Damaging Words My Wife Said During A Quarrel by duality(m): 4:47pm On Jan 11, 2021 |
It this situation was the other way around,
You can imagine the kind of insults you Will see against the man.
Quite interesting. 1 Like |
| Re: Some Damaging Words My Wife Said During A Quarrel by ezebunafo(m): 4:47pm On Jan 11, 2021 |
CalliDora1:
Stop holding on to those words. She said them out of anger and didn't really mean them otherwise she would have made good her threat and not bothered settling with you. Holding on to those words will only keep putting a strain on your marriage and reduce your love for her.
She still loves you. Just forgive and forget. you are right bro,my wife says much more,but trust me she doesn't joke with me,only a way of getting back at me when she is pained by my actions,but am used to it now,since she discovers it doesn't have effect on me,at times she will feign serious but unknowingly will bust into laughter,and we move on. 1 Like |
| Re: Some Damaging Words My Wife Said During A Quarrel by Agbebakun22: 4:47pm On Jan 11, 2021 |
MondayOsunbor:
if i tell una wetin my woman dey tell me whenever she vex
your guys will happily get me license to kill
Boss are u from Edo state, person weh I know say e bear this ur name before na e be Lawrence Anini lieutenant in crime committing, maybe you were born before the reign of Lawrence Anini |
| Re: Some Damaging Words My Wife Said During A Quarrel by Ghostmode2two(m): 4:49pm On Jan 11, 2021 |
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| Re: Some Damaging Words My Wife Said During A Quarrel by mine85(m): 4:50pm On Jan 11, 2021 |
All wives get bad mouth, so no think say this words can only come out from her.... It can come out from 99%. If they love you so much, they use harsh words more stronger when angry.
So, calm down bros. No think say another person wife better pass your own. If you divorce marry another one, she fit tell u worse.
Be the man, manage your home. Everything rises and fall on leadership, you are the leader in your home, if there is a divorce, we will blame you and not her because she is who she is.... They all talk too much. 3 Likes |
| Re: Some Damaging Words My Wife Said During A Quarrel by chaloskyx: 4:51pm On Jan 11, 2021 |
MY ADVISE STAY IN THE MARRIAGE CAUSE OF THE KIDS BUT MAKE PREPERATIONS TO SURVIVE WITHOUT HER AS IT SEEMS SHE DOES NOT LOVE YOU AT ALL BUT IF YOU GUYS DONT HAVE KIDS I THINK YOU SHOULD CONSIDER LEAVING HER CAUSE SHES NOT A GOOD PERSON AND THE LOVE AND AFFECTION IN THE MARRIAGE IS OBVIOUSLY ONESIDED. |
| Re: Some Damaging Words My Wife Said During A Quarrel by Nobody: 4:52pm On Jan 11, 2021 |
CrescentMoon:
Let me first tell you my kind of character. For you to make me angry, you have to repeat an offense more than 30 to 40 times. After each offence, I would only give you facial expression that will let you know that you offended me. And I would ensure you get the message.
So wife kept repeating same offence. I told her I don't like what she was doing. She said she would adjust, but kept repeating the same thing. When I got fed up, I tried to retaliate. My only retaliation is that I stopped being around in the house. I would leave the house very early in the morning and return late at night. I would go for business in another town and return 4 days later. She knows nothing stops me from coming home everyday from the other town because I have means of transportation. She flared up. Started calling relatives that I'm maltreating her. They asked her to say which ways I have been maltreating her...she said I'm avoiding our home. Relatives asked if I'm beating or starving her. She said no.
I know why it pained her very well. If she wants to go and urinate outside, I would go and drop her there. When she is through, she would call me and I would go and pick her up again.
She's a woman that's always settling fights for couples in the street. So, she never wanted it to be heard anywhere that we are quarelling in our home. She won't want anybody to come to our house to settle disputes. So this prolongs our fights always.
When she couldn't bear it again, she sent a message to me that goes like this: I INITIALLY DIDN'T WANT TO DIVORCE YOU BECAUSE OF YOUR DISABILITY AS I PITY YOU. BUT NOW, IT'S OVER. YOU HAVE TO BEAR THE CONSEQUENCES OF YOUR ACTIONS TOWARDS ME ALL THESE YEARS. WHAT DID I HAVE TO DO WITH A JUJU DIABOLIC MAN IN THE FIRST INSTANCE.
Let me disect those words in capital letters for you. I have a disability, but you can't notice it easily until you start talking to me. She said I have to bear the consequences of my actions towards her... looking back, I have done unimaginable things to make her happy. I even saved her life when she didn't want blood transfusion from unknown persons as a result of her Christian belief not to contract demons from the blood of unknown person. Fortunately, my blood group is that of a universal donor. That means I can donate blood for anybody. Note that she had never done any noteworthy thing for me apart from giving birth to our babies. About being a juju man, I will tell you how she arrived at this: somebody was about to give birth from her family side and the baby was in breech position. She asked for advice and I told her that if I take the woman to the village my uncle will give the woman a concoction to reverse it. Her faith is against it, but because someone from her side just gave birth through CS, which almost led to the death of mother and baby, she asked me to take the woman to the village. The breech position was reversed. I'm surprised she now labelled me a juju man.
Instead of me to take her message personal, I urged her to please herself. This infuriated her the more. Instead of leaving me, she invited someone to intervene, tracked me to the second town, and it was settled there.
My problem now is that those words are still ringing in my head... someone I thought was a lover said she married me out of piety. I HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR ABOUT 18YRS NOW WITH FOUR BEAUTFUL CHILDREN. NUMBER ONE THING I HAVE LERNT ABOUT WOMEN IS,DO NOTSHOW THEM YOU LOVE THEM LIKE KILODE THEY WILL ALWAYS HURT YOUR FEELINGS.FROM THE START OF THE RELASHIONSHIP PUT AN ALLOWANCE SO THAT YOU WILL NEVER BE ON THE RECEIVING END AT ALL TIMES. 1 Like |
| Re: Some Damaging Words My Wife Said During A Quarrel by Nobody: 4:53pm On Jan 11, 2021 |
ezebunafo:
you are right bro,my wife says much more,but trust me she doesn't joke with me,only a way of getting back at me when she is pained by my actions,but am used to it now,since she discovers it doesn't have effect on me,at times she will feign serious but unknowingly will bust into laughter,and we move on. That's exactly how its suppose to be. She prolly felt that was the only painful way to get at him to reset his brain. Not like she meant it to demean him. Afterall, na her "thing" (@ the man). 1 Like |
| Re: Some Damaging Words My Wife Said During A Quarrel by deltateam: 5:00pm On Jan 11, 2021 |
CrescentMoon:
Let me first tell you my kind of character. For you to make me angry, you have to repeat an offense more than 30 to 40 times. After each offence, I would only give you facial expression that will let you know that you offended me. And I would ensure you get the message.
So wife kept repeating same offence. I told her I don't like what she was doing. She said she would adjust, but kept repeating the same thing. When I got fed up, I tried to retaliate. My only retaliation is that I stopped being around in the house. I would leave the house very early in the morning and return late at night. I would go for business in another town and return 4 days later. She knows nothing stops me from coming home everyday from the other town because I have means of transportation. She flared up. Started calling relatives that I'm maltreating her. They asked her to say which ways I have been maltreating her...she said I'm avoiding our home. Relatives asked if I'm beating or starving her. She said no.
I know why it pained her very well. If she wants to go and urinate outside, I would go and drop her there. When she is through, she would call me and I would go and pick her up again.
She's a woman that's always settling fights for couples in the street. So, she never wanted it to be heard anywhere that we are quarelling in our home. She won't want anybody to come to our house to settle disputes. So this prolongs our fights always.
When she couldn't bear it again, she sent a message to me that goes like this: I INITIALLY DIDN'T WANT TO DIVORCE YOU BECAUSE OF YOUR DISABILITY AS I PITY YOU. BUT NOW, IT'S OVER. YOU HAVE TO BEAR THE CONSEQUENCES OF YOUR ACTIONS TOWARDS ME ALL THESE YEARS. WHAT DID I HAVE TO DO WITH A JUJU DIABOLIC MAN IN THE FIRST INSTANCE.
Let me disect those words in capital letters for you. I have a disability, but you can't notice it easily until you start talking to me. She said I have to bear the consequences of my actions towards her... looking back, I have done unimaginable things to make her happy. I even saved her life when she didn't want blood transfusion from unknown persons as a result of her Christian belief not to contract demons from the blood of unknown person. Fortunately, my blood group is that of a universal donor. That means I can donate blood for anybody. Note that she had never done any noteworthy thing for me apart from giving birth to our babies. About being a juju man, I will tell you how she arrived at this: somebody was about to give birth from her family side and the baby was in breech position. She asked for advice and I told her that if I take the woman to the village my uncle will give the woman a concoction to reverse it. Her faith is against it, but because someone from her side just gave birth through CS, which almost led to the death of mother and baby, she asked me to take the woman to the village. The breech position was reversed. I'm surprised she now labelled me a juju man.
Instead of me to take her message personal, I urged her to please herself. This infuriated her the more. Instead of leaving me, she invited someone to intervene, tracked me to the second town, and it was settled there.
My problem now is that those words are still ringing in my head... someone I thought was a lover said she married me out of piety. Hahaha. Oga nobi beg you beg am to marry you? Seriously women need to check their words. E fit kill pesin. Op forgive her. |
| Re: Some Damaging Words My Wife Said During A Quarrel by stonecoldcafe: 5:01pm On Jan 11, 2021 |
CrescentMoon:
Let me first tell you my kind of character. For you to make me angry, you have to repeat an offense more than 30 to 40 times. After each offence, I would only give you facial expression that will let you know that you offended me. And I would ensure y
My problem now is that those words are still ringing in my head... someone I thought was a lover said she married me out of piety. If you cannot forgive in this life, do not marry. I repeat, DO NOT MARRY In the institution called marriage, your spouse will hurt you (knowingly/unknowingly) with action and sometimes words, you are supposed to talk it out, make corrections, forgive and forget. All these married guys you see making out and doing anniversary post online, none of them is perfect. The inside of marriage is sometimes fraught with challenges, crying, making up, lack of funds, making up some more, praying, deep talks late into the night, praying some more... no one sees all that. Its the hard work that comes with the territory. Its the asoebi, laughter, kisses, children gathered around, we all like and pray for. Oga, she has apologized, forgive. She is making efforts to see you back at home, don't tarry for too long in your second location before you give room for outsiders or strange women. If you are a Christian, ask God to help you heal the hurt. Good luck 2 Likes |
| Re: Some Damaging Words My Wife Said During A Quarrel by Toks2008(m): 5:02pm On Jan 11, 2021 |
CrescentMoon:
Let me first tell you my kind of character. For you to make me angry, you have to repeat an offense more than 30 to 40 times. After each offence, I would only give you facial expression that will let you know that you offended me. And I would ensure you get the message.
So wife kept repeating same offence. I told her I don't like what she was doing. She said she would adjust, but kept repeating the same thing. When I got fed up, I tried to retaliate. My only retaliation is that I stopped being around in the house. I would leave the house very early in the morning and return late at night. I would go for business in another town and return 4 days later. She knows nothing stops me from coming home everyday from the other town because I have means of transportation. She flared up. Started calling relatives that I'm maltreating her. They asked her to say which ways I have been maltreating her...she said I'm avoiding our home. Relatives asked if I'm beating or starving her. She said no.
I know why it pained her very well. If she wants to go and urinate outside, I would go and drop her there. When she is through, she would call me and I would go and pick her up again.
She's a woman that's always settling fights for couples in the street. So, she never wanted it to be heard anywhere that we are quarelling in our home. She won't want anybody to come to our house to settle disputes. So this prolongs our fights always.
When she couldn't bear it again, she sent a message to me that goes like this: I INITIALLY DIDN'T WANT TO DIVORCE YOU BECAUSE OF YOUR DISABILITY AS I PITY YOU. BUT NOW, IT'S OVER. YOU HAVE TO BEAR THE CONSEQUENCES OF YOUR ACTIONS TOWARDS ME ALL THESE YEARS. WHAT DID I HAVE TO DO WITH A JUJU DIABOLIC MAN IN THE FIRST INSTANCE.
Let me disect those words in capital letters for you. I have a disability, but you can't notice it easily until you start talking to me. She said I have to bear the consequences of my actions towards her... looking back, I have done unimaginable things to make her happy. I even saved her life when she didn't want blood transfusion from unknown persons as a result of her Christian belief not to contract demons from the blood of unknown person. Fortunately, my blood group is that of a universal donor. That means I can donate blood for anybody. Note that she had never done any noteworthy thing for me apart from giving birth to our babies. About being a juju man, I will tell you how she arrived at this: somebody was about to give birth from her family side and the baby was in breech position. She asked for advice and I told her that if I take the woman to the village my uncle will give the woman a concoction to reverse it. Her faith is against it, but because someone from her side just gave birth through CS, which almost led to the death of mother and baby, she asked me to take the woman to the village. The breech position was reversed. I'm surprised she now labelled me a juju man.
Instead of me to take her message personal, I urged her to please herself. This infuriated her the more. Instead of leaving me, she invited someone to intervene, tracked me to the second town, and it was settled there.
My problem now is that those words are still ringing in my head... someone I thought was a lover said she married me out of piety. Hahahahha..i laugh in Egun Language. Bro dont let it hurt you. Ladies marry guys for many reasons and she marrying you out of pity means she loves you naturally...take my word for it. Let it go and go settle with your wife and mother of your kids. She is a sweet lady but remember that no lady is perfect o..all of them get serious wahala so just learn how to manage your woman. 1 Like |
| Re: Some Damaging Words My Wife Said During A Quarrel by Oljunaid(m): 5:02pm On Jan 11, 2021 |
I can bet my life she doesn't mean those words.
Women are not to be judged by what they say,but by what they actually do.
Forgive her... After all, marriage is a union of two forgivers. 3 Likes |
| Re: Some Damaging Words My Wife Said During A Quarrel by MondayOsunbor(m): 5:03pm On Jan 11, 2021 |
Agbebakun22:
Boss are u from Edo state, person weh I know say e bear this ur name before na e be Lawrence Anini lieutenant in crime committing, maybe you were born before the reign of Lawrence Anini As my senior brother you shebi pass me na So abeg educate me again |
| Re: Some Damaging Words My Wife Said During A Quarrel by adeskee(m): 5:03pm On Jan 11, 2021 |
abimbola74:
Aswear she didn’t mean those words . Women and their mouth like tap water. She just want to hurt you with words and let you feel miserable. Show her this text and tell her you won’t delete that message that it reminds you who she really is and watch how she will cry uncontrollably. Bruh abeg no vex You deserve some accolades bro 2 Likes |
| Re: Some Damaging Words My Wife Said During A Quarrel by deltateam: 5:04pm On Jan 11, 2021 |
candyguyofficia:
Not nice, those were some strong words she used and a said word can't be unsaid. However, been that you said you both already made peace try and forget what she said. I pray she doesn't repeat what she said but should she do such you can then take a firm decision. Oga which firm decision. Marriage needs maturity. emotional maturity in this case. Just don't think on it. tell yourself it never happened. I don't know if I can't donate blood to anyone. I heard labs even pay blood donors. Op she has your blood in her. Forgive her because you promised to. Remember. |
| Re: Some Damaging Words My Wife Said During A Quarrel by MadeMan01(m): 5:04pm On Jan 11, 2021 |
CuteMike01:
It is a relationship. Words would be uttered in anger, it is inevitable but isn't enough reason to make you feel indifferent towards her. Trust me, those were just words of pain. Nothing to fret about Harsh Words when spoken can be explained away in heat if the moment. But when it is thought, conceived, typed out or written , composed and sent, it is permanent and from the soul. |
| Re: Some Damaging Words My Wife Said During A Quarrel by ChngedChnges(m): 5:07pm On Jan 11, 2021 |
CrescentMoon:
Let me first tell you my kind of character. For you to make me angry, you have to repeat an offense more than 30 to 40 times. After each offence, I would only give you facial expression that will let you know that you offended me. And I would ensure you get the message.
So wife kept repeating same offence. I told her I don't like what she was doing. She said she would adjust, but kept repeating the same thing. When I got fed up, I tried to retaliate. My only retaliation is that I stopped being around in the house. I would leave the house very early in the morning and return late at night. I would go for business in another town and return 4 days later. She knows nothing stops me from coming home everyday from the other town because I have means of transportation. She flared up. Started calling relatives that I'm maltreating her. They asked her to say which ways I have been maltreating her...she said I'm avoiding our home. Relatives asked if I'm beating or starving her. She said no.
I know why it pained her very well. If she wants to go and urinate outside, I would go and drop her there. When she is through, she would call me and I would go and pick her up again.
She's a woman that's always settling fights for couples in the street. So, she never wanted it to be heard anywhere that we are quarelling in our home. She won't want anybody to come to our house to settle disputes. So this prolongs our fights always.
When she couldn't bear it again, she sent a message to me that goes like this: I INITIALLY DIDN'T WANT TO DIVORCE YOU BECAUSE OF YOUR DISABILITY AS I PITY YOU. BUT NOW, IT'S OVER. YOU HAVE TO BEAR THE CONSEQUENCES OF YOUR ACTIONS TOWARDS ME ALL THESE YEARS. WHAT DID I HAVE TO DO WITH A JUJU DIABOLIC MAN IN THE FIRST INSTANCE.
Let me disect those words in capital letters for you. I have a disability, but you can't notice it easily until you start talking to me. She said I have to bear the consequences of my actions towards her... looking back, I have done unimaginable things to make her happy. I even saved her life when she didn't want blood transfusion from unknown persons as a result of her Christian belief not to contract demons from the blood of unknown person. Fortunately, my blood group is that of a universal donor. That means I can donate blood for anybody. Note that she had never done any noteworthy thing for me apart from giving birth to our babies. About being a juju man, I will tell you how she arrived at this: somebody was about to give birth from her family side and the baby was in breech position. She asked for advice and I told her that if I take the woman to the village my uncle will give the woman a concoction to reverse it. Her faith is against it, but because someone from her side just gave birth through CS, which almost led to the death of mother and baby, she asked me to take the woman to the village. The breech position was reversed. I'm surprised she now labelled me a juju man.
Instead of me to take her message personal, I urged her to please herself. This infuriated her the more. Instead of leaving me, she invited someone to intervene, tracked me to the second town, and it was settled there.
My problem now is that those words are still ringing in my head... someone I thought was a lover said she married me out of piety. Please sir she never said she married you out of pity but she could have divorced you if not she pitied u. Understanding her statements first is the beginning of d freedom of ur heart. Take heart bro. Divorce is never an option 1 Like |
| Re: Some Damaging Words My Wife Said During A Quarrel by mozes01(m): 5:07pm On Jan 11, 2021 |
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| Re: Some Damaging Words My Wife Said During A Quarrel by walletxtra: 5:07pm On Jan 11, 2021 |
abimbola74:
Aswear she didn’t mean those words . Women and their mouth like tap water. She just want to hurt you with words and let you feel miserable. Show her this text and tell her you won’t delete that message that it reminds you who she really is and watch how she will cry uncontrollably. Bruh abeg no vex THIS IS JUST THE FACT 1 Like |
| Re: Some Damaging Words My Wife Said During A Quarrel by Agbebakun22: 5:08pm On Jan 11, 2021 |
MondayOsunbor:
As my senior brother you shebi pass me na
So abeg educate me again Lol I'm not insulting u bro just surprise someone bear the name, well monday osunbor was Anini boy especially in early eighties who terrorise, rob and hijacked people cars but he was caught along with his boss( Anini) I think 1986 or so can't really remember much about the year.. But the man shake bendel gan ooo no be small |
| Re: Some Damaging Words My Wife Said During A Quarrel by mozes01(m): 5:08pm On Jan 11, 2021 |
okrikaboi:
You just got disrespected. It will happen again unless you man up and state your new terms. GRAB THEM BY THE PUSSY Donald Trump'' is that you sir? |
| Re: Some Damaging Words My Wife Said During A Quarrel by deltateam: 5:09pm On Jan 11, 2021 |
CalliDora1:
Stop holding on to those words. She said them out of anger and didn't really mean them otherwise she would have made good her threat and not bothered settling with you. Holding on to those words will only keep putting a strain on your marriage and reduce your love for her.
She still loves you. Just forgive and forget. She doesn't mean say she dey manage him? Abi say he no complete  |
| Re: Some Damaging Words My Wife Said During A Quarrel by Roseey0(f): 5:10pm On Jan 11, 2021 |
Did she lie in any of these?
You already explained how she came up with the things she used against you.
It's insult. Thats what people do when they feel hurt by you. They use your disadvantages to make you feel bad.
Just forgive her since she has begged.
Try to forget it and move on. You feel she hasn't done anything tangible for you but she carried your babies. You think that is easy?
Just let it go and build your home from the scratch.
Pls I am interested in that juju that reverse breach babies biko. Knowledge that our stupid government has refused to recognise. People that should be made professors and brought to teach doctors how to do these things. They abandon ancient knowledge that has helped us from time immemorial. Pls I am interested. Make that man no die with that juju o. I need am 2 Likes |
| Re: Some Damaging Words My Wife Said During A Quarrel by toprealman: 5:10pm On Jan 11, 2021 |
Man know thyself.
When people say they don't get angry, I see that as a red flag.
You see those I'm a nice person, counsellor....bla bla bla,forget it. They are beautiful to outsiders, having all sorts of solutions to external challenges but never able to handle their internal issue.
Give it time, you will heal. The decision is yours to make.... |
| Re: Some Damaging Words My Wife Said During A Quarrel by jagorinho: 5:13pm On Jan 11, 2021 |
SolidGains:
Pls how do you get a good grip on a woman?
Remember you won't get a grip by beating her
You won't get a grip by staying aloof or ignoring her
You must continue to provide for her needs
How then can a man get a good grip on her wife? To get a grip is easier at the initial stage, when familiarity and unnecessary truancies can be checked but in Op's case it is going to be difficult to restore order to that relationship, you can't just be too free with a lady for many years and decides to pull the plug suddenly and expect everything to fall into place like like that, No!!! For a fresh relationship, your Aura as man is a good indicator on the type of grip you will have on a relationship, you can be so close to a lady and yet be far, you must be unpredictable and when a lady knows that any discontent from her part would always lead to unpredictable repercussions from you, she will try as much as possible to reduce her inadequacies. By the way, going physical on a woman is an attribute of a weakling but unfortunately for some men, their fist is the first line of attack when faced with problems women bring. 1 Like |
| Re: Some Damaging Words My Wife Said During A Quarrel by Princedapace(m): 5:13pm On Jan 11, 2021 |
CalliDora1:
Why didn't he state the things she kept doing if its actually something that holds water? And if he himself is a perfect and straight forward fellow. No, he left that out and only magnified the words she said.
until we hear from both sides, I'll say it's a two fighting situation and not only one person should be judged here. They both share in the blames if any and should let it slide. He seems like a hard to please man for him to still be holding on to those words. I am not saying that he is perfect. No! I only told u the reality that he will never forget the words.. I also said adults should be responsible with their tongues that even bible admonished us to do same. U can have misunderstanding with your partner, surely, but be mindful of the words used becus they can never be withdrawn back. I dont know what u are stating though. That adults should go ahead and be abusing their partners anyhow? Verbal abuse is one of major cause of physical abuse. The worse is for ur partner to use ur disability to insult u. My dear, such can never be forgotten. It is like a man who married a crippled lady. When they had issues, he told her that 'I dont blame u, I married a crippled lady like u out of pity...' Lol, that lady will cry for a long time. Or ur partner calling u a prostitute when u are not. My dear, as adults, we should behave well with our tongues, pls. 1 Like |
| Re: Some Damaging Words My Wife Said During A Quarrel by yoboone(m): 5:15pm On Jan 11, 2021 |
My former babe once called me "YOU GOOD FOR NOTHING SMALL PR*CK" just to hurt me and that was a lady what would always beg me to stop or take it easy when doing it.
OGA, she didnt mean all those words but if i be u, i would let her know that i can always do without her despite my disability by continuing doing those things u were doing before she came begging. Still love and provide for her but just pretend you dont love her anymore. |
| Re: Some Damaging Words My Wife Said During A Quarrel by lanreHeda: 5:16pm On Jan 11, 2021 |
Ezini:
I beg to differ a bit
OP tortured the wife to a point of contemplating suicide if she were to be a weak person
That was a real psychological trauma,
Those hurtful words were the last struggles of a drowning person, anything to make you feel what she was feeling
Afterall when she said she was done with the marriage and you added salt to injury by asking her to suit herself, did she leave you?
Rather she became scared and frantic
Your wife loves you very well,
On the issue of repeating an offence, marriage is a union of two different people, you may not be able to change her, consider taking her for who she is,
Lol, why were you angry, is your uncle not a juju man? accept it n move on biko,
Dont just make a.woman mad, some will pour you boiled water and still offer to stay out the time with you in hospital, when the anger dies down The fact that you think what you wrote, including the bit about boiled water, is considered to be normal behaviour is scary. 1 Like |
| Re: Some Damaging Words My Wife Said During A Quarrel by Nobody: 5:17pm On Jan 11, 2021 |
deltateam:
She doesn't mean say she dey manage him? Abi say he no complete I'm telling you, she doesn't mean it. If a woman doesnt love you truly, she won't even be able to bring herself to tell you that.. I remember telling my ex, he looks like aje kpako just to make him stop his akor ( his swag was too much and girls were flocking around him). He came back asking, jgurl, do I really look like kpako? I said yes nau and he just laughed it off saying, "you this girl you won't kill me" because I was still with him despite saying that and we moved on. 1 Like |
