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Pmedia7787:
Take care

You lost your peace

Don't lose your life

LadySarah:
then leave her and marry the perfect creature you kept somewhere.

If you were in her shoes or she's your sister ,you'll be happy with her phantom husband.

See your mouth see my wife when to pay brideprice is like canada Visa to you. 6 whole yrs you tied someone s daughter down just to punish her. mtcheww!

NwaAmaikpe:




I have only two advices, one question and a conclusion.

1st advice:
Stop calling her your wife; you deserve better. Better excitement, better conquests, better commitment, better sacrifices, better honesty.
Just consider your 6 years with her as fore-play or an Industrial Training on marriage. You're only using her to train yourself into becoming the ideal man for your real wife.

2nd advice:
No lady learns how to kiss from Telemundo.
Women learn through practice and not through visuals. Her proficiency in kissing now should also give you a clue to how devoted she is to infidelity.
Her increased secrecy and new benefactor is more than a red flag.
4k is symbolic...Most Igbo men won't send a random lady 4k unless he has or will 4rk her.

Don't feel any guilt if you don't marry her.
There is no law that says that we must marry any lady who we cohabit with or who has a baby for us.
You've done your best for her, she's even the reason you are broke and in debt.
So don't be trapped into a long journey of regret.

Question:
If you join a bus from Awka to Lagos that allows you pay upon arrival at your destination and you notice at Nkpor that the driver is not driving so fast because the shaft is faulty then this bus breaks down at Umunede but is fixed yet still moving very slowly and you truly doubt it's capability to take you safely and in time to Lagos; will you continue your trip in this bus or will you get down, use your money and look for a better bus that will give you peace of mind?

Conclusion:
Read the signs.
Dump her before she dumps you.
Shalom.

LadyTianna:
Oh please. Which kind of stupid love is that. He said he punishes her by extending the action of paying her bride price. Do you know the psychological implication of living as a baby mama with a man you're not married to for so many years? I honestly would not blame such a woman for trying to find a more serious suitor. He sounds so immature

futurerex:
What is this one saying? Abegi, go meet her make una settle unaselves or involve family elders.

Ishilove:
Don't blame him. It is the chicken legged woman who chose to be tied down for 6 years that you will blame. If after 2 years no sign of seriousness then any woman whose umbilical cord was not used for rituals is supposed to pack her kaya and geddifok.

NoToPile:
The bolded sounds harsh but ehn it is what it is.


There's a simple rule to this, marry a man properly then start a family, it saves a lot of headache , how some ladies still don't understand this simple principle is what I still don't get.

Imagine him saying he is using delaying payment of bride price as punishment.

You saw alert of 4k from an Igboman you have concluded immediately, sebi she has a shop shey customer cannot by 4k goods and transfer ni.

KidDarkness:
I see your point and I totally understand how you feel. I'm going to give you an advice and I won't repeat it because it's golden. You better sit that woman down, have a discussion with her. Remove that baby mama tag and turn it to wife. After eating the cookie right from the jar for more than six years without any direction, you now want to ditch her? For who na? You want to dump her on people like me that have not chop before abi? This is wickedness! After y'all will now tag her evening newspaper. Oga, that's your wife. If she sees direction in the relationship, she won't misbehave. For your own good and for people like me, abeg settle with your destined wife

ADEMALAIKA2:
Good evening all.

I just opened this thread to seek for opinion of what have been bothering my mind .

No1 .I have a baby mama staying with me for the past 6 years .We have been together for long and we live peacefully but on some occasions ,she gets on my nerve and I am the type that forgive easily couple with the fact that I love her .We ain't married yet because anytime she offends me ,it really hurt me and I keep punishing her by extending when we are going to make the coexistence official .I have a boy who is close to 3 years .

I am working as a salary earner but not getting enough pay as salary .Today ,I went to her shop .I needed #8,000 to be sent to her account to make some online payment because my ATM was not with me. I have the money as cash and my wife was to help me pay the money into her account so that I can use her card (Note that i call her wife and i do that anywhere even on social media ).My wife supposed to go to the next POS shop to pay the money into her account but she paid in #5,000 .She actually have money in her account to balance up my #8,000 but what surprised me is that when I tried to check how much she paid into her account ,I discovered a man (igbo by name ) sent #4,000 to her of recent and she still have the money in her account .I mentioned igbo because our families are not even related to igbo tribe .When I tried to hold to her phone very well ,she started dragging the phone with me .With this ,I know something was not right I just kept quiet Even till now ,I did not say anything (very unusual of me ).I later went out .I just came in now about to sleep.I rejected her dinner just now. .

No2.

I noticed for over three months now ,she have been so expert in kissing .Things we were not good at before but I didnt even raise an eyebrow about that though till now .I thought she learnt that through telemundo or whatever .I work in lagos and we live in lagos .Though sometimes,I may decide to spend 2 or 3 days at work but most times I come home everyday .

My point is that my landlord gave me 3-month quit notice and I am planning to relocate before April ending .I am thinking of not taking her along .My son is on holiday with my wife mother .I hope I will not be making a grievous mistake packing my things and leaving her behind to go back to her parent house .Anytime she offends me ,I feel so hurt and betrayed .This is someone I am owing a lot of people some money because I needed to get a shop for her and all my salary since I know her have always been spent on her and my son.Sometimes ,I send money to her relatives though I have stopped that anyway.

I plan to leave her behind and keep sending to her to take care of my son.I plan to only pick some essential items in the mini flat we presently leave .

I only want to start afresh.

faithfull18:
Lol, chief adviser.

SweetCunt97:
So what is stopping these people from communicating? You saw alert from an Igbo name and you already thinking negatively?

I have alerts from different humans who have never seen my pant talk more of anything and it means nothing. Affairs that can be easily sorted out, you wanna dump.

@Op who d fvck u wanna dump a Pucci you've fvcked for 6 years? Weak Coward.

joseph1832:
Like the woman didn't live under his roof for 6 years rent free? Put him in debt while living rent free under his roof and still have the nerve to cheat. Yeah I know...

Common now. The relationship is mutually beneficial. If and when he decides he doesn't want to Bleep her anymore, he's free to leave, after all couples divorce after 10 to 20 years of marriage.

So why call him a coward. Tssssk

Ishilove:
I don't really understand some people.

falcon01:
ahhh!!! chill lady, he shows her live nah besides from his write up he loves her and will marry her but things happening are making him have second doubts.

ADEMALAIKA2:
Good evening all.

I just opened this thread to seek for opinion of what have been bothering my mind .

No1 .I have a baby mama staying with me for the past 6 years .We have been together for long and we live peacefully but on some occasions ,she gets on my nerve and I am the type that forgive easily couple with the fact that I love her .We ain't married yet because anytime she offends me ,it really hurt me and I keep punishing her by extending when we are going to make the coexistence official .I have a boy who is close to 3 years .

I am working as a salary earner but not getting enough pay as salary .Today ,I went to her shop .I needed #8,000 to be sent to her account to make some online payment because my ATM was not with me. I have the money as cash and my wife was to help me pay the money into her account so that I can use her card (Note that i call her wife and i do that anywhere even on social media ).My wife supposed to go to the next POS shop to pay the money into her account but she paid in #5,000 .She actually have money in her account to balance up my #8,000 but what surprised me is that when I tried to check how much she paid into her account ,I discovered a man (igbo by name ) sent #4,000 to her of recent and she still have the money in her account .I mentioned igbo because our families are not even related to igbo tribe .When I tried to hold to her phone very well ,she started dragging the phone with me .With this ,I know something was not right I just kept quiet Even till now ,I did not say anything (very unusual of me ).I later went out .I just came in now about to sleep.I rejected her dinner just now. .

No2.

I noticed for over three months now ,she have been so expert in kissing .Things we were not good at before but I didnt even raise an eyebrow about that though till now .I thought she learnt that through telemundo or whatever .I work in lagos and we live in lagos .Though sometimes,I may decide to spend 2 or 3 days at work but most times I come home everyday .

My point is that my landlord gave me 3-month quit notice and I am planning to relocate before April ending .I am thinking of not taking her along .My son is on holiday with my wife mother .I hope I will not be making a grievous mistake packing my things and leaving her behind to go back to her parent house .Anytime she offends me ,I feel so hurt and betrayed .This is someone I am owing a lot of people some money because I needed to get a shop for her and all my salary since I know her have always been spent on her and my son.Sometimes ,I send money to her relatives though I have stopped that anyway.

I plan to leave her behind and keep sending to her to take care of my son.I plan to only pick some essential items in the mini flat we presently leave .

I only want to start afresh.

Sheikwonder:
Just logged in to Nairaland and this is the first comment I'm seeing after a long time. Pardon the digression oo, just want to say that I've missed you madam.

Ishilove:
Sheikwonderman! It's been ages

How have you been darling?

LadyTianna:
Foolish man. You've been cohabiting with her without paying her bride price for how many years. Why won't she cheat on you when you're so unserious with her. The part where you said you normally do it as punishment is what I find particularly irritating. As if marrying you is some sort of reward. I hope she finds someone better than you when you eventually pack out and leave her. What nonsense

Calm down and shut up!!!!
Why attack the poor man for not paying the bride yet

Does that has to do with anything

Didn't u hear lawfully wedded wife brings bastard home to their so called husband..........after paying heavy bride price on dem..........

ADEMALAIKA2:
Good evening all.

I just opened this thread to seek for opinion of what have been bothering my mind .

No1 .I have a baby mama staying with me for the past 6 years .We have been together for long and we live peacefully but on some occasions ,she gets on my nerve and I am the type that forgive easily couple with the fact that I love her .We ain't married yet because anytime she offends me ,it really hurt me and I keep punishing her by extending when we are going to make the coexistence official .I have a boy who is close to 3 years .

I am working as a salary earner but not getting enough pay as salary .Today ,I went to her shop .I needed #8,000 to be sent to her account to make some online payment because my ATM was not with me. I have the money as cash and my wife was to help me pay the money into her account so that I can use her card (Note that i call her wife and i do that anywhere even on social media ).My wife supposed to go to the next POS shop to pay the money into her account but she paid in #5,000 .She actually have money in her account to balance up my #8,000 but what surprised me is that when I tried to check how much she paid into her account ,I discovered a man (igbo by name ) sent #4,000 to her of recent and she still have the money in her account .I mentioned igbo because our families are not even related to igbo tribe .When I tried to hold to her phone very well ,she started dragging the phone with me .With this ,I know something was not right I just kept quiet Even till now ,I did not say anything (very unusual of me ).I later went out .I just came in now about to sleep.I rejected her dinner just now. .

No2.

I noticed for over three months now ,she have been so expert in kissing .Things we were not good at before but I didnt even raise an eyebrow about that though till now .I thought she learnt that through telemundo or whatever .I work in lagos and we live in lagos .Though sometimes,I may decide to spend 2 or 3 days at work but most times I come home everyday .

My point is that my landlord gave me 3-month quit notice and I am planning to relocate before April ending .I am thinking of not taking her along .My son is on holiday with my wife mother .I hope I will not be making a grievous mistake packing my things and leaving her behind to go back to her parent house .Anytime she offends me ,I feel so hurt and betrayed .This is someone I am owing a lot of people some money because I needed to get a shop for her and all my salary since I know her have always been spent on her and my son.Sometimes ,I send money to her relatives though I have stopped that anyway.

I plan to leave her behind and keep sending to her to take care of my son.I plan to only pick some essential items in the mini flat we presently leave .

I only want to start afresh.

[b]Hello op!!!!
If u wanna get your heart more shattered and yourself manipulated ehn
Just follow what any of those girls typed okay??

See them mention bride price asif that stops the girl from cheating

As if the lawfully wedded wives ain't the one bringing bastard home to their husbands recently............even after huge amount was paid on them as bride price.........

See....anything that cost u yo peace is too expensive for u.........avoid it!!!!!!!!

joseph1832:
Like the woman didn't live under his roof for 6 years rent free? Put him in debt while living rent free under his roof and still have the nerve to cheat. Yeah I know...

Common now. The relationship is mutually beneficial. If and when he decides he doesn't want to Bleep her anymore, he's free to leave, after all couples divorce after 10 to 20 years of marriage.

So why call him a coward. Tssssk

SweetCunt97:
There's no concrete evidence that she cheated naw. Abi are you the one she cheated with ni?

sisisioge:


They said intelligent women mostly find it hard finding a soul mate. Hian! Who dates these people biko! It is well.

joseph1832:
no concrete evidence she cheated yet there you are calling him a coward. Or you're the coward?

SweetCunt97:
Shey u saw me in your dream? What have I done to u? He's a coward for wanting to jump ship without any concrete reason. Why not communicate