Good evening nairalanders, pls i need advise, my counsin sister who is just 22 is demanding to live alone (she wants to move out of her father's house), but her parents disagreed with her decision.

This has brought a whole lot of confusion, because she is very serious with her decision and her parents (especially her mom) is totally against it.

Pls as a sister, what advise can i give to her, should i support her or i should advise her against it? and what are the of dangers living alone as a female?

Modified: My counsin is not a prostitue, I might not entirely know the reason she wants to live alone, but i'm sure her num1 major reason is noise, she is a very calm person who loves being alone, but since they are much in the house she doesn't have such opportuity, pls she's not a hoe, my question is what are the dangers of living alone as a lady?.

Your cousin's spending a little too much time on Twitter and it's brainwashing her.



Not that there's anything wrong with living alone but when you become so fixated with some matters like this one, it's a clear indication of a certain ideology.

Let her go.


When she runs into problems, she will come back begging.


She never learn, that's why.

She has tasted the rooster n know d sweetness nothing can stop her coz d medula has been formatted by one broke ass nigga!

She need space to take shine her Congo well well. For her little mind, her parents dey cockblock.

How independent is she Can she foot her bills?

Sundrus:
She need space to take shine her Congo well well. For her little mind, her parents dey cockblock.

very true

virginprincess:
Good evening nairalanders, pls i need advise, my counsin sister who is just 22 is demanding to live alone(she want to move out of her father's house), but her parent disagreed with her decision, this has brought a whole lot confusion, because she is very seriously with her decision and her parents (especially her mom) is totally against it, pls as a sister what advise can i give to her, should i support her or i should advise her against it? and what are the of dangers live alone as a female?

Mothers know their daughters better.

For her to be against it, then there's an evil motive behind their daughter's decision to leave.

lol she don dey taste gbola na
abeg free her mk she go shine her Congo jare

virginprincess:
Good evening nairalanders, pls i need advise, my counsin sister who is just 22 is demanding to live alone(she want to move out of her father's house), but her parent disagreed with her decision, this has brought a whole lot confusion, because she is very seriously with her decision and her parents (especially her mom) is totally against it, pls as a sister what advise can i give to her, should i support her or i should advise her against it? and what are the of dangers live alone as a female?

I don't see anything wrong in a female living alone. If she has a job/business that can foot her bills without the help of her parents, she can go ahead and rent an apartment.

Though based on the 'Nigeria factor', it is very early for a female at age 22 living with her parents to move to her own apartment..

overdrive:
How independent is she Can she foot her bills?

Well, she is actually through with school, right now she works with a bank in port-harcourt.

Ever since she rode on that dick, her reasoning has never remained the same.

Girls, una too like dick.

Her request to stay alone isn't bad. She's 22, and if she has a good job, she'll enjoy geninue peace of mind cos living alone is very good. You won't have to endure an irritating roommate, always getting on your nerves every now and then, nagging parents who will constantly remind you about the success story of all your mates, and your younger cousins who have all gotten married. Also, you can effectively budget your finances, economize your food and provisions, and manage your bills effectively.

As a girl there are few guidelines I'll give you to stay alone effectively most especially if you're not a runs girl.

1. Limit your friends. They say the average Nigerian loves free things. That's very true. If you stay alone, you must be very careful with who you let into your home. I remember how I parked out of the first house I rented with my money after my youth service. It was a one bedroom apartment, I had this friend who was always visiting. With time he uprgaded himself to my roommate without even my consent.

I didn't have any problem with that. The problem I had with him was that he doesn't contribute a penny to the house. From recharging the prepaid meter to recharging the cable TV, to buying food and provisions...even pure water this my so called friend couldn't get. The worse of it all was that he's a womanizer. Imagine coming back home from work tired only to see meet your bedroom locked by your roomie cos he's busy with a girl. I'll end up dozing off on the couch in the palour while waiting for them cos I can't access the bathroom without entering the bedroom which is locked by him.

We quarrelled over this severally. This guy will apologize, beg me and after some days or weeks repeat the same thing again. With time when the rent remained like 2 months to be due, I parked out and left him there. I've learned to limit the kind of people I allow into my home ever since.

2. Be security conscious. Don't be careless with your security. As a girl, you can easily be overpowered, drugged, raped, robbed... etc. So avoid unnecessary closeness with your neighbours most especially if they're guys whose source of income you have no idea of. Whenever you're at home, keep your doors locked at all times. Avoid inviting people you meet on social media into your home. Avoid accepting lift from strangers to your home. All these things will put your safety at risk.

3. Don't disclose your status. As a girl, telling guys that you stay alone isn't wise. When guys start asking don't keep them in silence or else they'll start guessing and might guess right. Just tell them that you don't stay alone. Cos if you don't they won't mind trailing you secretly just to know where you stay. Believe me some guys can be that jobless. And after one visit to your house, you'll need the police to keep them out. Cos some will go as far as threatening to harm you if you refuse to let them in.

If you're in a serious relationship your guy should be the only one who should know your house along with some of your female friends who are on the same financial status with you, and your family members. Every other person can meet you at your place of work, your church or in a public place.

My advice...tell her to do whatever is in her mind, she's an adult now and must be allowed to make her own choices.

As for her parents, let her explain to them and make them reason with her that she won't remain under their roof forever, so the sooner she begins to plan a life outside their roof, the better for her

Also I hope she's working, when I say working I mean 9am -5pm jobs with a reasonable pay check. Cos if a girl is staying alone without a reasonable source of income, she might be tempted to go into prostitution in order to survive. Tell her this.

A young lady living alone and the same time working in a bank has a higher probability of going into a whoring adventure due to the type and amount of men she'd likely meet on her line of work

Whether she's independent or not,the last thing I'd advise any man who has his third leg intact on what to do is to ever date a lady who lives alone unless you wanna be a co-husband to many other of her husbands that'd come visiting....

My immediate ex girlfriend falls into this category...and that's one major reason why I ghosted her ASAP

virginprincess:
Well, she is actually through with school, right now she works with a bank in port-harcourt.

Abeg let her leave cos she hv made up her mind already......


Now back to me and you.......


Hope u re still a virgin




If yes come let me lavish on you now dat i ve not officially joined SMAN.......

NwaAmaikpe:




Her parents should try and be understanding; didn't they experience puberty and it's resultant youthful exuberance?

At 22...her ovaries are already rioting.
At 22...her uterus hungers for constant semen
At 22...the blood vessels in her nippIes are gorging with blood desperately needing to be ravished.
At 22...her labia majora hungers to be spread apart.
At 22...she believes the world revolves around her kpekus and she is God's gift to men.

Will they be bappy if she feeds all of these cravings under their roof?

Any single girl of 22 who has the opportunity to live under her parents but wants to be independent by all means only has one driving reason; they want to be unchained hos.

NwaAmaikpe, my counsin is not a prostitute, i might not know her reason for wanting to live alone, but one thing is setting, she is not a prostitue, she's a very hardworking lady who works with a bank.

Donspicey:


Abeg let her leave cos she hv made up her mind already......


Now back to me and you.......


Hope u re still a virgin




If yes come let me lavish on you now dat i ve not officially joined SMAN.......

Please don't contaminate my sister... she's still a virgin and so what,wetin Cor concern you ?

Sonnobax15:

Please don't contaminate my sister... she's still a virgin and so what,wetin Cor concern you ?

See talk ooooo.....

Na u wan marry ur sister


Infact how did you confirm dat the hymen is still intact

If your cousin is Independence she is free to make a choice

There's nothing wrong with wanting to live alone....biko y'all should allow her...

But let her choose a save environment with good security...to avoid stories..

Please check my signature....and support my hussle...

Na wa oo

Maybe she, her siblings and both parents all live in one room. Otherwise, she is still kinda young to stay alone. Lots of security threats everywhere now, so staying alone for someone of her age should better be an estate or a decent place, but not in an isolated and too quiet community based apartment.

virginprincess:
Good evening nairalanders, pls i need advise, my counsin sister who is just 22 is demanding to live alone(she want to move out of her father's house), but her parent disagreed with her decision, this has brought a whole lot confusion, because she is very seriously with her decision and her parents (especially her mom) is totally against it, pls as a sister what advise can i give to her, should i support her or i should advise her against it? and what are the of dangers live alone as a female? Lalasticala, front page pls. Modified: My counsin is not a prostitue, i might not entirely know the reason she wants to live alone, but i'm sure her num1 major reason is noise, she is a very calm person who loves been alone, but since they are much in the house she doesn't have such opportuity, pls she's not a hoe, my question is what are the dangers of living alone as a lady?.

How can you be using “much” for humans that can be counted ?
Many is for countable nouns and much for uncountable ones .
She’s not a prostitute ? Did we ask you if she’s one
She has another motive behind her reason.
Noise indeed
Linus Mbah Ezeigwe

Right or not. Women hâte solitude. That is why a small girl will be discussing with her dollbaby.

It is right, especially when she can handle it alone. Her parents could still need her help, probably a reason not letting her go.

Some choices cam be hazardous if u don't understand the adult perspective.

Prodigal daughter of our time

virginprincess:
Well, she is actually through with school, right now she works with a bank in port-harcourt.

Your niece lives with her parent buh she does not like noise, ... is it not better for us to think she is a LovePeddler than for us to know your niece parent are noisemakers.

i believe a 22yr old gurl is stil very much inexperience about life and probably lacks adequate maturity to handle independence, life outside school life is a whole new ball game hence why she should still be under her parent there are things she needs to learn. if no because of man why the rush abeggi

Debbyblahempire:
There's nothing wrong with wanting to live alone....biko y'all should allow her...

But let her choose a save environment with good security...to avoid stories..

No one said living alone is wrong, bad or a sin, buh there is time for everything @22 i doubt her level of maturity.
PH is filled with insecurity and the standard of living on a norm is high how much more the cost of a well secured environment, why waste money when she can save it for investment, she is certainly not too young to be a CEO.

It's an abomination for a single girl to stay alone here in Africa. This is not Europe or America. Tell her to remain in her parents house till her husband comes

Last time I checked... anybody above 18 can make legal decisions on their own because they're considered adult already

If she's capable and can foot her bills, abeg let her go jare. This doesn't cause for unnecessary alarm abegi