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I have been dating a 22-year-old lady since MAY, 2020.
She was a Virgin.
She took in and aborted in September (Bless its soul).

She sings QUITE well so i created a FIVERR account for singers
and this is how we raised the money for her PHONE.
i quit because there was very little profit after paying for studio time.
Because, as a Redpiller i believe ladies should work for what they need.

Guess what

After closing the Fiverr account
I started giving her money like every Normal guy would

Mainly for Hair; Subscription; Clothes occasionally not always.
She’s respectful, does her choirs perfectly.
Damn ME!!!
I go through her phone (This is so wrong)
she never picks offense and be rude, talks about it later and how it isn’t OK for me to do that.

CAUTION!!!
This is where Glycolysiss, Pansophist and other REDPILLERS BLEEPED ME!!!

I can’t trust a LADY!!! I just can’t
I keep thinking of the possibilities even when it isn’t happening.

DEAL BREAKER!!!
Schools are reopening, I’m leaving to Lagos
She’s going back to Cali, I’m damn insecure
Her dad gave her N40,000 for rent
She found an apartment of N80,000
I’m supposed to give her the remaining N40,000
But I keep telling myself it’s a lost cause
“She will bring other guys to the same place anyways.”

P.S. For Christmas, I gave her N25,000; her mum N5,000
Because of her support and chores, it was needed.
Cooking, Cleaning and Washing name it.

I feel so bad on a human level
Knowing that she needs help and I can’t help even though I’m buoyant enough
But as a REDPILLER I’m required not to overspend or act like a SIMP.

You know with these LADIES, it’s never enough
If you raise a standard within your means
She goes beyond that and sees you as trash anyways.

I’M CONFUSED!! REDPILLERS HELP!!!

, for starters, you have broken the code already. You mixing simping & redpills together. On another thought, I think everything you did was by your own volition, she didn't ask for 'em.

To me seems you're your own problem. You finding issues where there's none.

Don't ever do anything you will later ponder on and start regretting why you did it.

dimexy247:

Bro i know this is sad; but i need your input on this
this ia REAL, and happening to me at the moment
i have been on NAIRALAND for years now.
IF IT WAS'nt for Banned accounts

[quote author=Debbyblâhempire post=98115352]Love gives.... there's nothing wrong with giving...[/quote]Love gives.
Greed extorts.

Just like police, most Nigerian women are extorting from men they don't even love. That is the one we are against.

I can never be against giving, but I'm always against extorting.

Front page or not front page

dimexy247:
, for starters, you have broken the code already. You mixing simping & redpills together. On another thought, I think everything you did was by your own volition, she didn't ask for 'em.

To me seems you're your own problem. You finding issues where there's none.

Don't ever do anything you will later ponder on and start regretting why you did it.

Thanks bro i appreciate the input so much.
Yes bro, that's partly true some of it was by my own Voilition
but some others she did ask and i did what i could do.

iLegendd:
Love gives.
Greed extorts.

Just like police, most Nigerian women are extorting from men they don't even love. That is the one we are against.

I can never be against giving, but I'm always against extorting.

I'm happy i could get a contribution from you boss
i was a member of your what's app group back in the days
don't know if it still exist or not.

i have an account on your site as well.

I was dead broke at the time and the group was a part of what formed my disdain for women
and it's destroying my relationships.

I can't seem to date a lady beyond a year.

PsychicTina:
I'm happy i could get a contribution from you boss
i was a member of your what's app group back in the days
don't know if it still exist or not.

i have an account on your site as well.

I was dead broke at the time and the group was a part of what formed my disdain for women
and it's destroying my relationships.

I can't seem to date a lady beyond a year.

Have I preached against women in that group? All I did was to teach how not to be manipulated.

Did I abuse women in that group or teach men to hate women?

All I did was to expose female manipulation and nothing more.

Wait! Did I teach men to hate women in that group? Be honest.

iLegendd:
Have I preached against women in that group? All I did was to teach how not to be manipulated.

Did I abuse women in that group or teach men to hate women?

All I did was to expose female manipulation and nothing more.

Wait! Did I teach men to hate women in that group? Be honest.

No You never did brother.
But the experiences from other guys when they were SIMPS
sharped my reasoning
and i can't seem to create a BALANCE

PsychicTina:
No You never did brother.
But the experiences from other guys when they were SIMPS
sharped my reasoning
and i can't seem to create a BALANCE

Do you know you're lucky to be in that group? It exposed things you would never have known like

1. Keeping a conversation and never lacking what to say
2. Being alert to avoid regrets at last and raising another man's child
3. Lasting long in bed
4. Focusing on investing wisely instead of foolishly
5. Handling issues and haters
6. And many more other free things shared in the group by me and members

Do you know some people paid to join the group?

So, you're lucky. I get phone calls/messages from old students thanking me for those groups.

You should be showering us with "thanks" and not panicking for knowing what most men will never know.

All those things I shared with you guys for free on those groups I created, I sell them as books now and hundreds to millions on white men are so happy reading those books.

One question. Do you know you're lucky to know all you know now?

Information overload is what you're going through. I have been there. Don't read dating books or threads for now. Go and make mistakes and learn from them and you'll become better. Trust me.

BOTTOMLINE: OP is still a simp

OGWILLS123:
BOTTOMLINE: OP is still a simp

This is a Vague conclusion brother
let me know how

Should i give her the money
how do i approach this

I acknowledge my inadequacies as a man and as a human being

PLEASE EXPANTIATE ON THAT

Sometimes it's better to learn from personal experience. Why not give it a try, I'm sure you'll come back and comfirm what they have been teaching.

iLegendd:
Do you know you're lucky to be in that group? It exposed things you would never have known like

1. Keeping a conversation and never lacking what to say
2. Being alert to avoid regrets at last and raising another man's child
3. Lasting long in bed
4. Focusing on investing wisely instead of foolishly
5. Handling issues and haters
6. And many more other free things shared in the group by me and members

Do you know some people paid to join the group?

So, you're lucky. I get phone calls/messages from old students thanking me for those groups.

You should be showering us with "thanks" and not panicking for knowing what most men will never know.

All those things I shared with you guys for free on those groups I created, I sell them as books now and hundreds to millions on white men are so happy reading those books.

One question. Do you know you're lucky to know all you know now?

Information overload is what you're going through. I have been there. Don't read dating books or threads for now. Go and make mistakes and learn from them and you'll become better. Trust me.

Thanks brother
and by God, i'm still learning

Because in the end we will all be SIMPS for someone either whole or partly

And sometimes what we VIEW AS SIMP BEHAVIOUR from my OBSERVATION is what makes A HOME and A FAMily

PsychicTina:
Thanks brother
and by God, i'm still learning

Because in the end we will all be SIMPS for someone either whole or partly

And sometimes what we VIEW AS SIMP BEHAVIOUR from my OBSERVATION is what makes A HOME and A FAMily

You're not a simp as long as you're not being manipulated and you're comfortable in doing it.

You're only a simp if you do for a woman who isn't your wife, sister, or family member what you refused doing for your mom or dad (the people that suffered to bring you into this life).

People misunderstand what simp truly is. It's not about spending on a woman. Spend on your woman, but make sure you don't spend on her what you refused to spend on your loved ones.

As long as she isn't controlling you into spending what she wants, you're not a simp.

While spending on her in your terms, not her terms, also make sure not to train her into being entitled.

Added:

Spend on a woman in your terms and you're not a simp as long as your family members benefit more than that.

The caveat is: while spending a lot on your terms, some women will develop entitlement mentality and boom, you'll start simping just to keep up with what you started because of love.

When you start dating a woman, if you celebrate her first birthday in a big way, you're imbibing entitlement mentality in her.

If you have lots of money, start your spending on her little by little during dating without showing off your lavishness skill. If she's worth it and you finally marry her, then lavish money on her and the kids.

While spending at this stage, be careful with the kids. They'll develop entitlement mentality. So, at this time, spend more on the wife than the kids.

PsychicTina:
This is a Vague conclusion brother
let me know how

Should i give her the money
how do i approach this

I acknowledge my inadequacies as a man and as a human being

PLEASE EXPANTIATE ON THAT

..Since your are financially buoyant,just give her the money out of freewill like as if you help the needy, in fact,you seems to know she is in need,As for trust,be careful,if you notice any nonsense,JUST FIND YOUR SQUARE ROOT.

iLegendd:
You're not a simp as long as you're not being manipulated and you're comfortable in doing it.

You're only a simp if you do for a woman who isn't your wife, sister, or family member what you refused doing for your mom or dad (the people that suffered to bring you into this life).

People misunderstand what simp truly is. It's not about spending on a woman. Spend on your woman, but make sure you don't spend on her what you refused to spend on your loved ones.

As long as she isn't controlling you into spending what she wants, you're not a simp.

While spending on her in your terms, not her terms, also make sure not to train her into being entitled.

I'll keep this in mind brother,
And Yes!!! i made my terms clear from the onset.

That is why i made her work for the phone i bought for her
i made her understand things are earned not given in exchange for sex
Sex is not a BARGAIN.

Thanks for your contribution brother
i'll keep learning and maturing

Thanks Again

MeekySmudger:
..Since your are financially buoyant,just give her the money out of freewill like as if you help the needy, in fact,you seems to know she is in need,As for trust,be careful,if you notice any nonsense,JUST FIND YOUR SQUARE ROOT.

Thanks Brother
i appreciate you for taking out time to contribute
i'll keep this in mind.

I often think 300 level in UNI and a virgin
is a bit commendable
.

But how long before the LovePeddler Phase
She's already deleting chats with some dude

Her excuseis; she does'nt want to get me ANGRY

As the dude calls her Babe or CALABAR as a pet name at times

How could a dude already have a pet name for her
and she deletes the chats.

BLEEPING HELL!!!

PsychicTina:
I'll keep this in mind brother,
And Yes!!! i made my terms clear from the onset.

That is why i made her work for the phone i bought for her
i made her understand things are earned not given in exchange for sex
Sex is not a BARGAIN.

Thanks for your contribution brother
i'll keep learning and maturing

Thanks Again

Great.
Updated.

abeg wetin you do wey special or need to ve mentioning those eleribuu niggas ?


abeg send more money to dat girl and let her enjoy her life jare , how much you don spend self ? 50k 5k bla bla bla,

.i still don't know how a group of people will come together to dey encourage stingyness , they call themselves redpiller , are you guys mad ?


if you have money spend ham for your girlfriend , haba why will you be stingy, ogun wan keeeee you ni , mtchweeew

let those around you enjoy your money abeg

PsychicTina:
This is a Vague conclusion brother
let me know how

Should i give her the money
how do i approach this

I acknowledge my inadequacies as a man and as a human being

PLEASE EXPANTIATE ON THAT

OP you haven't still understand this game, this is her trying to present her problem to you indirectly (by telling you her house rent is 80k but her dad gave her 40k)

A gold digger DOES NOT ask for money. What she does is She
presents a problem. If a man loves her enough, he offers a
solution. By spending. Without being asked.
That's the standard method. And it works everytime. While
protecting the gold digger.
By talking about her problems to a man the gold digger is
dropping hints that she needs his help. Hints are preferred
because men don't like to be asked for money. It's crucial that
if and when a man decides to help with money, he imagines
his offer originated within himself. He must not realize that the
woman is infact asking for help otherwise he'll feel used and
demand for something in return (sex).
How does this approach protect the gold digger?
You've heard this angry argument before, even in the movies:
Man: "Remember I did this, this and that for you! I did it all for
you."
Woman: " But I didn't ask you to!"
Of course she didn't ask him to. Not directly anyway. What she
did is she mentioned a problem a few times, she spoke about
her situation a couple of times, which put the idea in the
man's head to help. By spending. But the idea was put in such
a way that it can't be traced back to the woman.

so Mr OP you started simping the day you started giving her money for subscription,hair,cloth and the rest

#peace

OGWILLS123:
OP you haven't still understand this game, this is her trying to present her problem to you indirectly (by telling you her house rent is 80k but her dad gave her 40k)

A gold digger DOES NOT ask for money. What she does is She
presents a problem. If a man loves her enough, he offers a
solution. By spending. Without being asked.
That's the standard method. And it works everytime. While
protecting the gold digger.
By talking about her problems to a man the gold digger is
dropping hints that she needs his help. Hints are preferred
because men don't like to be asked for money. It's crucial that
if and when a man decides to help with money, he imagines
his offer originated within himself. He must not realize that the
woman is infact asking for help otherwise he'll feel used and
demand for something in return (sex).
How does this approach protect the gold digger?
You've heard this angry argument before, even in the movies:
Man: "Remember I did this, this and that for you! I did it all for
you."
Woman: " But I didn't ask you to!"
Of course she didn't ask him to. Not directly anyway. What she
did is she mentioned a problem a few times, she spoke about
her situation a couple of times, which put the idea in the
man's head to help. By spending. But the idea was put in such
a way that it can't be traced back to the woman.

so Mr OP you started simping the day you started giving her money for subscription,hair,cloth and the rest

#peace

Thanks for this bro
i appreciate your input

My reason for all that is; it is really hard to look at a person you call a GF look unkempt bro

I'm not looking for ways to excuse my SIMPNESS but
she Cooks, Does Dishes
washes the beddings some times

When i travel for a month sometimes
by the time i return she has already
Cleaned the house, Kept water in the Bathroom


The Question i often ask myself is; Even if i had employed a house help i would have paid her what he/she is worth for the job done

So i give her money for this reason
Chores takes a lot of time brother

SILENTandSMART2:
abeg wetin you do wey special or need to ve mentioning those eleribuu niggas ?


abeg send more money to dat girl and let her enjoy her life jare , how much you don spend self ? 50k 5k bla bla bla,

.i still don't know how a group of people will come together to dey encourage stingyness , they call themselves redpiller , are you guys mad ?


if you have money spend ham for your girlfriend , haba why will you be stingy, ogun wan keeeee you ni , mtchweeew

let those around you enjoy your money abeg

Thanks bro for the contribution
See all of us come from different backgrounds
who knows how your background be
maybe you dey see life from that perspective

Bro guys like us no get BACKUP
if we cast we don cast brother

To spend good oo
but to dey foolish no good
You see woman no be spending go make her stay
You go just waste funds to keep up with the richer guys for her life

PsychicTina:
Thanks for this bro
i appreciate your input

My reason for all that is; it is really hard to look at a person you call a GF look unkempt bro

I'm not looking for ways to excuse my SIMPNESS but
she Cooks, Does Dishes
washes the beddings some times

When i travel for a month sometimes
by the time i return she has already
Cleaned the house, Kept water in the Bathroom


The Question i often ask myself is; Even if i had employed a house help i would have paid her what he/she is worth for the job done

So i give her money for this reason
Chores takes a lot of time brother

well niggar what ever rocks your boat(- -)...
play <)> safe
_/\_

PsychicTina:
Thanks Brother
i appreciate you for taking out time to contribute
i'll keep this in mind.

I often think 300 level in UNI and a virgin
is a bit commendable
.

But how long before the LovePeddler Phase
She's already deleting chats with some dude

Her excuseis; she does'nt want to get me ANGRY

As the dude calls her Babe or CALABAR as a pet name at times

How could a dude already have a pet name for her
and she deletes the chats.

BLEEPING HELL!!!

....She is already cheating,she is far from you already,what she is getting from you is what is keeping her close,please beware oooo.

Front page or not front page

Reality is savage.

Dude what if I told you; that girl has been priming you with her submissive nature/behavior because she knew she would eventually need your help in the future which is now — and later on another time? This is according to the Briffault Law.

You broke the red pill code of conduct the moment you showed commitment to her by extending your good deed to her mom (Christmas stipend giveaway) — this enabled her to see you as one who is likely to invest in her future — and that future is likely to begin after you have paid half her rent (spare me that "I made her work for her money for phone nonsense" ), According to Briffault law, That past doesn't EXIST to her any more so, don't expect her to remember that when a new rich guy comes along to sweep her off her feet.


You not a simp but a regular guy with a dose of red pill but now at a crossroad. I 'd like to think of you like an ALPHA who has resources to take care of his own but has this fear of the unknown.

My advice to you:

Go on ahead. Assist her with the half rent payment, since she already played her submissive card very well up until this point — you the one who failed to 'plate' her and leave when you had the chance to; it's NOT too late now but do it with sense so you don't lose value and respect in her sight.

How?

Assist her with the rent and leave!
No further communication with her, Be elusive when she tries to reach out to you — Screw trust, you don't control her 'free will' and can't truly tell/predict her behavior in school. Rid yourself of her priming scheme and this can only be done by GHOSTING her.

If you fail to do as I have adviced you — you will find yourself in another dilemma that will require you to 'help or not' — will eventually help and that my friend, is when you get your SIMP seal of approval in her sight.

C'est La Vie

PsychicTina:
Thanks bro for the contribution
See all of us come from different backgrounds
who knows how your background be
maybe you dey see life from that perspective

Bro guys like us no get BACKUP
if we cast we don cast brother

To spend good oo
but to dey foolish no good
You see woman no be spending go make her stay
You go just waste funds to keep up with the richer guys for her life

lol , no one is talking about money status , someone might be broke and still stingy , shey you get ?


what's the essence of living a life and thinking about how to be stingy to someone ? a stingy man is a senseless man cus he will later affect his success with his stingyness ,


yes spending money doesn't make girls stay at all neither you being stingy make dem tender their love


this life be wise that's all, no dey come out to talk no nonsense say you won't spend bla bla bla , who dat help ? we human don't let us deceive ourselves,


don't be stingy dats all