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I Need A Matured Elder To Talk To Right Now. by The5DME(m): 7:27pm On Jan 18, 2021
I'm really frustrated and depressed and I have no one to talk to. I need someone to pour my issues to and maybe, get some advice.
Re: I Need A Matured Elder To Talk To Right Now. by Karleb(m): 7:30pm On Jan 18, 2021
Ok. What is the matter?
Re: I Need A Matured Elder To Talk To Right Now. by The5DME(m): 7:31pm On Jan 18, 2021
Karleb:
Ok. What is the matter?
I'll quote you on a dead thread sir.... It's a really private issue.
Re: I Need A Matured Elder To Talk To Right Now. by Karleb(m): 7:34pm On Jan 18, 2021
The5DME:
I'll quote you on a dead thread sir.... It's a really private issue.

I think it's better you post it here. This is an anonymous site and you can even decide to deactivate if you think you've divulged too much.

So post it here, you don't even know who is who or where your help will come from.
Re: I Need A Matured Elder To Talk To Right Now. by MrPeterson(m): 7:46pm On Jan 18, 2021
What is the matter . You can talk to me . 09038806303
Re: I Need A Matured Elder To Talk To Right Now. by Toks2008(m): 8:08pm On Jan 18, 2021
The5DME:
I'm really frustrated and depressed and I have no one to talk to. I need someone to pour my issues to and maybe, get some advice.

OK go on.
Re: I Need A Matured Elder To Talk To Right Now. by The5DME(m): 8:29pm On Jan 18, 2021
Karleb:


I think it's better you post it here. This is an anonymous site and you can even decide to deactivate if you think you've divulged too much.

So post it here, you don't even know who is who or where your help will come from.
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Re: I Need A Matured Elder To Talk To Right Now. by The5DME(m): 8:30pm On Jan 18, 2021
Please don't insult me.
Re: I Need A Matured Elder To Talk To Right Now. by Nazgul: 8:36pm On Jan 18, 2021
The5DME:
I'm really frustrated and depressed and I have no one to talk to. I need someone to pour my issues to and maybe, get some advice.
What's your story?
Re: I Need A Matured Elder To Talk To Right Now. by Karleb(m): 8:37pm On Jan 18, 2021
From what you've posted, your problem is very very solvable. You're 19, very very young!

I'll make an elaborate post later on.
Re: I Need A Matured Elder To Talk To Right Now. by prince2pac(m): 8:43pm On Jan 18, 2021
Ok, you are a guy, are you shy of putting an m in your moniker too grin grin grin

What are your hobbies, at least you have to be street wise in something you love

Being an introvert doesn't stop you from making friends, at least I have some

Trying to join a rough school because you want to be street smart is not the way either, you might end up being a cultist and regretting your actions later

Look man, I'm introvert but whenever I get out of my parents house, man I shine my eyes, don't let no man talk down on you. If you are from Imo state, you should know that mbaise road Douglas is a rough place, they normally take people's phone there, but lanky and skinny stood with about five guys who tried taking my phone, even when people are passing by, but I stood my ground. Bro learn to stand your ground.

It's not too late to start going to market on your own, you just gat to be wise especially bargaining price, that's the market itself..

You are told you are not smart, mainly if you ask me why, I would say because at 19 you are still sitting around doing nothing, you are not trying to go out and do some hustle. grin grin man this life no balance, started fending for myself by Jss2, even being a shy guy, I knew that if I don't stand up for me, na hunger go kill me, so bro try and find something to do while waiting to admission into a rough school.


........ still coming

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Re: I Need A Matured Elder To Talk To Right Now. by Nobody: 8:58pm On Jan 18, 2021
but ur Monika na F undecided
Re: I Need A Matured Elder To Talk To Right Now. by The5DME(m): 9:05pm On Jan 18, 2021
prince2pac:
Ok, you are a guy, are you shy of putting an m in your moniker too grin grin grin

What are your hobbies, at least you have to be street wise in something you love

Being an introvert doesn't stop you from making friends, at least I have some

Trying to join a rough school because you want to be street smart is not the way either, you might end up being a cultist and regretting your actions later

Look man, I'm introvert but whenever I get out of my parents house, man I shine my eyes, don't let no man talk down on you. If you are from Imo state, you should know that mbaise road Douglas is a rough place, they normally take people's phone there, but lanky and skinny stood with about five guys who tried taking my phone, even when people are passing by, but I stood my ground. Bro learn to stand your ground.

It's not too late to start going to market on your own, you just gat to be wise especially bargaining price, that's the market itself..

You are told you are not smart, mainly if you ask me why, I would say because at 19 you are still sitting around doing nothing, you are not trying to go out and do some hustle. grin grin man this life no balance, started fending for myself by Jss2, even being a shy guy, I knew that if I don't stand up for me, na hunger go kill me, so bro try and find something to do while waiting to admission into a rough school.


........ still coming
I work.
Re: I Need A Matured Elder To Talk To Right Now. by Karleb(m): 9:05pm On Jan 18, 2021
On thing I hate in life is labels. I'm an introvert, extrovert, ambivert, melancholic and all those bulllshits. Do you know why, because it limits you. It's makes it easier for you to not do so many things. It a way of providing ready made excuses.

So stop with the label, you are who you are. Do away with those labels!

You are young but at 19 there so many things you should be doing yourself. You should be able to go to the barbers shop yourself, I see nothing wrong with following your mother to the market to get you somethings but it shouldn't be everytime.

You just have to accept that you have low self esteem, hold on, it's not the end of the world.
Now you need to work on that. The easiest way to do that is to get out of your head. Move out from your room occasionally, gist with your family members and use them to learn social skills. You don't have close pals right, start making friends with your siblings friends, it's a easy way to start and make it an assignment to work around everyday.

Yeah! Dress up and just walk around, it's good for your health and confidence.

Also, join a group. Maybe chess club, dance club, choir or the usher if you're a Christian. Learn a musical instrument. Be very good at something. Have a football club and follow them, go out to watch them in ball house.

Whenever your family members call you mumu, tell them firmly that you are not a mumu and they should stop calling you that.

Try to make friends too and be nice to people. Greet strangers and complement them. If you see a fine girl or boy, tell them they are good looking. If you see something or someone you like, say it. They'll love it.

There so many books on how to make friends and build your confidence, download, read and put to action.

I think I know of 'how to make friends and influence people'.

Try to be carefree and happy, you are too young to unhappy for no reason at all.

You'll be alright bro.

Before you deactivate, change your gender to (m). You shouldn't be ashamed of your gender.

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Re: I Need A Matured Elder To Talk To Right Now. by The5DME(m): 9:10pm On Jan 18, 2021
Karleb:
On thing I hate in life is labels. I'm an introvert, extrovert, ambivert, melancholic and all those bulllshits. Do you know why, because it limits you. It's makes it easier for you to not do so many things. It a way of providing ready made excuses.

So stop with the label, you are who you are. Do away with those labels!

You are young but at 19 there so many things you should be doing yourself. You should be able to go to the barbers shop yourself, I see nothing wrong with following your mother to the market to get you somethings but it shouldn't be everytime.

You just have to accept that you have low self esteem, hold on, it's not the end of the world.
Now you need to work on that. The easiest way to do that is to get out of your head. Move out from your room occasionally, gist with your family members and use them to learn social skills. You don't have close pals right, start making friends with your siblings friends, it's a easy way to start and make it an assignment to work around everyday.

Yeah! Dress up and just walk around, it's good for your health and confidence.

Also, join a group. Maybe chess club, dance club, choir or the usher if you're a Christian. Learn a musical instrument. Be very good at something. Have a football club and follow them, go out to watch them in ball house.

Whenever your family members call you mumu, tell them firmly that you are not a mumu and they should stop calling you that.

Try to make friends too and be nice to people. Greet strangers and complement them. If you see a fine girl or boy, tell them they are good looking. If you see something or someone you like, say it. They'll love it.

There so many books on how to make friends and build your confidence, download, read and put to action.

I think I know of 'how to make friends and influence people'.

Try to be carefree and happy, you are too young to unhappy for no reason at all.

You'll be alright bro.

Before you deactivate, change your gender to (m). You shouldn't be ashamed of your gender.
Thank you.
Re: I Need A Matured Elder To Talk To Right Now. by prince2pac(m): 9:16pm On Jan 18, 2021
The5DME:
I work.
then, problem solved, try and make friends, find guys of your class and mingle man, go out, meet people, join groups, clubs, be happy and carefree like uncle karleb said above. Don't deactivate oooo, just edit your profile so we can know you are a guy biko,


read books, mind blowing books.

build your self esteem, make it stand gidigbam.
Re: I Need A Matured Elder To Talk To Right Now. by The5DME(m): 9:16pm On Jan 18, 2021
prince2pac:
then, problem solved, try and make friends, find guys of your class and mingle man, go out, meet people, join groups, clubs, be happy and carefree like uncle karleb said above. Don't deactivate oooo, just edit your profile so we can know you are a guy biko,


read books, mind blowing books.

build your self esteem, make it stand gidigbam.

Thank you.
Re: I Need A Matured Elder To Talk To Right Now. by Karleb(m): 9:16pm On Jan 18, 2021
prince2pac:
Ok, you are a guy, are you shy of putting an m in your moniker too grin grin grin

What are your hobbies, at least you have to be street wise in something you love

Being an introvert doesn't stop you from making friends, at least I have some

Trying to join a rough school because you want to be street smart is not the way either, you might end up being a cultist and regretting your actions later

Look man, I'm introvert but whenever I get out of my parents house, man I shine my eyes, don't let no man talk down on you. If you are from Imo state, you should know that mbaise road Douglas is a rough place, they normally take people's phone there, but lanky and skinny stood with about five guys who tried taking my phone, even when people are passing by, but I stood my ground. Bro learn to stand your ground.

It's not too late to start going to market on your own, you just gat to be wise especially bargaining price, that's the market itself..

You are told you are not smart, mainly if you ask me why, I would say because at 19 you are still sitting around doing nothing, you are not trying to go out and do some hustle. grin grin man this life no balance, started fending for myself by Jss2, even being a shy guy, I knew that if I don't stand up for me, na hunger go kill me, so bro try and find something to do while waiting to admission into a rough school.


........ still coming

Market people will cheat you whether you like it or not, should that stop you from going to the market. Hell no!

Go there, let them cheat you. By the time they cheat you like three times you'll learn.

Experience is the best teacher.

I'd recommend OP start listening to Eminem. That guy is dope and very motivational.

I personally like "Not afraid" and "Till I collapse", those tracks give me inspiration. grin

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Re: I Need A Matured Elder To Talk To Right Now. by baralatie(m): 9:21pm On Jan 18, 2021
SmellySperm:
but ur Monika na F undecided
evidence 1
Re: I Need A Matured Elder To Talk To Right Now. by baralatie(m): 9:24pm On Jan 18, 2021
The5DME:


Ok, here goes. It's gonna be a long read so please, bear with me.

I don't know why people find it so hard to understand me. I don't why people find it so hard to understand that I love being b myself, wallowing in my loneliness more than I love hanging out with friends. M family keeps insulting me, calling that I'm a "mumu" and not "wise". I've been told that since I was a kid, before I could form a defence around my mind, before I could protect myself. Do you know what it feels like to be told you're useless, a mumu, not sharp, almost everyday of your life? Nobody in my family believes in me; they all believe I'm an idiot.
I grew up as a very shy kid. Extremely shy in some certain situations. It's like I was born that way. According to some researches I've carried out; mine seems genetic. My dad's was that way, so I guess the 'dirty' genes were transferred to me. Everyone keeps insulting me, but they don't really understand what I go through. They don't understand that I don't consciously choose to be shy, it's like I'm not in control of it. It happens automatically, but no one understands.
I grew up in a 'broken' home. My father left since I was five. So, they're some things I never really learnt from my father what a man should learn. I'm constantly being insulted all because I don't know how to fix electronics. I'm being told that it's the responsibility of a man to be able to fix anything that get spoilt at home. I mean, is it my fault I can't fix the damn thing? I know these are things boys learn from their fathers, but since I never had one; how am I supposed to know how to do that? Even when I make attempt to try, I'm constantly being berated. I've been insulted to the point where I don't even bother trying anything again.

Well, my main issue is this: due to my 'solitary' nature, having virtually no friends(I do have some though, but don't hangout with them), there are some things I'm lacking in. I grew up most of my life indoors, where almost everything was done for me. They cooked, washed, took me to the market to buy clothes for me. I mean, which boy at 19 years old still follows his mother to the market to buy clothes? My sister's even insist on takin me to the barber to barb my hair. Damn I feel so ashamed of myself. I feel like these are things I ought to know how to do by now. Though I'm learning sha.
I don't even know what I'm writing sef.

My main problems are:
1) I hate the way I'm being told I'm not smart or wise. Yeah, I get that I might not be " street" smart because I was raised like an ajebutter even though I'm not. I hate my family for calling me that. As much as I try to deny it's not affecting me; it is!

2)I hate the way I was raised. Maybe I should have hung out more with the street kids. Maybe I would've been street smart. Maybe I wouldn't still be taken to the market to buy clothes. Just maybe

I know people might not understand what I wrote up there, but anyone who do, please just help me.

My only hope of making myself better is when I leave for University. When I get exposed to the real world, when I leave my comfort zone and I'm choosing a very rough school. I must develop by force.

Please no insult. This account will be deactivated after this.

Cc: billyonaire666, timetraveller369 pcguru1
and you have people you are copying sef
Re: I Need A Matured Elder To Talk To Right Now. by Karleb(m): 9:27pm On Jan 18, 2021
One other thing I'd suggest is learn from people that are confident and borrow one or two things from them.

Take for example, confident people always look in your eyes during conversations, so next time you are talking to someone, look up and look into their eyeballs. Look away from time to time in other not to come off as wired.


Have trending haircut. You are a teenager it is expected that you exhibit youthful exuberance.

Buy trending wears too (if you have money).
Don't dress like pastors, unless you want to be one.
Re: I Need A Matured Elder To Talk To Right Now. by Nobody: 9:30pm On Jan 18, 2021
baralatie:
evidence 1
I swear. he's not a serious fellow

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Re: I Need A Matured Elder To Talk To Right Now. by OGWILLS123: 9:48pm On Jan 18, 2021
OP sorry i can't just hold it any more grin you be comfamm mumu undecided ... at the age of 19 mama is still talking you to the market to select cloth for you undecided ... jeezzz !! even to the point of taking you to the barber shop. hmmm big baby angry

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Re: I Need A Matured Elder To Talk To Right Now. by Karleb(m): 9:50pm On Jan 18, 2021
OGWILLS123:
OP sorry i can't just hold it any more grin you be comfamm mumu undecided ... at the age of 19 mama is still talking you to the market to select cloth for you undecided ... jeezzz !! even to the point of taking you to the barber shop. hmmm big baby angry

This is not necessary, you know? undecided

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Re: I Need A Matured Elder To Talk To Right Now. by prince2pac(m): 9:52pm On Jan 18, 2021
Karleb:


Market people will cheat you whether you like it or not, should that stop you from going to the market. Hell no!

Go there, let them cheat you. By the time they cheat you like three times you'll learn.

Experience is the best teacher.

I'd recommend OP start listening to Eminem. That guy is dope and very motivational.

I personally like "Not afraid" and "Till I collapse", those tracks give me inspiration. grin

Eminem is dope, but the issue is whether the OP is a music person.
J Cole go help
2pac
Kendrick Lamar
Post Malone

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Re: I Need A Matured Elder To Talk To Right Now. by prince2pac(m): 9:55pm On Jan 18, 2021
OGWILLS123:
OP sorry i can't just hold it any more grin you be comfamm mumu undecided ... at the age of 19 mama is still talking you to the market to select cloth for you undecided ... jeezzz !! even to the point of taking you to the barber shop. hmmm big baby angry
uncle behave

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Re: I Need A Matured Elder To Talk To Right Now. by Nobody: 9:55pm On Jan 18, 2021
The5DME:
I'm really frustrated and depressed and I have no one to talk to. I need someone to pour my issues to and maybe, get some advice.
Pour It.
Re: I Need A Matured Elder To Talk To Right Now. by Dliquidmetal(m): 9:55pm On Jan 18, 2021
Get out of your comfort zone bruh,you might even later discover you aren't an introvert sef. I left my family when they were too toxic for me,my self esteem was down and my confidence was zero omo I had to bounce and started hustling around b4 I started building my selfesterm and confidence back so my brother dont stay with people who continually look down on you.
Life is too short to be wasting it as you doing,no fear just go for it you got this.
Re: I Need A Matured Elder To Talk To Right Now. by EUEA: 9:55pm On Jan 18, 2021
Sorry,if u find luv,u will b confident nd ok
Re: I Need A Matured Elder To Talk To Right Now. by The5DME(m): 9:56pm On Jan 18, 2021
Truvel:
Pour It.
I have.
Re: I Need A Matured Elder To Talk To Right Now. by The5DME(m): 9:57pm On Jan 18, 2021
Dliquidmetal:
Get out of your comfort zone bruh,you might even later discover you aren't an introvert sef. I left my family when they were too toxic for me,my self esteem was down and my confidence was zero omo I had to bounce and started hustling around b4 I started building my selfesterm and confidence back so my brother dont stay with people who continually look down on you.
Life is too short to be wasting it as you doing,no fear just go for it you got this.
Thank you.
Re: I Need A Matured Elder To Talk To Right Now. by Nobody: 10:04pm On Jan 18, 2021
The5DME:


Ok, here goes. It's gonna be a long read so please, bear with me.

I don't know why people find it so hard to understand me. I don't why people find it so hard to understand that I love being b myself, wallowing in my loneliness more than I love hanging out with friends. M family keeps insulting me, calling that I'm a "mumu" and not "wise". I've been told that since I was a kid, before I could form a defence around my mind, before I could protect myself. Do you know what it feels like to be told you're useless, a mumu, not sharp, almost everyday of your life? Nobody in my family believes in me; they all believe I'm an idiot.
I grew up as a very shy kid. Extremely shy in some certain situations. It's like I was born that way. According to some researches I've carried out; mine seems genetic. My dad's was that way, so I guess the 'dirty' genes were transferred to me. Everyone keeps insulting me, but they don't really understand what I go through. They don't understand that I don't consciously choose to be shy, it's like I'm not in control of it. It happens automatically, but no one understands.
I grew up in a 'broken' home. My father left since I was five. So, they're some things I never really learnt from my father what a man should learn. I'm constantly being insulted all because I don't know how to fix electronics. I'm being told that it's the responsibility of a man to be able to fix anything that get spoilt at home. I mean, is it my fault I can't fix the damn thing? I know these are things boys learn from their fathers, but since I never had one; how am I supposed to know how to do that? Even when I make attempt to try, I'm constantly being berated. I've been insulted to the point where I don't even bother trying anything again.

Well, my main issue is this: due to my 'solitary' nature, having virtually no friends(I do have some though, but don't hangout with them), there are some things I'm lacking in. I grew up most of my life indoors, where almost everything was done for me. They cooked, washed, took me to the market to buy clothes for me. I mean, which boy at 19 years old still follows his mother to the market to buy clothes? My sister's even insist on takin me to the barber to barb my hair. Damn I feel so ashamed of myself. I feel like these are things I ought to know how to do by now. Though I'm learning sha.
I don't even know what I'm writing sef.

My main problems are:
1) I hate the way I'm being told I'm not smart or wise. Yeah, I get that I might not be " street" smart because I was raised like an ajebutter even though I'm not. I hate my family for calling me that. As much as I try to deny it's not affecting me; it is!

2)I hate the way I was raised. Maybe I should have hung out more with the street kids. Maybe I would've been street smart. Maybe I wouldn't still be taken to the market to buy clothes. Just maybe

I know people might not understand what I wrote up there, but anyone who do, please just help me.

My only hope of making myself better is when I leave for University. When I get exposed to the real world, when I leave my comfort zone and I'm choosing a very rough school. I must develop by force.

Please no insult. This account will be deactivated after this.

Cc: billyonaire666, timetraveller369 pcguru1
Ur Problem Is Dat U Av A Low-esteem.

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