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Tbadbad:
Please you all should stop speaking in parable and give me advice , since October , I have been drinking and start smoking sometin I have never done before , I’m not myself anymore , I’m confused and don’t know what decisions to take

So you started smoking because of her.
lol.

danvault:
You have at least 6 decent girls? You sound like a p-i-m-p. I dey find wife sha but I go confirm the character first...

I'm not a love-vendor.
It's just that girls and ladies have so worked under me that they believed in me.
Imagine a scenerio where you interview6, employs, sack, employ, sack, etc and well over 20 ladies working under you at a time, for like four years, and you don't get to look at them. You rather treat them the way you regard them.
I mean the likes of nurses, pharmacists, sales girls, accountant, inventorists, marketers etc. And you don't care if they exist. What do you think they'll think?

So, I know what I'm saying. I'm not a love-vendor.

Tbadbad:
Hello everyone, ‘my story is long but I will skip some to try to make it short, sorry for my grammatical error, I am not a writer and I am writing with pains and I might made some mistakes, please bear with me.

I have been dating my wife to be since 2017, I have been taking care of her and everything, the truth is I was hearing some funny stuff about her since I met her but I didn’t take it serious because I trusted her and I really thought she was decent from every other girls.

When I met her, she told me she had only dated 3 boys for have sex only three times, her first boyfriend and two other girls she met in school. I really believed her because she was acting decent.

At a point I began to suspect her when I started hearing some stuff about her but I didn’t pay attention because I trusted her, sometimes when I asked her if she ever dated some one else or cheating on me, she will just turn the whole thing to quarrel and I will just lock up.

Fast forward to 2020, I got her pregnant before I left Nigeria, we did introductions, but she lost the baby during child birth which was so painful to us, but after some month I begin to hear some news about her, and I confronted her and threatened her that I have proof, which she confess to me that she has dated about 3 boys, slept with them several times, she also bleeped 2 girls just once and they didn’t date, she just had crush on them and bleeped them before she met me, and she cheated on me when she found out I was chatting with my ex’s, she couldn’t bear the pains even after begging her, sex her and still give her money to school, the same week she met a guy and bleeped him because she wanted to ease her pains, and 2019 when we had little quarrel, she met a guy and bleeped twice because she thought we broke up (what happened was that we had little argument and I have her money to sch and we didn’t talk for a week, that week she met a guy and stayed dated him because she thought we broke up).

I was heart broken when she told me, and I wanted to brk up, her parents begged me and they never supported her and they were even surprised she could do such thing because she came from a very decent background. I forgave her but I still have the pains in my heart, we always chat everyday, because of corona things are some how and I don’t have money like before, she begins to show me some attitude which is not really comfortable and I explain things to her and she apologized.

So last month she told me since I left she have been having sexual urge to sleep with a girl because she have been watching lesbian porn, that she promised never to cheat on me with a man and it’s taboo but she wanted to have sex with a female, I was so shocked and didn’t know what to do. She said she just started having the strange feelings because she have been watching lesbian porn since I left, I feel like I don’t know anything about her, I wanted to brk up now because she is begging me and she is saying she is just trying to be truthful to me because she promised herself never to hide anything from me or lie to me. What should I do? Should I continue to be with her and marry her? Or run away? Mine she have never slept with a woman before and she has always hated lesbian but because I have been a way since feb 2020, she usually watch porn to help herself. Pls what should I do?

I hate reading stupid stories from stupid people

Na God want save you for future stress. Don't be beclouded by emotional attachment.
Japa like Ben Johnson.

Pharaoh4rin:
I'm not a love-vendor.
It's just that girls and ladies have so worked under me that they believed in me.
Imagine a scenerio where you interview6, employs, sack, employ, sack, etc and well over 20 ladies working under you at a time, for like four years, and you don't get to look at them. You rather treat them the way you regard them.
I mean the likes of nurses, pharmacists, sales girls, accountant, inventorists, marketers etc. And you don't care if they exist. What do you think they'll think?

So, I know what I'm saying. I'm not a love-vendor.

Oya give me the most humble of them all, please I need to get married this year lol...

Tbadbad:
Hello everyone, ‘my story is long but I will skip some to try to make it short, sorry for my grammatical error, I am not a writer and I am writing with pains and I might made some mistakes, please bear with me.

I have been dating my wife to be since 2017, I have been taking care of her and everything, the truth is I was hearing some funny stuff about her since I met her but I didn’t take it serious because I trusted her and I really thought she was decent from every other girls.

When I met her, she told me she had only dated 3 boys for have sex only three times, her first boyfriend and two other girls she met in school. I really believed her because she was acting decent.

At a point I began to suspect her when I started hearing some stuff about her but I didn’t pay attention because I trusted her, sometimes when I asked her if she ever dated some one else or cheating on me, she will just turn the whole thing to quarrel and I will just lock up.

Fast forward to 2020, I got her pregnant before I left Nigeria, we did introductions, but she lost the baby during child birth which was so painful to us, but after some month I begin to hear some news about her, and I confronted her and threatened her that I have proof, which she confess to me that she has dated about 3 boys, slept with them several times, she also bleeped 2 girls just once and they didn’t date, she just had crush on them and bleeped them before she met me, and she cheated on me when she found out I was chatting with my ex’s, she couldn’t bear the pains even after begging her, sex her and still give her money to school, the same week she met a guy and bleeped him because she wanted to ease her pains, and 2019 when we had little quarrel, she met a guy and bleeped twice because she thought we broke up (what happened was that we had little argument and I have her money to sch and we didn’t talk for a week, that week she met a guy and stayed dated him because she thought we broke up).

I was heart broken when she told me, and I wanted to brk up, her parents begged me and they never supported her and they were even surprised she could do such thing because she came from a very decent background. I forgave her but I still have the pains in my heart, we always chat everyday, because of corona things are some how and I don’t have money like before, she begins to show me some attitude which is not really comfortable and I explain things to her and she apologized.

So last month she told me since I left she have been having sexual urge to sleep with a girl because she have been watching lesbian porn, that she promised never to cheat on me with a man and it’s taboo but she wanted to have sex with a female, I was so shocked and didn’t know what to do. She said she just started having the strange feelings because she have been watching lesbian porn since I left, I feel like I don’t know anything about her, I wanted to brk up now because she is begging me and she is saying she is just trying to be truthful to me because she promised herself never to hide anything from me or lie to me. What should I do? Should I continue to be with her and marry her? Or run away? Mine she have never slept with a woman before and she has always hated lesbian but because I have been a way since feb 2020, she usually watch porn to help herself. Pls what should I do?

Oga you are the one driving yourself crazy ..if you don’t know what to do then you will still won’t know what to do even if we heap advice on your head ...use your brain �

Tbadbad:
Please you all should stop speaking in parable and give me advice , since October , I have been drinking and start smoking sometin I have never done before , I’m not myself anymore , I’m confused and don’t know what decisions to take

Breakup with her period!!

just fast and pray for her...if jazz can work on people. ..then prayer can work better.

anochuko01:
Na wa oo!
Making it in Nigeria and finding a good wife, I dunno which is more difficult.

None of it is difficult, just do proverbs 3:5-8

marry her at your own peril

danvault:
Oya give me the most humble of them all, please I need to get married this year lol...

You're not serious. Are you?

Tbadbad:
Please you all should stop speaking in parable and give me advice , since October , I have been drinking and start smoking sometin I have never done before , I’m not myself anymore , I’m confused and don’t know what decisions to take

Which country exactly are you that you cannot take some time off and visit home to set things right?

Funny story.

RisenPhoenix1:
One of the indicators of a man's success in life, as well as his longevity, is the kind of woman/women he marries.

You know best, but don't be like Nii Odartey Lamptey.

Na b4. If na lie ask donjazy n timaya

OP, you have seen fire yet you want to put your hand in it. See the loss of the pregnancy as a message from above to you. Dont marry that lady else you will die young or you will never amount to anything or you will still divorce if you go ahead to marry her. I have been very blunt here. If you like take what i just said.

Tbadbad:
Sorry I read my message and I found out i made a lot of mistake , I am just writing with things , she has not really had sex with girl before , she said she just started having sexual urge with girls because she has been watching lesbian since I have been away, she told me she only dated 3 boys, which later I found out she has dated 3 guys, bleeped 2 she had Crush on and they didn’t dated , and cheated with 2 guys , which is making it 7, but she has been denying all these and telling me she only dated 3 boys and had sex 3 times since 2017(3 years) until last year October but she confess to me�

Multiply 7 by 3, that's the minimum number of men she has slept with and you have a bisexual as a potential wife. You will enjoy sex with her, but she won't with you, the sooner you forget about her, the sooner ur misery ends.

Tbadbad:
Hello everyone, ‘my story is long but I will skip some to try to make it short, sorry for my grammatical error, I am not a writer and I am writing with pains and I might made some mistakes, please bear with me.

I have been dating my wife to be since 2017, I have been taking care of her and everything, the truth is I was hearing some funny stuff about her since I met her but I didn’t take it serious because I trusted her and I really thought she was decent from every other girls.

When I met her, she told me she had only dated 3 boys for have sex only three times, her first boyfriend and two other girls she met in school. I really believed her because she was acting decent.

At a point I began to suspect her when I started hearing some stuff about her but I didn’t pay attention because I trusted her, sometimes when I asked her if she ever dated some one else or cheating on me, she will just turn the whole thing to quarrel and I will just lock up.

Fast forward to 2020, I got her pregnant before I left Nigeria, we did introductions, but she lost the baby during child birth which was so painful to us, but after some month I begin to hear some news about her, and I confronted her and threatened her that I have proof, which she confess to me that she has dated about 3 boys, slept with them several times, she also bleeped 2 girls just once and they didn’t date, she just had crush on them and bleeped them before she met me, and she cheated on me when she found out I was chatting with my ex’s, she couldn’t bear the pains even after begging her, sex her and still give her money to school, the same week she met a guy and bleeped him because she wanted to ease her pains, and 2019 when we had little quarrel, she met a guy and bleeped twice because she thought we broke up (what happened was that we had little argument and I have her money to sch and we didn’t talk for a week, that week she met a guy and stayed dated him because she thought we broke up).

I was heart broken when she told me, and I wanted to brk up, her parents begged me and they never supported her and they were even surprised she could do such thing because she came from a very decent background. I forgave her but I still have the pains in my heart, we always chat everyday, because of corona things are some how and I don’t have money like before, she begins to show me some attitude which is not really comfortable and I explain things to her and she apologized.

So last month she told me since I left she have been having sexual urge to sleep with a girl because she have been watching lesbian porn, that she promised never to cheat on me with a man and it’s taboo but she wanted to have sex with a female, I was so shocked and didn’t know what to do. She said she just started having the strange feelings because she have been watching lesbian porn since I left, I feel like I don’t know anything about her, I wanted to brk up now because she is begging me and she is saying she is just trying to be truthful to me because she promised herself never to hide anything from me or lie to me. What should I do? Should I continue to be with her and marry her? Or run away? Mine she have never slept with a woman before and she has always hated lesbian but because I have been a way since feb 2020, she usually watch porn to help herself. Pls what should I do?

How old are you ?

He apologized for grammatical blunders as I was about to accept it then boom please “bear” with me appeared. Baba bye bye o
Ah no fit “bear” am

Tbadbad:
Hello everyone, ‘my story is long but I will skip some to try to make it short, sorry for my grammatical error, I am not a writer and I am writing with pains and I might made some mistakes, please bear with me.

I have been dating my wife to be since 2017, I have been taking care of her and everything, the truth is I was hearing some funny stuff about her since I met her but I didn’t take it serious because I trusted her and I really thought she was decent from every other girls.

When I met her, she told me she had only dated 3 boys for have sex only three times, her first boyfriend and two other girls she met in school. I really believed her because she was acting decent.

At a point I began to suspect her when I started hearing some stuff about her but I didn’t pay attention because I trusted her, sometimes when I asked her if she ever dated some one else or cheating on me, she will just turn the whole thing to quarrel and I will just lock up.

Fast forward to 2020, I got her pregnant before I left Nigeria, we did introductions, but she lost the baby during child birth which was so painful to us, but after some month I begin to hear some news about her, and I confronted her and threatened her that I have proof, which she confess to me that she has dated about 3 boys, slept with them several times, she also bleeped 2 girls just once and they didn’t date, she just had crush on them and bleeped them before she met me, and she cheated on me when she found out I was chatting with my ex’s, she couldn’t bear the pains even after begging her, sex her and still give her money to school, the same week she met a guy and bleeped him because she wanted to ease her pains, and 2019 when we had little quarrel, she met a guy and bleeped twice because she thought we broke up (what happened was that we had little argument and I have her money to sch and we didn’t talk for a week, that week she met a guy and stayed dated him because she thought we broke up).

I was heart broken when she told me, and I wanted to brk up, her parents begged me and they never supported her and they were even surprised she could do such thing because she came from a very decent background. I forgave her but I still have the pains in my heart, we always chat everyday, because of corona things are some how and I don’t have money like before, she begins to show me some attitude which is not really comfortable and I explain things to her and she apologized.

So last month she told me since I left she have been having sexual urge to sleep with a girl because she have been watching lesbian porn, that she promised never to cheat on me with a man and it’s taboo but she wanted to have sex with a female, I was so shocked and didn’t know what to do. She said she just started having the strange feelings because she have been watching lesbian porn since I left, I feel like I don’t know anything about her, I wanted to brk up now because she is begging me and she is saying she is just trying to be truthful to me because she promised herself never to hide anything from me or lie to me. What should I do? Should I continue to be with her and marry her? Or run away? Mine she have never slept with a woman before and she has always hated lesbian but because I have been a way since feb 2020, she usually watch porn to help herself. Pls what should I do?

Tell her to make a video and send u, so u can send to me. Thanks.

Loool
Nobody go advise U here
O ma ka loju e
Ori e ti o pe yen
A pe
A straight
Oga, U know the answers to Ur question
Do wetin make sense to U

ShenTeh:
Guy don't ruin yourself over an issue that you can solve.

You are really a simple minded person and anybody can easily manipulate you. Any girl that claims to have had 3 boyfriends and sex only 3 times is a mumu liar only Lai Mohammed can beat. Worse is that YOU believe her. A girl that personally told you she slept with random guys will now not have been a freegiver to her own historical boyfriends? Reason am nah! This one don loss body count.

There's no future in this relationship founded on lies and deception.

First, I strongly feel you are non-Nigerian.

For your type of people, this is the method to use to end the relationship. It is a bad investment and if you continue, you will keep throwing good money and resources to chase a bad resource.

1. Start by gradually cutting down on communicating with her. Like if you used to call her once everyday, reduce it once in 2 days to once a week to once a month to 'forgetting' to call her.

2./Remember, nothing you do will stop her from cheating with boys or girls. I believe she has done it already, she is just trying to sample your response if you hear it was a girl. Tell her you have a girl for yonder that always needs your help to sleep in their house because all her family has deserted her. Women hate competition. She go adjust. But don't change the plan.

3. Her living in your house is a small deal. Tell her parents, that you are never going to report her to them anymore because she has really been a good girl lately. But you realise that you are growing far apart and you don't want her to suffer because you now find that your intentions towards her are not pure. You don't want to hurt her so you'd like her to return to their house. Meanwhile, you don't tell the girl anything like that. Read that again.

4. Way easier if you have a sister. Sisters know how to deal with nasty girlfriends/wives. Tell your sisters all that has happened and tell them you don't even know how to go about it. Na dem go go help you put pressure.

I wish you well in your search for a BETTER half.

Best thing to do !

Tbadbad:
I mean when I met her, she said she only dated 3 guys and have sex only 3 times ,her first boyfriend and 2 other boys, not girls please

How else do u want us to tell u the truth or u just don't want to accept it?? She has lesbian tendencies in her and don't tell me u believe that crap she said about not ever had anything to with a girl before. Secondly she will so cheat on u with men because of money till u pass out of heart break.

My advice is run for your life! Except u want to die early. U see the signs and yet u are asking questions. Most times we are the architect of our doom.

love is blind when u refuse to heed to signs prio to marriage,since its jst introduction and no child yet,my brother run faster than ur legs and be usefull to ursef and parents,dont even contaplete moving on with that rubish,,wait is this what u cal marriage and wife?? and ur stil seekin for advice? e be like say u no like ursef.there is more to life than this sheet. w

OP, short story.


Save your life, she's not worth it. SAVE YOUR LIFE MR MAN! RUN, ESCAPE BEFORE ITS TOO LATE!

Pharaoh4rin:
You're not serious. Are you?

I am, but scared not to end up with a pretender.

Which advice you want now?

Tbadbad:
Hello everyone, ‘my story is long but I will skip some to try to make it short, sorry for my grammatical error, I am not a writer and I am writing with pains and I might made some mistakes, please bear with me.

I have been dating my wife to be since 2017, I have been taking care of her and everything, the truth is I was hearing some funny stuff about her since I met her but I didn’t take it serious because I trusted her and I really thought she was decent from every other girls.

When I met her, she told me she had only dated 3 boys for have sex only three times, her first boyfriend and two other girls she met in school. I really believed her because she was acting decent.

At a point I began to suspect her when I started hearing some stuff about her but I didn’t pay attention because I trusted her, sometimes when I asked her if she ever dated some one else or cheating on me, she will just turn the whole thing to quarrel and I will just lock up.

Fast forward to 2020, I got her pregnant before I left Nigeria, we did introductions, but she lost the baby during child birth which was so painful to us, but after some month I begin to hear some news about her, and I confronted her and threatened her that I have proof, which she confess to me that she has dated about 3 boys, slept with them several times, she also bleeped 2 girls just once and they didn’t date, she just had crush on them and bleeped them before she met me, and she cheated on me when she found out I was chatting with my ex’s, she couldn’t bear the pains even after begging her, sex her and still give her money to school, the same week she met a guy and bleeped him because she wanted to ease her pains, and 2019 when we had little quarrel, she met a guy and bleeped twice because she thought we broke up (what happened was that we had little argument and I have her money to sch and we didn’t talk for a week, that week she met a guy and stayed dated him because she thought we broke up).

I was heart broken when she told me, and I wanted to brk up, her parents begged me and they never supported her and they were even surprised she could do such thing because she came from a very decent background. I forgave her but I still have the pains in my heart, we always chat everyday, because of corona things are some how and I don’t have money like before, she begins to show me some attitude which is not really comfortable and I explain things to her and she apologized.

So last month she told me since I left she have been having sexual urge to sleep with a girl because she have been watching lesbian porn, that she promised never to cheat on me with a man and it’s taboo but she wanted to have sex with a female, I was so shocked and didn’t know what to do. She said she just started having the strange feelings because she have been watching lesbian porn since I left, I feel like I don’t know anything about her, I wanted to brk up now because she is begging me and she is saying she is just trying to be truthful to me because she promised herself never to hide anything from me or lie to me. What should I do? Should I continue to be with her and marry her? Or run away? Mine she have never slept with a woman before and she has always hated lesbian but because I have been a way since feb 2020, she usually watch porn to help herself. Pls what should I do?

When I see speech like this, I dont know whether to laugh or to cry.
You have the full story in black and white like this and you want to go and marry her?
Are you this STUPID?
Dump the lady and let her go and meet whoever she wants to meet.

Your woman is possess, if you like continue, if you like hmmmmmm

Oga everything you stated na she she she
You no tell us your own part in the relationship yet you trust us to decide for you.
Bros abeg carry ya cross across the bridge because from the flow of ya yarn, you already know what to do only that you are too winny-hearted to make up your mind about it.


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